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Smile when you walk into an area with your target there with her friends.Approach the group withing a few seconds. Do not hesitate—approach instantly.
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Say a conversation opener - “Hey, looks like the party’s over here.” say that to her friends and then turn to your target and say something like if i weren’t gay you’d so be mine, or compliment her on her dress etc etc be creative.
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The opener line said should open the group, not just the target. When talking, ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.
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Say something to make your target frown by teasing her in a bad way. Tell her, “Its so cute. Your nose wiggles when you laugh.” Then get her friends to notice and laugh about it.
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Convey personality to the entire group. Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humor. Try not to talk about work and stuff. Pay particular attention to the men and the less attractive women. During this time, the target will notice that you are the center of attention
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Tease the target again if appropriate. If she wants to look at the photos you guys taken together, for example, say, “Oh my god, she’s so attention seeking. How do you guys tahan her?”
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Ask the group, “So, how does everyone know each other?” If the target is with one of the guys, find out how long they’ve been together. If its a serious
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If she is not spoken for, say to the group, “I’ve sort of been neglecting your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?” They always say, “Uh, sure. If its okay with her.” If you’ve executed the preceding steps correctly, she will agree.
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Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something cool. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, its on. Start looking for other Indications Of Interests.
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Sit with her and perform a magic trick, a psychology test, or any other demonstration that will fascinate and intrigue her. for me i always ask the bar for a set of cards to perform some tricks.
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Tell her, “Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd?” If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive indicator she is into you.
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Stop talking. Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with
- Kiss her baby! Say, out of the blue, “Would you like to kiss me?” she has 3 answers, Yes (very rare) - kiss her, maybe - say let me see and then kiss her, no - i said i wasn’t even planning on kissing you *inserts innocent face*
I agree with bro pale_dick. away with the bootlicking guys, please, to win a woman, you have to risk losing her as well. stand up for yourself, she says wow this dress is nice, if it really suits her, compliment her on her choice, if you really think nonono this is not for her, stand up for your opinions, tell her what you think and what should work for her, she will give you credit and respect for that.
Rmb, it’s the cat-string theory, what seems impossible for her to get is what she MUST get. that thing she deems as impossible to get should be you. you gotta let her know you the type of man that wherever you go you can find a pretty ass.
Just a little info of myself which i still find it amusing to date - women always think that i’m the sort of guy that flunks his modules, the type that her daddy won’t let her go out with because i’m a thug. They think i’m constantly surrounded by other women.. hahahaha, i give off the vibe that i’m attached all the time, i don’t know why but that makes them come to me and when they learn i’m single, they will go " sure or not! don’t lie! " " i don’t believe you " " wow, i’m surprised you don’t have one " while their facial expressions clearly state they are pleasantly surprised.
i guess i do have a bad boy image… but er… i’m not
TS, great thread. And very good pointers. I see a lot of bros also posted their good pointers to share around.
I just want to humbly add that your attitude in executing all these pointers is crucial. If you act like an asshole or like you are god’s gift to women, then chances are you will turn people off instead.
Confidence is crucial but over-confidence will work negatively. Yes, girls are attracted by confident guys who make them feel safe and secure and comfortable. But real confidence exudes from within silently; you do not need to boast or brag or act arrogant or pompous to attempt to “display” confidence. Of course, this is easier said than done, and takes TIME to master. But if you follow the correct path, eventually you will slowly grow into this man you want to become.
Remember, wanting to be, the desire to become is as important, if not more, than talent itself.
Yes bro tigerprawn, i started this thread to help give advice on how to change for a better lifestyle, how to feel good about one self despite any physical or character flaw. by no means am i encouraging people to become arrogant.
confidence and arrogance is closely related by two worlds closely separated by a thin line. Don’t overdo it people! It’s like having a already very pretty lady but she’s trying too hard to act even prettier and i’m pretty sure you guys will get turned off as well. Feel good have that confidence but be humble as well
Case Study
relationship, eject politely by saying, “Pleasure meeting you.” i never really liked to hook up with married or attached women. but that’s my view.
the word “So?” If she does, you’ve now seen three IOIs and can….
, you just looked like you were thinking of something. If the setting or circumstances aren’t conducive to physical intimacy, then give yourself a time constraint by saying, “I have to go, but we should continue this.” Then get her to give you her number, do not give her your number.
Also take note, never ever approach a girl from behind. And also make her feel comfortable through body language. Don’t fold your arms when talking to her, don’t stand as if you are in marikita posture, relax. And make sure you don’t tower over her, that will make her feel intidimated. Always come in at an angle so you don’t look scary to her.
I simplified mine as below:
First identify what’s needed inorder to attract, seduce and to get her
Second attain those aspects in the shortest possible time
Third ask yourself whether she’s worth further investment of your time, money and feelings
Practice each point individually even on gals that don’t interest you, it may come in handy as you grow older…
Great discussion on how to boost up confidence and improve self esteem. But these do not seemed to be lifestyle tips, as indicated by the title. I will offer a few no-brainer lifestyle tips:
quit smoking, cut down on drinking and start exercising….u will start to feel a change for the better in your life!
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Great discussion on how to boost up confidence and improve self esteem. But these do not seemed to be lifestyle tips, as indicated by the title. I will offer a few no-brainer lifestyle tips:
quit smoking, cut down on drinking and start exercising….u will start to feel a change for the better in your life!
I feel that it is lifestyle related as my tips on boosting up confidence and self esteem does not just apply in one’s love life, it applies in all aspects of life, be it work or social. Just as i offer some tips on that i also throw in some side tips as to how to present yourself and make yourself look good. I always tell women that if a man cannot take care of himself physically and make himself look good, no one will. They couldn’t agree more.
As much as i hate to say it (no offense to anyone), in order to have someone to even try to know your character, especially if that someone is a lady, you first have to attract her with your physical traits, it’s just like having an extra edge? i’m not trying to say one must be a good looking handsome thug but at least look sharp, clean, well taken care of and have a good dress sense.
Just my 2cts
Yes it is Monday, and we are looking forward to Feb holidays. Haha! Lets see, this country is still chasing after the 5Cs, right? That was last eve S Talking.
Many young modern couples, after this 5Cs thing, chick loves a man who pursue $. Look not really important, this is the concept of what build a man in this country. Trust me, i have seen few times at Sim Lim Sq, below average looking man with model GF wives. Probably the guys are loaded with $.
Other than the 5Cs? I guess many parents will hope the best for their
childrens
. This is howcome, this country selling children stuffs make tons of $. Nobody mention in last eve talk show, i was totally disspointed.
Include a Q to the Senator, why they are people which cannot afford a roof over their heads. He said that was not the topic, not fair to question him, he is not in charged of housing.
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Yes it is Monday, and we are looking forward to Feb holidays. Haha! Lets see, this country is still chasing after the 5Cs, right? That was last eve S Talking.
Many young modern couples, after this 5Cs thing, chick loves a man who pursue $. Look not really important, this is the concept of what build a man in this country. Trust me, i have seen few times at Sim Lim Sq, below average looking man with model GF wives. Probably the guys are loaded with $.
Other than the 5Cs? I guess many parents will hope the best for their
childrens
. This is howcome, this country selling children stuffs make tons of $. Nobody mention in last eve talk show, i was totally disspointed.
Include a Q to the Senator, why they are people which cannot afford a roof over their heads. He said that was not the topic, not fair to question him, he is not in charged of housing.
Hey bro i know how you feel… but yeah men loaded with cash attract gold diggers, who wants that? I myself personally…
even if
i am loaded (i’m not), i feel that i want to attract women based on my funkiness, my personality and lastly because they feel amazing/good being with me. That’s how i roll knaw wad i’m sayin’? hahaha
Anyway, chill, i came up with a theory once, that women often want to go out with rich men because rich men appear to be more spontaneous, fun to them because they have the money. Women don’t want a man with money because they love money, they just know that with more money they can have more FUN. Women don’t desire popular/famous men because they want to have a high social status, they simply know that having higher status means that they’ll have access to even more FUN. Women are not attracted to men in power because they want to be powerful, they just know that with power they’ll be allowed to have as much FUN as they want to.
Notice the trend here?
At the end of the day, all that women really want more than anything else is to have fun and be shown a good time. This is particularly true when it comes to beautiful women, who do not need to worry about “being accepted” or insecurities. They quite simply don’t have anything more important to do than focus on making sure that their lives are like one big vacation. I’m not just talking about the party girls either; even highly motivated career women want to let their hair down at the end of the day and carelessly enjoy life.
It is for this reason why women are NOT attracted to men who come off as “average”. If you are one of the millions of men who would during a conversation refer to yourself as “just an average guy”, then you are having problems with women. Right?
Of course, because you are simply being too normal to be any fun. Women want men that have a sense of adventure and an element of danger about them (business men have this aura), not the guys who like to play it safe. The last thing a woman wants to hear come out of a man’s mouth is “I’m just your average guy…”, they want to hear stuff like “You’ve never met anyone like me before” and then be shown why that statement is true.
Hot women have the power of choice - to be selective - because men are constantly attempting to engage them in conversation. When your competition is that stiff, you need to rise above the rest and stand out, or you will be forgotten before the sun rises the next day, even if you did manage to get her number. Those of you wondering why they always blow you off when you call, now you know the answer; you were simply forgettable.
Don’t take it personal. You aren’t being determined to be so insignificant to these women because there is something wrong with you or that you are making any kind of huge mistake. It is happening to you because of something that you are NOT doing, and that something is setting yourself apart from the vast number of other men out there.
“Fitting in” is definitely not something you want to do if you want top-notch girlfriends.
You probably aren’t a boring person, and those who DO hang around you probably have a good time in your company, but when you are out meeting new women how are they going to know that? It is true that women are more socially proficient than men by nature, but they can’t read your mind. If you want to avoid being labeled as “just another average, boring guy” you are going to have to do something about it. If not, you will always be thrown into the bargain bin with all of the other men who failed to see the point.
That point being; women want to have FUN (which I already expressed earlier), and a normal guy (otherwise known as a boring guy) just can’t provide them with that.
I’m not saying that you should throw a mohawk on your head and wear a spiked leather jacket, or that you need to get a custom paint job on your car that changes colors as people pass by (very lame, FYI).
Those extremes are things that men with zero game use in an attempt to lure in women because they need material things to compensate for their overall lack of game or self esteem
. What you need to be doing is focusing on making yourself BE an interesting person that is different than the rest, not just someone who either looks interesting or owns cool stuff. You must also learn how to present that to women in a fashion that can be conveyed through a normal conversation very quickly. There really is no point in being a fun, adventurous guy when you don’t know how to properly show the women that you desire those character traits.
The first impression is very important, and it is during that small window of time that you must show a woman why she will have FUN if she hangs around you, and you aren’t like all of the other losers she’s already shot down that night.
I hope i don’t offend anyone
Hmm in the previous thread TS talks about rich men getting all the gold diggers haha. Well the girls can dig gold from my nose (joking). Now let me show you the less painful way of dealing with beautiful women.
First Pointer: Don’t treat beautiful women like they are above you
Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they are afraid that a woman might get upset and leave, and the fact is that by acting this way, a woman is MORE likely to leave. It’s one of those paradoxes that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. A woman whines, and the man say’s, “Oh, no. I need to kiss her ass or she might leave. Even though she’s being ridiculous, I have to go along with it…” This is bad for her, for you, and for the relationship between you. Learn to never let a woman act like a brat without you calling her on it.
The solution is to NOT kiss ass or do things for them like everyone else. Be different. Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on all of their issues and messed up behaviors just like you would a guy friend or family member (use the same “You’re my friend and I’m saying this for your benefit” tone that you’d use with a friend) tease.
An average looking man that takes good care of himself and makes enough money to live comfortably who is cocky, direct, challenging, confident, funny, and in control and challenges her constantly and never kisses her ass EVER - will be FAR more fulfilling to a beautiful woman than the other types. This difference is not only interesting to her; it’s more challenging as well.
Second Pointer: Don’t be fazed by her beauty
Women can tell right away if a man has chosen her by reading his eyes or eye contact and his body language, not to mention the fact that most guys make their interest obvious through their behavior and also by the drool hanging from their mouths.
Girls who are exceptionally attractive automatically put 99% of the guys they meet or see into this huge category of male worshippers.
But when a man comes along that isn’t fazed by her beauty and DOES NOT CHOOSE her immediately because she looks good in some tight jeans, guess what happens? She starts to wonder, “Why doesn’t this guy just automatically choose me because I look good like all the rest”?
Now she is curious. She doesn’t know anything about you (assuming you play it cool and remain mysterious). You become a puzzle that she has to solve.
She now becomes extremely insecure because her self-esteem is based on her looks and you don’t seem to be fazed by that at all. In her mind, she now has to “win you over” and gain your approval that she is indeed “gorgeous”. Then her little world will be okay again.
So what happens next? She starts to CHASE YOU. You have now become a prize she “has” to win and a puzzle she has to “solve”.
The great thing about this technique is that the better looking the chick, the better it works. Isn’t that great? Remember, the higher you are, the harder you fall. When you knock her off of that pedestal, she WILL fall hard. Fall hard for YOU, that is. If you’re getting great eye contact and any other choosing signs at this point, let the game begin.
A second opinion on the tip above
Playing hard to get works on most women, but remember that if a woman never liked you in the first place, acting more or less “distant” doesn’t really make a difference. She won’t chase you just because you play “hard to get”. Remember, attraction is not a choice.