Dear TS, dun feel disheartened! I feel that the girl kinda interested in you if not she won’t have so much things to talk to you. Spent 3-5 hours talking in a cafe?!
hi,
i seriously think that you should at least try before u want to give up. if u truly likes her. go for it. i understand after confessing, u might not even have the chance to see her again, however, she might be the one u have been waiting for. dun lose it. strive for it =D
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Originally Posted by
lonesome1
Dear TS, dun feel disheartened! I feel that the girl kinda interested in you if not she won’t have so much things to talk to you. Spent 3-5 hours talking in a cafe?!
Hi Bro lonesome1, thank you so much for your encouragement!
I also think so. If she has no interest at all in me, why she asked me many personal questions…Yes, we had a great time that night though the last half part was not good at all for inside me…
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Originally Posted by
defence
hi,
i seriously think that you should at least try before u want to give up. if u truly likes her. go for it. i understand after confessing, u might not even have the chance to see her again, however, she might be the one u have been waiting for. dun lose it. strive for it =D
Thanks for your advice and encouragement, bro defence!
Yes, I really scared if I confess to her about my feeling, she will avoid me and doesn’t want to teach me anymore. The worst is she will break-up our friendship and I will lose her forever…
To Bro SomandrisIsDead, 5ag1_Boar, Cool_Taurian,
You’re the man! Thank you so much for your advice, opinion and encouragement!
@ Bro SomandrisIsDead: Your opinion is really my eyes opener. I will look for good opportunity to tell her about my feeling.
@ Bro 5ag1_Boar: Thanks a lot for your advice and good idea. I can try to ask her watch movie together at my home, though I’m not sure whether she is willing. Not because of watch movie together but because of the time. Usually, we will finish the lesson around 9pm plus and after that we just have a bit chit chat here and there then she will go home as she stay very far from my place.
@ Bro Cool_Taurian: Just one word, Awesome! How I wish I have the courage to talk as what you suggest in front of her
Your words really give me an ide on how to express my feeling to her. Thank you!
Our next lesson is on Friday, and I have made-up my mind to talk to her and tell her about my feeling.
But still I need advice from bros…is it too fast?Should I wait and look for better opportunity?
What do you think bro?
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Originally Posted by
yang punk
Bro. I think she is bluffing you abt her match-made bf! I don’t think in this day and age a uni-undergrad will allow her mother to match make for her. She just want to find out your feelings about her.
Girls have this intuitive 6th sense and she had already hinted her likes to you! On your next lesson with her try surprising her with a dozen red roses. Girls are suckers for that. You have nothing to lose and a gf to gain!
Thank you for your opinion, bro!
How I wish she is just bluffing me about the BF.
When she told me about her BF, to me she looked very serious. I know her for almost 5 months now since our 1st meet-up. Maybe 5 months is still considered as a very short time to know her well.
But I can see that she is not that type of girl who like to bluff or said something which is not true.
There are some parts of our conversation on Friday night that I skip.
That night she also told me about her BF height, about her BF plays her fave music/artist when they are in the car, etc. If she is just bluffing, I don’t think she fabricates the story about her BF as much detail as it.
But of course I understand that still anything is possible.
Thanks Bro!
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Originally Posted by
paln
yes tell her abt ur feeling. either together or find another one thats all
Appreciate your encouragement bro, thanks!
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Originally Posted by
Humpy Dumpty
Signs are that she likes you.
Factual indicators:
-you don’t tell people your problems in your relationship on a date like environment without wanting some solution. She repeated twice she is ‘unsure’ about the feeling. For me this is a dead give away she was seeking some clear indication from you whether this is done on a conscious or unconscious level.
-playing the relationship checklist game she chose to emphasize those characteristics that fit you.
-duration and nature of the time spent. Duration: From the afternoon onwards she spent the whole rest of the day with you. You don’t do that unless you either enjoy the other persons company or have something ulterior to gain. Nothing you have written so far suggests an alternate exterior motive other than that she wanted to enjoy your company. Nature: doing all the things you wanted to do e.g. Buying gifts to assist YOU, walking everywhere around town with YOU, accompanying YOU to eat etc. Why would someone want to with spending their rest of the the whole day to do everything someone else wants to do?
-despite her revelation she did not outright reject your compliments. If she was certain about her relationship, a girl of her interest and standing could say something like ’thank you but I have a boyfriend to appreciate that’ or behave in another way which rejects your clear advances. But she didn’t…
-you left on good terms at the end of the night. You obviously did a good job. If she was uncertain before she met up with you you definitely created a gulf of ‘feeling’ when compared with her current bf.
Recommendation
You have pretty good odds for your relationship to develop into something further whichever direction you take. However the primary impediment in achieving your goal is your fear; the fear of loosing her as a friend and teacher, the fear of rejection.
In relation to your 3 fears, accept you have nothing to loose. If you do nothing your worst case outcomes will eventuate anyway. Really, you are going to loose this anyway so you really do have everything to gain. Let your fears leave and free your thoughts to concentrate on more constructive matters. Take this and I’m sure you will find a path that can lead to sustainable happiness with her.
How?
ACCEPT that you have already lost her. Is this untrue? Have you thought what would happen going on your current trajectory? Without your intervention your relationship dynamic will change ANYWAY in an unwanted way for you. In gaining a bf that affects your friendship. Both of you prefer to play it straight. It will be more difficult for you to get to those inimate/personal topics.
AND EVEN IF this assessment of indicators were to turn out untrue why would she refuse to teach you if you guaranteed that your feelings would not intrude on future lessons. You backtrack, she still gets paid, you continue learning.
Bro, I really don’t how to thank you for your encouraging words..
Thank you so much for your precious opinion and recommendation!
Yes, all the factual indicators that you mentioned above are true.
You really give me a different perspective, and it’s really encouraging me to make my move, telling her about my feeling.
Thank you to all bros who has read my story!
And my infinite thanks to all bros who has given me your opinion, your support, your advice and encouragement.
From the bottom of my heart, I really thank you and greatly appreciate for your time and energy to read my story and write your words.
Then I shall not disappointing you all. Friday is coming, wish me luck bros!
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Originally Posted by
defence
Bro,
I think you shld go for it like what other ppl says. do your best and without regret.
Bro, I will. Thanks!
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Originally Posted by
thebearbearbear
no regrets dude. I say to go for it! surprise her on Friday!
Thanks for your encouragement bro!
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Originally Posted by
see see only
Alamah … Bro TS,
a little gentle reminder for you …. we are at year 2012 liao …
FB, GF, sex buddy, third party or anything else …. it’s yours and her life and both of you are well-growth adults liao ….
You wont point a gun or threaten her to sleep with you right? so since she has the feeling to do that, as from your info … she sound interested, then what’s wrong.
Nevertheless, its your decision haahhahahaa … take my comment as just a reminder ..,,……. BUT you can turn this a great memory or a greatest regret when you sit at your rocking chair thinking about your life history
Hahahaa..Sorry for missing to reply you bro! Just wanna say thanks a lot for your reminder!
Yeah…you right, I don’t wanna have a greatest regret in my life.
But last time when I was being cheated badly by my ex-GF, I promised to my self as possible as I can, I won’t touch someone else’s GF or wife.
I just don’t want to be a bastard like the guy who snatched my ex-GF last time..