- Plant Yourself When Standing Still
- Don’t Fidget, Fiddle, Or Touch Your Face
- Don’t Look Down
- Make Slow Head Movements
- Walk Slowly And Smoothly
- Hold Your Drink By Your Side
Beautiful women are nothing special, just lucky. The truth is that a lot of pretty women let their looks do all the work for them in life and beneath those great genes they are actually spoiled, under-developed children. Don’t let good genetics impress you, instead make her WORK for your stamp of
approval! You must rewire your mental circuitry so that instead of trying to impress her, your approach is to see whether she meets YOUR expectations.
Women WANT to be appreciated for what they are, not desired as a way for you to get your cock in them and be happy. When they see you appreciating them as WOMEN, as ends in themselves and not means to an end, they will become more attracted to you.
When dealing with beautiful women, be playful and tease them a lot Punching them on the shoulder lightly or kidding them about small stuff. That’s how interaction and conversation should be. Challenge women, tease them and show them a good time and you won’t be disappointed! Never be a doormat around them and you’ll be fine! Treat a beautiful woman like she’s that young school girl that you remember. It sounds crazy, but it actually works. Be cocky, confident and funny at the same time.
Being cocky and funny does several great things for you. It shows that:
- You are not a pushover.
- You place a high value on yourself and your time.
- You are comfortable around beautiful women.
- You have a great sense of humor and like to have fun.
- You are not needy.
- Most importantly, it screens out the psycho-bitches who can’t laugh at hemselves.
Between the ages of 5 and 20, women did not suddenly become ‘mysterious’ or ‘bizarre’. She just got more estrogen. How you deal with 5 year old girls is how you deal with 25 year old beautiful women.
When dealing with fine women who are accustomed to constant male attention, you have to realize that their screening process is different from yours. These chicks get hit on everyday by tons of dudes. She has the power to be selective and she does not hesitate to use it. Beautiful women like to use guys to make them do favors for her. Don’t fall for these tricks.
HER: Can you put this in the trash for me?
CHUMP: Oh, of course! Do you need anything else?
YOU: No! Ha ha! Just kidding. Sure I can, but what’s in it for me?
HER: Could you do me a big favor?
CHUMP: Your wish is my command!
YOU: I don’t know (pause and look her up and down) Ain’t nothing for free in this world, honey. You gots to earn favors!
HER: Are you a player or something?
CHUMP: (nervous and sweating) Uhh.. uhh..no?
YOU: Oh totally, all the ladies want a piece of me. Usually my pimp status is more obvious, but I left my fur coat and gold chains at home. You should come over to my place later on and I’ll show them to you. (wink) So anyways like I was sayin’.. (Keep talking as if she never interrupted you)
Notice how the chump fails her tests and lets her control his mind state. See how the woman makes little tests to separate the chumps from the champs? She wants to see if she can throw off your game.
Think of it this way. If you do women favors, ask them lots of questions and kiss their asses, then they don’t have to earn the pleasure of your interaction. You are giving your attention away free of charge, and your attention becomes CHEAP! You are subliminally telling her that you don’t value yourself enough to let your true personality shine. Instead you have to manipulate her with your favors and ass-kissing to win her good graces. This is repulsive behavior!
Remember, as long as you tease her in a way that she has no choice but to laugh. It makes her anticipate what you are going to say next. She’ll think, “Why hasn’t he told me that I am beautiful yet? And where is my drink?” It’s so much fun to make them wonder!
So many people get this technique wrong. They end up insulting women and come off like assholes. The key to being cocky and funny is to understand that it is meant to tease and entice, not insult! You must master the fine art of flirting! The key is to actually be funny!
Ah… thursday, friday tmr!
Here is some tips for today…
Conversation Tips
For those that don’t know, simply put kino means the art of flirting by touch. On with the tip : Whenever you are with a girl and her hair is falling in her face, gently use your index finger to “pull” the hair back and place it behind her ear. When you do this rub your finger down behind her ear all the way down to her ear lobe. Girls respond very well to this and it seems to have a comforting/soothing effect on them… they love it. You can do this as often as you like and once a particular girl becomes accustomed to you doing it to them they will even look forward to you doing it. As an added bonus you can say something nice to them or give them a good compliment while you do it, which will magnify the effect.
How to not fall into the “Just Friends” cock n’ bull
Whenever a girl that you are talking to brings up the subject of her ex-boyfriend, you’ve got to immediately change the subject every time she does… the last thing you want is for her to think you are a “shoulder to cry on”. If you learn that she had just recently gotten out of a long-term relationship it’s kind of a sticky situation… you can most likely get her to want you in terms of sex/messing around… but after a relationship that lasted that long its too soon to pressure her into a relationship, it could possibly scare her off. The best thing might be to first get her in a playful mood or at least happy (and most importantly not thinking about her ex and realizing how much fun she is having without him) then explain to her that you want her to be your girl but you don’t want to rush anything… tell her that you’ll move at her pace and if she wants you to back off a little and slow down all she has to do is say so and you will… then tell her that you don’t like playing games and if she wants to be your girl she going to have to tell you.
Approaching Groups
While you are talking to a group of girls, always remember to flirt with ALL of them, even the ones that you don’t find attractive. This will put them into “competitive mode”, in which all of the women will begin to try to win your affection because of your display of interest in each of them. Once this is accomplished you will be able to have your pick out of any of them, because the woman you choose will feel like she is the “winner”. Every girl wishes to feel like she is the best looking in her group, and if you help her achieve this goal, you will become her player in shining armor
Wow, didn’t expect to see this thread being revived.
ok i’ll try to come up with a case study for social settings like D&Ds no problem, give me some time
cheers
Here goes my take on social settings…….
first,in a social setting, body language is important.. so remember these few pointers
Put your feet slightly wider apart than is natural, don’t shift your weight. Notice how your feet feel planted. You can stay like this for long periods of time. This is how martial artists stand, it is a solid base.
What do you normally do with your hands? Twitching and fidgeting is very unattractive, look around and see it in other people. It makes you look nervous. Keep your hands by your sides. Place the thump on the index and middle fingers, this removes the natural need for the fingers to constantly be doing something.
Keep your head up. If you need to look away, look up, never look down, it’s a sign of weakness and also looks unattractive. You can observe this in others. Looking down even has been proven to have a bad effect on your mental state.
High status males everywhere, on film, in business, and in your social circle have certain things in common. One of which is slow, smooth movements. Look around slowly and smoothly, don’t dart around and jolt your head around like you have been drinking espressos all day long. Think smooth, think James Bond. James Bond has very attractive body language, and smoothness and lack of fidgety movements are the main elements.
This is more high-status behaviour. By being smooth and comfortable you give off a sense of quiet confidence. You stand out from the people rushing around. In a bar or club, slow it down even more, you will stand out, in a good way.
When you have a drink, hold it by your side. It is a blocking action to hold a drink in front of your chest.
Do these things and you will make a better first impression and stand out from the other men in a room.
I generally recommend watching movies with actors like Tom Cruise,Brad Pitt or George Clooney in it, watch and observe they way they carry themselves, their body language
Next, looking for a chance…..
We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person…
We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion!
When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she’s open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she’ll be opening YOU!
So here’s what you do…
The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her!
Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking at you.
When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you’re locking onto will look around to scan the area.
When she comes to you, her eyes will inevitably meet yours, and you’ll be locked in eye contact.
When that happens, simply SMILE at her.
If she smiles back, guess what?
She’s more than likely to be OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER!
If she doesn’t, then move on to someone who is.
And when she does smile back, say “Hi!” And if she responds - you’re in! Go right up to her and start talking
remember this has to be done when the lighting is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).
Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say “Hi!” and then the rest is easy.
Like it or not, it is men who generally have to make the first move in the human mating ritual. Some men feel that this is unfair and may argue that they have to do all the work while women merely stand there, wait for the approaching males and take their pick. They can then choose to either allow men the privilege of a little time in their company or simply reject them. I see that as looking at things from a negative viewpoint.
Another way for a man to look at things is that it puts you in the position of power. Yes, that’s right, you are the one calling the shots. Why? Well, put yourself in a woman’s position for a moment. Imagine that the girl of your dreams was just across the room, but you were prevented from approaching them by social protocol. As much as you wanted to, you could only send discreet signals to this girl and hope that she was not too shy to approach you. If she did not approach, for whatever reason, you would never know why not. Was she shy, did she not pick up your signals or was she simply not interested?
This is not a powerful position to be in and, take it from me, it can be a very frustrating one. You are the lucky ones, guys. You hold all the cards. You are the hunter and can choose your prey rather than wait forever for the approach to come. Your destiny is in your own hands. You can make your choice and move forward for the approach. This is natural. It is what is expected of you by society. It is what women want. Count your blessings – you are in control.
Even if you do get turned down, at least you are out of your misery and can move on. I know women who have waited months, even years, for an approach that they thought was imminent, before giving up.
Many men suffer nightmares about actually approaching a girl. This is understandable in some respects, I suppose. You are in the spotlight at these times and are expected to get out there and perform. But it is not all bad.
braindead from projects i can’t think good now but yeah that’s the general main frame
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hwq123
okok. anyway, i noticed the lack of attention on this thread(despite it being so great!) and also feedback and i have deduced that maybe male ego is at fault! totally no offense but many many many MANY guys have egos so high up their asses that they diss and frown upon the art of pick-up(i use this word as this thread is littered with pickup techniques: DHV,Push-Pull,3 sec rule, kino etc etc
).
Glad to see another brother in this society with the same thinking
Quote of the day: Women are drawn to Men in Demand. They are not drawn to men who are rich, powerful, famous, tall or good looking, it just happens so because these are the men in demand.
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SGDreamchaser
bro abugga, how does holding a can sideways help? maybe u mean diagonally? I feel thats abit awkward. Usually I hold it infront of my hips. Is that alright?
Also, out of 10 times, how many times do the women actually come to u to say hi after having eye contact? I cant help but feel that in sg, many women just walk to you. Or is it just the social group I’m hanging out with that really are that shy?
bro pale_dick, what do u suggest to someone who needs improvement in his sense of fashion? I mean certain women like certain fashion. IN D&D, its okay to wear out of the ordinary maybe grey or white outfits. But what about just chilling out with friends? Where or what should I do to make improvements? Especially when I do not have any fashion sense? Tv doesn’t really show much chilling out outfits that I like. And due to sg weather, its not practical to wear layers like the tv series how i met your mother theres this guy who wears a suit to every where he goes. so how to improve on dress sense?
3 cheers to this thread!
As to, it’s the body language vibe when your talking to someone, i can’t think of a good analogy but i’ll try my best, let’s say you are talking to this good looking young thing, but all she is holding something infront of her, say a drink (best to use it back to the case) right infront of her chest, it does sort of create a “barrier” between you and her, she may not know it you may not know it, but your body and subconscious does. as per se, i think holding it by your side - around waist level should be fine, so long as it isn’t right infront of you.
As to fashion sense, it all depends on who you are? I’ll quote the all famous quote, " you are what you wear “. if you are like me, a preppy boy, then dress a little more outrageous? haha, i mean to give you an idea, printed tees, polo tees from ralph lauren, try to have different colours on you, i don’t mean like a peacock but yeah, like light blue shirt to go with black jeans and white shoes. white shirt to go with blue jeans and white shoes, teal coloured shirts to go with brown long pants and white shoes? haha white top/grey bottom/black or white shoes, i can go on and on, it’s how you play with the colours to have them mesh nicely together
The jeans - get a good brand of jeans, levi’s is good enough, you can go the extra mile on your wallet, go for Polo jeans or Armani Jeans depending on a person, get the best fitting ones, i recommend straight cut (AJ :P) as per below
http://static.letsbuyit.com/filer/im...-25566707.jpeg
http://www.individualsole.com/2007/1...estern-shirts/
having such jeans make you look smart and sharp, important aspect.
The shoe - Go with loafers or simple converse. i like canvas shoes.
The hair - Keep it clean, and occasionally condition it to keep it shiny and soft. keep it natural yet trimmed and neat.
Always smell nice and wear a mild cologne if you like. Brush your teeth and use mouth wash!
anyway most shirts out there can be matched well, it’s just how you do it
for me if i wanna feel like a bad boy maybe pop a long sleeved v neck white cotton shirt and on goes a leather jacker, black denim jeans and a pair of vans, that’s about it. what’s more importantly you feel good about what you wear, bring out that confidence, it further amplifies that effect.
you don’t have to be a popstar to dress like one
try to think why korean boy bands garner so much wooha from girls .. think about it … look at the way they dress in their music videos, i don’t mean the funny dance constumes but yeah… and trust me, women do pay alot of attention to how their men look, if you look good and have a great fashion sense, they will be proud to bring you out on the streets.
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benlyk
abugga, i’d really love to be your friend
you’ve got so much to learn.
hahaha thanks for the support yah
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shitrules
Wow. what an amazing thread… thanks for all the tips to TS and other contributers.
I have a question: When talking to a girl, many times I am so focused on the conversation and trying to respond intellegiently, that I completely forget to notice body language and to pick up her IOIs.
In other words, how do you guys “split your brain into two”?
Being able to engage in a conversation, yet notice all those subtle body language cues, and insert all the DHVs?
Active IOIs
*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you’re talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She’s disagreeing but laughing
*She’s punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she’s looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you
Passive IOIs
*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn’t flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn’t resist when you escalate physically
The most important IOIs to look for are:
*She re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you"