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She was not ready for Marriage.
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She was not ready to have Children
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I am not Romantic
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My attention is only for the kids, not her
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Always bring kids along for holidays, not just with her.
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I dun respect her enough
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She dun have her own privacy
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I am too self-centred.
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Originally Posted by
ss2880
Women always think that Men will change, but the fact is we don’t. (we are simple, give us a computer game, soccer and sex, we are happy).
Women always think that they themselves will never change, but the fact is their expectations on their men keeps increasing, and then they finally change their heart.
Well said bro
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I have been married for 12yrs & have 3 kids. Recently my wife confessed that she’s been seeing another man & is planning to leave us all. Reasons for the break down of marriage, given by her are:
Bro, just my humble opinion. I have been tru something similar to u. Her excuses at that time was
No matter how i tried to question her, she refused to admit she is seeing another guy.. But, she insist on the divorce.. What’s worse, she got the sole custody of our daughter (
fuck the woman’s charter )..
Then while waiting for the divorce proceedings, i gotta know she is seeing another guy.. But she claim all these started only after she began the divorce prcoceedings.. 1 year after the divorce is finalised, she is remarried.. CCB now my daughter got to call that idiot ‘daddy’.. Worst thing is, they then got posted to US for work ( company they work for is where the sky’s the limit ) for 3 years.. and again thanks to the brilliant woman’s charter, there is still nothing i can do.
To me, all these things your wife said are excuses.. her heart is gone liao.. in a sense, u r lucky she did not fight for your chidren’s custody.. My advice is, forget about her, let her go, and think of how to get on with life with your children without her..
Bro whatever your decision, all the best to you.. If you want to know anything else, i will be glad to share in this forum or u can pm me..
Thank you very much for all the great repilies, I hope you guys understand that it’s very hard for a guy, to openly discuss about being a failure to protect and defend his own family from breaking up. I can’t even talk to my own family about what’s going on. A few close friends I spoke to, all told me to give up as they don’t see anyway for me to save this relationship.
I agree that she is filled with so much HOLLYWOOD ideas, she keep thinking the whole world is against her action & she will go against all odds to seek her own future. She has even stop talking to all her friends, just because they are telling her she’s making a grave mistake. She’s 37 yrs old now (so am I) and the new guy is 32yrs old, she mentioned that she they just got serious in the last 3 months, I really can’t understand how can someone forgo a 13yrs relationship for a 2 months “honeymoon”.
My children loves her, just because I’m the one who will scold them & beat them , when they misbehave (they don’t see that Mommy is not at home, to do anything). I do worry that the children will want to follow her instead of me. I also worry that she will want half of everything I own. In all these yrs, I have never asked how much she’s making, all her money is hers and mine is for the family (believe it or not, she don’t even have to pay for her own medical bill, let alone for the kids). Monthly installments for the house has been paid by me, from the moment we got the place, if she want me to sell it & give her half, how? Where are the children & I going to stay?
I am so stuck! I think either we spilt or make up, I stand to lose BIG TIME.
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Originally Posted by
Castrol
hahaha… stories like these in sbf usually have a lot of loop holes.
hey,i do believe the threadstarter is telling the truth…
Reasons he wanted to start a new nick to ask for advice as he feel uneasy using his real nick…imagine if this happen to me, I will be paiseh to ask for help in this forum too…
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Originally Posted by
shawn
Nothings perfect in this world.
this world is perfect in nothing.
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Originally Posted by
Eastpipper
hey,i do believe the threadstarter is telling the truth…
Reasons he wanted to start a new nick to ask for advice as he feel uneasy using his real nick…imagine if this happen to me, I will be paiseh to ask for help in this forum too…
but what makes you believe it?
anyway there’s nothing to believe or not, we are just here to read and write based on the postings, doesnt matter if the nick is new or old, real or unreal.
Seriously, bros here can be counsellors…
P.S. Threadstarter, I strongly believe that if your wife has taken the house to be a hotel, then she has already forsaken you and the children. No point keeping her to your side if you’re no longer in her heart. Even if she leaves the man, can you convince yourself that she will not look for another one when the opportunity arise?
Dear Sir, thanks for your understanding!
Anyway like I said, it’s a shame to fail in defending & protecting the family, that we work so hard for.
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Originally Posted by
Eastpipper
hey,i do believe the threadstarter is telling the truth…
Reasons he wanted to start a new nick to ask for advice as he feel uneasy using his real nick…imagine if this happen to me, I will be paiseh to ask for help in this forum too…