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inkthatsmile
I admit, sometimes hubby ask me for sex no mattwr how unwilling i am i will just try my best to entertain him for that good 30mins. However my husband take a loong time to shoot sometimes in purpose to drag the time.
Just be thankful for what life gives you. You are a mother of two. Figure not as good as before marriage, pussy not as tight as before child birth. He still wants sex with you, that is a blessing. You said you read this forum so you should know a lot of men find sex outside because they don’t find their wives attractive after childbirth. Is that a better scenario for you? I can understand why you have no mood for sex but can you understand the consequences of consistently rejecting him?
Be thankful he can last 30 mins. Many other guys out there are 1 min warriors. Longer sex is more enjoyable for guys. Yes the joy from orgasm/ejaculation at the end is the same but during the process of reaching ejaculation, guys also enjoy that. Maybe he wants to drag because he doesn’t know when the next sex session will be. So enjoy as much as he can because getting you to agree to sex is so difficult. So the way to make him cum faster might be to reassure him of increased frequency of sex.
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inkthatsmile
just plainly curious why is SEX that important. Thanks (:
sex is not important,but sex with hubby is important cos if nv fuck ur lao gong then he will find excuse and tao jiak ….
Simply put it this way, at least his high sex drive is making love with you, not with other women outside. I think TS is also stress with her children and work too, so I can understand where she is coming from. Need to reignite your sexual passion so you can enjoy it better rather than a bedroom chore.
I can tell you the period after my wife had babies was really bad for us. Not much sex and we almost talked about divorce. Later she for some reasons recovered (maybe talked to someone or wake up) and we started having more regular sex. More intimacy and the r/s becomes better.
I dun even think about eating outside leow and even the thought of visiting prostitutes turn me off sometimes. Seriously, not all men want to makan outside if there are homecook food available.
Try to respond to the needs of your hubby.
Thanks for all the replies and sorry for the extremely late respond. However YES I do understand that man need SEX. However I do satisfy him Maybe twice a week or sometimes thrice. Yes it might not be as frequent as when we were dating but I swear I did tried my very best to satisfied him, but it doesn’t seems satisfied him at all. Many times I caught him masturbating beside me while I WAS sleeping. This action really disgust me alot and I wonder how much respect he have for me as a wife…. and I’ve caught him many times EVEN quarrel with him, times aft times situation doesn’t seems to involve and Yes I feel that his sex demand is too high for me to handle… but as a wife I still DO satisfied him, so I guess after all I DID do my part as a wife isnt?
Over the years Maybe the passion has somehow died off I do have a few girlfriends that are having very active sex life but the current me really don’t have much interest in having sex. Maybe giving birth does affect me that much but I seriously believe that non of the MAN here would like to be “entertained” for sex isnt?
I don’t know about other wife but each time I reject my hubby for sex I really feel guilty but taking care of an infant thats barely 4-5 months is really not easy. Day and night, rain or shine, plus I’m living with in laws makes everything harder.
One thing I don’t understand is how can man get so irritated and pissed when They get rejected for sex, isn’t sex supposed to very mutual? Everytime I see his irritated and angry face it disappoint me totally. Make me question myself what is marriage all about, and I did realize that whenever we don’t have “enough” sex he will be hot tempered throughout.
My point is, if the whole marriage can be destroy by JUST one point then how strong this marriage is? However no offence to anyone here. Just my personal opinion. And thanks for really responding to my thread and all the PM.
Hi, maybe like what some bros say here, YES my hubby does have a high sex drive however, I do not have such high sex drive and YES giving birth to two babies within such short period of time has taken a toll on me, no matter physically or mentally. However, me and my husband has agree on the 2-3 x per week thing.
Im sure most wifey CANNOT take it when hubby DIY beside them because TO ME it simply mean that he doesn’t respect me. Anyway like what I’ve mention, this is all personal opinion.