Introduction
Whether you’re the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you’ll never get over this, you will.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderate
Steps
1Step One Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.
2Step Two Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they’ll still love you.
3Step Three Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don’t let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.
4Step Four Realize that this sadness will pass.
5Step Five Distract yourself with fun once you’re tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.
6Step Six Indulge yourself when you’re feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.
7Step Seven Begin dating again when you’re ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.
8Step Eight Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you’re headed for another downward spiral.
9Step Nine Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!
Tips & Warnings
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.
While you’re upset, don’t do anything you’ll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.
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Originally Posted by
Classbonk
Introduction
Whether you’re the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you’ll never get over this, you will.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderate
Steps
1Step One Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.
2Step Two Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they’ll still love you.
3Step Three Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don’t let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.
4Step Four Realize that this sadness will pass.
5Step Five Distract yourself with fun once you’re tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.
6Step Six Indulge yourself when you’re feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.
7Step Seven Begin dating again when you’re ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.
8Step Eight Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you’re headed for another downward spiral.
9Step Nine Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!
Tips & Warnings
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.
While you’re upset, don’t do anything you’ll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.
Very good..
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Classbonk
Introduction
Whether you’re the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you’ll never get over this, you will.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderate
Steps
1Step One Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.
2Step Two Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they’ll still love you.
3Step Three Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don’t let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.
4Step Four Realize that this sadness will pass.
5Step Five Distract yourself with fun once you’re tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.
6Step Six Indulge yourself when you’re feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.
7Step Seven Begin dating again when you’re ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.
8Step Eight Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you’re headed for another downward spiral.
9Step Nine Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!
Tips & Warnings
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.
While you’re upset, don’t do anything you’ll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.
Very well said bro. I’ve been through a similar situation myself but have finally got over it.
Thanks for sharing!
To be honest, there is no definite cure for a break up.. really..
for anything else, the alternative ( some say the true all in one cure )
If a break-up does happen, alwayz remember itz for de better good of both parties and life muz goes on eventhough it might be a very painful experience
I remember PCC 3 times consecutively in one of my break-ups. I don’t know why either. Maybe I wanted to use up all of the energy or maybe my ex was such a good fuck.
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Originally Posted by
altec7
I’ve been through a similar situation myself but have finally got over it.
Good for you. But for me, its been 4mths and still the thought of my ex lingers on. Really no medicine for sickness of the heart. Sigh…
I’ve always believed in fate….if it’s yours, it will be yours. If it ain’t yours, it will never be yours. Take it easy……time heals everything.
a breakup is never easy for both parties….personally i had a really bad one after a long 9 yrs r/s and til now after 3 yrs, still can remember the details of the ordeal…. many say time can heal all wounds…but i say time cant make u forget…
A breakup is best said face to face and sincerely…if u dun love a person no more its best to let them go and let them find their own happiness, and vice versa…..no pt holding on to a r/s when u know its heading no where… some would say “if u love that person, let her go” . . .
Everyone cope with breakup differently and i think its the best to talk to someone abt it…..
There are many breaking up in different stage of life. Teenage days, Adult b4 marriage and during marriage(divorce). Different stages has different reasons resulting so… Therefore, how to handle will be as well different in the sense