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Originally Posted by
littlepok
actually i must admit i am very tempted but no answers to myself yet. the uncertainty also exist, like what queenie say, maybe must throw dignity and behave like clown (the type people laugh in tv shows, me included). the only redeeming factor is her family not in singapore.
also exist the possibility that i ditch the current one but end up with nothing with new one (concuss at both ends) and if that happen, maybe is called retribution.
bro, stick with your current one, as proven she can bear hardship with you and not complain at all. what if the new girl falls into a crisis? being a pampered lady as evident, not having taken a bus ride before. and the fact she is young and all, factor that in and it may seem like she is just out for some fun. perhaps your current goal in life is to strike it rich and get all the girls you ever wanted, but this is a huge gamble. unless you can brace yourself for the worst if your current gf finds out and leaves you for good. i suggest go with feelings, but more often than not. it is wiser to think with your head instead of following your feelings.
p/s maybe you can think about whether the young girl really does like you? what good points do you possess that makes you attractive towards her? as you said. a door-to-door comparison is needed, and you should know that there are many rich young male out there who looks good and are well educated, not putting you down but if you feel that you can match up with those guys. maybe this could be the once in a lifetime chance to strike it rich.
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Originally Posted by
queeniegal
Ha since my system down I’m free to type!!! Haha
IMO for china gals I saw rich ones or poor one mostly all got one trait if they are with SG guys. Good on bed.
No doubt there are good ones ard.
My bro wife also very rich. But my bro need to behave like a crowd infront of their parents.
As in my family not very well to do just average middle class Singaporean., he earning 5k ++ per mth drive a car that all.
Remember his wedding in shanghai was very grand but my bro behave differently everything listen to the wife. She said yes he nv said no.
Ya maybe other will feel he is good hubby but I feel is because after marriage his in law bought them a condo in shanghai and a car and help him pay the down payment for the house in SG.
Seriously I look down on my bro. Of course then again my sister in law always nv respect any of the family members.
My bro will said she is 娇生惯养 but is terrible rude. My bro even said his fil will be investing him on his biz.
TS if you think you can just become someone that don’t even have their own ego and pride then yes go ahead if you think the woman at your home done worth it.
And cfm I will look down on such man! I look down on my own bro outright. I told him 做人要有骨气.
Anw just my two cent worth of what happening on my family haha..
Have good consideration ba!
ouch…
dat sounds like my exact situation atm.. my stage is at just before marriage part now where i gotta make the decision real soon..
Bro i post this way la hor
You and currently - make and create together
You and Rich gal - She make and created u (you will end up owning her and you better never login in SBF again)
So you go think ba
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Originally Posted by
sonksonk
she so into u ah…hmm…are u the charming type?
if u are charming then maybe she really love u lor. but if u r not, then the odds against are increased. if u are charming , then u would find it easy to get gers.
i hav a cousin brought up in a normal family, but he very smart and charming, so he married a very rich ger. drive her bm before they married. now very happy together. but i must say first hor…he smart n charming…
if u also lidat , then go ahead n get the rich one. but the rich ger can work bo? rich also must work a little bit right.
the other gf still young right? can find another guy ma…maybe richer than u , then she also get a better life…heheh…
but b4 u do anything, u must discuss this with her first hor…cos…
i got 1 friend declared bankrupt, in debts, want to break up to free his gf but….. his gf dun want to leave him…when he mention break, she cried..waaahhh, very touching hor….they stuck it out…now also happily married.
so i think both ways also can work, but only u know the character which makes all the difference.
erm i will not classify myself as charming la. 10yrs ago maybe but now? haha… i suppose i talk with some brains la which she said attracted her. of course i do not believe 100% la.
my current gf close to 30 already and doesn’t have much friends. i sort of fear she cannot take it if it happens one day (i mean if. i have not decided yet. also still seeing how things progressed. quite status quo now, both does not know each other’s existence).
i think the rich girl cannot work de, live in those “catch butterflies” type of world u know what i mean? like fairytale type. of course there lies the possibility of her 1 day suddenly lose interest, tell u lose the “feel” already then is bang walls on both end.
now is like 1 stable relationship that barely make ends meet. as the saying goes 贫贱夫妻百事哀. she is actually earning more than me and i do not have much savings.
the other is like what some bro said, chicken become phoenix but the guilt of letting the first one down will cling on me forever. also got risk of rich girl losing the feel and for sure the first one will have given up on me. till then will be public enemy and 过街老鼠人人喊打 scumbag.
talking about her allowance, i think by their family thinking, it will be terminated if she gets married or if she get together with someone they don’t approve. maybe that’s when real real reality sets in and most prob she will not give up her lifestyle because of me into poverty state. as show on tv repeatedly… i voiced out to her this very practical concern but it seems she doesn’t mind. of course i do not believe 100% and it seems i mind. i mind her turning from princess to peasant, i will feel bad.
i also wonder if it is a moment of folly on my end, probably due to the mundane lifestyle with current gf and perpetual lack of $. met a princess and suddenly open my eyes to the 花花世界 and get very attracted to it, start to dream that 1 day i can be part of this higher society and what i can do for family, friends and the needy. ya i’m a charitable person with limited resources. nonetheless i still make it a point to donate every month. sound like a crap justification to turn to riches in the name of helping the needy haha…
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Originally Posted by
queeniegal
花无百日红。。。 hokkien
agree. and just to add also:
人无百日衰
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Originally Posted by
littlepok
just to share a secret that few years back i met a fortune teller who tell me some woman will come to me in a cart of gold (just a symbolic example) but i will have to let down my wife. back then i was like yayaya (1/2 believe) but when it really arise, still in deep shock.
TS, did u also ask your fortune teller will this gold cart be forever?
Senario could be this new rich love could just be a temporary relief for your current crap life, and upgrading to this heaven may or may not last. Possible changes may include after certain times she is sick of u, her rich family hit hard by possible financial downturn or watever. Will both of u still be together?
Stick with your current gf, not so many gals able to stick through thick and thin with their beloved nowadays. I know, cos i was once in your situation before and i am glad to have chosen the rite one.
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Originally Posted by
tuyet
TS, did u also ask your fortune teller will this gold cart be forever?
Senario could be this new rich love could just be a temporary relief for your current crap life, and upgrading to this heaven may or may not last. Possible changes may include after certain times she is sick of u, her rich family hit hard by possible financial downturn or watever. Will both of u still be together?
Stick with your current gf, not so many gals able to stick through thick and thin with their beloved nowadays. I know, cos i was once in your situation before and i am glad to have chosen the rite one.
i might be going back to look for the fortune teller one day when got more visibility.
one thing is her family confirm will not get poor one. just a matter whether she is sick of me.
bro i suggest you go do your bazi with one of the bro here and ask around for a fortune teller asap.
Next milk this girl asap for career advancement. Once done, dump her. The risk for you with her is significantly higher than the current wife to be. Always think about your losses. Think like a bastard selfish business man or a sniper in a battlefield looking for a prey.
Thing is: if you cant do this now, can you do it in future? Aka protect your family?
As what i’ve seen on tv drama, the thing in life is never forget or lose sight of your goal. Regardless of situation and methods, do what you must to achieve it.
Rich ppl never give up nor look back at their past mistakes. Anyway, i believe you’ll have more face if you’re able to build this wife to be into a princess. I bet sshe’ll be super grateful
What a drama in your life…
My thought is that sex should never determine your spouse. Sex will die down one day with the same girl. That’s why GL is never lacking in customers.
You can take the leap of faith and go ahead where the money trails lead. The new love is not proven and it might be your biggest bet in life.
Rich girl will usually find rich guys and Poor girl will also aim for the rich. Another thing is that SG girls cannot be left alone. They need company… Lotsa of it.
Guys working hard long hours for “our future” can be seen as “neglecting me” in ladies eyes. Long period of neglecting will lead to undesired consequences.. I myself experienced it.. Not once but twice.
If your lady is those kind that are very straight and innocent type.. Can consider settling down. 0.0001% chance to get those girls.
As for your rich lady, can consider her as FB. How long did you know her and managed to up her? If it’s so easy, there are no lack of handsome and charismatic guys in SG to up her as well. No hard feeling… Just my opinion
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Originally Posted by
easyeasy
U already had your own answer. What u want from us is justification for your action right. Live your own life not the life others want u to live. If u seriousy dumping your girlfriend for better prospect plesse compensate her in some manner
Well said indeed.
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Originally Posted by
littlepok
i think the rich girl cannot work de, live in those “catch butterflies” type of world u know what i mean? like fairytale type. of course there lies the possibility of her 1 day suddenly lose interest, tell u lose the “feel” already then is bang walls on both end.
dat’s why i said earlier she must be those ’ can work bo?’ type.
if she can work and carry her own sledge, u carry ur own load then no prob. but if she cannot work type and only depend on u, then u better think and reconsider four five times….
how long hav u known her…u two pak tor who pay?
but from ur description of her, like she cannot make it leh…too qian jin xiaojie le. does she do housework a lot. if she does, then still got hope. princess dun do house work one. u got to eyes open big big see for urself, we can’t help much, except to remind u about certain things nia.
or u can like my friend lidat, pretend pretend ask break up, see how she react.be prepared for her to cry.see whether u can take it.not just see if she can take it .
but my friend is not pretend one hor, he really prepared to break.