Many may wonder why it was a nightmare after not meeting up with Sweetie for some time. Isn’t suppose to be happy? Let’s continue……..
Well, i was a night when i texted sweetie to meet up. She agreed and was telling me if i don’t mind meeting up with her friends. I thought it was fine and didn’t think much. Make my way down to had dinner with them. When i sat in, i was introduced to her friends and there were 2 couples. Sweetie and another guy were one but it didnt came to my mind they were a pair. Throughout the session, i did notice the guy with sweetie was treating her with great attention. I no doubt could feel something was amiss but i kept quiet throughout. After the dinner session ended, sweetie left with that guy and it somehow shock me a little. I am always a guy who will accept everything in silent, be it if is going to hurt myself or not. At that moment while i was driving back. I thought, i thought if they were together, i hope that guy could treat her well. I cant be there to treat Sweetie well in my hand but i should be happy if there is a good man that could take care of her.
The next day, Sweetie called and asked me out for a swim. I agreed and i picked her up from her place. We were chatting like usual and while we reached our usual swimming location, she happened to turn on her ipad and i saw the screensaver of that guy with her. I jokingly teased her " wah! new bf huh? hahahha"….well that wasn’t funny at all. I guess that was one way i release the steam inside me….arrrggghhhhh
And so, we proceed to swim. We usually enjoy swimming and chatting. That day was one of the days we had many things to chat. However, the only thing we chat about is her new guy. In fact, i do encourage her towards having a proper relationship with that guy. Telling her the pros and cons of this guy and how i think about him when sweetie asked. After swimming, we had dinner and run some errands before i sent her back home. Driving back home that night was a night i thought i should stay away from her from now. Reason because i thought having my existence may caused complications between them and secondly, maybe will make my life miserable seeing sweetie with him. I laid on my bed the whole night without any sleep and was up at 5am to go office. That miserable time from 12am till 5am seem so long. Tried forcing myself to sleep and i failed. I could only kept thinking about what i should do and how i should be handling the situation now.
The title of my story actually comes from the whole night of thoughts. Either i just lift my courage and give myself a 20s of impulsion to voice out my feelings to sweetie OR i remain silent……….
In the end, i decided to remain silent as i thought since sweetie have always wanted a proper relation, i should give her my blessings. As i have never given her a proper name of at least to be my gf, she was very confused and confessed to me once that she dont even feel that she is my fb…….all i ever want is just a companion. She thought, that maybe i could easily asked her out everytime when i am free that makes her devalued. She grumbles about me not treating her as my woman but still insist and kept telling herself she will be satisfy to be at least staying by my side whenever allows. All those things she ever said to me i remembered and i just remain silent still………..
The next few days was terrible. Immersed myself in work, spent time entertaining my clients at ktv twice, started drinking abit when i got home, suddenly i felt i was toned down. I became quiet, i became emotionless. I just dont know what went in me but i truely know my heart is bleeding everyday. Sweetie starts her usual morning and night greetings after the last time i met her but i just felt it doesn’t meant anything to me anymore. I still replied her but i make it short. I forced myself and refrained from doing anything more. My mind kept telling me that time will heal and in time to come i could still see her again as a friend one day. And i do hope that day will come soon as the pain is really torturing.
It was a tiring day after work one of the nights and i happened to get a watsapp from sweetie while i am feeling laid back on my bed, watching a movie from funshion. We started chatting and slowly entered into the topic about her new bf. It was a long chat and i remembered we chatted till very late. That was the time that i realised she wasnt happy with this guy and her new bf wasn’t aware why she choose him too…..GOSH!!!! i ask u guys, why do god wanna play such game to me?!?!?!
I am super confused. On one hand i already started telling myself to slowly accept the fact that she is attached and i should accept it and leave her alone, yet now she is telling me all these. What the hell is going on man? I really dont know if i should be angry? Hate myself? blame someone? scold sweetie to wake up her idea and think right? or still remain in silent mode? I really dont know………………
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vonnieleung
hope that things have got the better for you
thanks bro
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HunterJ
Bro TS, I start to feel we have some stuff in common. Mainly is because I am always the one in silence too. I really really feel your writing very much. Support you !
i guess so too bro…
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houses100
Bro TS,
I think it sounds like you might have the chance you want, I feel for you after reading all your posts, I hope maybe you can find the courage somewhere to chase your happiness, you sound like a very giving person and I think we all deserve to be happy, if you can see past all the feelings of revenge etc, it may pay for you to give yourself and sweetie a chance. Sometimes us guys are very blur, we don’t realize what a good thing we have till we don’t have it anymore…hope it turns out well for you! Take care of yourself…
thanks bro….
Just got some time after doing up the CNY prep….let’s see how much i can pen tonight…….
knowing the woman i love wasn’t happy with the existing guy now was truely terrible. I didn’t know if i should voice out but life goes on as usual. It was one fine day that i agreed to bring sweetie to JB to purchase some of her home stuffs as she was moving house. I wasn’t ready to see her but given the fact that she needs those stuffs urgently for her new home, i obliged her. Soon it come the day and i was rushing the whole morning to complete my work before going in and once i am done, i drop sweetie a watsapp and told her i am done and if she is ready to go JB.
Just after she replied that she is ready, she followed another text asking if her bf can follow? I kept silent and i didn’t replied her. It was just furious in me and was thinking what the hell is she treating me as? That new bf of her’s drives and yet asking me if he can tap along? Cant she just get him to bring her in to buy her stuffs instead? I just felt i am been used…… Till after her next text saying if is not convinent then she will just tell her bf that she is going with me only. I pondered awhile and replied: “I dont think i can bring you to Jb today, your bf can do the job and secondly i purposely arrange to bring u in and leave my work till the next day to do. I am sorry that i need to attend to my work and can’t bring you today.”
That’s what i replied her and i cut it short. Didn’t wanna say further and i went back home to sleep. Damn pissed off and yet feeling very sorrow. Just when i reached the carpark, she replied. Saying that she get my meaning, I dont know what came to me and i suddenly Blair out every single thoughts in me. I guess i confessed to her that day. I told her what i have done during the days i didn’t see her, how things got through between Janice and me, and how i felt over the new guy she got. Lastly i mentioned that she meant something to me…………….
I wasn’t sure if i delivered the right idea to her that afternoon, but i knew i felt better after confessing to her. I did told her to remain silent till i finish telling her the whole issue. And she replied lastly that she was touched by everything that had happened and what i had done. I was shocked, i was motionless for awhile and thought i listened wrongly. Wasn’t i suppose to expect she will ran away from me than to feel touched? She mentioned alot that afternoon and that she wasn’t serious with this new guy and was waiting and hoping that one day i might turn my feelings towards her. I was touched by her words but wasn’t sure what i should do because there is a guy between us. I told her i was really very exhausted and isn’t a good time to talk further and we ended the conversation while i went home hiding and slept at home the rest of the day. In fact i still wasn’t sure if what i heard is right or not and so i went away for the day………….
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studdyme
nice story!
thanks bro
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arsenal_84
spend life with who makes you happy, not who you have to impress.
dating a girl with a good amount of EQ, will be a basic foundation for a long term rs.
i agree
And so, conversation with Sweetie the next few days were more open. Since i had more or less confessed to her. It came a day when Sweetie asked me out for dinner after she had bought some vouchers from groupon. And i agreed. Picked her up from her office and head down to makan place. Everything seems normal, our reactions are more formal towards each other. Maybe both of us felt a little weird after the real feelings had been revealed. hahahaa well i really dont know. Didn’t do much too, sent her home after some shopping with dinner that night.
I sent her back home around 10plus at night. Dropped her and i left. She left quietly too without any signs of wanting to stay longer too and somehow i just felt weird. After driving away for a few mins, i suddenly plugged out that 20sec of impulsion kinda courage and sent her a watsapp that i wish to see her still. I ask if i could turn back and see her now? Was waiting with fingers crossed hoping she dont mind……..
Boink Boink Boink(my watsapp sound)…….. here comes her text:
Sweetie: sure ah….i wait for you downstairs in 15mins time…
OMG!!!! i cant believe it and within mins, i am back at her place to pick her up. The moment she entered my car, i holded her hand. This was indeed a gamble to me but i guess it’s time i just plug up my courage and be a man. I could feel she is holding my hand tight too. Am quite sure she agree to what is going to come next. I drove her to yishun Dam where we had some fond memories there once. Once reached, i stopped my car and i started pouring out my thoughts.
I asked, Sweetie do you still remember this place? She nodded and gave out a sweet smile. I repeated the whole story that i wrote here since day one and my eyes turned watery when i ended. Sweetie came towards me with a hug. I never felt as warm a hug she gave me this time. Her watery eyes teared too and i wipe off her tears. I asked for her forgiveness over the whole ordeal that i made her go through and she forgave me. She accepted me and agree with a brand new start as well. I was feeling delighted, feeling so touched and felt that big rock weighing on me was lifted away by her. I was a happy man that night and i totally out of words that very moment.
Many of you may think, what about that guy who is so called sweetie’s bf? I am not sure if i am a bastard to just snatched sweetie away from him. But i agreed and allow sweetie to handle the situation and i gave her full trust and faith in handling this matter. It should be able to settle pretty soon. It doesn’t bothers me that much and my main concern is Sweetie. We were so in love with each other since that day, maybe it was still in our honeymoon period=)
Well i am a one woman’s man, and i knew it myself. I knew deep inside me, i will truely treat sweetie well and guess what guys? I proposed to her recently and she accepted! All wells, came well i must say. Ladyluck is on my side this time round to met Sweetie over thousands of women out there. I thank god for this gift and my dad who is watching over me all this while. Till today, Sweetie still said to me the same thing. She still believe in me and that she will never fail to keep giving me and showering me with her way of LOVE. I am touched by her words, touched by her actions, everything about her simply blend a brand new me now.
I wrote this story for her, although my language may not be the best around, i hope is readable to you guys out there. I hereby annonuce to dedicate this story to my dearest Sweetie and hope this will be a part of our marriage life for the many years ahead. This will end my story here and fb0407 will not appear in this forum anymore as promised. I wish All Samters here a prosperous year of Dragon and wish you all with a blessed love life!
Thank you guys….you all are simply great!
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5ag1_Boar
Wonderful!!! Glad that you found the love of your life. Too bad cannot come your wedding!
Congratulations! And may you have “happily ever after”!!!
Thanks bro
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HunterJ
Congratulations to you bro. Wishing you the best for everything.
Need wedding photog can let me know. I can “come out of the mountain” again just for you. haha !!
Cheers to you. Have a long lasting and sweet loving lifetime with your one and only Sweetie.
Thanks bro, I will remember that
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dhay101
All the best to both of you.
Thanks bro, u guys are marvelous
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unsung80
Warmest congrats for you and sweetie, remember to pop by once in a while to be our forum heart to heart consultant if possible.
I will still be watching and reading all the stories in sbf, but will not wanna find any fun in here anymore. My heart is with sweetie and I truly would wish to treasure her.
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insultress
Nice story
Wow…. Is really sometimes since the last visit here. Was very busy with work and enjoying the wedding prep with sweetie. Really wanna thank all the well wishes of all brothers here…. Thank you
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GorDJilla
TS bro, im glad that u’ve found the love of ur life aft much difficulties. As the saying goes “there’s always sunshine after the rain”. Life is full of challenges.. There’s some easy stages & some more difficult stages. As long as u hang on there, u’ll b rewarded.
Congrats Bro on ur proposal, i wish u & Sweetie everlasting happiness
Thanks bro