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Find a place with a Love Seat: Touching her on your first date is tricky, but you have more chances of increasing her attraction for you if you can make her feel your presence more through platonic touching. Sitting across each other in a café is too impersonal, so you have to find a better place to talk. If you cannot find a coffee shop with a love seat, you can go to the park and sit side-by-side on a park bench.
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Sharing a food item: If you’re going to the movies, buy only one big bucket of popcorn you can share with her. If you’re eating dinner in a fancy restaurant, order one dessert you can eat together. Sharing things on your date will make you feel more like a couple.
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Full Body Contact: Some nice activities to increase intimacy and sexual tension include slow dancing and cuddling under the stars (on a chilly night). Full body contact on your first date means making her feel that you’re not just looking for a gal pal. Be patient on your first date and don’t go for a kiss just yet (unless she’s the one who asks for it). Your goal must be to improve rapport and get comfortable with each other’s company. If you do it right, you will get a second date.
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Keep all conversation positive. Never bring up negative things, like how hard your life is right now, how you’ve been seeking for a job for months, or how complicated things are with your parents. Avoid controversial subjects until you get to know the person better.
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Relax! Women can sense fear and nervousness, even if you think you’re hiding it well. When you are nervous, you often speak faster, and you may appear more serious or intense than you usually are. You may want to try watching a comedy, reading cartoons, or doing whatever makes you double over in uncontrollable laughter before your date. Laughing will relax all your muscles, send good feelings to your brain, and get your blood pumping. You’ll meet her with a great big smile on your face–and she’ll respond.
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When she is talking, lean forward, look into her eyes (not down at her chest), and respond to what she says. If you agree, smile and nod. If she’s talking about something serious, take it seriously. DO NOT lean back in your chair and look around the restaurant as she talks. DO NOT stare at her so intensely that she feels uncomfortable. Give her the space to look back at you by occupying yourself with your plate of food, or by gazing at a spot on the tablecloth while you focus on listening to her.
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Don’t ask the same old questions, as if you’re going through a checklist. Everyone gets asked what they do or where they’re from. Try some questions that she’s never been asked before. If you can, focus the question on something that you’ve noticed about her specifically. For example, if she walks particularly gracefully, you might ask her if she’s been a dancer. Not only will she feel flattered, but the question will give her the opportunity to talk about whether she likes dancing … which might lead to an invitation for a second date later on in the night.
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Tripster
Hallo, so many tips….how to follow? By the time I memorise and practice them, game over.
Appreciate all the advice brudder dick and bugga…can you distill the wisdom to 3 - 5 simple steps? That way it is easier to follow….kum sia…
peace
All i can say is, there is not short cut to success bro, be it life or pussy
Some suggestions for your first date!
Before you go on your first date, have something planned. You don’t have to keep a full itinerary of places to visit, but you must have an idea what activities you can do on your first date to make sure she would want a second one. All your first date activities should improve your initial attraction for one another, so impersonal activities that don’t encourage much conversation are out. Here are three tips for your first date; things to do to increase attraction.
After having a good date with a girl and you are back at her place, try to leave something behind that will remind her of you. Leaving a shirt behind is what I recommend, because it will probably smell like your cologne and the smell will make her think of you. This also gives you an excuse to see her again. When she calls to tell you that you’ve forgotten something, act like it is no big deal and say that you’ll pick it up next time you get together.
Now that’s your opening for a 2nd get together
After you go on a date with a woman you are very interested in, and if you feel that everything on your date went very well, send flowers to her workplace. Women love to show off when a guy they are dating does something romantic for them, and their work is the absolute best place for them to show off. Most women are either good friends or highly competitive with their female co-workers, which is a win-win situation for them when they receive a gift while at work. Chances are she will give you a call the moment she gets the flowers, try it. To balance out the equation and make it seem like you aren’t a needy guy, you can joking act like “Aww no, I meant to send those to someone else!” Say it with a smile and you are as good as gold. Also, only do this once, as making a habit out of spoiling a woman will lead to her either taking advantage of you or expecting you to continue that behavior forever.
Do agree some of the pointers are hard to be placed into good solid action but at least start off by injecting some healthy dosage of confidence into yourself and start improving on your fashion sense, look good feel good about yourself, whoever said it has to be just for the sole purpose of getting laid more often? take it as a change for a better you!
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damm. all the shifus all nv post alr. ok. may i post another case study?
assuming u are eating alone, and u are walking to see which foodcourt has single people eating alone. now u see this gorgeous babe sitting alone. what do u say after she says u can sit with her?
pls post soon so i can up u guys!
Don’t get caught without conversation starters on a “first date”! The guys who can wow a woman from the moment they meet her all know a secret: women love funny, relaxed, attentive guys who want to hear all about them. There is nothing that a woman finds more flattering than to be asked about her opinions, feelings, and life experiences.
So when you find yourself in a situation where the silence starts to grow, ask a question! What do you want to know about this woman? I will warn you right now: she’ll notice immediately if you’re not really interested in her response. If you want to get to know a woman better, you need to show how interested you are in her. Better yet, when she shares her accomplishments and hobbies, you will find yourself in a perfect situation to compliment her … and complimenting a woman will suddenly make you much more attractive in her eyes. The least attractive guy in the world can find himself swarmed with women if he simply does two things: appreciate them and let them know it.
When you’re on a first date, remember the following tips.
Here are some other conversation starters that you might wish to ask. If any of these questions seem to strike a nerve, quickly move on. NEVER push an issue. You might sense that there is more to a topic than she wants to tell you at this point, and that’s okay. The point is to make her feel comfortable and open up to you, NOT to make her feel uncomfortable and tense.
Conversation Starter #1:
“Do you have a pet? What’s your favorite kind of pet?”
This should start up a lively conversation, because people LOVE their pets and love talking about them. If she doesn’t have a pet, you might wish to ask, “Really? Why not?”
Conversation Starter #2:
“That’s a cool watch/necklace/pair of shoes. Where did you get it?”
The amount of time women spend preparing for dates is enormous. Most women choose everything they wear with careful deliberation. When you notice the effort they’ve put in and ask about something they’ve chosen to wear, they will feel flattered and appreciated … as well as get to talk about their clothes and accessories, which every girl enjoys.
Conversation Starter #3:
“Have you ever done X?”
It is important to establish common ground on your first date and find some common interests. By asking her if she’s ever done something that you are knowledgeable about or enjoy doing, you can find out what you have in common. Just don’t use the question as a platform to go on and on about your OWN interests–no matter how interested she seems to be. Women know how to act interested, even if they’re not. Mention your own hobbies, then move on to finding out more about her.
Conversation Starter #4:
“Do you follow any sports teams?”
This can be a tricky question, because men are notorious for being sports buffs. Many women don’t want to be with a guy who will blow them off when their favorite team is playing on a Saturday afternoon. However, if she does follow a sports team, you may find that you’ll have an instant connection.
Conversation Starter #5:
“Have you ever been to Y?”
Everyone likes talking about places they’ve been. Ask her if she has ever been to a local hotspot that you enjoy. Maybe it’s a club, a coffee shop, a museum, or even a park or hiking trail. If she hasn’t been there, and you are hitting it off by that point, you can use the question as a springboard for asking her out on a second date!
Good luck! I hope that these conversation starters give you an edge to sweep the next woman you meet off her feet.
valentine’s day is coming!
I’ma share this song which just does it for me, makes me wanna love and cherish the woman in my life.
Hope you guys have a great weekend ahead!
Most men don’t realize that women automatically disqualify them based on how they presents themmselves both physically and mentally. Their minds then generate excuses for why they have no success with women; they blame their looks, their lack of success, other men… the list is endless. When in fact, the truth is that they have nobody to blame but themselves.
Self-criticism is vital for self-improvement. How can you improve yourself if your ego tells you that you’re perfect? By altering your behavior and appearance in 10 simple ways, you can magnify your success with women dramatically:
Be Confident
This is the most important facet, and also the most difficult to achieve if you don’t naturally have it. Not being afraid of social interactions communicates high status.
Be Dominant
Confidence will often naturally lead to it, but dominance should still be in the forefront of your mind when talking to women. It is not domineering. It is not arrogance. It is subtle and hard to define.
Be Clean
Hygene is an important part of the image you present to the world. How you dress and how you present yourself is an indication of the value and worth which you place upon yourself. And remember that nobody wants to hang around with a smelly douche bag.
Be Relaxed
Being relaxed communicates many good things about you. It allows you to think more clearly and communicates to others that you are comfortable in your own skin.
Be Fun
People like to hang out with fun people! By being funny, charming, and witty, people will appreciate your presence and will enjoy your company.
Be Happy
No one wants to hang out with someone who is mopey, depressed, and angry all the time. By being happy you are making yourself more approachable and showing others that you are a friendly and engaging person.
Be Content
This could also be defined as being non-needy. People can often smell when someone approaches them with an agenda or a specific outcome in mind. Neediness implies low social value and lack of inner strength.
Be Popular
Social proof is another extremely important part of your game, especially when it come to first impressions. If you are perceived as the fun, popular guy who everyone likes, women will be much more receptive to your approach!
Be Self-Loving
Loving yourself is extremely important. This isn’t the same thing as being selfish, however. It is possible to love yourself and also to love others. The problem arises when you put other peoples needs ahead of your own unjustifiably. Remember that you are number one!
Be Giving
“Give and ye shall receive”
This old mantra rings true. By giving to others you will communicate high value and friendliness, and others will be more likely to reciprocate.
When a woman first meets a man, the initial few minutes of her interaction with him are crucial and will determine the type of relationship that will ensue from then on. In simple terms: She will make all of her most important judgments about you within 3-5 minutes of meeting you.
During this ever-important window of time the woman will “appraise” your value, and then upon determining how much potential you have she will then decide if she wants to even continue to have any form of relationship with you at all. Once this is done, she will then place you into one of two categories within her mind to govern the type of relationship that she feels you to be worthy of: potential lover or potential friend.
Once a woman has made her decision and has placed you into one of these two categories, you will forever be stuck there for as long as you know her. For example, if she considers you as a lover and you begin having a sexual relationship with her and then break up, there will be no “Let’s just be friends now”. This would simply not work because the physical attraction is too strong and the awkwardness of the situation would prevent any real friendship for occurring. On the other hand, she could consider you as a friend and you would begin to “hang out” with her, all the while hoping that something will magically happen and she will become gradually attracted to you. You would be nice to her, buy her gifts, let her cry on your shoulder when her asshole boyfriend cheats on her, go shopping with her and always be on call to drive her wherever she pleases. However, all of this effort would be in vain because she had already categorized you when you first met her, and you are forever locked into the “Friend’s Zone”.
What you are reading right now is the brutal honest truth, and even though you may be in this type of situation right now with a woman and are hanging on to any last hope that you may have, deep down you should be able to see the real truth if you think about it logically. It’s as simple as this: If you have a crush on a woman that you are “just friends” with, you will never have a chance to become her lover. Your one and only shot at having an intimate relationship with a woman is within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you do not make the right impression at that time then her legs will be forever closed to you.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is just the way that it is. The only thing to do once you’re in the friend’s zone is to forget about that girl and move on to the next one, doing this will save you loads of heartache, money and time. Theoretically, with a huge amount of effort you could possibly convince the woman to date you, but without the strong initial attraction that relationship with her will be doomed to fail rather quickly. It is a fool’s errand.
In Hollywood “chick flicks”, the nice guy who is best friends with the beautiful woman typically either out-smarts the “bad guy” or just gets lucky and ultimately ends up with the woman on his arm. After that, they go on to live happily ever after and blah blah, bullshit. In the real world, the nice guy will usually tip off the beautiful woman and she will realize how much of a jerk the bad guy is and dump him, but then just go out and meet another bad boy and begin dating him while the nice guy is still just her friend. Have you ever thought about why women love those chick flicks so much? It’s because they are all fairy tales and have a plot that would never happen in reality, if those movies were like real life then they wouldn’t be nearly as interesting. It’s like the equivalent of what action flicks are to us men. Even though James Bond can drive a Porsche through an exploding building, ramp it off of the roof, shoot down a helicopter with a single shot while still in mid-air and then land on another rooftop without even getting a single scratch on his high-end vehicle… doesn’t mean that it could ever actually happen. It’s the impossible that we are drawn to.
With that said, let’s get back on track:
If you have just met a new woman and your actual intentions are to have a sexual relationship with her, you MUST immediately let her know that is what you want from her. You need to have an “all or nothing” attitude when first gaming a woman, and express this in everything that you say and do. Within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you can get the message across to her that you want to be her lover and not her friend, you will easily be able to avoid ever being dropped into the friend’s zone. You can accomplish this simply by flirting properly, which includes teasing, kino, negs, push & pull, smiling seductively and a wide array of other techniques and methods. Be fun and carefree, act as if you’re not looking for anything serious and just want to have a good time. Never allow her dominate you in any way, do not buy her drinks or hold/watch her purse for her.
When you follow the guidelines listed above, you will successfully be able to prevent yourself from ever becoming “just a friend” again, and will begin to have sexual relationships with women rather than one-sided friendships in which you are just being used by women due to being a “nice guy”.
Always remember:
The only way to get out of the friend’s zone is to avoid ever going there in the first place!
I personally have been bitten by this once and have thus wasted 4 years of my life, although i have dated and slept with other ladies during that 4 years of life (not important), it has since become a shadow in my memories and i have made a mental note with myself to never ever, NEVER - let such a situation pop up again, it just is….. you know how it is.
With the above said, i’m afraid i have to say i’ll be going on a short break, workload in my life has been getting a little too hectic recently, a little more hectic than what i can easily handle, at least usually. But please, you readers out there, do not be afraid/hesitate to drop a comment or two, add a view of your own, this is a discussion thread created for all, it’d be weird if only me and bro pale_dick is posting. So yeah, all comments/your opinions/views and contributions are highly appreciated. Cheers all, i’ll be coming in any once in a while to check, reply PMs or questions in this thread if i have the time.
Cheers, good hunting, this is your boy JR, signing off.
It’s been quite awhile
anyways in my absence, realised somebody left me a note saying that “who doesn’t know of all these bullshit?”
Well buddy, relax your nipps, i ain’t here to hurt anyone yo, ease it with the trigger. Well guess i can’t please anyone but yeah who cares, i’m posting for the shake of sharing, you may know what i know but that doesn’t mean all the other guys know what we know, get me? so chill man, nobody’s forcing ya to read
don’t like it? exit button’s right up there babe.
Stay tuned, need to come up with some ideas on what to post, or anyone would like to give me some?