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Originally Posted by
waypastprime
No need. Just go one less trip of your many silent mobs. More than enough liao.
U mean save 1 bonk on of of his trips?
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Originally Posted by
Wannabeone
Personally, i dun think its a Myth. It can be a reality. A lot will be dependent on the amount of vitamin ‘M’ that you have. You have to see her ‘physically’ as in that your guys must spend time together…..and then move on from there…..eventually, one of you must make the decision of moving to the other. If not, why waste the time and effort in maintaining a long distance. It is emotionally and mentally very challenging if one do so….just my 2 cents opinion!
Well Vitamin M is always needed in any BGR. Either we kena’ed by the local gal here when we go shopping, or we spend less on shopping there and more in Budget airfare and low-cost hotels.
Agree that after all is said and done (marriage or a similar arrangement, that is), the 2 should stay together for it to continue to work out. Who goes where is not the issue. Else, tough.
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Originally Posted by
waypastprime
No need. Just go one less trip of your many silent mobs. More than enough liao.
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Originally Posted by
free
U mean save 1 bonk on of of his trips?
I will remember 1 ..
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Originally Posted by
DNAT
I will remember 1 ..
Dont remember too long. Btw, your walls are full of scribbles (Ji pak pia).
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Originally Posted by
STUD100
Hi, i got a thai gal fren to keep in touch. Basically thru SMS. But im tired of typing so many words at a go. IS there any gd calling cards with many mins of calling time to intro? I also need a JB or KL calling card but i duno which one to go for? Wud like to hear more about it. Coments n advice r welcome. (Is starhub 018 svc a gd one to call thai or malaysia?)
What exactly are u trying to say? Are u saying u prefer to call coz you find typing sms too tedious? And u sms in thai or english? Can consider buying a smart hp. I’ve used a PalmOne Treo600 before and it allows me to cut and paste sms from memos (text) files. In Thai as well thiough got to buy the add-on.
Not sure about calling Malaysia but I think Starhub 018 still gives the best deal for LOS. Even then, still a fair bit of money a month, if u call often like I do. I expect my bills to drop by at leat half though, now that I call only my tirak.
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Originally Posted by
STUD100
Hi, i got a thai gal fren to keep in touch. Basically thru SMS. But im tired of typing so many words at a go. IS there any gd calling cards with many mins of calling time to intro? I also need a JB or KL calling card but i duno which one to go for? Wud like to hear more about it. Coments n advice r welcome. (Is starhub 018 svc a gd one to call thai or malaysia?)
The last time I came back to Sg for CNY, my friend recommanded me to buy this calling card named “SAWASDEE”. You can get it from any shops along in GL not sure available in other places cos I got in GL. It cost S$8.50 and you can talk up to 100 minutes. It’s one of the best budget calling card according to my friend as he needs to call his tirak everyday so I guess you can try on that.
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Bangkok Master
The last time I came back to Sg for CNY, my friend recommanded me to buy this calling card named “SAWASDEE”. You can get it from any shops along in GL not sure available in other places cos I got in GL. It cost S$8.50 and you can talk up to 100 minutes. It’s one of the best budget calling card according to my friend as he needs to call his tirak everyday so I guess you can try on that.
Tried that. Line wasnt that good then’, but still can accept. But we gotta understand all these “wonderful” pricesn dun matter if we are calling her on a mobile phone. Only good for fixed line and in BKK only. Many ppl in LOS dun have a fixed line at home. They rely on mobile instead. My tirak and all her friends/sisters do that. Even her mum in the countryside. Think same for PRC too??
I think Singtel Hello card still quite ok, provided one uses a fixed line phone to call the toll free 1800 number (15c/min). If use hp to call, expensive cos must add the mobile charge. But then since Starhub 018 also at 15c/min using my mobile, I used that exclusively.
There is a BCT phone system available in BKK - works/looks like a hp but charge at fixed line rate. If you must call that often and yr tirak or frd dun mind carrying another handset, it’s quite feasible. Then calling cards will begin to make sense.
If any bro has a more cost effective approach, pray share. Money to teh telecoms company can definitely be put to better use.
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free
Her own father is the one who wanted her to marry a rich frinnd’s son - for his own selfish benefit (gain the guy’s favor).
Another case of traditional thai family antics trying to force marriage for monetary purposes, luckily your gf is still able mantain her stand, if not she will be just be one of the many who sacrifices for the family.
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free
I must admit I was surprised by her daring to tell her father all these, plus she also complained to her mother and grandmother about what the dad did. They called up the father to give him a piece of their mind. Apparently the quarrel got quite big, and the step father actually warned the father never to do this to “my daughter” again. Step father sees her as his own. Her mum was still upset when we talked about that incident while I was visiting her.
Apparently I think your gf is already “Tit-Jai” towards you already if not because mostly thai girls would not spur the chances of marrying the rich so to secure their so called “Life time pension”.
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free
At this point she doesn’t want me to meet with her real dad, nor tell him much about how far we have progressed until she is sure he can’t create any more problems for us. In fact she doesn’t talk to him often nor intend to visit him for sometime to come. She also do not want to ask him for any financial support no matter how hard life becomes for her, cos he will expect to her obey him and do whatever he expects, as if she owes him an ROI. Kind of a shitty father she;s got.
This will be the only opposition party that I think you are going to face in her family although he had divorced the mum cos I think not matter what the thais will still have to inform the elderly that they are getting married or engagement. But nevertheless you had already got the green light from the mum and step-father so it would matter much.
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Bangkok Master
This will be the only opposition party that I think you are going to face in her family although he had divorced the mum cos I think not matter what the thais will still have to inform the elderly that they are getting married or engagement. But nevertheless you had already got the green light from the mum and step-father so it would matter much.
Actually according to her, the key person is her maternal Grandmother. Granny was really the one who brought her up, as mum already remarried for many years liao. This I already knew even before we fell in love with each other. That was why I said I would not feel that she is 100% with me until I see her granny face-to-face. I had thought she was initially not prepared for me to meet with her granny cos she is not yet 100% confirmed on me, and we had no plans to do so for this trip. So it was indeed a nice surprise when she suggested that I meet up with her granny all of a sudden, as I was driving us towards Phayao from Chiangrai airport.
Then it all became clear. Cos we had a rental car, she realise that there is a way to do a win-win (this gal does use her head). We could drive to her auntie’s house in Prae and I wait there while she go fetch her granny and the key people she wanted me to meet (7 in all) to come to the auntie’s house (30 mins drive to grannys village) apart. I found out later from granny’s gang that the real reason was that the neighbourhood in granny’s village is a bit hostile (unlike at her mum’s or auntie’s). There is are lot of neighbours engaging in “keeping up with the Joneses” and “who’s got a bigger house” wars, even if it means their daughters gotta sell their bodies to help their parents keep up. She dun want to put her granny’s family ‘(and ourselves) under pressure now, as we are not getting married that soon. Further we already have a plot of land next to granny’s under her name and ppl have been told it was bought by her tirak (me) for our future home. Once I show up, there will be pressure on us to start building our house. For us that house-to-be in Phrae has a lower priority then getting our biz and career in BKK (also housing) going first. We got the land now, and anything to be on it can wait until timing is right.
As for informing her real father, we will of course do that when the time is right. Tentatively the plan is for me to meet with him after next Songkran when I go visit granny’s home or before we get engaged whichever comes 1st. Maybe we still want to have an enagement (if our finances permit), cos of the anticipation of what “engaged-to-be-married” meant to these 2 die-hard romantics. Already we have our rings (plain gold only) on our left hands, but at certain places (which I completely accept, and it’s also with knowledge of mum and granny) she still got to change it to her right hand cos she is not married or engaged yet. They accept her wearing my ring on her left hand cos they can accept that she wears it as an expression of love for me, even though not married yet, but vicious neighbours will not bother to find out. For engagement, I will get her a nice but affordable diamond ring cos so many TGs dream of wearing a diamond engagement ring and she is of course no different.
I certainly appreciate what she has done for me - to remove my doubt that there could be something she still needs to hide from me that I cannot know. To know that all the relatives/friends at her mums already knew about us is one thing, To know that the same is true for her all important granny’s family members (even frds) is even more satisfying, cos she consider granny’s house as her true home. That was where her mum also lived before she remarried. So she knew that meeting with granny is very impt to me, though I do agree it is only right to meet mum 1st, and we did.
As for Dtit Jai, if you mean “ติด ใจ” as in “a heart that is adhered to , stuck on, addicted to, attached to, connected with”, I believe it is very mutual now. I’m stuck on her too
. Having said that, it is very comforting to know that she “fell in love” with me a few months before I even knew how she felt, inspite of her already knowing all the problems I had gone thru (since we are each other’s confidant). She is a love I never had to woo, but instead my heart responded to her love. Somehow, that provides a certain amount of assurance I never had with the rest. Today, I know the meaning of “when a thai woman loves a man, she really loves with all her heart”.
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free
…he is her step-father. He is also younger than her mum. He is damn fit of course, with the kind of work he is doing. Man of few words but I really like him. We actually can converse in Taiwanese Hokkien
, cos he worked there before coming back and then later marry her mum
BTW, I forgot to say that thru her step-father, I have come to appreciate that there are nice thai men (even of poor and not well educated) around too.
I had asked her mum how she met her husband and why he went to Taiwan to work (after we had build up a bond lah, else a bit personal). She told that he had a relative in her village in Phrae (where granny lives) and sometimes visits. His relative knows my tirak’s granny and he was introduced to the mum one day. He liked her and gradually fell in love with her (haha came to visit his relative very often, hehehe), even though she was a divorcee with a daughter. After about 1 year, he asked her to marry him and she agreed. Then he asked her if she is able to wait for him while he goes to Taiwan to work for 2 years and save enough money to come back to build their home, marry her and start a family. She agreed to wait and the rest is history.
Talking to my tirak’s mum definitely helped me to understand why she is much more open to the modern concept of love and courtship, compared to Dancer’s mum who was match-made. That is why she was able to tell my tirak to treasure my love and dun take me for granted (right in front of me!). I tell you, it is very nice have such an understanding mother-in-law-to-be.
As for her step-dad, I could hardly believe a shy and quiet man like him can be so determined and romantic, until I talked to him. Could see his eyes light up when he talks about going to work in Taiwan to earn/save money and about his wife and family and he see’s Film as his daughter. That is why I never worry about him abusing Film. He has never. If anything, Film said he is a much better father to her than her own dad.