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Do you REALLY love her, if you do - have you taken her for granted???
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Do you want to marry her out of commitment (five years being together)??
- Do you want an wife who dont respect your family ?? i believe it is matter of communication to make her understand what you need from her as part of the family, is she willing to accept her responsibilites in this family….
hi,sori 4 not replying bro out there regarding lisa and helen.hope u all understand.just a week ago,my gf break off with me cos very sad.2year dating,on and off break and 5 year of cohabit.she gave me alots of chances b4,she has been asking me 2 marry her but i put off a numbers of time,told her i dun hv a carrer yet.wait until i stabilised then marry.she gave me the ultimatum until end of july whether 2 marry her,so 29 of july,i told her tat it not i dun marry u but i prefer cohabit cos do not know wat will happen 2 us in future.she kept quiet and cry,did not +++ 2 me whole nite.i just heck care.the next day she just pack abit of clothing and left,and did not mesg or call me.so on eve of national day,she call me 2 go out,we went 2 esplande 2 see the fireworks,later go zouk 4 drinking.when came back after clubbing,we make love.the next morning again,we make love again,and she told me maybe tis is the last tilme we make love.i also blurblur,do not know wat is she implying.we went 4 dinner and sent her hm.normally she would mesg or call me but these 2 weeks,she did not call or mesg me.when i call her,she say wat i 1?i puzzled,how cum use tis type of tone 2 +++ 2 me.she say she want 2 break off with me cos i dun want 2 get marry and say i play her puussy 4 5 years.these few days,it not myself lol,feeling sad.she has a very bad temper,when cohabit with me and my mom,never greet my mom 2.we quarrel,i was the 1 2 gave in 2 her.i realli lost.i realli dun know whether i LOVE her or become a HABIT.cos she sleep with me in the same bed,now she gone,i feel uneasy.whenever nite falls,i feel lonely and cry.last sat i mit her and told her tat i am going 2 marry her,she told me her heart in me is dead liao.it just 2 week ago ,we had a heated augment.i only suitable 4 cohabit.i reply her.she wont answer my call and messages.wat should i do,pls ENLIGHTEN me or else going crazy liao.
Dear Bro Havana,
I am one of the bros whom u sms Helen’s number. Bro sorry to hear about your agony. From my analysis, I guess she really loves you. I don’t think all is lost yet. Do not give up hope. Maybe u should give pursuit and win her back. The breakoff or cold war may actually gives both of u time to think about the relationship. Who knows things will turn out alright. What is important now is not to think about doing stupid things like suicide or bareback bonking with WLs just because u r sad. I am sure u have buddies whom u can talk to. This is a difficult time alright. However, time is a medicine which heals all things. Sorry I am not an expert in counselling or anything like that. By the way, u have not given me Lisa’s no. Just kidding. It is not an appropriate time. I hope all u bros out there don’t zap BRO HAVANA for not giving out Helen or Lisa numbers. Our bro here is sad and he needs some comfort. Take care R.
BRO PANZER LEE
Bro,
No wonder you been missing..
This is wrong section to postthis thread.
Anyway I think a lot of factors have to be considered in your case.
Most girls up till a certain age needs some reassurance. They want to feel that they do not go pass their sell by date and yet still have no idea what the future holds.
I think your gf probably reaches that stage where she decides to make a choice between a relationship with no clear direction or ends it.
I think you just have to decides very calmly without putting in too much emotion how you feel about her and the future of your relationship with her.
If you can come into a conclusion, then you probably know what to do.
One caution is not to act with too much emotion and then regrets it in teh future…
2 weeks ago still not to long ago.. maybe still have chance loh…
Just need a lot of effort…..
Good luck/…..
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havana
last sat i mit her and told her tat i am going 2 marry her,she told me her heart in me is dead liao.it just 2 week ago ,we had a heated augment.i only suitable 4 cohabit.i reply her.she wont answer my call and messages.wat should i do,pls ENLIGHTEN me or else going crazy liao.
My sympathy to you on the breakup. Anyway wrong place to post your threat also.
I’m just replying what I feel. Your ger has given you countless chance on marriage. That means she dun mind you being not career stable, but at least you should have reassured her that you are going to make it and marriage is on the brink soon. I think you didn’t give her much confidence, that’s why this built up to the breakup.
Gers are like dat, dun marry for the sake of marrying. Now even if you propose to her now, this implies that you are just resolving current situation. Now she should be a liitle bit saddened and disappointed. Be patient and sweet talk her, wait at her residence and try to touch her with your actions.
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havana
hi,sori 4 not replying bro out there regarding lisa and helen.hope u all understand.just a week ago,my gf break off with me cos very sad.2year dating,on and off break and 5 year of cohabit.she gave me alots of chances b4,she has been asking me 2 marry her but i put off a numbers of time,told her i dun hv a carrer yet.wait until i stabilised then marry.she gave me the ultimatum until end of july whether 2 marry her,so 29 of july,i told her tat it not i dun marry u but i prefer cohabit cos do not know wat will happen 2 us in future.she kept quiet and cry,did not +++ 2 me whole nite.i just heck care.the next day she just pack abit of clothing and left,and did not mesg or call me.so on eve of national day,she call me 2 go out,we went 2 esplande 2 see the fireworks,later go zouk 4 drinking.when came back after clubbing,we make love.the next morning again,we make love again,and she told me maybe tis is the last tilme we make love.i also blurblur,do not know wat is she implying.we went 4 dinner and sent her hm.normally she would mesg or call me but these 2 weeks,she did not call or mesg me.when i call her,she say wat i 1?i puzzled,how cum use tis type of tone 2 +++ 2 me.she say she want 2 break off with me cos i dun want 2 get marry and say i play her puussy 4 5 years.these few days,it not myself lol,feeling sad.she has a very bad temper,when cohabit with me and my mom,never greet my mom 2.we quarrel,i was the 1 2 gave in 2 her.i realli lost.i realli dun know whether i LOVE her or become a HABIT.cos she sleep with me in the same bed,now she gone,i feel uneasy.whenever nite falls,i feel lonely and cry.last sat i mit her and told her tat i am going 2 marry her,she told me her heart in me is dead liao.it just 2 week ago ,we had a heated augment.i only suitable 4 cohabit.i reply her.she wont answer my call and messages.wat should i do,pls ENLIGHTEN me or else going crazy liao.
Bro Havana, too be honest, it depends on what you really want…you need to really ask yourself these few questions:
if you do, are you ready to tolerate her nonsense such as bad temper and bad habits.
in love, it must always be a 2 way traffic and not just one…understanding, trust and faith are part and parcel of any relationship…
think before you commit back again, but looking at a different perspective, it might be a blessing in disguise for you….
look for the answers deep in you and you will know what to do…take care.
she only 27.i even went 2 the extremes,call up my friend and and ask him 2 tell her tat i commit suicide by taking pandaol.she also unmoved,not even care at all.i even call up a jewellery shop and ask the sale gal 2 call her tat i already place an engagement.she say she did not want.she even mesg me tat from now onward,i go my separate life ,she goes her separate life.whether i die or not it non of her business.wat should i DO?i realli do not know myself.whether i LOVE her or it already become a HABIt with her.i still miss her when dark falls no matter how she treated me in the past.she got bad temper.every time quarrel and i give in 2 her.i dun mind her tat but now she say she detest my living lifestyle.staying at hm ,not going hm and say how am i going 2 provide her in future.she is very obstinate and bad ,odd behaviour.must win,cannot lose type of attitude.pls bro HELP me thanks.ENLIGHTEN me.she is not my first love.i realli put in effort ,time,$ engeryand love
i hv try all means,even waited her at the carpack.last wed nite i saw a guy send her hm but she got tell me tat she went drinking with a colleague and the female colleague not free 2 send her hm so ask the guy 2 do itwjhen i approach them in the car .the guy flash the headlight on me and grive off with her.i even chase them but cant catch up.the next day,i call her office and ask who the guy is.she say her female friend not free 2 send her hm so ask the guy 2 do it.i just listen.i call her y she want 2 break off,she say it not 3party .it simply me cos she cant trust me anymore,cos i promise many times say i will marry her but did not do it at all.she say her heart in me is dead liao.i ask her are u sure,she reply yes,i told her impossible cos i still love her very much.just 2week ago of augment,and she say say her heart in me die liao.no longer love me anymore.y gal so HEARTLESS nowsaday.
this is not enough and well she wants a status and well it is best for u ask her out and kneel down infront of everyone there and ask her for marriage,then u must find a job and work hard ona nd so that she feel secure with u.
Bro Havana,
There is a possibility of third party. However, before any concrete evidence is out, don’t confront her about the third party because this may drive her mad and distance herself even further. It seems that u have tried so many things. Is this the first time things turn out so bad?
Bro Panzer Lee
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Bro if you really love her, take her to ROM then everything will be fine…
So do you think such gesture will solve the problem? It’s only the nip of the bud, buddy. I guess that even if bro havana married her, the wife will influence him to move out of the house since she’s quite hostile to havana’s mum. Financially and emotionally wise, please…bro havana reconsider all the problems and setbacks faced before you really want to walk down the aisle.