- Work on physical fitness. Areas to focus are stamina and stomach muscle. Stamina is quite obvious. I read somewhere about why stomach muscle but I couldn’t remember already. Maybe something about restricting blood flow.
Hi,
Alcohol will delay ejeculation too.
Get him tipsy and not dead drunk.
Not sure about others but works for me if I want to last much longer.
Try it. Red wine is good. Beer also can but need a fair bit as compared due to alcohol content.
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dirtyhairy
To Thread Starter, I have a question,
while yours involves unfulfillment
becos your guy cums too fast and affect your enjoyment
in my case, I tend to screw hard and probably too long
and although my gal always cums as often as 4-5 times during our bonk
she has asked me to cum faster especially if our session lasts an hour long
I dun know why having sex with her I could “tahan” and prolong
maybe I love seeing her facial expressions, her cums as she enjoys my dong
she says that while cumming too many times is shiok and song
but her neck aches bad (as she reaches to deep french me) as if it’s torn
she says it’s better to cum twice than more but the climaxes must be strong
and that it’s best when I could also cum along
is there a compromise where we could both enjoy our bonk
not too short and not too long?
Dirtyhairy, we’re abit alike, if i fuck to fast and furious, i will have a hard time cumming, according to my doctor, its called delayed ejeculation. well i got fed up of it (i could go on for more then an hour and my freaking penile would be so dam sore) anyways the doc recommanded that i fuck slower and slowly enjoy the feeling.. it worked and now i average on about 15 to 20 mins… i feel better and my parther gets to sleep more…
and for TS, get your bf to do the 9 times table i his head, it’s take the attention of his other head and he should last longer… i did it once and went completely soft when i reach 9 x 13….
To TS, firstly we need to know your definition of time…how fast is really fast or how long should long last….to some 5 mins is already too long and some even 1 hour also not enough…
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Flavoured
Dirtyhairy, we’re abit alike, if i fuck to fast and furious, i will have a hard time cumming, according to my doctor, its called delayed ejeculation. well i got fed up of it (i could go on for more then an hour and my freaking penile would be so dam sore) anyways the doc recommanded that i fuck slower and slowly enjoy the feeling.. it worked and now i average on about 15 to 20 mins… i feel better and my parther gets to sleep more…
Yo Bro Flavoured, thanks for sharing
but actually me enjoy my bonking especially my delayed ejaculating
the problem is with my gal who complains of neck aching
due to my extended lovemaking
in fact I would like to describe myself as a lover who is most understanding
who can vary my lovemaking from wild, tender to rough for my partner’s liking
but problem is that due to my prolonged screwing, my partner is complaining
of pain in the neck becos like me, she’s responsive and enjoys sex
but too many cums for her, causes her headaches and pain in the neck
so got to find a way to make us enjoy as much yet not be a physical wreck
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Regular1000
Oh ‘Lady’,
You seems to be here for attention more than concern for your ‘boyfriend’. May i know when was the last time you had your backside poked? may i suggest that your ‘bf’ could be fast bcoz after sometime with ‘you’, your bf might be just obliging the process… cover your face and quickly shoot ur base! if u honestly know what i mean!
…. so pls dun misled the bros here and develop fantasy on you la…
Or Mi To For!!
presumptous mate.. I definitely wouldn’t come here for attention; i’m better off hanging out at bala or st james for drinks. I get real attention if i so need that.
Would appreciate better input. thanks.
And just to clear the air, it is not my purpose to invoke fantasies. Thanks.
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yang punk
Miss Woo…
Since you didn’t give your age I presume that you are both in your early to mid 20s? Basically there is nothing wrong with both of you. Sad to say if we men are honest we are far from the being the studs that we hope to be or you ladies hope to have.
Honestly most of us when young, would ejeculate before the lady unless she is highly sensitive and can cum easily. So for the smart guy if he wants to please the lady then he must be prepared to work hard. The trick is lots of foreplay… use lips tongue fingers… sex toys if she don’t mind. Most ladies love oral sex and the man’s tongue can outlast his dick anytime! (Ladies… men love to be blown too and bj also helps him to last longer when it cums to fj).
That said, Miss Woo, you have to ask yourself… is your self sextisfaction the most important factor in your relationship? If yes… then I am sorry to say you are both a mismatch. Better to face the truth now than later. But if his other qualities make up for his lack of virility, than a good heart to heart talk with him should do the trick… provided his ego can take it. Suggest to him more foreplay, oral sex, use dildo or vibrator to let you cum a few times before he insert.
The good thing is with age, he should be able to last longer.
All that you above, I did take into consideration. Have resorted to watching porn just to instruct him but…results stil the same. As per what some bros here have suggested; desensitise his male member.. i did that too.. n also held him back from coming by pausing the activities. I’m not an expert but i have my fair share of experience to try those methods 1st.. to no avail.
For info, I donot think it is premature ejaculation. He comes fast like les than a few mins.. and it is frustrating for me. I believe for him so; cos despite what my mouth says abt me feeling fine, i think my face does show disappointment?? face is like an open book.
I know all men has ego and I have tried to put it down gently n nicely.. When I suggested that we get another person in, he balked at the idea to be honest and I tried to potray it as it would be enriching and would help our sex life. As it is, we are planning or rather in talk of getting married to each other though nothing has been planned.
He sleeps everywhere and anytime. When he happens to skive off work for 2 hours in the noon, n i happen to be home. I ask for it and he tells me he is tired..let him sleep 1st.
Nightfall, same thing. N then when we eventually do it, he comes fast.. and sleep comes fast too.. so no chance for a 2nd time. Same thing if you guys are thinking how abt weekends.
He is kinda not really into sex. Like he has his urges n I accomodate him all the time; im fine with it anytime. But those urges aint often? Beyond those urges, when I do try to “teach” or encourage something else, he aint keen to learn. Like you know if that person does not have a passion for it..he’ll seem kinda “go-along-with-it cos-u-want-me-to” N we’re both in our late late late twenties so no reason why this sorta things happens..
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Frankiestine
in this forum especially if some one claims to be a char bor always take it with a pinch of salt…
I’m a she.. and pls for goodness sake, I know there are “bo liao” ppl ard who just wants to spark off some topic for some attention or to play pranks.. or watever!! I dont know and I dont care why but I’m not here to do this.
I’ve read a few of the threads, tried to find info b4 on similar cases.. Did not manage to and I ended up starting this thread. You think I fancy starting one??
I just do not wish to have to resort to an affair or two time my bf..I’m not married to him yet but in a way I’m just trying to preempt the situation by dealing with it first, not when serious cracks start to appear.
He is a nice guy and in all aspects he is gentle and nice and everything.. I want to marry him and I do not wish to hurt him with an affair when Im eventually married u see?
sigh
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x_ylx
Lastly, if all the above still don’t work, he should see a doctor. He might need some medical help.
Good luck!
I failed to take that into consideration. Perhaps it really is his stamina. He is tall and lanky, n despite my naggings on headin to the gym to pump up some muscles on the arm and shoulder, he is too lazy to move his butt. But difference was the only reason I wanted him to do that was because my cheeks ached when he wants me to lie on his shoulder (not much padding..) n his elbom kept jutting into my hip bone when he cuddles me.
Now I think all the more he should do that.. Just never realised the part abt muscles and stamina.
Thanks!
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Frankiestine
ok i think it that you are a lady…so here the monster advice to you….sexual compatibility is one of the major consideration in a marriage…i won’t say 100% of us married guys seek an alternative lifestyle becos we are born to stray but a good number of us do so becos of the lack of sexual response from our counterpart…btw have you ever tried talking to him about his “shortcomings”…
No one starts a marriage with the plan of seeking an “alternative” outside.. at least most. I do know of blokes who continue their philandering ways into marriage and has no plans to quit. Anyway I did talk to him abt it and voiced out what I wanted; he seems receptive when he heard it (albeit a lil disappointed, yes) but he assures me he’ll do his best to “learn” if I may use that word from watever resources online, on tv etc etc… Is he improving? to be fair, i think he did or at least I would like to think so. I do try to encourage him like, offering compliments when he does something right.
Increasingly, these days, he seems to stop wanting to improve..in the not so distant past, he would try to stay awake for a 2nd time. These days, promises such as these are uttered on the point of ejaculating or after he is spent, but it never comes true. Sleep finaly takes over him and I’m left lying so damn awke on my side of the bed feeling unfulfiled.
At the start when it happens, his not fulfiling me and all..n being constantly tired, it made me more frustrated than anythings. I just sleep it off. These days, it’s more hurt, more sadness and sometimes anger. That I end up staying awake til 3, 4 am all the while when he’s sleeping like a log next to me.
I’m not asking for a “rocking heaven and earth experience” though that would sure be nice.. I’m not even looking at coming every single time we do it. Al I’m asking is a 1 out of 3 times odds. N i’m happy enough. Do correct me if my expectations are too high again. In my previous relationships, I never had a problem in this aspect and was always able to match that of my ex-es.
It’s startiing to affect us, perhaps it’s my fault perhaps I did not try hard enough. Starting to have arguments indirectly related..again, mayb it’s me again; perhaps venting out the frustration, anger and hurt indrectly.. Hence this thread. I just wish to find out if perhaps thr’re more solutions out thr that I’ve not tried?
Im’ quite sure that he is foolin ard outside.. his schedule is like clockwork; know it like the back of my hand n I do check on him every now n then. He doesn’t drink too; cant hold his liquor.. By comparison, my gfs n myself are much better drinkers. Besides, judging by the many calls everyday, i’d think he is more worried abt me than I am abt him.
I just trust him la.. besides, as an ex used to tell me. Follow the army motto.. do anythign but dun get caught.. i thot thats pretty gd and told him so as well. if he wants to lie and f ard outside, pls be a smart liar and cover all bases. Dont ever let me find out or I’ll definitely do a “bobbit” case..albeit subtlely.
Anyway just to update, am in the midst of using some of the advice given here. Appreciate it; meanwhile, under the advice of many who has mailed me, I’ve gone ahead and “begged” for 2 viagra pills to use. I’m not worried if itdoes not work, more worried abt if itz gonna cause him harm.
Would hav brot him along to the doc and get a proper prescription, but as many has cautioned me here abt the ego thing, I didn’t think I want to risk damaging the ego further. May be trying it out later tonight, I just hope I have the guts.. read the papers today as well,m that half a pill works well enough.
To one poster who asked how I would feel if my bf were to search a female forum and ask for pointers (if say my bj aint up to scratch), I believe I would not be too happy.. n I can only hope for goodness sake he doesn’t do that n hopefully he will never let me find out. I guess if i really do suay suay find out, the strenght of our relationship will be put to the test then. n if it comes out well, then I would say it’s gonna strengthen us.