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it will fuel your temper if you see that the guy is a FAT, and balding guy becos you will not understand why she choses him over you… or
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he is a handsome lad with more monies than you, how will you feel??? WORST!!!!
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what is the relations between her and that guy?
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When and how it started?
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and ask her WHY??
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Originally Posted by
yinyang
Men’s charter? But then, who says world is fair?
either in the system or be above the system. not happy then move to a fair country that recognises pre-nups.
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Fancy chancing on you here
me kaypoh mah… and sympathised with bro bonkers due to experience with ex-gf.
Read this topic with many interests because it shows many sides of a guy..
I have no right to judge the thread-starter but IMHO, anger and jealousy will prevail when the news breaks out as the first initial though is “IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN TO ME”..NO GUYS, in fact no one including gals, will be able to handle this calmly when the admission by the guilty party is announced.
I disagree with the threadstarter way of violence as violence never solves anything but it fuels more problems…eg, if in a case of divorce, you will lose the rights to your kids even though she is in the wrong by having an affair… becos in the eyes of the judge, you are a hooligan using violence as a means of settlement…
All these “rush” actions will be back to haunt you….
Meeting the guy will be a bad mistake because,
I would suggest that you talk to your wife first to better understand the situation when you are more calm…
but you must be ready to accept criticism from her becos you are no angel and you make mistakes…and maybe these are the mistakes which are the ones triggering her to go to him… it takes 2 hands to clap….
you might “think” u hv done your best in a family but there are times the “things” which you have done is deem unneccessary becos it is not needed by the wifey side…
In a relationship, we need to have an understanding with each other, some say trust…. but lets be honest, do you really think our wives are so stupid to believe everything u say when u are back late…they rather keep quiet and close half their eyes and move on…in order not to spoil the momentum of the family….
I am no angel as i am a regular in SBF and i have my fair share of experiences on this nature of problems which i have learn overtime…
Finally, all the best…..
Dear TS,
You are a
Gambler, a Womanizer
and
practice Family Violence
! one who could whack a weak, (almost) defenseless woman to TTSH! (we are not talking of slap or body pushing or wrestling. Your punches and kicks actually ends her in hospital, your whacks must be unthinkable
)
Congratulations, I guess you must be an overnight hero amongst men that raises hands on women!
Pardon me if I am mean, but for guy like you, isn’t it better if you had quietly find a way to solve the problem yourself?
You bring your problem to SBF (a sex forum) and start a thread seeking for advice??? What help do u want… sympathy, moral support?
You did not tell 90% of the story leading to your wife’s betrayal of you and you expect suggestions to get even with this single painful experience you had from your wife?
Could your wife have already endured 100 more painful experience from you prior this fiasco?
Mind you, the guy that you ‘lose’ out to is a married man… if your wife can choose man of such status to confide with… she is certainly not going after young, strong COCKS; doesn’t it cast more doubt on you!?
And you got the cheek to write out all kind of intentions and seek plot on the subject…and start pointing only finger at him? even getting compensation, money??! Gosh, you are gross!
I really have nothing better to tell you as a fella samster, mind you WE all have our own set of problems, one way or another.
Having said that, in the spirit of SBF I have helped the thread identified
Bro BangBangben and Bro Infinitiumus
as the Best reference for you, and I trust they are matured individual. That’s all I am willing to do for you, bro. No offence.
I hope everything would eventually turn out fine for you. My heart goes to the kids!
Just my 2.5 cents
Thou its easier said than done..
most prob i would Divorce.. and ‘Reinstate’ my bachelor-hood..
and i’ll take my kid/s along too.
Or i might cling on to our marriage, and if next time she caught me ‘straying’ i will have a damm good excuse…
Just my 2 cents..
[QUOTE=Regular1000;2946368]Dear TS,
You did not tell 90% of the story leading to your wife’s betrayal of you and you expect suggestions to get even with this single painful experience you had from your wife?
Bro.. I totally agreed with you!!! My wife told me her side of story and i’m to blame also.. When we were still Bf & GF. she got all the special treatment, from sending flower to waiting her for hours to make up. Sending lovely or mushy msg to her. Kissing her to sleep, sending good night msg.
BUT soon after married, everything changes. NO more darling or dearest princess. Things get worst when she give birth to my baby girl. i though that all her focus have devert to the baby (NO!). Tat’s bcos she feels tat i didn;t care much about her so she rather focus on our Baby!
I have to take up the responsibillty also.. SO No violent PLS!! Think first before you ACT!
Now u caught your wife straying… then what about you going for sex outside??
If you are the one being caught by your wife, what will she do to you??
If you feel betrayed, u hv betrayed her also.
To me, try to forgive and forget. tat is if u both still love each other. Sometimes after such event the relationship gets better coz both will realise what they did wrong in the marriage tat cause the betrayal. So counselling may be a better way to settle this issue first. If really cannot solve, divorce is the last option.
i think we should not be judgmental of TS based on one act and make our own assumptions from here…we are only speculating on the “what we think”…sorry but this is a fact, we humans are hypocrites…we cheong we say it is ok our wife cheong we say it is not…let face it, how many of us can really say it is ok too and the truth is at that moment you won’t know how you will handle the situation….even for a woman when she first finds out the truth, I believe she will give you a hard smack across…well that what happened with my first oc when she found out I had another woman outside..so likewise for us guys, some of us may just react that way too even though wisdom says otherwise….
so rather then condemn his actions or speculating on the “why I think it happened”, shouldn’t we be trying to ease his burden by offering some solutions or at least words of encouragement…..
Well, TS, hope u learn to control your temper… Striking your wife til she is
admitted to hospital is definately not what you should have done.
Looking at your posts, you have also betrayed her by eating outside lor. It
makes no differences whether paid or not paid. You have betrayed her too.
Now, forget about revenge or watsoever, think about how to get your family
relationship back. Why blame another man when you cannot offer the
attention that your spouse wanted?
I’m not a saint, but think rationally. If want to come out and play, be
prepared the same from your spouse. Welcome to 21st Century. Both men
and women have equal rights to play.
From now on, pay more attention to your wife and children when you have
time.
Whatever it is, if TS really still love the wife. I think the best is try to talk it out and see what went wrong in the relationship …. steal eat should be avoided for the time being …
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Originally Posted by
thesaint9753
aiyoyo, bro bonker69, last time always talk talk to
you about balestier and hear hear some time you
need to go vietnam, then suddenly lost, now see
see you get into family problem, aiyoyo, so sad to
hear, maybe you are always away and not attentive
to her lah.
You no gentleman like old uncle lah, gentleman
use mouth and not fist, if old uncle in your situation,
old uncle no beat her, old uncle bite her (use mouth
what, not wrong right ?), of course first take off
the denture first mah…
sad to hear about your problem, hope you can
gather yourself and find a solution to it lah ….
wish you good luck ….
wow…old man long time no see you too.
ya lor…always go balestier , forgot to pai sin loh….
anyway…thank man!