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You don’t understand exactly what turns women on.
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You are afraid of rejection.
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You don’t know what SHE’S thinking, so you hesitate.
I want to tell you guys a story.
I have two friends with two very different ideas on how to meet women.
One friend will walk up to every woman he meets and try to get a date with them.
The other will wait around, study a woman he likes, and wait for a signal she’s open to being hit on.
Neither method is better than the other, but while my first friend meets with a lot of rejection and failure, my second friend, the one who scopes out his target beforehand, has a much higher success rate.
See, he only goes after women who like him. He calls himself a “sniper,” picking his targets with accuracy, whereas my other friend is a “shotgun,” hitting everything and hoping something sticks.
When you know a woman is into you, she becomes a “target of opportunity.”
This means that you have an “inroad” with the woman. An opening that let’s you know you have a chance of scoring with her.
This can be valuable for many reasons. It reduces uncertainty, helps bolster confidence and self esteem, etc. But it can be hit or miss, depending on your look, your belief system, and what the girl is into.
There are certain cues you can look for to tell when the woman is a “target of opportunity.” The biggest of which is an “eye cue.”
If a girl looks you up and down quickly when she first sees you, chances are she’s interested.
This is because she likes your face, and she wants to see what the rest of you is like. It may not be a 100% sure thing, but it’s definitely “on” if you see that eye signal.
If you catch a woman looking at you and she turns away suddenly, chances are she was checking you out. You know how this is, men are guilty of it all the time.
Remember when you saw a beautiful woman and you were staring at her, soaking in her beauty, maybe daydreaming a bit, and she turns and sees you? What do you do?
That’s right, you look away and pretend nothing was happening.
Well, girls are the same way. Just be aware of it.
Another sign she’s interested is pupil dilation. If you’re talking to a girl and her pupils are as big as saucers, then it’s a good chance she’s attracted to you!
There’s an old saying that eyes are the window’s to the soul. This is very true. Keep your attention on a woman’s eyes and she’ll let you know when the opportunity to seduce her is present.
A little side track, sometime i read some time back than i found vaguely interesting, but very true… to a certain extent of course.. hahaha
MOST MEN ARE DEATHLY AFRAID…
Most men don’t know the FIRST THING about how to take things to a “physical” level with a woman.
Here’s why:
Let’s say you’ve been out on a date with a woman, and you’re now back at your place, having an enjoyable conversation.
You look over at her.
She looks back at you.
You want to kiss her.
She KNOWS that you want to kiss her.
You know that she is the one with all the power.
If you try to kiss her, and she pulls away, she might reject you forever.
If you DON’T try to kiss her, maybe it will happen later, or maybe she’ll even kiss you…
The risk of being rejected FOREVER is so powerful and creates such fear that you decide to just “walk away” from the situation and hope something happens later.
Or, let’s say that you’ve been out with a woman a few times, and you have just kissed her for the first time.
You know that she’s enjoying it.
She knows that you want her.
You’d REALLY like to do more, but you’re afraid that if you try, you’ll be seen as “moving too fast”, or even worse… a “pushy pervert”.
You hate the idea of being rejected after you’ve invested all that time and come so far… So you decide to stop and hope that maybe things will “heat back up” later.
WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE
If you really stop and think about it, the reason why you run into problems in situations like these is that:
I honestly believe that most men CAUSE their own problems and resistance when it comes to “getting physical” with a woman.
Yes, you read that right… MEN are the ones who CAUSE the problems.
It’s not the woman!
It’s the fact that you don’t understand the situation, what’s REALLY going on, and how to proceed.
WHAT WOMEN WANT… BUT WILL NEVER TELL YOU:
Here’s a little secret that most women will NEVER share with you…
SHE KNOWS WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND.
Women can tell what you’re thinking!
If you want to kiss her, but you’re nervous about it, SHE KNOWS.
If you’re kissing her and want to do more… SHE KNOWS.
And here’s the KICKER:
If you’re afraid of her rejecting you, SHE KNOWS.
Really.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES as good as men when it comes to reading and interpreting subtle body language, and THEY KNOW WHAT WE’RE THINKING.
Let me correct myself… slightly.
They know what MOST men are thinking.
If you understand the dynamics of how and why women become sexually aroused, then EVERYTHING CHANGES.
Now, let’s talk a little bit about the topics of RESISTANCE and REJECTION.
Here’s an interesting thought:
In their book “Sexual Interactions”, Albert and Elizabeth Allgeier mention that in one study almost 40% of women reported refusing sexual intercourse when they actually WANTED it. They call this “The token no”.
So, what’s going on here?
Hold on… one more thing before I discuss this, I want to point out that this DOESN’T mean that a woman wants a man to force himself on her. NEVER force a woman to do anything!
Here’s what’s going on…
Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.
Anticipation leads to sexual arousal.
Write that down…
…on your forehead.
You need to remember that women like the idea of WANTING and EXPECTING what’s going to happen.
The reason why a lot of women say that they don’t want to sleep with men even when they do is because the man doesn’t GET IT.
Men act like they would enjoy it if a woman just took off her clothes and said, “Let’s do it.”
Women act like they want a man to chase them around all night… and then MAYBE do it. Maybe.
So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less “resistance”, then USE ANTICIPATION.
I have a technique that I teach that’s called “Two steps forward, one step back”.
This is a way to INCREASE a woman’s sexual arousal and AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that’s already present in the situation.
Here’s how it works:
Let’s say that you’re talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand.
After a few minutes, take your hand back and STOP.
Lean back.
Keep talking.
A few minutes later, reach over and take her hand again… and keep talking.
Then, lean over and kiss her (use “The Kiss Test” as described at my website and in my “Double Your Dating” ebook).
After you’ve kissed her, STOP.
Lean back again.
Keep talking.
A few minutes later, reach over and kiss her again.
This time, kiss her for a little longer.
Kiss her a little deeper.
Then stop.
Lean back.
Smile.
ARE YOU WITH ME?
When you use this technique, you will be absolutely STUNNED at the results.
First of all, it completely changes the situation.
Instead of a woman RESISTING you, she’ll be MUCH more likely to try to get you to DO MORE.
She’ll very likely be confused.
She’ll be thinking to herself, “What’s going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they don’t do anything at all. This guy seems like he’s so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. Maybe I should tell him that we’re not going to sleep together tonight. But this is so great…”
And the best part of this technique is that IT’S WHAT WOMEN WANT YOU TO DO!
Of course, they’d never TELL you this. And even if a woman COULD explain it, she wouldn’t WANT to tell you. Women want men who ALREADY GET IT.
I want to mention a couple of more important things.
First, if you want to even GET to the point where it’s time to hold a woman’s hand, kiss her, and get even more physical, then you MUST understand how ATTRACTION works, and how to make women feel that powerful emotion.
If you don’t, then knowing all the fancy techniques in the world won’t help you.
It’s also VERY useful to understand what to do AFTER you’ve kissed a woman… the details of how to do OTHER, more INTIMATE things.
Know the easy way on how to get a girlfriend
A lot of guys get lazy when it comes to dating. They want to find a girlfriend without making much of an effort. In other words, they’re looking for a quick and easy method for finding the perfect woman.
The truth is it’s pretty hard to find a great girlfriend. However in this article, I’ll cover THREE easy steps you can use to locate that special woman.
Step #1- Know Where to Look: First off, you have to know where to look if want to get a girlfriend. This comes down to your personality and interests. The guys who are HAPPIEST in relationships are with women that provide physical AND emotional stimulation. Any girl you date should match YOUR expectations and what you want from life. In other words, if you want a specific type of girl, you need to go where she would hang out. That means if you want a intellectual girlfriend, then you should go to the places where she’s most likely to be.
Step #2- Flirt and Create Sexual Tension: Once you find a girl that matches your expectations, you have to attract her. And FLIRTING is the best way that you can do this. When you’re able to flirt and create sexual tension, it becomes VERY easy to make a woman interested in you. The ONLY easy way to find out how to get a girlfriend is being able to flirt when you meet her. To get this girl, you have to be able to spark that attraction!
Step #3- Date Until You Find ‘The One’: You never want to settle down with a girlfriend until you know she’s right for you. My advice is to date different women until you find that girl you simply ‘click’ with. As long as you’re honest upfront, there is NOTHING wrong with dating around until you get a girlfriend that you truly want to be with. Know how to get a girlfriend easy doesn’t have to be an overly complicated process. As long as you apply these three steps, it won’t be very long till you’ll come across that perfect girl!
It’s hard i know, and sometimes hope seems a little bleak, especially relationship after relationship, but well, life itself is a big bout of trial and error, so keep trying guys, find the dream girl of your life and you know you are set
Finally i have some time to pop by again, how are things going here with fellow forumers? all good for you guys i presume?
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Originally Posted by
mattress
awesome read bro! just one thing bro, any tips on how to really overcome the fear of rejection? I will say I’m quite the confident guy but once in a while, that tiny fear of rejection will creep in. and I’m pretty sure rejection can be a massive hit in the solarplexes for most of the bros here. any tips to overcome such a situation?
Just do it lor
the more you think the more you hesitate, if she rejects u, move on, repeat it over & over again, you’ll find yourself becoming more & more comfortable with talking with strangers, of course, keep it fresh, don’t use old cliche lines.
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helloworld11
Sharing some of my thoughts. Many posts have been made by other bros about meeting women but one point seems not touched on. That would be social value. I believe many chapters have been witten on this. Social value is perhaps the single most important factor in getting more girls in your life. As mentioned many authors have written about it so I won’t elaborate. Just do a little Google.
what can i say, social value… it’s something that can’t be read & duplicated, one must go out & accomplish something, be it career etc etc. to achieve it.
Hello all people of this forum, it’s been awhile since I’ve posted here, it’s been awhile, how’s life for everyone here. I’ve recently met a wonderful woman who i am in love with and have been happy with how life is going.
Hope to hear from all bros, feel free to add to to the discussion or TCSS here.