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Originally Posted by
Durategra
The grass will always seem greener on the other side. You never know what issues they face. Many times, the guy is the sole provider for the family and the spouse tends to keep quiet about the husbands indiscretions.. but for all you know, there could be alot of undercurrent, which may, in time, boil over and things turn absolutely shitty.
That’s what gf say too. Forgot to mention that both gf were married with kids too.
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Originally Posted by
YELLOW
Let the game come to u lah dont force . The more u seek the more it alludes u …… work hard , save up , be a nice person …. play responsibly … the zhar bor will come/cum one 😏
Thank you bro. Sometimes feel very empty and lonely la.
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Originally Posted by
fnulnu99
We tend to take things for granted.
Have a good wife and young children but have to eat outside because at home not served with breakfast on bed.
When we eat outside, we tend to think it will last forever, but the other party wants something more permanent, so, good arrangement comes to an end but we still miss that someone…
I have been in your shoes, except I don’t have children but I love my wife and would never entertain ending the marriage.
The only way I resolve my problem when I eat outside is to find girls that have a big age gap with me. This way, they know the arrangement is going to be temporary.
How to marry a girl in her early 20s when the guy is in his 50s? This will cause many people to talk…but in the western world, this is pretty acceptable. But such marriage will also not last easily….Simply not practical in my mind.
So, it’s only for the money (school fund, shopping money etc) and for the fun in the bedroom and nothing more.
I still get to connect with them emotionally, treat them like friends, maybe even like daughters (when age gap is above 20+)
If you look into the future, 20 or 30 years down the road that you and your wife is able to interact like a friend, can talk everyday on common happy topics, then the marriage is worth keeping.
Else, you know it’s never too late to end one and start something new.
Bro… where do you find them huh. Sincere question. And also within reasonable price range. Some I met want like $8K a month. Meet once a week.
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Originally Posted by
Xgenre
I am surprised your wife doesn’t know or suspect. Having 2 gfs will give out a bigger signal you have someone else. Plus chances of being seen outside, by her family,friends and colleagues over 5 years with 2 gfs, are very high.
The consequences after being caught will be heavy. Women’s Charter is no joke. Probably C is safer
True true. playing with fire for the past 5 years. heng never get burnt
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Originally Posted by
donut88
I’m in your shoes and even more.
I looked young and energetic too.
Currently also 2 gfs outside. And had a string of them in the past. One come one go over the years
The thing is that find a gal who’s not looking for marriage with you. She is probably in the same shoes as you. No sex or bad sex at home and looking out for man to satisfy. She goes home guai guai to the family.
With this type of gal, it’s the best arrangement u can get.
Dont look for single gal. Single gals are very selfish and will need alot of attention. They will most likely want u for herself. And that’s where problem starts.
All marriages have issues.
Yes. I forgot to add. Both are married with kids.
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Originally Posted by
thisisme
I have taken (C).
Learn trading and spend most of my time watching candles.
When bored, find a spa and finish with HJ. Once a while will find a FL for sex.
I’ve found out that I’m much more in love with candles now.
Used to have few FB, but need to spend time with them.
Now able to spend more time with family, and things are much better than before.
stocks? forex?
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Originally Posted by
StupidCharsiew
From what I read it seems the only reason you’re eating outside is because your wife doesn’t want to have sex. If your wife also eat outside will you be okay or just forget it since you’re also doing the same?
Anyway, if it’s I will choose
C
since it doesn’t involve any emotions and won’t trouble your marriage. . Tbh, this is one of the reason why I don’t plan to get married. Sekali my wife don’t want to have sex then I need to eat outside. At least if I’m single I don’t need to think so much.
No ah. quite different. I keep asking, and she keep denying mah. If she keep asking and I keep denying, then i guess i cant blame her and I am honestly ok with that.
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Originally Posted by
naan1974
i have been thru GFs, FB, KTV gals, WL etc
The above is listed by the magnitude in terms of
responsibilities, bothersome, monetary aspect.
When i was young, energetic and needed to fulfil
my self esteem ego to concur, i had multiple GFs
and FB concurrently then.
At this stage of my life, i am now only into WL.
transactional is by far the best option now that i
have no emotional needs to fulfil. With WL, KTV gals,
you can love talk them all you want and nothing will come
back and haunt you. You can even keep them as an unofficial mistress
on short term basis and need not worry she will knock on your door.
i call it an “affair” with no loose end.
Noted on the wise advise. I also think so this is best.
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Originally Posted by
crood
Did ur spouse know that u r unhappy at her?
I just told mine today , in this world
Nobody need to 忍受 , if you are unhappy at me no matter 大大小小
just say out。
Spouse always think that by saying out , I might brush it off and think is a petty issue but then I say nobody’s feelings is invalid.
Even if you have a high tolerance level, there’s also a limit.
And also whatever u r looking for now , gf and sugar babies / fwb r just short term happiness with no happy ending.
Yes. She is very very aware. Again this part hard for me to share details without identifying myself.