Thanks for everyone suggestion n input. I am deeply touched n appreciated… Really really appreciated….
Hope to have 1 more advice , she come back next Sat n meet me for dinner, what should I say or do to test if she is still making use of me or she really change her mind, tks..
Sincerely apologies, I did not meant to spam the story over n over again . but when I just joined, I post the thread, it didn’t appears, so I repost n repost n resulting in so many post n I not sure how to delete them, hope this helps
I will consider all the advices…I sincerely thanks everyone single feedback, thank u
I posted in matter of the hearts this morning but it brought over to the same topic on discussion about sex
I am in pain now but hope to heal slowly
Thanks for all the pointers, thank you very much..
After deep thinking, maybe why I feel so sad cos is my VIRGIN trip to OVERSEA with a girl…IF is a local 81 hotel, I will not feel so bad…maybe she crush my ego for my virgin memorable oversea trip so I feel very hurt & can’t let go of this anger…
Also I have another q. I ‘chased’ her away the next morning at the HK hotel…even though I later feel very remorseful & asked for a patch back…..normally a girl in this situation will not turn back cos her ego is broken & once vase broken, cannot paste back again
If she can be ’touched’ & willing to patch back…forgetting that I once chased her away….hoping to to suck more meals & goodie from me…after thinking she is really very dangerous
But after al the advises from all bro, I will not meet her unless she call & call & I will give in to see what she have to say. Thanks again for all the help bro, have a great weekend
Sometimes I don’t know whether she is telling true or false
She told me she can’t zzz for 6 months when she ‘broke up’ with the old man when his family found out. She told me there was real instant chemistry in them….
This make me confused cos if she really want to con my $. I met her 6 months ago, even thought I spent a lot, she tr us we can’t be together
Also I forget to add, during this 2 months together, she would talk about marriage with me…etc n angry if I say we might not be suitable…blah…that’s is the reason why I say she is very strange
Yes, I deeply appreciate everyone gave me pointers here, I think everyone is right, cos everyone give the same views, but I just think time slowly withdrawn this nightmare
e, thanks again !
To all bro n sis,
I am very sad as I type this, I have decided to move on after I make a shock discovery today
I just hope before this matter ends, someone can input me an answer for the final ending situation
She is coming back this Sat….but I know where she lives…on 6 floor in a unit near queens town …she always allow me to send to the lift only…she told me she stay with another lady
But today I went to the door, an uncle open the door , from the infos of the neighbour, he is a taxi driver….the uncle us a polite old man, he told me NO one stay there nor she seen this lady before…just tell me do not trust why china gal say
BUT I seen her entering the flat all the time before I take the lift down…so she must live there…there why did the uncle hide from me?
Also, when sometimes I buy food for her…she will anyhow wear & wait for me at the lift….yes I need to move on. .I am mentally torture…but I just hope an answer.
I was Rooted on the spot, I 100% sure she stay there, Now I know
She lied to me! But I really wish to talk more to the uncle. But he politely close the door
Yes, I will move on, but I just don’t know why the uncle hide from me…he seem so nice….I am mentally hurt badly….from this situation , hope u guys can advise before we close here, thank u all…..
Thanks….yes, I believe this 50 years old uncle that stays with her should be her 2nd BF….her hubby or even her sugar daddy…but how much can a taxi uncle earn??
BUT if he can give me the advice…do NOT trust China gal words, Why did she still keep her in her house?
He don’t seem jealous when he sees me , decline to talk to me & ask me beware of China gal…before closing the door
For this final breakup that makes me better, all my friends advise me…..have a simple dinner with her…then I walk her to the 6 floor lift…the moment she walk into the same flat, I will confront her & tell her I already know who stay here….etc & she lied me here & there….after scolding….I will leave with my head high.
P/S: Cos I am a man where I need to see with my own eyes to truly forget a thing. though now I mam 200% is the same house, the moment she entered in, give me 500% confirmed ….then the final ending that can close this chapter. strangly if I have not know the truth , I still fall high & heel with her…the truth of me seeing the guy at the door really shook me & awakes me…
Hi All,
Thanks for all the help, moral support, I deeply appreciated!
I have not zzz well since we parted 18 days ago…the stress & the missing her makes me lost some weight.
Many people in here & friends ask me NOT to meet her again..BUT I could not forget her.
She came back last Sat, but we arrange to meet today 5/11/2013 (Tuesday)
I am GLAD that I met her. WHY? Cos now I finally…yes at this point of typing, I will can finally close this chapter WIOTHOUT a tear. WHY?
Please read below:
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We met today evening at Esplanade. There is some small rain. When she appears, we went to a restaurant to eat, is my treat to her for saying sorry for quarrelling with her in HK.
She instead ordered the very expensive steak….the moment I see this..I know everyone is correct. She is ONLY making use of me..is very obvious. But I still love her, so I don’t mind. Yes, I am a carrot, but love is blind.
We chit chat & talked…the spark is NO longer there…after the quarrel in the HK hotel (there is a saying, when a vase is shattered, no matter how u paste back, the crack is STILL there.)
The final straw came when I asked her IF she is staying with a old man in the house…..she deny & swear to god…the moment I see this…my heart turned cold…she is a very good & professional liar….after much persistence…she admitted…but kept twisting here & there…I throw her all the evidence… from her unit when I talk to her neighbours.as well as the old man wisdom to me…..she was dumb folded…
from what I concluded…she already lived there for 2 years plus….I then tell her….this old man is very cunning, he knew I am with her, yet when she back to Singapore, he never utter a word, IF this old man really love her, this shouldn’t be the way..as well as saying, the old man warn to me about her. Doubt she will receive any CPF $.etc
She is very agitated & scolded me to leave her alone, give her space & some time…she also shouted," Don’t track or monitor me, I hate it!
She asked me why I did this to her….I reply cos I love her….do not want her to get cheated..etc. The final straw came when she at lost of words …then tell me… no more next time meet up again, we are both finished.
Frankly, I was not sad at all, seriously, no kidding…I instead look down on this china gal…think my eyes is blind…she is NOT wife material…when she did is very evil…I hate this type of people….don’t know why I did not zzz well cos of her..
NOW NOW I have the truth COLD FACT…she is in fact with this old man ….no dignity for her…she is willing to offer herself… just to ex for a place to stay & maybe other benefits.
I walked away with my head high & will never look back…I am VERY GLAD..I found out the truth!……if not I will be still madly in love with her.
Whatever I read in the papers about China gal….with old man…cos of CPF $…I NEVER expect 1 day..I will meet a gal I like & she is one of them.
Lesson learnt, NO more china gf for me.
Thanks for everyone again, I will move on as a man! :-)
I agreed with u t-shirt
Thinking back, I am not a man of dignity after when she have done.
I treat this as a heavy lesson learnt n the 1.2k I spent on her, treat it as a lesson for me, anyway I slim down a lot the to her issue, treat this $ as ‘slimming treatment’
It makes me better in person on term of looks n wisdom after this nightmare…I will be a better person in future n will always take the tips from the kind ppl here….a man must have the winning mentality to win over woman , I woke up a little later but I still survive…thanks to her, I am wiser a little now
P/S: I do not like to play ppl out , eg do not turn up, anyway the $80 I spent last night, is worth it…at least makes me knew her character, confirm she is a smooth talker n professional liar, seen with my own eyes…a small price to pay rather than I keep going crazy over her …before the Truth is out last night
I also learnt, never judge a book by its cover, a pretty, well dressed n smart lady with an old taxi driver, enough oy be her dad, really astound me…then I know why people always talk about china gal
Thanks thanks all, I woke up n now moving in the right direction
Wishing all a great Wednesday!