hi guys, just wanna get an opinion of the following scenario and how u will react. Hypothetical situation with some truth in it:
my gf was with me more than 3yrs and went through my crappiest moments with me (jobless for more than 1/2 year) and never complained about me being poor and unable to give her the better things in life. we just applied and gotten our BTO and plans to get engaged next year. Generally the relationship is fine except for occasional quarrels and squabbles. The sex is nothing to shout about as she is quite inexperienced and more of a dead fish syndrome.
I recently knew a rich girl and she expressed her interest in me. Due to her background I need to be door-meet-door standard before can meet her parents. She wants to help me establish a career before anything else. She currently do not know i am attached. She enjoy the best things in life (something i never came close before in my life) and want me bring her take a bus (never took 1 before). it is like 2 ends of the world.
somehow i got a feeling it is like 陈世美, desert wife and kids to marry the princess. It is hard to weigh between the 2.
the rich girl is prettier, younger and give a hell of sex. it’s like everything a guy needs all in 1 package that i wonder why she is interested in me.
assumption: the girl is really interested in me. i know she might be playing or what but seriously, what is my potential loss? sperms? might jeopardise current one though.
i don’t wanna let the current one down, especially giving me her best during my crappiest times. on the other hand, the other one is like instant lift to the best in life and out of my crap financial situation. seriously it is really very tempting (i don’t even drive a car now. refer to my “importance of cars” thread)
as a guy, what will fellow bros do? i always have this belief that IF i am rich 1 day, no matter how my wife looks like, i will give her everything because she deserve it, having stick with me through thick and thin. it is easy to find someone to go through good times with u but hard to find 1 for bad times. hence i might have ons and flings but know how to go home at the end of the day. but now, it is like sacrificing the one who go through thick and thin in order to get rich and power. super dilemma and tempted. sianz…
just for discussion sake, please don’t fry me hor. gum sia
U already had your own answer. What u want from us is justification for your action right. Live your own life not the life others want u to live. If u seriousy dumping your girlfriend for better prospect plesse compensate her in some manner
Seriously, how many girls in SG will go thru thick n thin with u? If u r going to weigh love = sex and money then shall not be further discussion. It would be advisable to come clean with the rich girl telling her u r attached n applied for BTO.
At most u will lose an opportunity of being successful this time round. But if things carry on further with deception, no one would know or guarantee what would eventually turn out.
Good luck
Ha since my system down I’m free to type!!! Haha
IMO for china gals I saw rich ones or poor one mostly all got one trait if they are with SG guys. Good on bed.
No doubt there are good ones ard.
My bro wife also very rich. But my bro need to behave like a crowd infront of their parents.
As in my family not very well to do just average middle class Singaporean., he earning 5k ++ per mth drive a car that all.
Remember his wedding in shanghai was very grand but my bro behave differently everything listen to the wife. She said yes he nv said no.
Ya maybe other will feel he is good hubby but I feel is because after marriage his in law bought them a condo in shanghai and a car and help him pay the down payment for the house in SG.
Seriously I look down on my bro. Of course then again my sister in law always nv respect any of the family members.
My bro will said she is 娇生惯养 but is terrible rude. My bro even said his fil will be investing him on his biz.
TS if you think you can just become someone that don’t even have their own ego and pride then yes go ahead if you think the woman at your home done worth it.
And cfm I will look down on such man! I look down on my own bro outright. I told him 做人要有骨气.
Anw just my two cent worth of what happening on my family haha..
Have good consideration ba!
Born poor or rich…. you cannot choose…
Marry rich or poor partner this one you can choose….
So exercise your rights carefully bro!! Good luck
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easyeasy
U already had your own answer. What u want from us is justification for your action right. Live your own life not the life others want u to live. If u seriousy dumping your girlfriend for better prospect plesse compensate her in some manner
actually i must admit i am very tempted but no answers to myself yet. the uncertainty also exist, like what queenie say, maybe must throw dignity and behave like clown (the type people laugh in tv shows, me included). the only redeeming factor is her family not in singapore.
also exist the possibility that i ditch the current one but end up with nothing with new one (concuss at both ends) and if that happen, maybe is called retribution.
Thumb up for queeniegal post. I strongly advise the thread starter to view and ponder what she had said.
I am a male and i will never be “henpecked” …. either the girl accept my character and behaviour, else no use being together.
“Barter trade” pride and face for money????
U decide your own life. So decide wisely
Even her family not in SG but u sure need see her face one
Cause my bro treat my sis in law like queen. Must fetch her every day even he working she call he hv to report.
N my bro don’t even dare to come visit my mum, few months ago my dad had a fall he went visit him. That woman call and call keep asking him where he is who he with. What time go home.
My bro just sigh in front of me I said to him this is what you want?
Imagine when my bro is someone who does not allow people to control him and all his ex gf cant control him. he want freedom type.. (as in the past when my mum call him he will scold my mum) I will just text him) now haha sometimes I think what goes around really comes ard
Got once more epic! I heard from my bro friend
They got birthday dinner after dinner everyone decided go zouk for a drink and party thru out the night.
My bro need to drive home to report to his wife then can go zouk.
On surface she such a understanding wife allow my bro go club go drink go home but her phone and texts making my bro also can’t take it wahaha
Well, she not only one. My friend her bro also got a prc wife ha.. Dating was damn good super understanding. Good in bed lol.. Now?
Maybe guys shd really see the flip side of it the real and fake of a lady before married.
That apply to gals also cause there are many people who really can fake and pretend till they got married wahaha things are so different that why divorce rate are high some may not divorce cause of kids or hopping the party to change (:
As for u TS have sometimes alone and have good thoughts on it.
Good luck
It depends on what u want dude . Money can make it if u got a good wife. A wife who dpends like crazy? Tough. Being wealthy is about saving more than u make
Generally 人望高处爬 is a normal thing but whether can you betray the goodness of your current girlfriend for your own future is another thing.
Dun be tempted to exchange a short term success for a long term disaster if you already fore-see it.