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Originally Posted by
fb0407
As i was in the car which my dad’s coffin was, halfway the journey to bright hill. I sudden heard my dad talking to me. I thought i was really hearing things and somehow that familiar voices repeated again when we almost arrived. It’s my dad, i am very sure he knew everything and he wants me to just anchored. Stop that hatred with Janice, put down that burden that has been always weighing on my shoulders for the past couple of months. Forgive…..he wants me to just forgive her. I always respect my dad becoz i know we are the same kind, he did everything for me for a reason. At that point, i dont understand why my dad wants me to forgive. I cant figure out and i thought that he wants us to meet again. So i agreed my dad, promised him i will forgive her but i will only look her up after i have settled with my mum.
wad ur dad sed is correct..forgive n forget, live and let live… Hard to put down the hatred but in the end you’ll only cause more misery for itself and others… Karma is all ard…
Your story strikes the cord of many bros here who have definitely experienced what you went through before.
Please con’t.
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Originally Posted by
eeemen
Bro TS, thanks for sharing your heart warming story here with us. When one shares with an open heart like what your doing, pouring out your feelings and emotions, it comes thru, like words of wisdom. There are lots of lessons that can be learnt from your life’s experiences, and for this I thank you for sharing, for life is a never ending lesson.
All the very best to you bro. May you find your eternal happiness, cheers ……….
I agree with you bro, I hope by delivering this story here could let many realized how they can manage if things will be befall on tHem one day and won’t move the way I choose in life. Be it a good or bad decision that I may have made, I neVer regret. I just gotta accept it as a man. Thanks for your blessings bro
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Originally Posted by
japboy
wad ur dad sed is correct..forgive n forget, live and let live… Hard to put down the hatred but in the end you’ll only cause more misery for itself and others… Karma is all ard…
I agree too, but never did I thought by forgiving , it means giving Janice a chance to make a comeback. Which was not I want
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Originally Posted by
cheatingchris
Your story strikes the cord of many bros here who have definitely experienced what you went through before.
Please con’t.
I hope bros or even sisters here who ever been through what I had, could handle things better than I do. It’s miserable and sorrow, but a human’s mind is never too weak to speak out what they want. Of coz, giving a consideration of not getting anyone hurt too badly.
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Originally Posted by
XiaoGe2011
sad but good story, pls cont
Thanks bro
It was the night where Janice and I had a drinking session and that she spoke up her mind. We were not talking much like before and I maintained quiet and listening most of the time. At this moment, she voiced out if we should consider getting back together……
This was the question, the opportunity that I am waiting for all these while.
Janice: dear, am sorry that so many things had happened this year and I wasn’t there for you. I am sorry that I had caused you hurt deeply.
Me: ( I stayed quiet for awhile)
Me: thanks for showing the concern like u have always do. Is really wonderful to reconcile…….. But can you take the NEW ME?
She paused with shock and didn’t get what I meant aT all. And I explained.
Me: you see, I had changed since the last incident. I no longer love you like I used to and u won’t be my only woman if we were to get back. Do you think you can take me? Can you take me when we argue in future and that I bring up the third party issue as our central of fight???
These words that came out from my mouth simply was like been hit by a car crash kinda feelings. Feeling smashed, feeling sorrow yet putting up a smile and strong front just to win this challenge.
I even slam her integrity and revealing to her what the son had told me and push everything and anything bad about her character right at that moment. I told her how a great liar she was and that She simply don’t worth a friendship from the way she is hiding things and even have no shame to ask for a reconcile. She was trying to defend herself but to no succeed as I start pouring things on her and revealing what she might never thought I have knew all the while. She was hurt, tears dropping without any shoulders to cried on.
I asked for the bill and sent her home. I left that night with a hard feeling. I went to yishun dam with some drinks and sat there aimlessly for some hours. Is was then I realized the message my dad sent me. It wasn’t about just forgiving, it wasn’t about just being a true gentleman, it wasn’t about shouting out what you want. Is about making mistakes in life and learn from there, move on from there………
Moving on forward, what do you want now? a new love or an ex-love.
Can you forget the stuffs she did wrong, can you forget the memories of your sweetie?
Try to pen it down, and see what strikes you most. You probably will have your answer.
Not forgetting your kid, put your kid into your equation too, it cannot be just yourself.
Whatever your decision is, there is no right and wrong. It is your best decision at the moment you made it.
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Originally Posted by
fb0407
I agree too, but never did I thought by forgiving , it means giving Janice a chance to make a comeback. Which was not I bro
I think ur dad can predict future too… By not letting go, u end up hurting sweetie too.. N she’s d most innocent party, being dragged in by ur hatred.. U can forgive n forget plus give a firm NO to janice o lead her on so dat both of u can move on with ur own life n never look back.. Day’s wad I did!!
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Originally Posted by
neyney
Moving on forward, what do you want now? a new love or an ex-love.
Can you forget the stuffs she did wrong, can you forget the memories of your sweetie?
Try to pen it down, and see what strikes you most. You probably will have your answer.
Not forgetting your kid, put your kid into your equation too, it cannot be just yourself.
i can forgive people, but i really can’t forget what had happened. The kid wasn’t mine bro, he was janice’s
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Originally Posted by
neyney
Whatever your decision is, there is no right and wrong. It is your best decision at the moment you made it.
i guess i truely know what i want at that moment in time….thanks for your words bro. Cheers
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Originally Posted by
japboy
I think ur dad can predict future too… By not letting go, u end up hurting sweetie too.. N she’s d most innocent party, being dragged in by ur hatred.. U can forgive n forget plus give a firm NO to janice o lead her on so dat both of u can move on with ur own life n never look back.. Day’s wad I did!!
bro Japboy, yes i do agree my dad could predict the future. Sweetie is definitely an innocent party in the whole ordeal. At the beginning i thought she would just hold on and believe in the many words that i have been telling her all the while, crossing my fingers that she would just endure a little longer. But u know, things often just don’t turned out to be what you expected.
That’s what pains me more and what can i do right? I chosen to do things this way, and i gotta accept the consequences.
Sitting by Yishun dam that night, many memories came rushing in my thoughts. How i care for Janice as a good friend, how i took care of her when once she fell and had a scar on her face during her poly days. How she often took me as her shield whenever we went clubbing. The many moments we spent time chatting, talking about what we wanna be in future, what kinda partners we want…… Everything just came towards me like a tidal wave. It’s soon gone during that night.
However, just when i took a deep breathe. Images of sweetie came in. That very moment of me just hope that i could see her and gave her a big hug. But i know i am never fortunate enough to call for such precious moment to happen. Another round of tidal wave came….. The nice memories that sweetie and i had spent, including having our regular meals together, having regular swimming sessions, having those jogging sessions, our frequent movie sessions, talking to her and guide her about work, giving her valuable advice about work and life, our unforgetable make out sessions, and of coz, the one and only bbq session we had at yishun dam……….The moment that we had an argument, how cold i have always treat her, the words which came out from my mouth example: (yes i never wanna relationship and i was not ready, u can always assume that i am sleeping around when i stop touching you, you are not the only woman in my life, you should go and find a better man and not me…………………) all those words spelled out was truely a disgrace, i am blinded by hatred all these while. I didn’t wanna treat Sweetie well because i didn’t know when things between Janice and me will come to a stop. I stop touching her because i just hope i slow down the process and deep inside me was miserable. I am just a miserable freak during that time, a useless guy when i realise i cant protect sweetie from crying for me. Tell me samsters, do i deserve Sweetie???? i really dont know……..
Just as these moments of thoughts finished, a single tear came rolling down my face and it follows a few more. That’s when i realised my heart finally opens up and speak out………
I finally knew Sweetie is the one. She had been showering me with her way of believe in love and so determined to make me realise that love do exist in this world and that there is still someone out there that really cares for me with a true heart. The way she deals with me simply were unconditionally which i had never realised. I always told her that in life we should always take some time to think. By moving 1 step backward, could allow us to make 2 steps forward so we could excel and face challenges in life. Never knew her mentor(which is me), only know how to speak but didn’t realise it till now……
I am sure my heart is with sweetie and i promised i will win her back with sincerity. It took me 2 days to subside my mood over Janice’s issue before i started asking her out to meet. She do resist abit but finally agreed to meet up. Was very happy that i could see her again but it was also a great nightmare……………..
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Originally Posted by
kra77
what a story and how many of us the guys here can relate to.
I am one of those guys and also one of the lucky one too.
i guess you are trying to reach out to sweetie right by sharing your story. well to be fair to both sweetie and you, i would say that the time you ended with Janice was the time you make decision that you need to spend more time with yr father.
You failed to convince yrself that it was over between you and janice when you and sweetie were a couple. all this time she knows abt yr past with yr ex and yet stay behind and support you. sweetie deserved to be treated better from you but does not mean not by you.
if sweetie is reading this, all i can say to her, if your feelings are true to him, give him the chance he need to make up for his mistake. guys will want to have the revenge whether we admit it or not and sometimes we miss the person in front of us. sometimes its better to love than to hate the person who is no longer with us.
i hope you have a happy ending bro. you already managed to express yourself in ways you cant believe to your ex so its the only best choice for you to express your true feelings to sweetie. hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
thanks bro
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HunterJ
I believe this story touches many hearts of Bros here, including me. Thanks bro TS.
Story should be ending soon….hope i could finish it up by CNY