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Are you ready to give up your present life over here?
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How about your parents? Are they ready for your decision?
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Do you think you’ll be able to get use to the kind of lifestyle over there?
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How about employment? Will you be gainfully employed or are you setting up something on your own?
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What if Xiao Xue’s mum would require you to give up your citizenship in order to be with Xiao Xue? Will you do it?
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What if Xiao Xue and the parents are to come over instead? Are you able to support all of them?
Sorry I miss out three of u in the earlier reply.
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Originally Posted by
funlovingboy
Hi sexlover, our presence in this forum clearly indicate our passion for the so-called intimate moments. however, your story will also be just in time to trigger off this inherent emotional side of ours. well, at least i will.
and definitely, i will be one of those waiting eagerly for your narrating.
I hope my true encounter will trigger more bros to write their story
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Originally Posted by
tittyhawk
Eagerly waiting for your continuation….
Hope u like the story, it is 99.99% true story, I dare not say it is 100% cos I did miss out some minor detail, only capture the main event which unfold. (Even M1 dare not say their coverage is 100%,,,, kekeke)
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Originally Posted by
evyrwmmn88
i am saying this out of experience that you should go ahead with what your heart tells you but you will have to be careful with where you tread in order not to offend the mother. i too once had a gf from shanghai and both of our parents didnt approve of us. we were together for 4yrs and were v happy together but we broke in the end becos we found out that we were not suited for each other. we met in a pub in singapore where she was working part time but now she is finishing her studies. i strongly urge you to do what you think is right as you wont know what you have missed out till you try…
Like I say, I need to wait for positive feedback before I make the next move. Actually I am quite scare if I make the move, I end up like ‘ 联战‘ and her father & mother bring ‘ 关刀‘ chasing after me, then I really die.
Hope to hear your story too.
To all bro out there, this is my advice. Before I wrote and post this story, I was feeling quite down, especially after hearing from her mother saying she is ‘half dead’. Then on early hour of 1st May 2005, I decided to post the story after all if it is a special day for us. I spend the whole of 1st May writing this story.
After writing and posting it on the forum, I suddenly feel much more relieve and feel more peacefully.
I seriously urge all bro with story to tell, post it out. U will definitely feel the different. Trust Me.
Hope to keep this thread alive, all bros are welcome to post their story in this thread.
Maybe someday, somewhere I might have the opportunity to open up this thread and show it to her. At least, I did something for her without her knowledge on this very Special Day of ours.
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Originally Posted by
eddy
if the feedback is positive????? you mean that we SAMSTERS decide your fate????? guy, what if we all tell you to forget her and move on ????
and if it dont work out??? we are to be the guilty ones to blame?
i truly think the answer lies not with us but in YOUR OWN HEART!!!!!
u can only do THAT MUCH research on love with PRC girls here and in other forums ….. and do take a 50% discount on whatever we (and me) says
eddy ,,, i believe u got it all wrong, i dont mean ‘positive’ feedback from samster. I am refering to positive feedback from ‘Xin’ and ‘Tian Tian’, as I say so far I only know she like me and love me. As for ‘foreign land’ syndrome, I agree with u it may be true. That is the reason why I cant rush into it.
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Originally Posted by
saint_1979
Very lovely story. Hv u tot of visiting her in Shan Dong?
I guess the “defender” is worried that u might b just one of those rich foreign guys who just want to take advantage than to be serious in the relationship. News about PRC gals who kanna cheat and abused by those foreign guys might be common in China. Of course, like our parents, they wont want any mishap to happen on their children. All parents want or do things that are in the interests of their children.
U hv to ask urself whether Xiao Xue is the one whom u want to spend the rest of your life with? R u sincere in wanting this relationship, not ONS or fling, but serious relationship? If so, I think u will noe what to do next.
Going to ShanDong is a gd way to prove that u r serious abt Xiao Xue.
Likewise, if u still not certain, no point hurting another good girl.
well said n totally agreed. if u r really serious, go find her n also meet her parents. give them a good impression. i believe they will change their views about u. but 1st n foremost, u must think wif ur head (the big one) not the small one.
bro, u have to be real careful as in the 1st premise u did meet her at the ktv, and she is not someone u met at an office, retail shops etc. No matter how presumably “innocent” she may be but once a prc gal have been working in a ktv - its not easy and is complicated for sure; irrespective of her reasons for working there. In fact most of the gals who worked at such places do have sad or hardship stories to tell n some may be true but its a hard call even for a cheonging professional. Just be cool and take more time and as u said its yr 1st time in china - juz hold yr thoughts for her; visit china a few more times without seeing her then perhaps u be wiser.
Bro….remember my story about the china gal and me? Check on my post and u would know…
http://forum.sammyboy.com/showthread.php?t=25336
If i am in your shoe, i would take a 2 weeks leave, fly to China and look for her. Since you are not engaged and was in love with her, follow your heart. Don’t be like me, when you lost your true love, it’s like the end of the world…no words can describle the pain that i have suffered.
All the best..
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Originally Posted by
Sure2C
If I m u, I’ll pay her a visit. Use my sincerity to convince her defender tat the r/s btw both of u r clean, no hanky panky.
Though hv to be prepare for the worst of being reject by her parents.
That’s my suggestion….sincerity will touch someone heart…use that to convince her parent that you are sincerely (provided you are) fond of her…
It’s natural reaction from her mum (probably traditional view and concept)…
All parent especiall mother very concern about her chilren..somemore china “one child policy”…so mother treasure loh…
As I say…call her parent…tell them that you are sincerely about developing this relationship….and taking care of her and giving her comfortable life…
Go over and show your sincerity…your chances will never be better..
Somemore now Singapore got fly direct to Shangdong I heard…probably another 2-3 hr by bus after alighting at nearest airport….All these travelling will show your sincerity about the whole thing….
Sincerity needs time to prove….
Sincerity need patience to show…
Go…Go for it…all the way….Good luck…
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Originally Posted by
niceguy
well said n totally agreed. if u r really serious, go find her n also meet her parents. give them a good impression. i believe they will change their views about u. but 1st n foremost, u must think wif ur head (the big one) not the small one.
Thru out the past one month of contact with her, I dare to admit that I never use the small head to think at all. However if thing do develop and small head is required for assistance as big head is already overload, I will take that as a bonus. Seriously if I do use small head, I will never have pick her, cos she is definitely not the prettiest among those girl.
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Originally Posted by
betweenus21
bro, u have to be real careful as in the 1st premise u did meet her at the ktv, and she is not someone u met at an office, retail shops etc.
Will take your advice, and take my time, I also afraid it to out to be scam.
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Originally Posted by
Manudieliao
If i am in your shoe, i would take a 2 weeks leave, fly to China and look for her.
Yours is indeed a sad story, hope u are doing fine now. Whereas my encounter is slightly different from yours, I merely met her twice in China and nothing seriously develop during then. And the info I receive so far from ‘Tian Tian’ is that I make great impact to Xiao Xue’s life, Defender say ‘Xiao Xue’ don’t like me and ‘Xin’ say it is impossible that Xiao Xue will say she don’t like me.
What happen if Xiao Xue merely ‘like’ me as a friend and don’t want any further development? Then I believe my sudden trip there will be a great joke, no doubt it may change her parent opinion @ me, but the most important thing is still where Xiao Xue’s heart lies. So for that I am giving myself time till Oct to see what should be my next course of action. Just have to wait for more update from ‘Xin’.
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Originally Posted by
Jari_Owen
That’s my suggestion….sincerity will touch someone heart…use that to convince her parent that you are sincerely (provided you are) fond of her…
It’s natural reaction from her mum (probably traditional view and concept)…
All parent especiall mother very concern about her chilren..somemore china “one child policy”…so mother treasure loh…
Actually she is not the only child, she have a elder sister age 22. According to her ‘one child policy’ was started ago 10-15yrs ago. She is indeed seem to be family’s teasure. Recently I have been searching thru for direct flight to ShanDong, only Valueair go to ChengDu. My 1st trip to china was on SQ, but SQ very ex @S$1000/- (Luckily company pay, but I think for @$700/). Do update me if anybody know of any direct flight info, need all this info badly, when need arises, it will come handy. All info will be greatly appreciated. Thank.
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Originally Posted by
BigGuy
moral of the story….in all honesty, it is really not easy to maintain a relationship w a foreigner
I believe sometime it is our own backside itchy to have look at other country girl, we are all looking for the trill ,
家花哪有野花香 and 路边的野花不要采
Sorry to say that, the 野花 I am referring more to oversea girl
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Originally Posted by
hothandlebar
She may view you as a cradle snatcher, if not worse… a paedophile
Bro, your this word ‘paedophile’ is too chim for me to understand, I check the dictionary also cannot find, care to share what is the meaning?
I think age differ of @13-14yr is quite acceptable and common nowadays, in order to reduce the age gap maybe I should look for opportunity to sian her sister who is 22yr old (kekekeke, just kidding)
Ans 1: High chance give up eventually with/without her, but not at the moment.
Ans 2: Not a big concern. They will let me decide on my own
Ans 3: Not a question of whether able or not, but more of willing to adapt to it or not.
Ans 4: That is a Big Concern and big Question Mark.
Ans 5: Need not give up, by staying there and apply for PR should be good enough.
Ans 6: That is a very unlikely scenario, but if that is really the case, I will be happy to accept it willing cos that will be the Best scenario. Just have to work harder.
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Originally Posted by
et911
You liddat say I old goot meh?? so many millions china gal to one singapore guy.
If you really want to settle down, I am sure there are more options available.. and you are not that OLD lah!
Aiya, never say u old lah, didn’t u see I use the word ‘senior’, it is my respect for u.
No doubt there are million china girl around for us to choose,
不过我就是屁股痒, 学人找’X’ factor
, ended up me also don’t know how to define it. Million minus off those without ‘X’ factor, only left a handful, minus those already married, now I also dont left how many. Haiiiii
But dont worry, I will not rush into anything, that why I giving myself 5 month period to decide.
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Originally Posted by
sexlover
Bro, your this word ‘paedophile’ is too chim for me to understand, I check the dictionary also cannot find, care to share what is the meaning?
paedophile
n : an adult who is sexually attracted to children [syn: pedophile]
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Originally Posted by
hothandlebar
paedophile
n : an adult who is sexually attracted to children [syn: pedophile]
Wah Lau, me not that bad lah, havent reach the level of Michael Jackson yet.
Actually 20yr old not consider a child already, no doubt in the eye of parent u will be forever be a child even when u are 40yr old.
I ever ask her how she going to celebrate coming 21st birthday, she said nothing special about that. In China, she say the Special BD is actually on 18th or 20th (Cant remember). I think Should be 18th, cos of all those old saying
女大十八变 and 十八的姑娘一朵花
. The girl are basically consider young adult when reach that special BD, in fact for 18/20yr old girl, their maturity (I mean thinking and not other thing)level is as good as Spore girl at 25yr old cos of the enviroment and culture they are in.