Very lovely story. Hv u tot of visiting her in Shan Dong?
I guess the “defender” is worried that u might b just one of those rich foreign guys who just want to take advantage than to be serious in the relationship. News about PRC gals who kanna cheat and abused by those foreign guys might be common in China. Of course, like our parents, they wont want any mishap to happen on their children. All parents want or do things that are in the interests of their children.
U hv to ask urself whether Xiao Xue is the one whom u want to spend the rest of your life with? R u sincere in wanting this relationship, not ONS or fling, but serious relationship? If so, I think u will noe what to do next.
Going to ShanDong is a gd way to prove that u r serious abt Xiao Xue.
Likewise, if u still not certain, no point hurting another good girl.
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sexlover
And last night 30th Apr 2005 something bad happen…..
phew…i tot really got something bad happened. dun worry bro….you qing ren eventually will zhong chen juan shu…i giv u my warmest wishes…
Thank all bro for your support and encouragements, really appreciated that.
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Sure2C
If I m u, I’ll pay her a visit. Use my sincerity to convince her defender tat the r/s btw both of u r clean, no hanky panky.
Though hv to be prepare for the worst of being reject by her parents.
In fact I was thinking about doing it, but at time I feel it may be too early for me to give such a big commitment. Actually I am not afraid to be rejected by her parent at the moment, what I am more concern is will she reject me.
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blue_swatch
Fight for your own future. Love have no boundaries, if you think she is the one you should go for it
Thank for the encouragement.
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i’mscrewed
Very romantic story indeed…Feels like watching a reality TV show cos you are narrating the story as it happens to you. Sounds like Xue is a nice girl too. I hope its not some sort of elaborate scam by her friends and she. Anyway, do try your best man! Sounds like you got something going! Wish you all the best man, and do keep us posted okay!
Yes, everything indeed unfold itself just like what we always see in the movie, even I feel it like the movie. And the date met one another is like a Joke too cos it happen to fall on the April Fool Day. I hope it is not a scam too, but looking at the event which happen, it seem very unlikely, but will wait and see what ‘Xin’ have to say when she get back to me.
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flyguy
is this your first or first few times travelling to China? Well, juz be real objective abt this girl or for that matter any prc girls. yes there are some supposedly real true “love” - but in most cases, the guy always “perceived” that the prc girl is “not like that etc”. This is very important for those beginners who are in china as i have seen even some of my experienced friends went down bec of prc girls - mainly due to the fact that s’pore girls or rather girls back home - do not pamper or seems to be pampering you.
Just be careful and give it more time as it is obviously too soon now to draw any conclusion - in fact even time may not be able to tell you if its right or wrong. Its whether one can still hold and have a better “instinct”. The wrong bet will be a very costly one and not just in monetary terms.
Yes this is my first trip there, like what u just of all those cases, that is also partially the reason for holding me back not to go to visit her at the moment. Will wait and see first then decide.
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saint_1979
Very lovely story. Hv u tot of visiting her in Shan Dong?
I guess the “defender” is worried that u might b just one of those rich foreign guys who just want to take advantage than to be serious in the relationship. News about PRC gals who kanna cheat and abused by those foreign guys might be common in China. Of course, like our parents, they wont want any mishap to happen on their children. All parents want or do things that are in the interests of their children.
U hv to ask urself whether Xiao Xue is the one whom u want to spend the rest of your life with? R u sincere in wanting this relationship, not ONS or fling, but serious relationship? If so, I think u will noe what to do next.
Going to ShanDong is a gd way to prove that u r serious abt Xiao Xue.
Likewise, if u still not certain, no point hurting another good girl.
Indeed it is a very lovely story, I would say that the cool and freezing weather really play a big role in setting up such a nice outing for me, U have to be there to really feel it. Looking at those trees there all very ‘botak’ cos winter just over, small greenish sprout just starting to grow. Really a romantic setting.
In fact, I don’t really blame the defender for her doing, cos she don’t know me and my true intention, only time will tell.
On whether Xiao Xue is the one whom I want to spend the rest of my life with? Seriously speaking, if everything is not a scam, I will consider her, cos she is a really very nice and sweet girl in my eyes, she just have the ‘X’ factor in my dictionary which even I cant explain, but as I said, only time will tell.
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zeus
phew…i tot really got something bad happened. dun worry bro….you qing ren eventually will zhong chen juan shu…i giv u my warmest wishes…
It really sound very bad when the defender relay the message to me, she say Xiao Xue now ‘ban shi’ (half dead). Hope for the best. Now still waiting for news from ‘Xin’
Actually I am considering going to visit her during her birthday in Oct, but it will only happen if I manage to get positive feedback of her feeling toward me from ‘Xin’. I will also try to get in touch with ‘Tian Tian’.
If two of them give me positive feedback, I will definitely make the trip there and with assistance of them give Xiao Xue a big surprise. kekeke
if u think she worth it, juz go for it.. my best wishest to u , n also its seems like xiao xue is also a good gal..
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VirgoJas
if u think she worth it, juz go for it.. my best wishest to u , n also its seems like xiao xue is also a good gal..
Thank, I will go for it if the feedback is positive. As i mention in the story, I only know she ’like’ me, and not she ’love’ me. Like and love do differ, but there is no doubt that ’like’ may develop into ’love’, and it takes time to develop. Now with a defender around, it may hamper the development. I dont want to waste my trip there aimlessly, and also time is a big constraint. Must really be sure then I will make my trip there.
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sexlover
Thank all bro for your support and encouragements, really appreciated that.
Yes, everything indeed unfold itself just like what we always see in the movie, even I feel it like the movie. it seem very unlikely, but will wait and see what ‘Xin’ have to say when she get back to me.
Actually I am considering going to visit her during her birthday in Oct, I will definitely make the trip there and with assistance of them give Xiao Xue a big surprise. kekeke
Thanks for taking the trouble to reply to everyone’s replies. That’s a nice touch. Anyway, the surprise is a good idea as it can be a recon (reconnaissance) mission too. If you had decided to visit her in Oct, then things would probably have developed in your favour. Before you take the plunge, valuable information uncovered from a reconnaissance will set your heart at ease too. So in my opinion, you should not tell anyone about your plans to visit her in October. Go and observe and just do a little research before you show yourself.
Good luck!!
my gfs mum also scolded me when i called her and slammed my phone when i called her way back when i was goin after her. the parents couldnt accept me but now they have started to accept me and talks to me even! the only thing which will be stressful is when we both have arguments when she is in shanghai and i am in singapore.
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i’mscrewed
Thanks for taking the trouble to reply to everyone’s replies. That’s a nice touch. Anyway, the surprise is a good idea as it can be a recon (reconnaissance) mission too. If you had decided to visit her in Oct, then things would probably have developed in your favour. Before you take the plunge, valuable information uncovered from a reconnaissance will set your heart at ease too. So in my opinion, you should not tell anyone about your plans to visit her in October. Go and observe and just do a little research before you show yourself.
Good luck!!
Yup, u are right, so far I also havent told ‘Xin’ about my birthday trip intention yet, I only ask her to keep me update on Xiao Xue.
…..my advise, go to shandong for a short trip to see her…. without the romantic snow and cold weather….. and maybe even bring her for a holiday in singapore….
pardon me for saying, but u might be suffering from the ‘foreign land’ syndrome in which you unconsciously put yourself in a ‘role’ in a love story.
Being in love in real life in Singapore/Beijing hot sweaty summer, with work pressures, bills to pay, seeing each other day in day out etc etc is very different from the romantic version you just described (you had met her face to face 2 times right?)
Sorry if i seem to throw cold water on the situation. Who knows? it might be real and true love…..or it might be just one sweet dream we want to keep alive for as long as possible.
Only way to find out is to see each other again and take the risk.
Despite the cold water treatment, my advise would be to go for it and see what happens…… you dont want to end up not following up and 20/30 years later still sitting there…..wondering what would have happened if only…..
Sure, you might end up paying ’tuition fees’ emotionally and/or financially but hey…….. that’s life……. if you not willing to put in your tuition fees then just drop it and forget it. If I in your shoes and still single and young, I will do it…….. money lost can always earn back, heart broken is part of growing up.
‘better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all’
best of luck!
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sexlover
Thank, I will go for it if the feedback is positive. .
if the feedback is positive????? you mean that we SAMSTERS decide your fate????? guy, what if we all tell you to forget her and move on ????
and if it dont work out??? we are to be the guilty ones to blame?
i truly think the answer lies not with us but in YOUR OWN HEART!!!!!
u can only do THAT MUCH research on love with PRC girls here and in other forums ….. and do take a 50% discount on whatever we (and me) says