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Originally Posted by
Sex Pistol
I think you are one of those ppl who really put an effort to master the thai langauge,kudos to u!. Personally I had been staying in LOS for quite sometime and I feel that it’s good that if u can converse, read and write in thai but frankly speaking I think there not so much advantages even you can do all the above when you settle down in LOS. For you to totally understand the thai culture, you will have to sacrifice a lot of time and effort and also sometimes through learning valuable lessons. I also can speak and read but not writing but I see no reasons the thai doing a favour to me by giving more business to me. No matter how good are we are disguising ourselves, afterall we are still singaporeans.
No offence to u:
I had read through your stories and I admired your persistance towards your LDTR. After so much posts and talk, you said that you’re planning to settle down in LOS in future, it’s good to master the langauge but do you know what is the real preparation that is the most important? Let me give my 2 cents worth, if the lau jiaos here think that I’m wrong please zap me all you can, if it’s gam tya u can also up me!
FINANCIAL AND CAREER STABLITY
Sorry to be a bit crude as I would like to see u here 1 day but with all the talk here, there’s no way u will be able to end up here 1 day even you can read, write and speak like a native speaker cos staying in LOS is not like a piece of cake and I experienced it first hand and if I can, I wish I could turn back the clock to have more preparation before I’m here. Without the 2 points above, I can say whoever wants to settle in anywhere overseas also cannot survive. As for the culture part, no need to worry too much as you will learn as time passes by when you are here.
I know that I had been too crude over my post but I sincerely hope that your r/s can work out and maybe see you here in future. I just here to comment the truth but not to engage in flame war so I hope you dun take it too hard!
No, ur post is certainly not offensive and your are damn right.
FINANCIAL AND CAREER STABLITY
is not only important, it is the most important. For w/o that, going any where (even in SG) is an issue,. not just in Thailand alone. Immigration is always accompanied by a host of related problems. Jsut because I dun talked about it in this thread doesn’t mean I dun consider it or I am just going uo there armed with only the ability to speak, read and write thai, and expect things to fall in place. I got to utterly mad to do that. For me, learning the language is but one of the 1st steps I am taking to prepare myself, and certainly not the only thing I do.
All I am saying that it has already benefitted me and benefits are measured in many ways, not just economically. It is amazing how ppl put words into my mouth cause they choose to see only a certain pespective of the overall that i refer to, and then blame me for saying what they chose to read. Sigh, guess this is the intolerant society we live in today. Life goes on and I shall endeavour to continually enlarge my world view each day.
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Originally Posted by
airbrush
…to speak a foreign language..take a year but you do it everyday….to write a foreign language take 3 years…you do it everyday…to understand speak and write foreign language take 5 years or more….
Yes, I do it everyday, no actually a few times a day. And I count my blessings each and every time I could do it.
Two nice smses I’d like to share cos I know a brother is waiting for it:
Me SMS:
ถ้า คุณ เป็น ดวงเดือน ผม ก็ อยากจะ กลาย เป็น ดวงดาว แล้ว ได้ หวิด กับ คุณ ให้ คุณ สุข ใจ
tâa kun bpən duang dʉan pŏm gɔ̂ɔ yàak jà glăai bpən duang daao lɛ́ɛw dâai wìt gàp kun hâi kun sùk jai
If you are the moon, let me be the stars that I may be near you & give you happiness
Her Reply:
หาก คุณ เป็น ดวงอาทิตย์ ฉัน จะเป็น ท้องฟ้า ได้ เจอ ดวงอาทิตย์ ทุกวัน
hàak kun bpən duang aa-tít chăn jà bpən tɔ́ɔng fáa dâai jəə duang aa-tít túk wan
If you are the sun, I will be the sky that I may see you everyday
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Originally Posted by
OceanEleven
Hoi, copy right fees hor, remember to pay up later.
Eer.. good idea, cos by now I see ROI liao. Just fees from u alone, can buy 1 cow oredi or start build my 3-storey thingy liao, kekeke
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bkkguy
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Originally Posted by
free
All I am saying that it has already benefitted me and benefits are measured in many ways, not just economically. It is amazing how ppl put words into my mouth cause they choose to see only a certain pespective of the overall that i refer to, and then blame me for saying what they chose to read. Sigh, guess this is the intolerant society we live in today. Life goes on and I shall endeavour to continually enlarge my world view each day.
I think you finally attainted ’enlightenment'.
Words from wise man.
Finally? Well u never asked!
The reason why I dun talked about
FINANCIAL AND CAREER STABLITY
is cos they are so basic and fundamental I dun even feel they need to be mentioned. That u assumed I dun think about these and shot off your hip without even giving me a chance to tell u that I had actually thought much about them, and even worked on my options (still WIP). Kind of makes me wonder what were your objectives in posting thing in the manner you did. Perhaps you are concerned (and if so I thank you from the depths of my heart) cos there are a lot of ppl who just go up to LOS with a knapsack on their back, just to be their gals forever? If so, that “forever” wouldn’t last very long, would it? Man cannot live on Love & Air alone that’s for sure/ And neither can the Woman
I tend think if these idealists exist at all, they have to be in very small numbers. Any bros here did that? care to share?
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Originally Posted by
Bangkok Master
I do know somebody who actually did that and now still staying in LOS. I truly respect his courage for doing that but not on the “pii chai” part relying on the girl. It’s not a good thing to eat soft rice and I always thought Singaporeans got backbone but each has it’s own preferences.
I know of one case where it mades me sick inside. I dun know him personally but he is the tirak of a good friend of my beloved. He was dependent on her even when she was FLing in SG with 5 months pregnancy! How can he!
Today that innocent baby
(Pic of my tirak carrying her when we visited)
is now a few months old, but the dad has not only never assumed his responsibities, but is somewhere in Khon Kaen and has not seen his tirak for months. Nor did he pay his baby even visit, Still can call her to ask for money. Yet she still loves him! Guess who is feeding this woman and her 3 young gals? Her 50+yr old mother, a retired teacher! She speaks very good english! Our hearts goes to her, really.
Gives me an idea how big a mess a TG can get heslef into.
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Originally Posted by
siamcutey
This is karma on the girl’s part. She can blame no one but herself. Not say I am hard-hearted. There are more people out there in the world who need more pity and sympathy than these girls. And there are more worst off cases than what you see. Of course your judgement will have swayed in a way or another as you said the girl is a good friend of your tirak.
She chose the man. She love the man. She chose to have the baby. She chose to give birth to the child. She chose to support the man. She chose to make her mother suffer to support her baby. All this can be avoided if she made a correct decision. No pun intended.
What goes around turns around. We con the girl’s feelings, one day a girl will con us back. The girl con our feelings, one day other men will con her back. KARMA!!!
SC
Guess you are kinder than me, You said it is Karma, I said it is Stupidity, That is what I told my tirak and then to her friend straight in her face, In front of her mother. We passed her some money and next thing I know, she asked my tirak to help contact her bf. I said to her “I am sorry, this money is for your baby. If you want to pass it to your bf, I think your mother can do better things with it. The mum thanked me. And my tirak did not help her to do any hunting.
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Originally Posted by
sacs
พี่ Free…..
ตอนนี้ผมเขียนภาษาไทยแล้ว! ฮ่าฮ่าฮ่า!! มีความสุขมากมาก. ขอบคุณ ครับ. เขียนภาษาไทยให้ที่รัก.
เดี๋ยวก็เขียนภาษาไทยเก่งแล้ว
เก่งจังเลย
พีฟรีดีใจ มากและภูมิใจจริงๆ อยากจะขอให้คุณ2คนอยู่ที่สำเร็จ อย่าลืมนะต้องให้ที่รักของคุณโอกาสทำให้คุณมั่น ใจ แล้วก็อย่าคิดมากเพราะว่าไม่มีประโยชน์เลย
ผมอยากบอกให้ เดินทางของน้องแคนจะเรียบร้อยแล้ว อิกไม่นานเขาจะแต่งงานกับที่รัก พีก็ดีใจช่วยเขาได้
พีฟรีอยากจะขอให้คุณโชคดีนะครับ
P.s. So this is why u were looking for the key to type the ’ character as in
ฮ่าฮ่าฮ่า
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Originally Posted by
free
Guess you are kinder than me, You said it is Karma, I said it is Stupidity, That is what I told my tirak and then to her friend straight in her face, In front of her mother. We passed her some money and next thing I know, she asked my tirak to help contact her bf. I said to her “I am sorry, this money is for your baby. If you want to pass it to your bf, I think your mother can do better things with it. The mum thanked me. And my tirak did not help her to do any hunting.
By the way, I better clarify, our sympathy was not for her friend. Rather it was for the mother who had to bear the burden of her daughter’s mindless actions. She is desparately trying to convince her daughter to get herself sterilised now as she cannot take the strain of another baby.
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Originally Posted by
free
Guess who is feeding this woman and her 3 young gals? Her 50+yr old mother, a retired teacher! She speaks very good english! Our hearts goes to her, really.
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Originally Posted by
Nesferatu
Bro Free
May I know how u get to Phayao? I also got a Thai gal in that region & I plan to visit her there. Fly to Chiangmai then find my way up or fly to Chiangrai then find my way down?
She’s someware around Mae Chai district.
Thks, man
Vamp
Easiest way is to fly to chiangrai, rent a car at CEI airport and drive to Phayao, Turn left on the Airport exit (right goes to MaeSai) and follow the road straight all the way. This the highway (A2 Superhighway I think they call it) that leads to Phayao.
Best to ask her to meet you at CEI airport. If you need contact for car rental, let me know, I normally rent at the airport from the National Car Rental (aka SMT) cos we know each other well by now and they give me discounted rates. Yet to fail me so far. And their docs are also in English so u wont get cheated.
P.S. if she doesn;t have a driving licence {kap mai dai} (even if she can drive {kap bpen}), be careful when driving inter-province cos of police checks. Once in Phayao
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Originally Posted by
williamangkh
Very interesting thread indeed.
Make me think back of my past in 2001 & 2002…..
But i finally come to term and go back to my wife in Singapore.
My personal view :"
“forbidden fruit is always exciting and fun but reality is practical”
““Have fun outside but never bring it home”
My two cents worth!!!
Cheers!
To be fair to others reading this thread and have no idea who you are nor background, perhaps you could at least give us some idea about how u met your tirak/wife/mia noi/?? and what was she doing before and after 2 met? And what did you do (or not do) to try to make the r/s work? Were u 2 married or planning to marry over there?
What u wrote above serves to help nobody except tell us u had a bad experience. Many ppl have bad experiences with the other sex and it happened everywhere, including right here.
Thanks and appreciate your elaboration here