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Now that acquaintance does not want to return it, giving the excuse she has given it away. Film thinks she likes her rabbit and wants to keep it for herslf cos it is really very pretty. Such is the ugly phenonmenon associatied with some Thais. How can one give away what does not belong to her, without giving even a call to the rightful owner? What sort of a reason is that? Pure Greed and simply ugly behavior !
This is one of the reason that you can’t trust a thai 100%, to them it’s normal not to return and give some crap reasons for that. My gf also lost 1 hp after borrowing it to her friend and the fucking hp was one of my spare phones. The reason she gave was she accidentally misplaced it somewhere, WTF, you lost someone’s belongings and never reimburse back nevermind, CCB never even apologise for losing it! I just blew my top and asked her to fucked off. You see most of the thais will think that if their friends or siblings have foreign tirak, they will tend to take advantage of these kind of situations. The most common is borrowing $, I encounter numerous occasion from my gf’s friends approaching to ask for a loan and I told my gf straight to the point if you want to borrow them that’s your decision, I would not be interferring it regardless whether you get it back or not. I think must always set things straight to the point to prevent them from “Kit Biow”(thinking tricks).
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free
The Day My Sweetheart Cried & Cried
Last Friday evening, got a call from her at an “abnormal” time. She was crying! And sounded like she has been crying for a while.
Before she left for her granny’s home in Phrae before Songkran, she handed over her pet rabbit to an acquaintance who said she does not mind taking care of it since she already has one. Upon Film’s return to BKK, she went to collect her rabbit
Now that acquaintance does not want to return it, giving the excuse she has given it away.
NBzzz, now even rabbit story also want to post here ah? You run out of story to tell or what? KNN, your Film not 5 years old girl lah…. lose one rabbit cry and call you.
KNN, for all you know the neighbour already cook the rabbit and eat it but bluff say gave away. BTW, rabbit meat damn nice leh… I like.
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thaivisitor
BTW, rabbit meat damn nice leh… I like.
and i thought it was a giant chicken drumstick dat tasted extra delicious
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Bangkok Master
This is one of the reason that you can’t trust a thai 100%,
to them it’s normal not to return and give some crap reasons for that.
Ya lor,…. psst! you think film may be bluffing?
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oxilary
and i thought it was a giant chicken drumstick dat tasted extra delicious
Yes, it does taste like chicken
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thaivisitor
NBzzz, now even rabbit story also want to post here ah? You run out of story to tell or what? KNN, your Film not 5 years old girl lah…. lose one rabbit cry and call you.
KNN, for all you know the neighbour already cook the rabbit and eat it but bluff say gave away. BTW, rabbit meat damn nice leh… I like.
Have you ever heard of advice given by relationship gurus (mostly western) to observe how someone behaves pertaining to their pets to have an idea of what kind of emotional bonds the person can build with another?
If she had tidak apa after taking care of that rabbit since it was a tiny baby, I would have been concerned. It would mean she is the easily Dtat Jai type. Especially when the rabbit is close enough to her to respond to her voice and actually goes to her when she calls its name, even if it at another corner of the room or even the nextm room. I tried calling “Yoyo” too, but it ignored me completely
KNN.
Actually those gurus were talking about pet dogs but Film did not want to have a dog as yet cos it cost more to maintain it. In fact she rejected the possibility of a puppy again tonite cos she knows it simply will mean an additional financial load on us.
Guess you come across to me as a man where a rabbit is just yet another animal, (can u eat your own pet?) and if it’s gone can be replaced by another. But in reality (at least for me & I know now for Fim too), once we formed a bond with a pet, it becomes irreplaceable (will not be a 100% substitution). Shit, I ever remembered my pet Moray eel I had 16 years ago! Not to mention my pet dog which died a long time.
And there are the other things that resulted, our exchange of words that meant a lot to us, cos both of us are romantics. Perhaps for u, it may be but a waste of time and energy, but for us, there are the essence that kept us going & the r/s alive.
That’s why there was no way Rain and I would have made it, even if we really forced ourselves.
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thaivisitor
Ya lor,…. psst! you think film may be bluffing?
KNN, you Jing reu Bplaao. Cannot understand what bro BM wrote meh?Obviously trying to poke at me again issit? No worry, I Jai yen yen one
Bro Free ~ You have my envy man… seems like a profound understanding of thai has certainly helped you n Film communicate so much beta n dearer! She can sms u in thai ah? Interesting….
Well, it’s becoz Film treats bro Free as a real tirak mah… She wants n hopes 2 share everytink in her life wif him.. b it sad, or happy moments 2gether… n i feel tt is so nice n romantic! ~ Esp. in LDR, since we often cant c 1 another, we cant realli b there 2 console n comfort… Hence a few comforting words from Bro Free made Film just happy…
IMHO, i feel itz kind of Bro Free 2 share his stories wif us… Reagrding d issue of fully trusting a Thai, i feel itz more on a personal note.. depends on the person oso bah ~ Cant 1 pole kill all men on boat oso rite? keke
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Bro Free,
Coming back to this paragragh of your post, I would not agree totally with your views. And I also don’t agree that the Thais will “open up” to a foreigner who can read and write Thai more than to those who could not. Thais or for that matter anyone, who opens up to another person, does not based that on the academic ability or whatever. Trust is a matter of the “heart” and “senses”. Being able to read, write or speak Thai does not put a person at an advantage in getting trusted more than a person who could not.
I don’t read or write Thai, and my spoken Thai still have a lot to go before I can even converse fully in thai. Even before I can speak 10 Thai words, I can say I already have a good understanding of the Thai Culture and til today, I don’t even converse with my wife in Thai. So does that put you in a better position to understand the Thais and their culture better than me?.
I put myself in a position if I could read, write and speak Thai fluently like a Thai, I still cannot find any advantage it will put me into, be in in business, personal, or whatever.
I dun doubt what you say and I never have. But do think about what if you can do what you do now, and then still be able do speak, read and write Thai like any other tha (ok ok granted not as good lah but ok enough), wouldn’t your life be the richer for it? U can read all that you want to read out there in the original thai text, not somebody’s edited and interpreted version. Not being able to speak/read/write Thais is not a shame, but you would accept that to able to do so, has to be an additonal advantage, surely? Wouldn’t you agree with me? Why stop our learning process when the road ahead is obviously lined with more and better things to come? The human mind is capable of much more.
I never think in terms of we can have only A or B. I ask why can’t we have A & B as well? Also, perhaps the people I talked to are seasoned netizens with a penchant for promoting Thailand and the Thai culture. Some of them are not even Thais but what they know might even embarass some apathetic thais. U probably know by now Internet geeks tend to share more and are also more open.
Lastly I am not saying that being able to speak read and write Thai will make that same person I am talking to, open up to me more and therefore tell me more, cos he wouldn’t. I am saying that when this guy can’t, I now have available to me a larger pool of thai friends and documented resources the world over who will tell me what I needed to know.
Plus when I meet established foreigners (from Japanese to Belgiums) living inside/outside LOS sharing the same idea, I feel that I am not on a path all alone my own and I certainly hope more bros here can join us on this exciting journey.
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Seriously I do not think it has any advatage for me if I can read or write thai.
I know it won’t get me a better job as no companies employ foreigners because of the ability to read/write thai but rather on certain expertise that they could not find in Thailand (they can find 65 million people who can read/write thai).
I don’t think it can get me better girls as the girls don’t really care whether you can read/write thai. They care more for the amount of security you can provide for them.
I don’t think the Thais will look up to me at a higher level as more often than not, my collegues, friends, etc prefers to me have a translator next to me whenever I have official discussions, etc as it gives the other party a very different impression than if I speaks on my own in Thai, or read and write everything rather than the translator checked every document in front of them for me.
My brother speaks “Kang” “Nua” and “Yisan” perfectly that he could easily pose as a thai and you wouldn’t even know the difference. Even the Thais wouldn’t know so they thought of him as a Thai. Heck, I wouldn’t want that to happen to me. I Would want Thais to know I’m a foreigner.
My sister reads and writes Thai better than you (I don’t even have to check) and she also acts as an official translator during her 3 years term in the SG embassy in Bangkok. And as she said, picture this " Do you prefer to be the translator or do you prefer someone translating for you when you are in an offical meeting?" Who calls the shots?
As for being able to communicate online with Thais, etc… These are unimportant things and it doesn’t really help a person in life.
Like I said, I do not find it any advantage if I were to be able to read/write Thai.
You are who you are and I am who I am. The way we measure benefit and advantages are obviously very different; not only we use different yardsticks, we even defined “benefits/advantages” so differently. I don;t always looked at things in Economics terms, which u did in your above analogies. Most of what I do with my Thai are for my personal life. If I am in an official meeting, of course I will let the translator do his/her job for my function is not to be a translator. But I wouldnt be dragging some one along if I am say renting a car or signing some personal documents.
And reading information on my own to satisfy my own desire for knowledge (not necessarily economic), my knowledge helps me to do today waht I could not do last year. You are still very “Singaporean” (kekeke) and that is perfectly OK. I myself never quite behave nor think like one, and LOS is but one of the options I have been thinking about for a long time. Of course having a thai tirak is a major reason why I finally chose LOS over other Western options, even though economically I may not do as well in LOS, as my strongest skills are not so much in demand there. But nevertheless it is a choice I made.
Some food for thought, 2 nights ago, I had privy to 2 letters in Thai written by 2 TGs to their SG Bfs. One asked her bf “What is love to you? Is it,,….” and another “What is happiness? Is it worldly possessions? Is it …..”. I am sure your answers will be different from mine. Not right, wrong, better or worse, jsut different. What matters is you believe in your answers and you seek to make them real to you. So do I for my answers…..