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Originally Posted by
Spud_Boy
once cross the line 1 time… it’s all the way downwards….
better to have that 1 soulmate that understands u & able to ease ur pains rather than the 1 moment of pleasure..
it’s always ideal if ur other half is also ur soulmate… but how many such couples are around us?? sigh…
all the best for u, bro… think there are a lot of similar ppl around… just have to suck it up & live the life best as 1 can..
Bro… I toally agreed with u….i will nt allow myself to cross the boundary…. The consequences to bear will be too great… Thank you for yr advise…
Bros just to share this song… sigh.. one of the songs which i loved….
Hope that u guys will like it…
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Originally Posted by
LTPGTD
Bro, like i said, ur stories certainly brought back memories with all the old songs etc…….
That’s y alot of guys can relate to the movie 那些年我们一起追的女孩.. And the song 那些年, as compared to girls who think that the movie is just another tw production, nothing special…
Very emotion stirring, which is leading to confused thoughts for you… Sometimes it might be better to keep the sweet memories inside and let them stay as memories… But we are not you.. Ultimately what happens next, like what some bros mentioned, would largely depends on both of you now… more so when the situation now just needs a small spark to ignite this fire….
On the other hand, don’t mean to be negative, but have you wondered or thought about how your life would pen out if you really did married Yvonne? As the saying goes, 得不到的东西，永远是最美的… I always believe things happen for a reason…
anyway, stay strong and hope things turn out well for all….
Bro how true can this statement be: 得不到的东西，永远是最美的… yup u have raised an important question which i have also questioned myself at times…. but feelings at times r irrational ba…. but i will be very careful as i know that things can easily get out of hand if i dun manage it properly.. as far as possible.. hurting her is the last thing which i ever want to do…….
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Originally Posted by
Tai_zi21
Another old school emo song bro for u
Bro this song power! really describe my feelings for her…
Kam sia for this song..
Bros just a quick sharing of this song…
One of the songs which touched my heart….
Hope that u guys will like it..
Bro… yup i actually meet up with her again…. quite a few things happen and nothing happen between us.. Guys.. i will be away for business trip and i will try to give a update every now and then… though nt long chapters due to time constrain. Meanwhile bros… enjoy and have a great week ahead though it is monday blues… but just endure… the day will be over before we know it…
Bros.. just a quick update… Again pls bear with me for any typo errors as i am typing rather fast as i have to go through some work stuff again.
Received a what apps from Yvonne last week.. the day when i am on leave.
Yvonne: Free to join me for lunch later.
Me: Sure since i am on leave today.
Yvonne: C u then.
Fast hand fast leg… i drive to her work place and wait for her again….As usual i was early but it does nt take long for Yvonne to reach there.. ( She is usually a
punctual person). She look abit tired to me…
Yvonne: Hi.. sorry to keep u waiting..
Me: It is k as i just arrived….
Yvonne: let find a quiet place for lunch… i am starving…
Soon we settled down to a quiet place for lunch…
Me: u look tired to me…
Yvonne: Yup nt easy.. have to manage job and kids at the same time…
Me: Thank goodness u still have a maid to help u with the chores and cooking..
Yvonne: True… but i do have some problems trying to manage my boys when their father is not always around.
Me: Boys r always boys…
Yvonne: So any plans today…
Me: After this… i will bring my boys to the beach…. they loved the beach and can build sandcastle with them…
Yvonne: At least u still bother to spend time with yr kids… unlike him…
Me: Perhaps he is busy with his work… u know nowadays our work is so demanding…
Yvonne: Dun tried to cook up excuses for him…. men r always the same!
There is a short pause after this as i can sense that she is getting upset…
Yvonne: So u will away for business trip next week…
Me: Yup…
Yvonne: So must do entertaining again rite…
Me: Yeah loh… in our course of work… entertaining is inevitable…
Yvonne: That is what he would say too…. anyway.. u men love it wat… drinks…entertainment… girls all on company bill mah…
At that moment i knew instantly what is going on in her heart le….
Yvonne: If i request u nt to go… would u agreed to my request?
Me: I promise u that i will nt go unless it is necessary for me to attend…
Yvonne: Serious… but will it affect yr work..
Me: No lah… no worries… i can always leave it to my colleagues to do the entertaining for me… ( As a matter of fact… i knew the impact would be there as it is rude nt to entertain the clients… but i do nt want Yvonne to go through another round of hurts again…. )
The sorrows in her eyes is the pain i can feel in my heart and i really feel helpless at times…
Bro just to share this song before i go…
Will start to update u guys again whenever i am free… Thanks….
鄭伊健 甘心替代你 ( Bro simifly… this is our song)
One of the songs which i loved… remember watching it during my army days after the break up with Yvonne…. the longing to protect her is always in my mind and heart…. for bros who r ex ah bengs before.. i believed can relate to me how i feel… that is whenever we r with our gf… there will be no jio meng on the streets… no more being ambushed.. bao chao by enemies….
Hoped that u guys will like it…
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Originally Posted by
simifly
Then what if Yvonne one day cry to yr hug saying she regret not being with
last time now she wanna be with u.
Are u ready ?
U won’t want to hurt her and also yr family.
U definitely will say she wont do that cos she’s a Christian lah, she also won’t hurt her family lah………
U never know what test GOD will give both of u this time.
By that time, u even more headache.
Sorry to have spoilt yr trip…
As the old saying goes… 苦口良藥… i can fully understand the concerns of yr heart… indeed what u have pointed out is what i will face very soon… sooner than i have expected… These few weeks have nt have been an easy time for me… as even though i did nt cross the boundary with her yet… but emotionally… i have already betrayed my wife…. Emotionally torn apart between the 2 women… one who is my first love and have impacted my life (Without her… i believed that i would have end up in the boys home/prison… would nt have obtained my degree…)…. Another woman who is my wife… someone who i have vowed to spend the rest of her life with her…… even at this pt of time…. i have nt forgotten the marriage vow which i have taken… but emotionally i have already betrayed my wife….
Indeed this is a difficult period of me having to struggle with my emotions and
conscience….. every day i have to guard my heart and thoughts… nt to let the emotions get the better of me and ruin the families of both end…. Bros be with me k… I have chosen a path of difficult love… feelings which can only be hidden but cannot be revealed to her…. a path where i need to give.. but at the end of the day… things will still come to to an end eventually… but for the sake of Yvonne.. i really cant leave her alone now… especially when she is now hurting…
Sorry bros as i am unable to pen my thoughts well now.. as my heart is in a deep turmoil again…..
At this point of time… at this point of space…Perhaps this song can well describe my feelings….
I will be very careful… That is the only way nt to hurt her or anyone…….
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Originally Posted by
tiggerboy
Bro ts, your story really moved me. I’m still young, don’t understand much bout love and all.
But after reading your story about you loving her all this while, 20years+(?) really made me think through lots of things.
I just hope the things you do won’t bring any trouble back home for both of you as both your wife and her husband might get the wrong idea if they find out about your story and meet ups.
Whatever you do, always remember about your kids first, cause 1 wrong move can cause massive hurt to both your kids and hers, since I come from a broken family.
So try your best bro, and all the best to you. Will be waiting for more of your updates.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keep no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoice with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:6-8
Hope this is one of the christian verse which i love alot.. ( No worries.. i am nt trying to spread my faith here… everyone is entitled to their own beliefs)… Hoped that this verse will benefit u too….
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Originally Posted by
Tai_zi21
Maybe u wanna say this to her bro
Bro… how i wish i can say this thing to her… but i cant……. it is too late… we r both married…. but i love this song.. Thanks bro….