- A “nice guy” capitulates to women’s whims.
- A “nice guy” is afraid to lose the woman he is with.
- A “nice guy” has no leadership.
- A “nice guy” lacks confidence.
- A “nice guy” has thinly-veiled ulterior motives.
- A man treats all women well, regardless of sexual attractiveness.
- A man is not focused on getting some.
- A man takes charge.
- A man has options.
- A man has high standards
Hello all, been lurking around this forum for quite some timeand i haven’t Noticed any one posting topics on this before
(at least not that i’ve read of so i apologise if similar opinions have been posted before)
And i’d like to start the ball rolling. Feel free to add in any pointers of your own and maybe we can exchange pointers here as well!
This is to help fellow bros here build up that inner confidence of theirs and perhaps … help spark that flame in them to start attracting women?
Anyway here goes! Some of the guidelines in life i adhere to.
Be special
Do you want to be the guy everybody wants to get along with? Do you want to be the one that every woman desires to be with? The method is simple: Be special. You have to be special to become a true alpha male. If women think that you are boring like most men, then they will never want to sleep with you. Being special is not that hard, you just have to be good at something that people love. For example, be a “professional” magician, the best dresser at parties, drummer of a band, the best dancer at clubs, fun photographer, and main singer at a bar. Practice what you like to do and be the best.
Social exchange principle
Personalities are molded based on the experiences of a person’s life. Therefore, the type of people that you are friends with and socialize with have a great influence on you. Many men have friends that are simply negative people, and are not enjoyable for anyone to be around. Whether you like it or not (or even realize it), negative people are an enormous drain on your personality and attitude. Instead of fighting against the current, make the Social Exchange Principle work for you. Make friends with the type of person that you strive to be, and their positive traits will rub off on you. Attitudes and behaviors are contagious. If you want your life to be filled with happiness, make sure your friends enrich your life, not harm your progress.
Never let it slip
One common thing new starters to the game tend to do it put on the outer game (body language, eye contact etc..) when they are around women, yet when they are alone or around old friends, go back into their shell. If your going to change your life, you have to do that. CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Rid yourself of your old habits and keep up your new found confidence and body language. This stuff doesn’t just help you with women, but all aspects of life, so never let it slip
The Importance Of Being Busy
Chicks don’t like boring guys. It’s a fact. They want a man to be interesting, fun, and unpredictable. But yet, I see so many of my dude friends replying to a text message with this: Hot Chick: “Hey, what’s up?” Average Dude: “Nothing much, you?” FAIL! FAIL! FAIL! FAIL! Replying with the phrases “nothing much”, “just chilling”, or “I’m bored” is the single dumbest thing you can say back to a TOI. You might as well just say; “I am boring. My entire life is boring. I have nothing better to do…” If you truly want to get a girl, you’ve got to be interesting (or at least appear interesting). It doesn’t matter if you’re just sitting on your couch masturbating at 2:00am. Always give the impression you are busy or doing something fun and interesting. More Interesting = More Different = More Valuable = Getting Laid.
Color-coded-players
Always make sure that your outfit matches… I see guys every day that have no idea how much girls they are missing out on because of one simple fact : They have no idea how to dress! It all about the colors man, get the right and your game will be on point. Whatever you wear should match, from your hat to your shoes… and so should everything in between! I don’t mean all ONE color, but rather two or maybe three colors that mesh nicely together.
What’s up with your girl’s sister, buddy?
Make as many friends as possible that are already involved in relationships, because they are always trying to hook their friends up with each other. This is a easy way to have the girls brought to YOU, without barely any action on your part. Using this strategy you don’t even have to make a “perfect” first impression because your friends will have already given her the thumbs up.
Chin up, shoulder back, now strut!
Remember that not only women use body language to send signals to the opposite sex. You may be sending bad vibes to a woman while you are talking to her by your own body language, and you might not even know it.
Stop wishing and start living
You know that guy who has that one look you wish you had? Maybe his hair is straighter, his eyes are a bit bigger, has a smaller nose, anything like that. He has that one thing that you wish you could have. Well stop wishing. Just know that there is definitely something he is really insecure about, and when he looks at you, he wishes he could have your nose, or your ears, or anything else. No one is perfect, except those that realize their imperfections, embrace them, and move on with their lives.
Build up that confidence boy
Constantly tell yourself how attractive you are… how any woman would be blown away by you if you sat down and had a chat and they got to know you. Tell yourself these types of things every day for one month, then take a good look at yourself in the mirror and you will notice that you actually DO look much better than you think. This will also boost your confidence at an amazing rate.
Value value value
If you want to be successful with gorgeous girls the number one thing you should remember is you should be the leader of the pack, the guy everyone looks up to. You’ve got to have value. You won’t believe how many guys have a few unsuccessful closes and start to question their ability and undo all their hard work. Inner game and outer game goes hand in hand. Think highly of yourself and others will think highly of you - including gorgeous women
Do give me some feedback as in maybe my paragraphing is a little too chunky? and hard to read?
i’ve tried to keep everything as simple as it can be for ease of reading.
Cheers guys and good hunting
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naturegreen
“The Importance Of Being Busy” is indeed one good point that you brought up.
yes,i couldn’t have stressed more of this point to my buddies. and hey? isn’t it good? to a girl constantly think what are you doing that keeps you from replying their texts/calls be it Unintentional or intentional?
Great Tips from Ts. i would like to share some tips too about ‘Why don’t women like nice guys but like bad boys instead?’
Contrary to popular belief, women do like nice guys. What they don’t like are guys who let women walk all over them. They don’t want a doormat and they don’t want a supplicating fool. Women walk over nice guys because nice guys let them do it. It means you DON’T supplicate yourself with a woman.
Think of it like a reward system. In order for you to do something nice for her, she MUSTdo something nice for you. Not the other way around. An average chump will usually awkwardly hang around the bar and wait to find women who he can offer to buy drinks for. Losers, supplicators, “Nice guys.” They’re the first to get stepped on, used, then ignored, and the last to get laid. These guys will call getting laid “getting lucky” because that’s what it takes for them to successfully seduce a woman
Nice guys vs. jerks isn’t the real issue here, it is all about confidence. The major difference between nice guys and jerks is this: if a nice guy has the guts to approach a woman who has caught his attention, he is so worried about saying the perfect “nice” thing that he will totally flub it. The “nice” one ends up stumbling away from the object of his desires with his tail caught between his legs … this is NOT the impression you want to make!
A jerk, on the other hand, appears to have been blessed with ability to approach anyone and say just what’s on his mind completely disregarding any of the repercussions. He just does it. I have no clue how he does it. But DAMN, the man who has the confidence to accomplish that has caught my eye for the night whether he wants it or not!
Don’t think women don’t like nice guys. There is an initial appeal to a jerk, but it doesn’tlast long. As long as you don’t act desperate and have a little something going for you,believe me, a nice guy CAN finish first - and with the girl of his dreams.
So, anyone has any pointers to exchange?
Last one before i end it for the night today..
One way to walk up to a girl and start a conversation.
If you notice a girl that you like but she is with one of her friends, try this approach. My favorite way to do this is to talk to the “uglier” friend first in order to make the hot one jealous… because if you talk to the hot one directly the other might like you too and get jealous… then she will do just about anything to ruin your chances with her friend - not good! Go up to the ugly one and say something like “I really like your shoes/heels??
skirt, shirt, hair… anything then after she says thanks quickly move on to the hot one and give her a compliment also… It is extremely important to keep talking to BOTH of them for a while, but gradually focusing more on the hot one, until the point comes when you are only talking to her… then end the conversation by getting her number and setting up a date.
Wow.. TS you can start a date agency or something. Thought recently in the news have one, you can be better than him I think!
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pale_dick
women do like nice guys. What they don’t like are guys who let women walk all over them.
In order for you to do something nice for her, she MUST do something nice for you. Not the other way around.
if a nice guy has the guts to approach a woman who has caught his attention, he is so worried about saying the perfect “nice” thing that he will totally flub it. The “nice” one ends up stumbling away from the object of his desires with his tail caught between his legs … this is NOT the impression you want to make!
I couldn’t have said it any better. Yes brothers, women like nice guys, but IMHO what they really like is a nice guy AND a man who can take charge. Think of it this way, we all want a smoking hot lady as our spouse but at the same time we wish she could be the perfect mother for your child? That’s the best analogy i can think of.
Be an alpha male, and by alpha male i don’t mean through strength and characteristics of a brute.
Number 1 characteristic of a alpha male - His smile
Number 2 - Confidence
Number 3 - being well-groomed,
Number 4 - possessing a sense of humor,
Number 5 - ability connecting with people
Number 6 - being seen as the social center of a group of people.
And all that being done without people feeling dominated at all, in fact they will love your company.
And very importantly, when approaching women, please do not try to think of a perfect thing to say. You can say anything, a simple hi, just do it with confidence, a nice smile and simple eye contact. That’s your ice breaker, how you are going to take the conversation from there is a different story all together.
I’m thinking of sharing some other lifestyle tips to go around, topics being:
Cologne - IMO VERY IMPORTANT aspect you should not overlook and often done wrongly.
How to get a girl to kiss you.
Or maybe a more… detailed write-up of what i think of nice guys vs bad boys
Take your pick!
So how about nice guy vs good man aka Alpha male?
It’s true that we know that nice guys lose. So, the average man starts thinking that it is the jerk who wins with the ladies. Not necessarily true. There are “nice guys” and there are “genuinely good men”.
I will lay out the differences for you.
“Yes Dear.” “Whatever you want, honey.” Men only say this to avoid conflict (at best) or (at worst) because they pathetically think that their efforts will somehow impress a woman. Women smell insincerity a mile away. Sorry.
Therefore, he literally bends over backwards not to “upset” her or say the wrong thing. Despite the obvious desperation involved here, arguably the most unattractive aspect of all this to a woman is how BORING it is.
A woman can’t respect a man that has no decisiveness and assertiveness. The nice guy never goes for what he wants.
If you are worried she won’t like you, then she probably won’t. And similarly, if you act “nice” because you don’t have the courage to stand up for yourself, she’ll likely walk all over you, disgusted by every second of it.
Nobody likes to be “brown nosed” or “buttered up”. There is no more blatant display of viewing a woman as a purely sexual object than to go overboard being “nice”. She knows, you know and the rest of the world knows you wouldn’t be so “nice” if she wasn’t so sexy. Consider how weak this appears to a woman. End of story.
The list before showed what a “nice guy” does. Now let’s look at what a “man” does.
Guys, take this test. Do you open doors for ALL women, or only for the ones who look good? If you are selective, your “nice” behavior is all about manipulating women into giving you what you need. Start appreciating women more genuinely and you will begin to be more genuinely appreciated.
Sex-starved men stay hungry. Men without pressing sexual needs cause women to feel more comfortable in their presence. Ironically, women who are comfortable around a man are more attracted…and ultimately more sexual. So the pattern operates.
A man is decisive, strong, assertive, brave and courageous. He doesn’t run away from danger. A man has paid attention and learned what makes the woman tick. When the date comes, he has the plan completely handled. At the end of the evening, the woman is often flabbergasted at how “perfect” her evening was. The Man with leadership knows it was all no accident.
Therefore, he succeeds in causing the woman to feel valuable and special. She views herself as the “winner”, and rightly so. Other women want this guy, but she is with him. That feeling is a good one to have. If a man can inspire a woman to feel valuable OR special he’s on the right track, but getting both right is an unbeatable combination. By the way, contrast this scenario with the weak man’s cavalcade of compliments and/or gifts designed to help him somehow manipulate a woman’s attraction.
This means the man is EVALUATING the woman he is with rather than attempting to impress her. He has complete control over his dating life. He is confident enough in his character to realize that women worth his time and effort will recognize that and be impressed without his having to press the issue.
Going to post a two topics today, how to know if a girl is interested in you and cologne. so pardon me for the long post
How do we know?
Look for indicators of interest, a woman will show these if she is really interested in you. She will…
Ask for your name
Ask if your single
If you take her hand and give it a light squeeze, she squeezes back
toss her hair around to see if it will get your attention
play with her hair if she is talking to you
calls you a player
re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
so on and so forth
for me (not for the faint hearted
), i take a photo of myself and a girl smiling, then another one striking a serious pose, and, finally, one kissing (on the cheek or lips). Afterward, look through the photos with her. At the final photo, say, ‘We make a good couple, don’t we?" If she agrees, i’m in.
Cologne
Ah…. the part where most guys don’t know what kills a woman, when she remembers you by your scent. Don’t know what i’m talking? ever had a woman steal your clothes, jacket, suit just because it is stained with your cologne so she could hug or wear it to sleep? Yes, to woman, her sense of smell is one important point to attack. it’s like having a “press here to put her in a good mood” button
Also, with it, you could attract a woman, for example you step into the mrt and girls will automatically look around or at you because something smelling good is coming from your direction? Always have a few different colognes, I recommend at least 2-3 which you rotate often. You will become more attractive to women that you are around on a regular basis because they will not be able to predict what you will be smelling like. Predictable is boring, and most women think that their own lives are boring… so in turn they search for a mate who does NOT appear to be living a boring life in order to add some spice to their own. When you smell different just about each day, you will be displaying that you are a spontaneous person… as well as a person with style, and with the right choice of cologne… a person with class as well. This is exactly what ANY real player should want the ladies to think of them.
Don’t be fooled by brands like Calvin Klien, Curve and Polo Sport. If you wear any of these “regular brands” you will not be ANY better than the last guy who decided that a decent cologne was not worth the investment, plus most of the cheaper brands smell pretty bad… the last thing you want to do is turn women off simply because your cologne gave them a headache! Now you might automatically say “I can’t afford that!” when you hear a name like Armani or Versace… but I can assure you that their cologne is quite cheap compared to most of their other products, and spending $100-150 on a good bottle of cologne instead of wasting $50 on a cheap bottle is definitely worth it when people constantly tell you how good you smell!
I will be giving out a few choices which i own (mind you i have somewhere near 30-40 bottles of cologne, insane yes but i’m a cologne-addict, i like to smell good and smell good things.. like puss…
)
Number 20 on my list - Armani Aqua Di Gio - perfect for my casual use
Number 19 on my list - Burberry touch - Perfect for walking around orchard rd
Number 18 on my list - Gucci Envy - For the men in suits
Number 17 on my list - Bvlgari Black - For close contact situations, where you interact with people in which requis you to be physically close to them
Number 16 on my list - Platinum Egoiste by CHANEL - mmmhmm
Don’t ask me while i’m not giving out any more, because i don’t wanna reveal my
panty droppers
, also, they are expensive and virtually… impossible to find in singapore and also i don’t want other guys to wear it.Selfish yeah i know but sorry, they are my signature scents and they drive women crazy
so if you really want to know, send me a PM regarding it, tell me what you like (musky,smoky,sweet,woody,mossy… etc etc)
I will be more then willing to help.
THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE READ - NEVER EVER TELL OTHERS WHAT COLOGNE YOU ARE WEARING, JUST TELL THEM YOU LIKE IT? IF YES, SAY THANK YOU AND MOVE ON. SURELY YOU DON’T WANT GUYS IN YOUR OFFICE FOLLOWING YOU AND START WEARING THE SAME THING, YOU WILL BE PISSED
Good tips on cologne from TS. Cologne can be a great sidekick if use properly. Well if u guys dont like to wear cologne or find it a hassle to buy 1 there is still hope. The first priority would be is BECOMING THE MAN!
Do I mean rock hard abs and rippling muscles? That is not what women find sexy [it’s a contributing factor, but not the core].
A type of PERSONALITY is what women are looking for. Someone they can depend on (has backbone), someone who will be successful (has ambition), and someone who is decisive (has charge). Nice guys have no backbone because they think women are frail things that will break in confrontation; nice guys reveal no ambition because they fear being seen as arrogant to women, nice guys are afraid to be decisive for fear of being seen as ‘oppressive’.)
So what should you do?
Just be a Man lor!
There is no need to reprogram yourself. You will have the interests you have, the hobbies you have, the body you have, but you can easily become a MAN. It is all simply in the way how you think. Yeah you heard it right JUST THINK. But what is a Man?
A Man is a guy who is not scared of his testosterone!
A Man follows the passion in his life. Passion of women? Of course not. A Man has goals and desires that goes above that of chasing women. After childhood, there are TRUE winners and losers in life. A Man desires to be the winner. A Man WANTS to win in what he does. Because of his passion, a Man can sometimes come off as arrogant and egotistical. He does not apologize for his desires.
Women are to enhance your life, not to be your life. So to the Nice Guy, stop
placing your happiness on getting a girlfriend. To the Jerk, quit wasting your life on seduction. Don’t SPEND your time chasing women, INVEST it by putting it into your own interests and desires, thus the whole of your life.
When you do this, all of a sudden you have what every woman wants: Ambition, charge, decisiveness, backbone, kindness, stableness, and confidence.
A Man has character and deep convictions. He has PASSION in life about something. It is this passion that transforms his life, gives him confidence, and gives him joy. It is this PASSION that will give you that right mindset for you to have the goals and dreams that goes beyond women.
Remember, if you cannot command respect, you cannot attract love. If you cannot be respected, women will ignore you and/or abuse you.
A Man takes action!
Nice Guys think, “Does she like me? How do I get her to like me?” A MAN thinks, “Should I like her? Should I go for her?” The Man doesn’t think about the girl’s interest until they’re dating. The Man looks at all the girls and TAKES what he wants.
A Man focuses on his dreams!
You must have passion for something in your life, something you even want to do for the rest of your life.
A Man does not apologize for his testosterone, for his desires.
Would a WOMAN apologize for her feminine acts? So why should YOU apologize for your masculinity?
A man tries to always win in what he does.
Men build towers; women build webs. If you aren’t constructing your tower or aren’t even planning it, why should she cast her web at you? If you want worthy women, you, yourself, must strive to become worthy.
A man has deep convictions that allows him to be a possible leader.
This is crucial because one day you will become the leader of your own household. Yes, we talk of 50/50, of everything being equal, but Nature’s laws surpass that of Humans. If you were a woman, would YOU want a Nice Guy to be in charge of your household? Or would you want A MAN?
A man seeks to solve problems rather than to place blame.
If there is a problem, you solve it. You do not blame anyone or anything. You take full responsibility for your actions and you learn from them. A woman naturally wants a guy who deals with problems, not pass them along.
A man never loses his passion, for that would be the death of his soul.
Women always try to change the Jerk but never the Nice Guy. Why? Because a Man is STRENGTH and a Jerk displays strength on some level. Nice Guys never do.
A man never feels that he has to prove himself to anyone
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Flowers, candy, poetry all can be good additions to a relationship, but so many nice guys use them to BUY the relationship as if they must prove themselves. They flood the poor woman with gifts to show that they mean it.
So away with those flowers, those dead plants as tokens of affection.
Away with the chocolate, the candy, and sweets, those sugary pursuits to purchase love.
Away with the poetry, those rotten verses of declarations of love.
Away with the quest to prove YOURSELF and let her prove HERSELF to you for YOU arethe Don Juan.
Be a Man! And with it, you will advance in your career, your social life, and even your dealings with women. Men are very rare these days so if you become one, you will be in HIGH demand. Your career will become better as people look to you as a leader. Life will re-develop before your eyes for you will obtain the most single quality that men, not trophy husbands, not nice guys, not players, but men have a monopoly on:
Respect.
Follow all these points closely and soon you will be on your way to becoming the MAN.
to be continue……