Dear Bro & Sis,
I am new here, I am very devastated & can’t really zzz well for 1 week already, I hope someone can advise me on this very strange situation, any comments would be deeply appreciated, Thank you.
(I will summaries the whole problem)
I met this china girl from webchat 8 months ago. She has been staying here in Singapore for 6 years already for studying & working. I woo her at the beginning, she rejected cos she say she did not like my type…we met again 2.5 months ago… she decided to give it a try to be my gf.
She has 4 ex bf, 2 from China & 2 from Singapore…her 3rd ex is a married OLD man, yes this is the one she love the most cos she has the most chemistry, I am the fifth one.
When we are together, we are very close, she would hold my hand & kiss me….I will spent lavish dinner on her but never really buy things. I care for her very much, cos I really love her.
We once went to a couple spa & in the pool…we get very intimate & did most of the couple things except making love cos she has period(yes I saw the blood & pad) & she suggested next time.
I thought I found my true love & was a happy man. Recently I am going for a business trip & at the same time she is going back China…so we suggested to visit Hong Kong together for 1-2 days…after there, I will continue my business trip & she will fly back to China from there.
I book the most luxury hotel in HK..& I paid for her 1 way trip to HK..the home trip, she foot herself. Few days before leaving, I noticed she seemed a little weird….e.g she decided to meet me…but give excuses LAST MIN to do this & that, & can’t meet me & her story does not tally, when I ask more, she gets angry.
Then I get suspicious, thinking back, there were once or twice …a few weeks earlier, I could not reach her at all…& her birthday will be together with some ‘mystery’ friends from China. RED light is ON….I suspect she is still seeing the married old man.
Instead of cancelling the HK trip, I carry on anyway…from the Singapore airport to on plane to HK..we are behaving like very close couple. BUT the moment we reach the hotel in the morning, she immediately went to zzz (maybe she is exhausted) but in the evening, when I try to get close to her, she refuse saying she is very exhausted & just recovered from a sickness (dengue) which is true.
To be continued
This is the first time we have a small tiff, cos I am very sad for not able to get close with her(THIS IS A NORMAL FOR COUPLE, PLEASE DO NOT FLAME ME on this)…she told me she only do with a man she love…& she only like me & she needs time to love me. That I ask her why she gets intimate with me in the spa when she only likes me & NOT love, she answer strangle, keeping saying she is now exhausted & do not wish to do….We have a bad quarrel & decided to end this BGR…& afterward.she can still joke & watch TV & zzz throughout the night.
Next morning I told her to leave herself, & leave the things I bought for her mother (I am wrong on this but I have no choice) she say I am cruel & also say she don’t know how to explain to her friend that she & me is over (this is a green light that she takes me seriously)
After she left, I am devasted & cried cos this is my virgin trip bring a girl I loved outside the country in a 6 star pose hotel..I was alone in the room ..IN a foreign country & very very heartbroken & no one to talk too..
When I continue my business trip, I feel very guilty & whatsappt her that what I did is wrong & hope she can patch back with me & she consider for 2 days & AGREEED to give our relationship another chance! She is coming back to Singapore next week.
Instead of being happy for patching back, I feel confused I am confused…all my friends say she is using me for $ & asked me to leave her…but I cannot forget her…cos in my mind, I can sense she really show her true love by what she did when we are intimate in the spa..e.g allow me to give her love bites…e.g a girld who love your $ or maybe with a sugar daddy will not allow u to do this.
Furthermore, during this few days, when we talked, she did show interest in defending what she did this & there in the whatsappt, very long wording, IF a girl after being chased out at the pose hotel, will not do this. I am NOT rich & only drive a van, live in a 3 room flat… she cannot be after my $…the only thing is I always spent good food on her.
I hope some bro & sis here can advise me what I should do in this situation, cos I am very very confused now as I am afraid she is still seeing the old man occasionally. Is there any chance she might be true to me….cos I believe a couple should have sex life to be healthy, but the constant thought of what happen in the spa when we gets very very intimate to the next moment in the hotel, she is another person, this thoughts is driving me crazy
Please do not flame me, I sincerely need some help.
Thank you for reading & have a great weekend.
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Lindblum
I can’t help if you haven’t gotten to the point ..
Lol… thats what i thought too. TS whats your problem or regarding what advice do you need?…
If shes behaving suspiciously, maybe she have another “bf” behind your back or shes seeing back her ex?.. If she really loves you, she would have want to spend her birthday with you…
I have to split into 2 posts cos is too long
Again I can’t zzz well & wake at on a Sat at 7am to type this
My point is why is she so intimate with me in the spa allowing me to bite all her body & others & when I thought she madly in love with me from her action, the next round the trip to HK, in the pose hotel room, she behave a different person ..all alone she is intimate with me from the airport like very close gf …till in the hotel room….
& when we quarrel, I angrily say I should bring other gf, she seem angry I have other girls (which is false)…also she told me don’t know how to tell her friends about the break up, which is green light
on the other hand…she say she only like me first & can’t be love in 2 months cos she is very honestly & direct but she can’t explain well why she get so intimate with me in the spa when she only like me & not love me…
Help!!
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sorry bro & sis, my post is way too ,long & I need to split into 3 sections, as usual I can’t zzz well of this…I sincerely help someone can help me….I have NOT seen such situation in my 30 overs years…this is a real challenge & puzzle…I just wish to solve the mystery
Man normally got lousier intuition compared to women. By the time you can sense something not right, something wrong must be happening liao. From your story, seems that she’s not willing to tell, then dont force her. Pull your strings back a little and if she really care about u she will come back automatically. Sometimes give away too much not a very wise move.
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Hi bro lindblum,
Is there any chance I can talk to u via phone, I can pay u a small token cos I think I really can’t take it anymore, she is coming bk next sat
My point is, how can a gf is so so intimate with u in the spa , letting u bite her body…etc n after the spa she keeps holding my hands n kept asking for kisses when she reach home
When I decided to go oversea, everything is perfect till in the room when she giving excuses not to get intimate n she only to with the guts she love n she only knows me for 2 months,
Then why she allow me this n there in the spa, giving me the wrong idea n when ask when she did that in spa n the rest of the time in sin when she only lines n not love?? I am confused??
I also suspect she is seeing other ppl, might be the old man, but IF the old man is her sugar daddy, she will not allow me to leaves mark on her body…hmm she is really a smart gal till I am suffering at her hand, please please help me cos I really Like her now, no joke, is not sex anymore, I really fallen for her 😔