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Originally Posted by
DO_YOU_BJ
MDun tell is the best policy?
No, it’s just a ticking time bomb.
If you wear a mask to hide your TRUTH, are you being you towards someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with?
My stand!
Honesty is the best policy!
If someone loves you, he shud
except
a past that you walked away from.
Not use your past to slap you left rite center.
If so, this man is not for you.
The last thing you want is to example marry someone who doesnt know your past and after a few years, have kids then he finds out!!!!!!!!!!
Do it rite, do it once else you’ll always be very very uneasy wif anyone you truly care for!
it is accept not except ..
.. sorry, cannot stop myself.. hahaha..
TS,
there are pple who advises to tell and some who say die die deny…
so i will add my 2 cents worth of thinking to further confuse you
my first instinct will be die die deny…. maybe i’m cynical but love is not forever.. after some years of marriage, the flame will die off and it will be more of acceptance .. or maybe it is just me… sad but true… everyone has a past but not knowing is a blessing as most of the time, we prefer to turn a blind eye ..
however, since you have already admit to someone that the photos belong to you… then “paper cannot wrap fire” .. one of these days, this information will go back to ur bf… you have screwed yourself this time and I guess you should tell him and be prepared for the worst..
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Originally Posted by
bugmenot
Dedication for you sis!
Remember, 爱很简单!
Bro… Unintentionally you dug up my old wounds with this song man… But no worries… Good that you brought it up and I realised my wounds are healing… Slowly…
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Originally Posted by
tikokeong
Bro Stud00,
Well said the way i feel a man should do.
For TS really you have to let it go what past is past nobody can change the past. what bro Stud00 have said is the best choice for you.
I learn from experience, i once dated a girl, and after i told her my past, she refused to accept, and she left me.. she called me dirty and trash.. BUT many of our mutual friends, told her that she would regret and etc..
Now i am still single, but i am not desperate for a wife, to me,if someone love you, he/she must accept you for who you are, and if they cant accept your past, no point being together, they are just being self righteous, as if they didnt screw up in their life before.
For me, at least i got the balls to admit and i move on. TS, i salute your courage to have a new life.
Well Said, nothing summs up better then what his bro have shared.
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Originally Posted by
DO_YOU_BJ
Moral wake up call!!!!!!
Allo~~~~~~~~
Look around you, your possessions, your CAR, your property if any, the things you own………….
I am a very blunt & direct person so listen to the pointers and reflect then think really hard if you actually can be considered an EX-FL
Look at your possessions
Look at your bank account
You at your material stuff
Look at your clothes
Look in the mirror
If any of those stuff is still around, my dear, you brought your past into your future already.
So wat if you’re not an FL anymore????
Dun tell is the best policy?
No, it’s just a ticking time bomb.
If you wear a mask to hide your TRUTH, are you being you towards someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with?
My stand!
Honesty is the best policy!
If someone loves you, he shud except a past that you walked away from.
Not use your past to slap you left rite center.
If so, this man is not for you.
The last thing you want is to example marry someone who doesnt know your past and after a few years, have kids then he finds out!!!!!!!!!!
Do it rite, do it once else you’ll always be very very uneasy wif anyone you truly care for!
Jia You JIa You…in this world no one is perfect and no one has to right to comment on your past…as what always said…WHAT PAST IS PAST…the most important is to look ahead…cheers and all the best for you…
JIA YOU!
Accepting you are an ex fl is a huge step forward.
No one can underestimate you other than yourself.
CHEERS!
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Originally Posted by
Dirtyboy76
…the most important is to look ahead…
If you look too far ahead you’re in a box.
I’m wondering what if my ex-WL tirak started such a thread, telling how she regretted being a WL for greed reason, will she get as much support?
Let me see…
If I didn’t know she was a WL during the few years of dating, I will freak out of she suddenly tell me after we are deep in love.
If she declare that she was a WL in the early stages of the r/s, I would probably still go ahead and date her provided she is attractive; dump her if she is not. And unfortunately, even of I continue to date her for being attractive, I will likely have this “low regards” (no respect) of her from that early stage, and may still dump her after getting into her pants. Or have this “holier than thou” thinking which will surface during conflicts (doesn’t matter I seek whores myself)
There is a 3rd perspective to the above: If I still go for her having declared this upfront, I will be classified as a twit or nuts for starting a r/s with an ex-whore.
Ya I know I’m being blunt here but ghee… I always bear my thoughts as it is.
Someone pls refute my sayings above?