Well brother ignite, it is not difficult if you wanna find out the truth. She could be sincere or she could be faking. Either way, time will tell. If you want the answer immediately, it could get you into trouble. My advice is to treat her as any other friend, non physical type. Within 2 years, the truth will be out, especially if you become good friends.
Good luck.
bro …. as much as i dislike PRC … they are humans too .. she might be real with feelings for all u know … does she meet u other then in the KTV … thats one … does she expect u to pay for everything when u meet up …
well u have a GF now whom i presume theres a particular future to it …. how abt AA … how far do u think u will go with her … if u can justify the current status and future with yr GF with the uncertain future u have with AA … and GO FOR IT …. think of the worst possible situation … if u can handle it then just do what yr heart tells u ..otherwise if u 12 make sure .. hire help to check up on AA .. then the light will come ture .. heheee i can volunteer … just joking
poor u… hard to draw e line huh….?
anyway i have to agree wif sum bro suggested… poke 1st talk later… heehee…
Rdgs
Kaido
Thanks for all the advice bros, really appreciate it.
I know the general consensus would be to be careful, and not fall into the pit. You know what’s the funny thing? I used to dole out such advice to my kakis, telling them to be careful, these girls always “tiger open big mouth” and bite a big chunk when they can… but now I find myself here, I find it hard to listen to my own advice……………. Guess it’s the “Maybe I’m different” or “It doesn’t apply to me” mentality..
Think I really need to sort my stuff out..
28, travelled a lot, and still can’t sort things out… i know, kindda pathetic
But I’m gonna take all the bros’ advice constructively. Thanks!
I won’t take offence at any advice given here.
I’m thankful so many samsters are giving advice actually. I’ll spend some time and sort out this entangled mind of mine. I think I more or less know what I should do actually, just have to, as holein1 said, put it into action.
Helloooo!
I’m the silly thread-starter who got himself into that silly predicament.
Finally settled everything, so can give update. Sorry for not posting anything earlier, cos was still figuring things out…..
Suddenly feel like so free, really like big weight lifted off shoulders.
Anyway, i had brought the PRC girl out a coupla times, but told myself must always be careful. Although she gave me very GF feeling, I told myself cannot get into situation where have to buy expensive stuff for her. So the coupla times, just normal makan, some shopping (didn’t spend much actually, just $100+ total).
Actually things got a bit scary 1 month ago. I was sending her home on a Saturday afternoon when she told me her flatmates not around, and she wanted me to see her bedroom…… half of me was like all excited.. but half of me had warning bells ringing…..
…my little head convinced me “no harm take a look”.. so I went up with her. Quite simple place, nothing fancy. In her bedroom, we sat on the edge of the bed and she started showing me photos of herself in china, her family photos, the books she studying in Singapore…. then she ask me,‘你为什么喜欢我呢？(Why do you like me?)’ I just looked at her and suddenly lost for words….dunno how to answer, cos myself also not sure. She told me the guys she met at the KTV so far always try to ask her out and do “what she knows they want”, but she always reject cos she don’t like, but how come I never ask…..
…suddenly, she was like sitting very close and staring at me.. and said,‘你跟其他男人不一样。(You are different from other men)’ Next thing I knew, she leaned forward and started kissing me, pulling my hand to hold her from behind… I thought,‘Ah.. fuck it lah, do liao then see how.. why not..’ so… well… did it with her lor. Wah lau.. i mean.. really like GF like that, I also hard to tahan.. At that point, I totally forgot all the warnings that all the bros here gave me.. cos part of me still believed this one was different.
…when it was all over, we cleaned up and lay back on the bed. She hugged me tightly, and said she wanted to nap a bit with me cos she gotta work later..
…2 hrs later, she got up. I had slept like only 1 hr+, spent about 10 - 15 mins just looking at her, and thinking,‘Could this be the one?’ .. When we were putting our clothes back on, i felt the weight of my wallet in my back pocket, suddenly woke up… gave excuse of needing to use the toilet, then went in to check if all my money still inside… well.. surprise.. nothing was missing… she went to work, I went home…
…then the bomb came 1 week later…
…she called me crying and all… then when ask her why.. she tell me,‘我爹打了个电话给我。我妈刚进了医院，现在正在动手术室里。 不知该怎么办。。。My dad just called me. My mom just got admitted into hospital and is in the operating room now. I dunno what to do)’ Immediately i thought CRAP, really so coincidence? Do liao, now wanna cheat me? But the other half still thought,‘what if it’s really true? so far she treat me nice and all, do liao, never ask for money some more, will she cheat me?’
…I told her I was busy but would think of a way for her, then I asked one of my “bro” to go down the KTV to “test” her, see if really got such things….. this one really PUI CHAO NUA! KNN, she was with him, then started showing him the photos in her handphone (same as what she did to me on day 1), her family, her pet blah blah blah. When asked how they’re doing and if they know she working in KTV in singapore, she said they dunno, and they’re doing fine, cos got siblings there to take care of them…
…when my “bro” told me all that, wah lau… my heart totally sianzzz.. like tio stabbed like that… i think i was in a daze for about 1 week+ over this issue.. avoided all her calls and sms.. then last week, I decided enough was enough, might as well end it… need to get on with life…
…called her and said i went o’seas and forgot to bring HP, so didn’t receive her calls etc, but now back, and wanted to meet her… she agreed… so met her in town at an alfresco cafe… she was very quiet and didn’t smile much.. i thought,‘wah still acting until now… knn this time give u jia lat jia lat’… I asked her how her mom was.. and she told me the mom was discharged, but not much better, cos they couldn’t afford good doctor and hospital.. she was hoping i could “loan” her some to help her mom…
…that was when I told her off. Told her that i knew she lied about the mom in hospital cos one of my “bros” already tested her for me. She got quite upset about it, and I told her i’m not some idiot who would be so easily cheated (yeah right… I know I was almost cheated actually……). I then left her sitting there and walked away…
…and so here I am today… free man, but fuck, took me 2 months to realize this…
very very sorry for this very long posting.. needed to get it off my chest… i only got 1 more thing to say.. All the Bros in similar situations.. BE CAREFUL!!!
(Edited to include chinese translation)
yeah, it has indeed been one hell of a stressful situation for me… got burnt some, but at least not burnt a lot.
Really have to thank all the bros who have given advice in this thread. They really made me realize in the end the shit I was getting into.
Thanks!