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go after her and be with her
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end the tryst and return to my loving wife.
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Forget this whole damn thing and get on with life (but your heart just will not let you do that. Human have feelings. Like many of us , you are just not cut to be a heartless man) -
Fly over to look for her? Tell her parents you wanna date and get to know each other better first…you are not out to cheat them of her daughter. Guess they will be touched by your sincerity but no necessarily met with their approval.
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This few day is quite tough for me to bear, cos Remember that day on 30 Apr 2005 I mention her mother say Xiao Xue is ‘half dead’. From that day no more news from them, this few day i try sms and calling but their is no reply.
Today 4/5/2005 @7pm, finally I receive an sms reply which say,
‘你不用担心她。 她现在好多了。你也不用多想‘
， I immediately call back and it was answer this time by her sister, she say Xiao Xue now is still at hospital, will be discharge soon but she refuse to give me which hospital, she ask me not to call Xiao Xue again. I suspect her HP is now kept by either sister/mother.
This few day I also unable to locate ‘Xin’, really KNNCCB.
Worse of all, I dont have her house address, last time she ever mention to me, but cant remember cos China too complicated and I can only remember Shan Dong.
sad to hear this. its the similar predicament that i am facing…
i am married but same as you bro..fall in love with a young china gal…and even have her virginity… (brother its not just lust, its a great sin to have her first blood and be committed to it)
there two voice in me..
at first i find it exciting to be in this clandestine situtation but now i find that i committed to it…
now i wonder when will this rendevous end….
due to my dilemma i lost all my tolerance to my beloved wife….
now i really don know what to do…
bro, the gal is young, we are much older than her. Can we “show hand” and commit to this affair.
it may seems romantic but fortunately for you is you don have a wife yet…
i will go all out to be with her even if my parent don agreed to my relationship… but now the problem is i am married.
lucky enuff that i don have any children..as its quite a burden to have them in a divorce (if any in near future)
Nbzz… show picture of her 2 plman n lament but not mi… u goot!!!!…
bro, i seriously think dat u had dat “foreign land” syndome whereby u r feeling lonely n everyone falls in love freely….
u r basically a very nice person and can get along well w anyone…..
well, jz give it a couple of months n u’ll get over it…
sorry for d cold turkey but i think i will need 2 wake u up a bit…
giving up ur life here n live elsewhere is fine.. but i hope u do dat not because of a gal but because u really wanted 2 leave sillypore for a better living elsewhere…
saw a few cases b4 n mostly those who leave sillypore for a gal will end up w alot of problems n had 2 come back…. pple who survived r because of other reasons…..
moral of dis is pple who leave for a gal has not enuff a good n strong reason 2 survive overseas.. if u r determined to make a better living there, den it’s fine… if u do not have d conviction, u will not last there….
Bro Mark,
Read my post…your situation is similar to me…read my post, maybe you can find out the path you want to chose.
http://forum.sammyboy.com/showthread.php?t=25336
Take care
[QUOTE=Mark26]sad to hear this. its the similar predicament that i am facing…
i am married but same as you bro..fall in love with a young china gal…and even have her virginity… (brother its not just lust, its a great sin to have her first blood and be committed to it)
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Mark26
sad to hear this. its the similar predicament that i am facing…
i am married but same as you bro..fall in love with a young china gal…and even have her virginity… (brother its not just lust, its a great sin to have her first blood and be committed to it)
Yours is much more tricky, have to make the choice early
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Nbzz… show picture of her 2 plman n lament
Wah lau that night during supper at JC (Law, plman), I think u got see also right. The pix is in my hp.
Giving myself time to see what is the next move.
But leave Sg is not becos of her lah, actually it is more of retirement planning in future lah. All the while already have this intention. But tonight if strike Toto $1.5m, I think tomorrow is my retirement day. Kekeke
KNN u remember that day we saw that traffic while having supper that weedend, that taxi nos 4240, but that coming wed open 0424 2nd prize…… heart pain…….
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sexlover
But leave Sg is not becos of her lah, actually it is more of retirement planning in future lah. All the while already have this intention. But tonight if strike Toto $1.5m, I think tomorrow is my retirement day. Kekeke
i saw dat oreadi… kekekeke…. pai seh ar……
retirement plan still long long time to go lah… dun confuse dis w dat…. i oso hope i kena Toto….
nbzz… dat cab kena knock in front n reversed dat’s y front number jumped to back… shld have bought 12 combo system….. nbzzzz….
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sexlover
heart pain…….
Bro, sorry. I have been ill n not feeling well for a week liao.
hardly came into forum and now i referred to yr sms n came in to read yr posting.
many bros have given their opinon n i believe u know where u r heading.
well, just like the accient.
if he drive slowly, look around more carefully n be patient,
he won’t bang his car unnecessarily into roller shuttle of shop or incoming vehicle.
same for yr situation now, cool down and think carefully.
I understand n believe that u have not been using yr small head so far.
cheers
I think i’ve been there long enough to give you advice on this issue…
to prevent more troubles…i think u better give up this relationship, in the long run it will only give u heartaches and problems….it’s not worth it.trust me.
i feel that china girls fall in love easily with singaporean guys…maybe is the way we carry ourselves and the gentlemently way we conduct ourselves(acting or not). one must admit NS does shape us up into what we are today…thus having an advantage over other guys.
also another thing…what do u intend to do if this girl accpet you? bring her over to singapore? or go over there and stay? both ways, you face paramount difficulty….also…remeber…nowadays china girls in singapore are sterotyped as cheap or prositude….see a china girl on the street, the words ’ prositude’ pop into the minds of everyone…..even those studying in NUS are not spared from this view….u don’t mind losing face and enduring all the stares as if u are going out with a ‘pro’??u dun mind ppl calling you ‘despot’? i know sometimes we don’t care so much abt what ppl say when we are in love….but pls think…in the run long…is it feasible….i got a very bad experience myself….and i think, giving it up is the best
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japboy
retirement plan still long long time to go lah… dun confuse dis w dat…. i oso hope i kena Toto….
nbzz… dat cab kena knock in front n reversed dat’s y front number jumped to back… shld have bought 12 combo system….. nbzzzz….
Buy 12 combo waste money only, buy reverse already tio liao.
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plman2002
Bro, sorry. I have been ill n not feeling well for a week liao.
if he drive slowly, look around more carefully n be patient,
I understand n believe that u have not been using yr small head so far.
U chiong too much, machine ‘pie liao’ ahhh ? kekekeke.
My small head long time never use, don’t know still usable. kekeke
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Wolfiexx1
I think i’ve been there long enough to give you advice on this issue…
to prevent more troubles…i think u better give up this relationship, in the long run it will only give u heartaches and problems….it’s not worth it.trust me.
i feel that china girls fall in love easily with singaporean guys…maybe is the way we carry ourselves and the gentlemently way we conduct ourselves(acting or not). one must admit NS does shape us up into what we are today…thus having an advantage over other guys.
also another thing…what do u intend to do if this girl accpet you? bring her over to singapore? or go over there and stay? both ways, you face paramount difficulty….also…remeber…nowadays china girls in singapore are sterotyped as cheap or prositude….see a china girl on the street, the words ’ prositude’ pop into the minds of everyone…..even those studying in NUS are not spared from this view….u don’t mind losing face and enduring all the stares as if u are going out with a ‘pro’??u dun mind ppl calling you ‘despot’? i know sometimes we don’t care so much abt what ppl say when we are in love….but pls think…in the run long…is it feasible….i got a very bad experience myself….and i think, giving it up is the best
Thank bro for your advise, will bear that in mind
But I don’t really agree with the view that most china girl are stereotype as ‘pro’ in Sg. I believe it is more of in the eye of chiongster whereby we perceive they may be ‘pro’. But in general there is no doubt that large majority in Sg still stereotype them as someone who came to Sg to cheat Sg man’ money/love.
Hope u will share your story too,
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This few day is quite tough for me to bear
Sometime I dun know what to say…can understand your frustration.
At times, is it that we think too much and end up with more headaches or that we got the headaches because we had plunge blindly into it? What was meant to start off simply turn messy….
Looking into you case, you are single maybe 40+, are you intending to settle down? Are you ready to change your current bachelorhood? Is she the one? Will she be too young for you? Had she meet and seen enough males to have sufficient choices and social exposure to make a decision that you are the one? Love to a gal at her age is something they will pour quite a bit of her feeling into it. Pure innocent love? Add in her parents’ objection, difference in nationality, age gap, she got so upset that she drank till hospitalized…..You two had barely started and already faced with so much headache and heartache…..my god….fate seems cruel.
In an ideal world, love will suffice above all, but sadly an ideal world does not exist.
2 possible options:-
If you really want to let this matter come to a rest point….could write a letter and try to get to her. Her cousin probably will not change her HP no. cos of you. You should be able to get it to her eventually. Tell her your feelings for her….but with so obstacles and the age difference, it is only fair that she should take her time to grow up and had enough social exposure and choices before she decide that you are the one.
Heartaches as it may be….but remember both of you may be wishing under the same star….and moon…
Cheers!!!