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Originally Posted by
see see only
TS,
Drop her a sms that you are near her Uni … a bit before 5pm on Monday
Women always … i mean always appreciate a nice company while travelling in some public transport …. best of the best … pick her up with a car if possible, most of them hate waiting for public transport ALONE
Good luck and do provide us your real time updating on the progress
I must admit that I have made no mistake by asking advice, suggestions and ideas from bros here in SBF haha..
Thanks a lot for your good idea bro, really open my mind on how to treat a girl gentlemanly
I’ll definitely try your advice, but with MRT or cab for sure since I don’t drive.
And thanks for your wish & support as well!
This is how I feel.. If I am u I will take the chance to ask her out since she is wearing so pretty. Take the chance to ask ,why not go out for a drink since she wearing so pretty. I think she might go. Cuz few I my gf also sometime dress up they also don’t wanna go hm early. They know guys is looking at them. And they like it.
1 step . Go out with her.
Build a friend relationship more than a teacher relationship.
Find. And slowly find your way there.
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Originally Posted by
Weiwei88
This is how I feel.. If I am u I will take the chance to ask her out since she is wearing so pretty. Take the chance to ask ,why not go out for a drink since she wearing so pretty. I think she might go. Cuz few I my gf also sometime dress up they also don’t wanna go hm early. They know guys is looking at them. And they like it.
1 step . Go out with her.
Build a friend relationship more than a teacher relationship.
Find. And slowly find your way there.
Thanks for your advice, bro!
If next time she dresses nicely.
Though I’m not really sure whether or not she drinks (never check with her b4), I’ll try my luck to ask her go for drink.
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Originally Posted by
riol
I would rather ask this qn 1st.. u want love or sex.. then the method will be different i think
Yup bro, I understand this part.
To be honest, my first and main agenda is having sex with her.
However, slowly but sure I can feel that I start to like her, and let say if she likes me too and there is possibility to get her as GF, I won’t reject.
So, maybe you can help and guide me on the method how to bed her, bro?
Thanks!
Hi Bros,
I never thought that quite many bros here read my post and reply me with many good advice, opinion and suggestions that really enlighten me and make my eyes open
I thank you to all bros who has spend their time to read my thread and especially to those who reply me and give their opinion. Truly appreciate it!
There is an unexpected progress that comes to my situation with her.
I don’t know whether I should consider this progress as a good or bad progress.
And I really don’t know whether I sould write my story. The reason is I’m afraid that “someone” here knows about her and somehow can relate my story to her and confront her with it.
Firstly, I will attend and reply all bros who has given me their opinion as above…
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Originally Posted by
5ag1_Boar
Hmmm… dress nicely but have no place to go? Did you ask if she had a reason earlier in the day to dress so nicely ?
If she had no good reason to dress nicer for that day (too late to ask, but for future reference), than I’m guessing she could be dressing nicer because she is coming to see you. So, it may not be a one way street after all.
(Side note: if she dress nicely again for the next lesson, ask her again if she is going somewhere later, or had something on earlier in the day. If she says ’no’, then say something like “Orh… then you must be out to impress a guy.” (Say it in your personal style/mannerism, of course). She just might reply affirmatively… but mysteriously. If she does not, comment that she looked really nice during the last lesson and she should dress up more often.)
At some point, you may want to try this: If you can cook, contact her a day or two before your lesson and say you want to cook for her to thank her for her patience/lesson/something related to the lessons. Either invite her to turn up early, or to stay longer to have dinner after lesson. If you can’t cook, still can invite her out… but give her advance notice so she will be ready. If she has a hard time agreeing, suggest she take time to consider before replying you.
She seems to be the sweet sweet sort, so romancing her would be one route to bedding her. Then the question is just if, and how soon, is she willing to fall into bed with you, before becoming a couple.
Seems to me your interest in her is already beyond pure lust… so I don’t see why you should not romance her. Besides… I personally feel that a future life partner should be somebody you lust as well as love (hard lesson I learnt in the middle of a failing (now failed) marriage).
Good luck.
p.s. Yes, FB = Fuck Buddy. You might prefer FwB (Friends with Benefits). LOL!
You’re the best bro 5ag1_Boar!
Too bad, I didn’t ask whether she had a reason earlier in the day to dress so nicely…I didn’t think that far that time.
I can cook some very basic or simple cooking. I think it’s better to ask her out rather than ask her tasting my dishes lol…
Yes, she is a kind of sweet and nice girl. Since I knew her, never even once she got angry, lost temper or say something bad.
She is not a moody type, she doesn’t smoke and never go for clubbing. Even she said she actually doesn’t like to go to KTV with her friends.
She went for KTV with her friends about 2-3 times only and she agreed to go is because not to make her friends disappointed
(which I found about all these last night when we went out and had a good times with our long conversation)
She is a kind of home/family girl who will spend her spare times at home or at school and playing music.
Bro, it seems to me that you can really read my mind hahaa..
I totally agree with your last sentence..! This sentence:
…a future life partner should be somebody you lust as well as love…
Yes…
Now I realise that my interest in her is beyond pure lust…
Now I realise that I have falling for her…
Now I realise that my feeling to her is much deeper than I thought…
But…
Now I realise that it maybe too late for me to get her as a GF…
(This part I think will be much clearer if later I decide to write about what was happening last night between me and her)
About romancing her… How I wish I could and how I wish I still have a chance to do that (also related to last night)
Btw, I have replied your PM. Thanks so much bro!
PS:
Thanks for your enlightenment! And I’m truly sorry if by reading and replying my thread, brought you to your failed marriage memory. Anyway, I hope you’re fine and have a good new life now..
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Originally Posted by
yang punk
Bro…so far you have not revealed much about yourself except that you don’t have a car. How about career, whether you live alone or with parents, etc.
If you find her attractive enough to be a potential gf likewise the other way round. In which case friendship first then sex will definitely follow. Don’t be a bastard and think only of free sex!
Bro, thanks!
I will reveal a bit more about me hahaa..
Yes, I don’t have a car. I’m only a staff in a local SME with a very standard basic monthly salary (I don’t think it can be considered as a career lol…)
I live alone, but the place is not mine. It belongs to my family.
My family has 2 flats, and why I live separately from my family is because my working place is very near with the flat that I live in now (walking distance only), so I can save my transport costs.
I find her not “attractive enough”…but “very very attractive”
I won’t be a bastard, bro. And I don’t think only for free sex…
I’m not playing GOD, I’m not a saint, and I’m not saying that I never think about getting free sex…but for sure I’m not a bastard that do anything even bad things to a girl just to get a free sex from her…
My regards bro…
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Originally Posted by
karlearl
I would take things low and easy . Start off with being her friend first , once she is comfortable with you anything can happen. But then always treat the lady with respect . Don’t force anything on her if she does not like to do .
Thank you for your advice, Bro!
Please rest assured that I always treat her with full respect and I won’t force anything to her
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Originally Posted by
Krazzie
Bro, just curious here… you ever have experience with a lady before? Dates, relationship or sex? The way you put it sounds as if you have zero experience with females… Sorry if I am wrong
Anyway as for advice. Just ask her out, no need anything fancy, a movie, a drink, even a kopi session will be fine. Then you two will change from teacher-student to friends, just don’t be too adamant about “being friends” or “must die die bed her”. Just let things take its course there is no need to force or rush thing, but one thing is for certain - young girls tend to have short attention span, if she thinks you are not interested in taking action she will just go and find another guy (assuming she has interest in you).
Bro Krazzie, no worries. It’s fine and I can understand where you’re coming from when you ask me the question
Zero experience with females..of course not. I have some past experiences with females. Maybe I’m not very expert in this area (relationship with females), but yes I have GFs before.
For the whole my life I have (only) 3 GFs hehe…I know what you think…It’s a very low number if compared to many bros here…
If you’re talking about sex (with GF), it’s even worse hahahaa…I only had sex with 2 out of my 3 GFs.
I didn’t have sex with my first one because we were still too young last time..
Thank you so much for your advice, bro.
Yes, I asked her out (which is happened last night).
Yes, not only from my side but also from her side that we want our relationship is not just teacher-student, but more to friends (she said so last night)
She is still very young, however from the way she thinks, the way she talk, the way she carry herself show that she is quite mature in personality.
I’m not too sure whether she has interest in me, even after our talk last night.
To be honest, I’m now very confused. Somehow, from her behaviour towards me, from the way she look at me (when we talk), the way she asks me questions (and the questions themself), I feel that she has interest in me as well (but how big is her interest, I honestly don’t know…).
In a shorter words, I can tell that she feels comfortable when she is being with me..
But after what I found last night from our conversation, I…..really really don’t know what to do or what to say…<sighed heavily>
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Originally Posted by
callmebad
really depends very much on your objective
if you seriously want a gf, try to be romantic, doing all the sweet things, but after you do them, don’t ask for sex in return soon after these, because this will make you look not sincere, as if you’re doing this for sex alone
if you can do this, later on, sex will not be a problem
if you want a gf seriously, you have to take things in a long time, not just focus on the specific objective - when can I bed her
as the Chinese saying goes - you have to lengthen the rope or string if you want to catch the big fish - patience, patience, patience
of course,if you want a fb, it will be different, because everything will be like very short-term and objective-oriented
you may consider throwing some subtle hints - like asking her to watch some kind of romantic movie or some kind of erotic movie (soft porn)
if she dresses quite well for your tuition lesson,maybe she is also throwing you some hints that she is interested - the fact that she bothers to dress up to come to your place
Yo Bro…Thanks so much for your advice and enlightenment..!
I’m very sure that I have falling for her…I’m so stupid that I didn’t realise (or maybe unconsciously, I try denying my own feeling to her?I don’t know) long before…
At the first time, yes, I admit that I’m more interested in getting her as an FB. But now for sure, I wish I can get her as a GF though it is now beyond of my range already
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Originally Posted by
yang punk
Bro…if you don’t tell us what you found out…neither do we know what to advise.
From what I gather, children who have the luxury of learning classical music instrument usually have ‘cultured’ upper middle class parents who in turn are also snobbish in their expectation of who their daughter pat-tor with. Is this holding you back? But your parents have 2 properties so not too bad. If the girl likes you they will often defy their parents and go with their heart.
Yes bro…I’m thinking to share my story though there is still something disturbing my mind and refrain me to write about last night..
It is just a dilemma to me, I feel like I’m facing two sided sword…
I mean, if I decide to share, I must write it very details so that all of you can really understand..
But the other side, I don’t want because of my detail story, somehow someone can relate it and confront it to her…and if that really happened…she find out that I write about our story here…that’s it…end for me…
Just for a hint: I’m afraid of “someone” who has relation with her is also a member of this forum…