Hi Bros !
Because of the type of work (that deals with trade) I meet a lot of people, and have the chance to meet top executives, GMs, CEOs, etc. Furthermore, sometimes I attend social dinners and meet more of these people. Myself I am just the average Joe. I am not rich, but I am not poor, just OK. On a few social functions occasions I’ve met this tai tai (who has investments). This tai tai is at least in her late 40s or early 50s, because she has 2 sons who are studying in the university.
We got along well and we exchanged e-mails. She sends me those chain e-mails with info almost on a daily basis and she keeps me updated on her social life and even sends me pictures of her at functions. I’ve had a bit of a suspicion that she liked me or at least regarded me as a friend. Today, she contacted me saying she has a social function dinner in a five star hotel in the Orchard area next week and according to her “her girlfriend who was her partner to the dinner, cannot make it, so she asked me if I minded being her partner to the dinner ?” I replied that I felt honoured to be invited. Then she told me she doesn’t know where the hotel is (come on lah !!!), and that if I could guide her because she wants to drive there (so she’s thinking of giving me a ride). I explained to her where the hotel is (sorry bros, cannot reveal the name of the hotel for privacy reasons, but it’s a top class hotel in Orchard) but she says she still cannot locate it. So then she asked me if I have a car. I said yes and she suggested for me to pick her up. I said OK. Later she send me an SMS with her address, she lives in a upscale condo a few blocks away from Orchard.
I need your advise Bros (please no flaming) :
A) The car I drive is an old car from the early 90s, which I have had for years but cannot afford to buy a new one. The radio cassette player (I don’t even have a CD player inside my car) does not work, one of the automatic windows is spoilt, and my car is manual (it’s not even automatic). To make matters worse sometimes even the aircon will spoil every now and then. This tai tai is going to get the shock of her life when I drive her in my car, because she is probably used to driving Mercedes, BMW or Jaguar.
What should I do Bros, be confident and just pick her up in my car or tell her my car is not up to the mark for her, and I wouldn’t mind she give me a ride in hers ? Or because this tai tai sems to like me, she will accept my car even though I am not rich, just the average Joe ? My car could be a liabilty instead of an asset for this date, I don’t know what to do ?
B) Every time I have seen this tai tai on a social dinner she’s never with a date or a male companion, so I supposed she is divorced or a widow. However, last week when I spoke to her, she mentioned her husband briefly, I was a bit surprised, but pretended not to be. What do you guys think ? Maybe her old man is too busy working, travelling on busines, or he has a mistress, who knows ? But why do you Bros think she is inviting me for dinner ? Is she tired or bored of her husband ? Why she never attends dinners with her husband ? And how come from among all people she knows from her business connections,and because her girlfriend “cannot make it to the function” she invites me ? What do you Bros think ?
Not a bad idea Bro ! But just for a dinner, I think it’s not worth it.
Maybe some kind Bro in this forum can lend me their car
(just joking lah !)
Has any of you Bros ever dated a tai tai or acted as male companion of a tai tai to a upscale dinner ?
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rent a car?
I will tackle you question one by one. Please be patience in reading.
My Opinion to A
Do not ever presume
her favourities and preferences.
Invite her to your car. Believe me, she will be happy that you can give her a lift if you sounded her that what is your condition of your car in the first place.
If she rejects or you’ve found her giving excuses in your car lift, politely request her whether she is able to give you a lift in her car and you’ll take over the wheel in return with your gentleman etiquette. Do not assume that she will automatically granting you a lift in her saloon car. Ask before you do anything and
never make assumption
!
My Opinion to B
Do not ever and never assume
that she is divorced or widow.
Mentioned nothing much about her husband does not mean anything.
Do not ever be so busybody poking into her private family affair. (E.g. finding out what her husband does for living)
Inviting you for dinner does not mean anything.
She never attend dinner with her husband does not concern you. Now, you starts to probe your nose into her private affair.
She has her reason why she is inviting you. No.1, she is comfortable with you. No.2, function is suitable for couple with opposite sex. So, when her business associates see her with a man, it looks presentable. Just like an SAF officer who has to bring his wife/girlfriend for function.
Just be yourself. Do not talk unnecessary with people in the function. She will be very happy if you do not talk too much of yourself as well as her. Your relationship between her (in this case) is sensitive. Please do not ‘yak’ too much infront of other people (including your friends or family).
erm.. i just saw on the internet someone is willing to lend his car for a whole week for anyone who gives him a Gmail invitation! lol
My advise is to be honest and tell her straight that your car might not be up to her standard. No point for u to rent a nice car just to pick her up, waste money lah, then when other day see u drive different car, u really do know how to hide your face. Also u have to think of more excuse to cover here & there.
Just tell her straight, if she really like u as what u say, maybe tomorrow she ask u to meet her at Performance Motor, kekeke
aiyah bro, my car also maciam want to pumchit like dat…if I were you just pick her up with my own car lah, then use my sweetalking charm to bonk her. normally these kind of rich tai tai ..they already so rich, so they look for you not for money but for company and pleasure…teo bo?
btw. please dont forget to share this lobang with me ok? kekeke
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diesel
Just be yourself. Do not talk unnecessary with people in the function. She will be very happy if you do not talk too much of yourself as well as her. Your relationship between her (in this case) is sensitive. Please do not ‘yak’ too much infront of other people (including your friends or family)
Bro diesel is here to give his sexpertise, with a body like that… sure talking from experience lah kekeke.
Dear Bro Chatoh,
I would like 2 share my bit…(maybe less than 2 cents worth)
Perhaps, b4 deciding to socialise with them(Tai Tai),it would be best to set first principles or a no. 1 ground rule for yourself.
No. 1 rule, it is best not to get entangled with another man’s wife or mistress(some careless loverboys paid for with their lives, no laughing matter when the jealous hubbies r megarich and powerful.U jus have to be careful). If they lie to u, saying they r widowed, or single; that is another matter altogether.For when complications arised like the hubby appears,u know where u stand n perhaps could stand firmly on your own ground. Yes, the hubby might take your explaination of not knowing a lame excuse, however, when u know u r in the light u speak differently confidently. Your stance is, U r being acussed not guilty of.
U might think your Tai Tai scope is limited bcos widowed or single r somewhat much lesser in numbers.Not really, eversince SG becoming more cosmopolitan, once u get into the right circles, contacts take off like a concorde jet…
Next,U might wanna ask yourself, this few questions in the begining:
What am I into this relationship for?
1)Is it for companionship?
2)Is it jus for adventurous sex?
3)Is it for money?
(when time pases by, all three sometimes get mashed up,but being clear headed on how it started, it helps when u wana end it all, or continue)
If u r into it for companionship, hard 2 say, some of my friens luv matured ladies and being pampered by them.When time goes by emotions r involved. Ahhh…dats the intricate part…I cannot explain, only for the involved to find out…
Perhaps, u have to play the dating game well, when u r into adventurous sex…no strings attached, move on to others, stay in touch also,but certainly out to hunt for fresh meat…brand yourself as a worthy sparring partner…
When U r in it for money, then nearly every move U make on her would be a calculated deceit in action.No matter how,it is still wise to package your intentions with suave tender care. Coming clean on this issue, usually hurts much and does not help at all. Meaning to say,marketing yourself as a gig to Tai Tai is emotionally and spiritually draining, much worst off than a WL ang pai.The real PRO, ‘sells’ himself to his chosen ones not with a one time off fee attached but with an elevated lifestyle, a total packaged deal. The Tai Tai willingly wants to see U make and do good in society.She certainly feels proud and substantiated as a woman in able to provide for her man or lover.The downside, U would be a hardened man, both in spirit and in mind, after all the calculated moves…
Having said all this, your first few dates, or even multiple dates with them, might not further develop into anything ‘special’. It is, however,best to leverage on your contacts in the new circles of friends by the Tai Tais. Socialise more, meet more of their circles. Perhaps, even mixed pleasure with Biz…who knows one day, a pat on your shoulder,“Welcome to the Big Boys Club!”…nissan…BMW…Prosche…Aston Martin…Ferrari…haha jus a fancy thought…
Forgive me bro for being so LOH SO.Now answer to your first question:
Perhaps, it is best to let her see the real outter you. need not impress her with outer trimmings, cuz she might have seen too much of that.Drive in your old car, at the same time show her in deeds not words, “It is the best at the moment I can offer.”
The answer to your second question, I think; the first rule has answered it.
GONG XI FA CAI
Mister911targa
gong xi fa cai to u too mister! surely u are speaking from ur lao jiao-ness.. ur writing is really superb.. shows ur rich experiences in maneuvering relationships and sianing women.. plus the depth of the passage.. is in my opinion.. unique and in fact, comparable to the sun zi art of war..
There may not be a function in that hotel. Once you are in the hotel, she will start telling you cock and bull story and coax you into the hotel room. So don’t worry about the condition of your car. In fact the more ’lok’ your car appears the more secure she will feel because she knows she has value in your eyes. She is old and the only asset she has over you is wealth. So go ahead and drive a ’lok’ car. If you perform well in the hotel room during the first night, the second time you will be driving a new 350Z or RX8 liao.
Bro, just one warning. Are you a good painter ? If you want to have any success of tais tais, your tongue job must be superb.
BTW, your car can be old, but you make sure you dress up smart hor. Don’t forget you owe us a field report.