To all bros & sis…
Fisrt of all, I would like to thank you to all who had spent your precious times to read my thread.
As you know, my story is not about sex things. Totally there is no hot or juicy part in my story since this is more to sharing my situation that I’m facing now.
Many thanks to bros who has been giving me your sincere advice, opinion and even encouragement. Really appreciate it!
After thinking and considering many times during these 2 days, I decide to share the story which is happened on Friday night.
However, I have changed a bit some details and will not elaborate the parts that I feel a bit too risky, as you may read from my previous post that I’m afraid someone might be able to relate my story to the girl.
But don’t worry I try my best to write as detailed as possible without reducing or distort the core of the story…
Some information about me & her (my violin teacher) just to help you get a better image in your mind when you read my story:
Me:
An average looking single guy in mid 30s who love music. Learn to play music instrument as one of the hobby. Live alone at a family flat.
Her:
A gorgeous and adorable, sweet young girl in her early 20s who studies at a local uni. Loves music and plays music instrument very well.
Give music tuition to some students in her spare times.
My lesson schedules: Every Monday & Friday
And here is my story…
<Backflash>
Monday, 2 Apr 2012
Today is my violin lesson schedule, and I really can’t wait for it. Because I will meet my sweet & sexy violin tutor (stick this into your mind: she always wear a short pant, either denim or cotton, with nice blouse or shirt. Only 1 or 2 times she wore a short flare skirt)
And as usual, she comes to my place…My door’s bell rang:
Her:
<Smile> Hi, sorry I’m a bit late..
Me:
<Smile> Hey..it’s ok, you late not even 5 mins
I let her in and we started our lesson…
-Skip-
After finished the lesson, we have a little chit chat when suddenly…
Her:
Ouw, by the way I’m not sure whether we can have a lesson on this coming Friday. Because it’s public holiday, and I have a plan to go out with my friends..
Me:
I see…never mind, you just text me to confirm later..
Her:
Sure, I will sms you to confirm…thanks! <smile>
Me:
No prob <smile outside, sad inside>
Since I posted my thread in this forum and got some advice from some nice bros here…I always think on how can I ask her out. I keep trying to find the best way to ask when finally I got an idea that I think may works..
Thursday, 5 Apr 2012 (a day before lesson)
I decide to sms her on Thursday, just 1 day before our lesson. The reason is I don’t want to look desperate sms her so fast on Tue or Wed.
Until Thursday, she hasn’t sent me any sms yet…
I said to myself…Good! I must quickly sms her before she sms me to tell that she is not available tomorrow (Friday). So I sent her SMS:
Me:
Hey <her name>…since 2morrow is holiday n I don’t work, let’s hv the lesson earlier, what do u think? After the lesson, I want 2 go 2 buy <stuff>
4 my best friend’s B’Day. I need ur help 2 choose which 1 is good since u hv a very good knowledge on it…
(of course this is only my trick to ask her out)
Wait for her reply…
5 mins…passed
10 mins…passed
20 mins…passed
30 mins…passed…I told to myself…Ok, that’s it. She is not available or maybe she doesn’t want to go with me even just to help me…
(usually she reply my sms very fast, the latest by 5-10mins)
But…
40th mins…My HP vibrated, when I checked, 1 sms is coming…from her. (You may laugh on me, but my heart was pounding because I’m very curios with her answer)
Her:
Sorry, I need to go out with my friend tomorrow. Maybe we can go on Sat or
Sun? So sorry…
Read her reply…<Sighed>
Ok ok, that’s not really bad. At least she still gave me option to go on Sat or Sun.
Then I replied her…
Me:
It’s ok…Yes, we can go on Sat. What about late afternoon?Is it fine with u?
Her:
We confirm again Sat morning, ok?Thks!
Me:
Ok, no prob. Thx!
In my mind…OK, That’s it! She may not interested and try to excuse herself for going with me…<sighed>
After that, I don’t think too much on it again and was busy with my work…until about 3 hours later…my HP vibrated again…
And when I checked, it’s sms from her. Before I open the sms, I can only see her name as sender and the 1st word of the sms, which is began with: “Sorry…”
I thought…yeah, just right with what I’m thinking…She refused to go.
I opened the sms, and suddenly I feel my lips opened for a big smile…
Her:
Sorry… I have cancelled my plan 2morrow’s planning with my friends just now.
So, we can meet 2morrow. What time will u be free?
I’m soo happy when I finished read her sms and literally want to jump out of my chair!And I’m sure if my colleagues saw me that time, they will think that I’m crazy…keep smiling alone lol…Yesss…!
So, I quickly reply her:
Me:
Late afternoon around 5pm would be good, is it fine with u?
(I purposedly choose at this time, so I can invite her for dinner)
Her:
It’s fine with me. Ok we meet at 5pm, after finished then we can go to buy the <stuff>
Me:
Good!C u 2morrow at 5pm then..
Her:
See ya!
The story on Friday, I will write in the 2nd installment. Sorry bro, it’s not to make you wait but I feel if I write in one go will be too long already…
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Hardaway1818
Pure and romantic encounter. Nice! Keep going bro
Thank you for reading and for your support, Bro!
The main reason why I write my story is to share my situation/feeling with all bros here, and the purpose is hopely bros here can give me your opinion or advice.
How will you react and what are you going to do if you are in my position…
I am afraid it will be easy to know who TS and girl is because Singapore do not have many guys in mid 30s learning violin from a girl in early 20s. Just my thoughts.
Bro, u are single, she is single. You are not going to cheat her or anything, so no need to fret so much. Just let things run naturally, don’t try anything funny. Try going out see if u are compatible for each other and let nature take its course.
If u are looking for plain sex, I suggest u might want to leave her alone cos from your writing, it seems to me she is a nice girl or rather, in your eyes, she is a nice girl. I am sure u dont want to hurt her.
To relieve your urges, just read the stories here, fantasize a bit and jerk off. Still cant, just go geylang, pick some girls that look like her and release. Man are sex creatures, once released, problem solved. I know facing your fantasy girl weekly would be more difficult, but can be managed one.
But if u feel u want to try a relationship with her, just go after her. You will know what to do as long as u dont put sex in your mind haha.
Just my two cents worth. Good luck!
[/QUOTE]So, I quickly reply her:
Me:
Late afternoon around 5pm would be good, is it fine with u?
(I purposedly choose at this time, so I can invite her for dinner)
Her:
It’s fine with me. Ok we meet at 5pm, after finished then we can go to buy the <stuff>
Me:
Good!C u 2morrow at 5pm then..
Her:
See ya![/QUOTE]
Friday, 6 Apr 2012
Ok…this is the day, I told to myself.
There is an excitement in me yet a nervous feeling…
To me this is like a dating with her. And in my life, I don’t have many experiences in dating. If I count, maybe less than 10 dates. And my last dating is about a year ago… (pathetic?maybe yes, but that’s the truth
)
So, that day my mind was full with thoughts…
What clothes will I wear?
What are the things that I want to talk to her?
Where is the place that I want to take for dinner with her?
etc…etc…
About 4.30pm, I received an sms. It’s from her!
Her:
Hi, I might be late about 10 mins. Just ate dinner with my friends at *****. Now on the way to ur place, sorry.
<Sighed>
Damn! She has already taken her dinner, so no chance for me to have dinner with her..
Why she took dinner so early??
I blame myself for not telling her that I’m gonna take her go for dinner after buying the stuff.
Yes, I didn’t tell her in the first place because I don’t want her realise something amiss that I actually want to dating her for dinner. I was thinking I will ask her casually after we got the stuff. I never thought that she will take her dinner so early.
This is really a boomerang for me!
Then, I’m a bit skeptical on my planning. In my mind…after help me buy the stuff, she might be immediately ask for go home.
No matter what, there is no way for turning back. Whatever will happen…then let it be…
5.10pm
Her:
<Smile> Hi, sorry I’m late…
Me:
<Smile> No worries…Thanks for coming, I appreciate that you still come to teach me and later help me to buy the <stuff> though today is holiday..
Her:
It’s ok. I’m glad if I can help you <Smile>
Damn! She really has a sweet smile!
Me:
So, what happened with your planning with your friends?I thought you want to go out with your friends today?
Her:
Yeah, initially we’re planning to go at night to watch a movie. Since it’s not so important, I changed the plan…I and my friends went earlier to *** Mall to watch the movie.
Me:
I see…
(I was literally speechless by her explanation…is that means she changed her plan with her friends, so she can go with me at the evening??I feel happy but don’t dare to ask her furthermore
)
Me:
So, you have taken your dinner already?
Her:
Yes, just now we ate dinner after watched the movie…
Me:
Hey…but why you must watch movie there?It’s far from your place…Nearby your place there is a big mall with cinema, right?
Her:
Yes, but my friend, she want to eat at the *** restaurant. And the nearest outlet from my place is *** Mall.
Me:
Oh ok…
Then, we started our lesson. During the lesson we also talked about some stuff, about the movie that she watched, etc.
An hour later…
Her:
Ok, today’s lesson finished. Let’s go and buy the <stuff>
Me:
Ok, let’s go…
We left my place and walk to the bus stop in front my block.
We were boarding to the bus, it’s a double decker. We both stand side by side near the window at the corner behind the stairs. We stand quite close since the bus was crowded. And there were some occassion when my right arm brushed her left arm..woww..even only arm brushing, I feel so happy!Lol…
By the way, just for additional info…her type is the type of girl that don’t really bothered if you (accidentally) touch or brush part of her body such hands/arms.
She won’t move her hands or arms after the touching/brushing.
There was an occasion when the driver hit the break so sudden that make the passengers thrown a bit hard. And when it happened, she thrown to the direction where I stand
…I hold her arms for a second and asked her whether she is ok..
Not long after that, we reached the place. Cross the road and we went in to one of the mall at the infamous shopping district in Singapore…
During this time, I’m quite surprised that she is very open and talkative.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I don’t have any issue talking to her but I don’t expect that she can be more open and talkative.
We almost never stop talked to each other…
(I will skip and not elaborate what we were talking about since there are no important things that we discuss)
Most of our conversation is about music, her study, her teacher or classmates..
We walked around the mall and went to the store that sell the <stuff> that I want to buy (actually I don’t want to buy, but because it’s part of my trick..no choice…with her beside me, I have to buy but of course I choose the one that not too expensive hehe..)
She helped me to choose which one is good based on her knowledge and assessment. By the way, though she is not my GF, but to me the feeling that night is just like she is my GF…When we walked, she walked beside me very close. So, sometimes our arms brushed each other, and sometimes even my arms slightly brushed her boobs.
Everyone that we passed would look at her, especially guys since she is very sweet and sexy with fair skin and beautiful long legs…
Sorry bros, continue later after dinner…
Quote:
Originally Posted by
kuasimi
I am afraid it will be easy to know who TS and girl is because Singapore do not have many guys in mid 30s learning violin from a girl in early 20s. Just my thoughts.
Thank you for your concern bro!
That’s the reason why I’m a bit reluctant to share my story in the beginning. However, I decided to share because I need advice from bros here. I have taken some precaution like hiding some important info and details.
I think I just cross my finger and hope that none of SBF member can relate my story to her. I don’t know is it possible to delete my thread at least after I finished my story and got opinion or advice from bros here?Can someone here advise me?Thanks!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Hardaway1818
Bro, u are single, she is single. You are not going to cheat her or anything, so no need to fret so much. Just let things run naturally, don’t try anything funny. Try going out see if u are compatible for each other and let nature take its course.
If u are looking for plain sex, I suggest u might want to leave her alone cos from your writing, it seems to me she is a nice girl or rather, in your eyes, she is a nice girl. I am sure u dont want to hurt her.
To relieve your urges, just read the stories here, fantasize a bit and jerk off. Still cant, just go geylang, pick some girls that look like her and release. Man are sex creatures, once released, problem solved. I know facing your fantasy girl weekly would be more difficult, but can be managed one.
But if u feel u want to try a relationship with her, just go after her. You will know what to do as long as u dont put sex in your mind haha.
Just my two cents worth. Good luck!
Thanks for your advice, Bro Hardaway1818!
Yes, she is a nice girl…And I’m sure that’s not in my eyes only, but in everyone’s eyes that know her
Don’t worry, I won’t hurt her.
I can control myself well. I never forced something onto someone just to fulfill my desire.
I don’t deny that at first I’m interested to get her as a FB. But as time goes by, my feeling is growth. Now, I’m not after her just for sex only…
She helped me to choose which one is good based on her knowledge and assessment. By the way, though she is not my GF, but to me the feeling that night is just like she is my GF…When we walked, she walked beside me very close. So, sometimes our arms brushed each other, and sometimes even my arms slightly brushed her boobs.
Everyone that we passed would look at her, especially guys since she is very sweet and sexy with fair skin and beautiful long legs…
[/QUOTE]
[/QUOTE]
She helped me to choose which one is good based on her knowledge and assessment. By the way, though she is not my GF, but to me the feeling that night is just like she is my GF…When we walked, she walked beside me very close. So, sometimes our arms brushed each other, and sometimes even my arms slightly brushed her boobs.
Everyone that we passed would look at her, especially guys since she is very sweet and sexy with fair skin and beautiful long legs…[/QUOTE]
Continued…
Short cut the story, after we bought the <stuff> I asked her to walk around since we were there, and she agreed.
Besides music, she likes art & fashion so I took her to a mall that has some art shops and cafes.
I haven’t taken my dinner that time, so I feel hungry. I was thinking to ask her to get some foods. And it seems that she can read my mind…
Her:
Hey… you haven’t taken your dinner, right?
Me:
Yes, feel a bit hungry now…
Her:
Do you want to get your dinner here?
Me:
How about you?
Her:
Since I have taken my dinner, I would just accompany you.
Me:
Hmm…Sorry, do not agree with that <Smiling to her>
Her:
<Smile> Why?
Me:
Of course don’t agree. How can I let you just watch me having dinner?
I know…let’s go to *** cafe, other than main menus, they have a wide range of desserts. We can get nice desserts there..
Her:
Okay…
When we walked to the cafe, we talked about anything under the sun and at a point of time we talked about Facebook.
I see a chance to tease her about boyfriend…
Me:
Hey..I saw many handsome guys on your FB friend list.
Her:
Who?which one?Is it ***** (she mentioned one name)
Me:
I don’t remember the name. So, is he your BF?
Her:
No la. He is just a friend. I don’t have a BF…
Me:
Hahaa…Really??I don’t believe it! I mean such a nice & pretty girl like you cannot be don’t have a BF.
Her:
<Blushed & giggled> But it’s true…
I was happy when I heard her answer. That means I still have a chance..
So I ask her furthermore..
Me:
Ok ok…so, what kind of guy that you like? What makes you attracted to a guy?
Her:
Mmm…<paused a moment>…I don’t like to have a same age BF.
Me:
(Ask her playfully) Ow..I see. So you like younger BF is it?
Her:
<giggled> No la. Instead I like older BF…
In my mind…BINGO!
Me:
Ok, may I know what is your reason?
Her:
Because older guy has a different way of thinking compared to younger or same age guys.
They’re more matured in personality and most likely wiser. They usually know how to treat and caring a girl nicely…
Me:
Hmm…but you must also understand that not 100% older guy is like that.
Her:
Yes, of course..
Me:
So besides age, any other thing that you consider?
Her:
Yes, I don’t want to have a BF which is in the same area of profession.
FYI, her dream is to become professional musician…
Me: Waiitt…do you mean that you don’t want to have a musician BF?
Her:
Yes.
Me:
WHy? Because usually, people intend to get their BF/GF from the same area of profession. For example, a doctor usually has a spouse who is also a doctor or a nurse. Pilot with air crew, steward/stewardess, etc..
Besides that, usually it will be easier for you to get interested in someone who is skillfull in music as you are.
Her:
Yes, I know. But I just don’t like. Because if I have a musician BF or husband, I’m sure we will always criticize each other. He wil criticize the way I play the instrument, and I don’t like it. When I play an instrument, I like to play music instrument freely. But at least the guy have interest and like music.
In my mind….2 BINGO!!
(I’m not a musician nor have music background. I like music and I learn violin just for my hobby)
Me:
Understand and acceptable <Smile to her>
Her:
<Smile>
Soon after, we reached the cafe. We get seated after 10 mins waiting.
We ordered the dessert, some tidbit and drinks.
I will skip some of my conversation with her as they are not really important. We talked about foods that we like, about our family, etc…
There is one thing that make me astonished…She remember most of my photos in a photo album on my Facebook.
In that particular photo album at least I have more than 30 photos.
Is this a sign that she has interest in me?I really don’t know. I try not to make any assumption.
We also talked about her ex-boyfriends. She told me how she was being pursued by many guys, even her juniors in her uni.
While eating our foods, we still continue our conversation.
And suddenly she asked me…
Her: You live alone, don’t you feel lonely?
Me:
Mmm…of course sometimes I feel lonely.
Her:
Then what do you do when you feel lonely?
Me:
I will call my friends and if they’re available I’ll ask them to go out. If not, I’ll visit my family and relatives.
Her:
Oh ok..
There was a pause for a moment after that…
The next words that come out from her mouth almost make my heart stop beating…
The next words that come out from her mouth almost make my heart stop beating…
Her:
I must tell you something…..I have a boyfriend…
I literally almost get choked…I don’t know how to reply her…I suddenly felt my strength, my power left my body…
I feel bitterness in my throat…
Suddenly…all beautiful moments and feelings that surrounded me gone in the wind…
<Silence>
I tried to control myself…
Me:
Ouw..Really?Are you serious? I thought last time you said that you don’t have any BF, even an hour ago you still said that you don’t have any. And you put your status on your Facebook is single <forced myself to smile>
Her:
Yes I know, sorry.
Me:
Never mind…but may I know since when?
Her:
About a month ago…
Me: I see…So, how you got to know him?
(At this moment, I have relatively calmed down myself)
Her:
We have been introduced each other by my relative.
Her:
Actually I don’t want to get a BF at this time. You remember that last time I told you I don’t want to have BF before I graduated, right?
Me:
Yup…I remember that.
I didn’t say anything more than that since I’m still in confusion and it seems that she knows that and she continued to explain…
Her:
I know it’s confusing you. I accept him more because of my family. Honestly I myself not sure about my feeling.
About a month ago, after we have been introduced each other, soon after 2nd meet-up, the guy said that he likes me and he wants me to be his GF.
(In my head…..of course he likes you! Which normal guy in this world does not like such a pretty, nice yet sexy girl like you??)
Her:
I’m not sure about my feeling. I mean I don’t have a special feeling towards him since we just know each for few weeks.
Beside my family support, I just feel maybe I should try (to have a BF)…
Her:
<looked at me carefully> Are you surprised?
(You still asking??Of course I’m shocked!)
Me:
Yes, I’m very surprised but I’m happy for you. So, is he a nice person?How old is he and what does he do?
Her:
Yes, he is very nice to me. He run his own business in *** industry.. He is 36 years old…(Around same age with me)
We meet 2-3 times a week, and sometimes he comes to my uni to picked me-up..
But honestly I really don’t know about my feeling…
Me:
<Speechless>
Me:
It’s ok…It takes time for someone to like a person. Since he is a nice guy and he treats you well, I believe soon or later your feeling towards him will growth.
Her:
Yeah, maybe but I really don’t know…
At this point of time, I was totally able to control myself. My heart still feels the paint. All my hopes and expectation about her has gone…
But I told to myself…this is the reality that I have to face. If I really love her then I should be happy for her since she is in a good hand now.
After that, we still continue our conversation (but now the atmosphere a bit different, now I see her pure as a friend).
Her:
So, what about you?
Me:
Why?What about me?
Her:
Yes, you. Do you have any GF?
Me:
Nope
Her:
Why? Don’t you want have a GF?
Me:
Of course I do want. But since I broke-up last year, I haven’t met with someone that I want her to be my GF.
Her:
I see..
I will skip the rest of our conversation at the cafe. We were there for about 3.5 hours!
After that we decide to go back as it’s quite late and her place is very far.
Her:
I think we should go back now…
Me:
Ok, let’s go… It’s late already, I’ll accompany you back to your home..
Her:
Oh ok, thanks..
Me:
Are you tired?
Her:
No..I’m fine.
Me:
If you’re tired we can take cab..
Her:
I’m ok. Beside, after the dessert, I need to walk a little otherwise I will be getting fat <giggled>
(Good, this is just what I want so that I can have more time with her. I don’t know why but I just don’t want us to be parted so fast that night. And somehow but I’m not really sure, I can feel that she also still want to be with me, to talk to me)
Me:
You already perfect… Ok ok, nobody in the world is perfect, but to me you’re at least 99% perfect.
Her:
<Blushed & giggled> No…I’m not that perfect..
Me:
<Smile> Yes, you are.
Her:
<Smile> Ok, thanks then.
So, we walked to the MRT station while still continue our talk.
Then suddenly she asked me again…
Her:
Are they pretty?
Me:
Who? You?
Her:
No la..come-on, you now what I mean…
Btw, FYI, when we stiil at the cafe and she asked me about my relationship with girls, I told her that though I don’t have any GF but I know there are 2-3 girls like me. Even one of them has bluntly asked me to be her BF, but I rejected her.
Me:
Ok ok…they are not as pretty as you, but acceptable.
Her:
<giggled> Pleasee..don’t say like that..
Me:
But that’s the truth…
Her:
Ok ok…<Smile>
We took MRT to her place and continued by 10 mins walk to reach her block.
All the way, we keep talking to each other even when we were on the train.
We separated at her lobby after she went in to the elevator.
And that’s all my story on Friday night with her.
Now, I really don’t know what to do. And even I try to get rid my thought on getting her as a FB.
I don’t have the heart to ruin her nor her newly relationship…
I don’t want to lose her as a friend, as a teacher…
Maybe this will be my last update/story about her..
Thank you to all bros & sis who has spent your time to read my thread. And greatly thanks to bros who gave their opinion and advice. Much appreciate it!
Warmest Regards,
- Composer -