A high sex drive is a problem only IF it affects your capability to function in your daily life. If you are able to concentrate at work and lead a “normal” social life, then it really isn’t a problem … except that of finding a willing and able partner
Likewise, if you are happy with who you are … highly sexed, wanting to indulge in “slut” role-plays, then there really isn’t a problem (although this one is rather tricky as it is hard to seperate undue influence from your close ones). It is only a problem if you are unhappy with who you and/or have self esteem issues.
So If you find that it affects your ability to work/socialise normally, or if you have self-esteem issues, then you may want to seek help.
I’ve met quite a few high sex drive women in my life …
One was my gf when I was serving NS. We would fuck like rabbits during the weekends but during the weekdays, when I couldn’t bookout, she would be incredibly high-strung and sexually frustrated. Masturbation didn’t fully satisfy her but she made do by scheming on what we would do on the weekends. It certainly made for rather explosive weekends
Another was a girl I knew in Uni, while in hostel. She had a bf but couldn’t enough even thoughly they did it daily. She started trawling campus for guys to fuck and it all spiralled down from there. Her bf was not supportive, she could not reconcile her shame of sleeping around vs her desire to fuck. She ended up needing help and medication. It messed her up.
Bottom line, if you find the right people, in the right environment, you can be happy. If you find yourself doing the wrong things for the wrong reasons, IF ever you are unhappy with who you are or what you are doing, force yourself to take a step back and evaluate your position from a 3rd person’s perspective. Don’t be shy about getting professional help. They often give you a perspective that your friends usually don’t. More info means better decisions.
Also, don’t bother about what constitutes “normal” masturbation or sex preferences. We are all different. We prefer different positions … different things excite us, motivate us, stimulate us.
Some of my gf’s could multi-orgasm, some couldn’t. First time I met one who couldn’t, I kept stimulating her after she came, insisting that she come again. I got a shove, a slap and a scolding for that. Some of them like to use fingers while masturbating, some didn’t. Some liked digital penetration, some prefered clitorial stimulation. As for what goes on in their mind, the variety of thoughts is stagerring.
You figure what works for you physically and mentally and leave it as that. Don’t try to benchmark against other people.
BTW, sports … I find that sports actually increases my sex drive! Other than the initial “aching-all-over” getting fit period, sports rarely leaves me so tired that I can’t get it up. OTOH, the competitiveness makes me more driven, more alive and it carries over into the bedroom. Sports also de-stresses me, which leads to more mental inclination for naughty stuff. Sports also makes me fitter, which means more energy and stamina for *ahem* nocturnal sports. These days, I find that I am actually buzzing after my weeknight sports sessions … to the extent that I actually have trouble sleeping unless I *ahem* release first. That’s me anyway. YMMV
my 2c. Thanks for reading.
Great post. Lots to discuss and issues to delve deeper into. (no pun intended… ya right…) Well, obviously you don’t have a physical problem, unlike some ladies who can’t even achieve an orgasm. You may have a psychological problem though.
Has this issue ever disrupted your life in a destructive way? You know, you are late and rushing for time but because of your high sex drive, you got to orgasm first. Thus you are later than ever before. You mentioned you get wet looking at attractive ladies (hoping you are as attractive as them so that your bf will want you more). How about attractive men? Ever slept with 1 just because you think he may be a great fuck, only to end up with regret because you really love your bf and your high sex drive has caused you to betray your love? Etc. If you have such incidences, you may have a sex addiction problem. You may need professional help to regain control of your life.
What is it about an orgasm that keeps you returning for so much more than usual? A lot of us love how it makes our bodies feel more relaxed. When a guy sleeps with many women, the orgasms he experiences, besides making him more relaxed, can also represent an extra ego boost. He feels skillful/attractive. Esp so in cases of unattractive men who keep succeeding in bedding attractive women. The desire for orgasm may be really a desire to continually boost his ego. You ask such guys to DIY only, they will find it unsatisfactory. Some people like to make love in public. Why go through the risks of being peeped all just for an orgasm right? Well, these people may want others to look at them. The real ‘orgasm’ could be the satisfaction that you can control the urges and desires of the people peeping at you. What does an orgasm mean for you? A need to feel attractive, to be wanted?
If you feel positively in control of your sex drive and will only release it in non-destructive manners (DIY or with bf only), then maybe you need variations in acheiving orgasm to make up for your bf’s lower sex drive. I read your other posts. Seems you like it when your bf finds you attractive and irresistible. Especially so when he does something totally unexpected. Why not develop this angle further? Go buy a remote control vibrator. Use it when you are out in the streets with your bf. Let him hold the control and surprise you. Your role is to try to look normal on the outside while shopping like a normal couple in Orchard Road… How does this idea sound to you?
Hope my post makes sense. If you want more ideas, I can share them later.
TS is on her top form now. . . HSD will died down after another 2~3year. till then… you have to try to focus on more important stuff in life.
TC
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testme
I do have a gf that used to be very high sex drive as well. Don’t think it’s being wrong or whatever guess it’s all in the hormones. So it’s nothing wrong abt having high sex drive, i guess most guys around your age would be more then happy for that i believe
Yeah i thought so too but only that, i am not seeing someone at my age.
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demonicsage
OMG I am already anticipating some hilarious guys with one liner posts or PMs asking for TS email/contact and boasting how good they are.
Like totally?
My point is not to fuck more men to fullfill any sexual needs whatsoever. God, some people just can’t swallow the words: JUST A DISCUSSION
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Johnston
Ladeez and gentlemen, we have another young nympho in the making right here!
Right first off, if u have such an extreme high sex drive why isnt your bf taking full advantage of this and fucking u at least 100% more? That is TWO times in a week/12 days. What kind of BF is he that he doesnt want to fuck his girlfriend who puts out like there is no tommorow, gets off frequently, and cant go two hours without getting off?
So what are we lef with? You have a high sex drive, think of sex and masturbate often BUT
but I think it is a good thing not to fuck all the time
and u also think mastubartion is mono . Like that how huh?/?
And to your questions:
HOW LONG: Varies by individual, as you yourself so candidly show. (We sure wish our partners would want to put out so often)
And to the rest….: maybe, maybe, maybe. Whats the point of knowing?
Dont worry, i am sure your pm box is full of guys who are more than willing to fuck u more than once a week. (Im not one of them).
K thx bye
‘And to the rest….: maybe, maybe, maybe. Whats the point of knowing?
Dont worry, i am sure your pm box is full of guys who are more than willing to fuck u more than once a week. (Im not one of them).’
- So do you understood the meaning of discussion then? That is the point of me knowing. Curious. What knowledge does it give me? As much as you want to learn more about the other gender.
‘Dont worry, i am sure your pm box is full of guys who are more than willing to fuck u more than once a week. (Im not one of them).’ - This is annoyingly insulting. What makes you think i am here for more men to fuck me more than once a week? Have you not digested the words - just a discussion? I couldn’t care less if you are one of them or not?
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weiweiwei
is normal gal to have HSD, actually all human like to have sex, is just that they are shy to say they like sex. so u will find mostly gal don like sex but in fact they like just that they r shy.
in this age, is the wildest time to play around when time go by, when u are old ur HSD will decrease too. so no worriers.
i’m also a HSD, i masturbate almost 1 day once or when i free at home.
i will imagine i the 1 that fucking the gal in the porn.
You have got quite a point.
In general, women are usually told to hide their sexuality. Its rude and degrading if she were to show her sexuality. But in todays society, its starting to change.
i understand that Age is also an influence with High sex drive too. but i know of some men whom are in the middle 30s still have extreme high sex drive! haha.
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yummymocha
lol, there is no need to see a doctor for having high sex drive, unless to the extend that u rape any guy on the street u see. For me as a guy when i feel horny and when im not busy like when im at home nothing to do, then i would just watch porn and masturbate. I think thats enough for me lol. BTW im 19 and a virgin.
Keep that virginity of yours. do you know that alot of my girlfriends (and myself) always fantasize making out with a virgin boy?
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terrible ted
so crude.
Yeah its such a turn off isnt it?
I have a feeling he treats the other gender as objects.
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Xgenre
Great post. Lots to discuss and issues to delve deeper into. (no pun intended… ya right…) Well, obviously you don’t have a physical problem, unlike some ladies who can’t even achieve an orgasm. You may have a psychological problem though.
Has this issue ever disrupted your life in a destructive way? You know, you are late and rushing for time but because of your high sex drive, you got to orgasm first. Thus you are later than ever before. You mentioned you get wet looking at attractive ladies (hoping you are as attractive as them so that your bf will want you more). How about attractive men? Ever slept with 1 just because you think he may be a great fuck, only to end up with regret because you really love your bf and your high sex drive has caused you to betray your love? Etc. If you have such incidences, you may have a sex addiction problem. You may need professional help to regain control of your life.
What is it about an orgasm that keeps you returning for so much more than usual? A lot of us love how it makes our bodies feel more relaxed. When a guy sleeps with many women, the orgasms he experiences, besides making him more relaxed, can also represent an extra ego boost. He feels skillful/attractive. Esp so in cases of unattractive men who keep succeeding in bedding attractive women. The desire for orgasm may be really a desire to continually boost his ego. You ask such guys to DIY only, they will find it unsatisfactory. Some people like to make love in public. Why go through the risks of being peeped all just for an orgasm right? Well, these people may want others to look at them. The real ‘orgasm’ could be the satisfaction that you can control the urges and desires of the people peeping at you. What does an orgasm mean for you? A need to feel attractive, to be wanted?
If you feel positively in control of your sex drive and will only release it in non-destructive manners (DIY or with bf only), then maybe you need variations in acheiving orgasm to make up for your bf’s lower sex drive. I read your other posts. Seems you like it when your bf finds you attractive and irresistible. Especially so when he does something totally unexpected. Why not develop this angle further? Go buy a remote control vibrator. Use it when you are out in the streets with your bf. Let him hold the control and surprise you. Your role is to try to look normal on the outside while shopping like a normal couple in Orchard Road… How does this idea sound to you?
Hope my post makes sense. If you want more ideas, I can share them later.
Hhaha. No darling, I do not get wet looking at sexy women. I just have those sexual vibes running though my body for a few seconds and it ends there. If I got wet just by looking at other girls in short skirts, I think something is VERY wrong with me then. haha.
I like what you said about orgasm. I guess its the whole process of being satisfied and feeling good about one own self.
If you feel positively in control of your sex drive and will only release it in non-destructive manners (DIY or with bf only), then maybe you need variations in acheiving orgasm to make up for your bf’s lower sex drive. I read your other posts. Seems you like it when your bf finds you attractive and irresistible. Especially so when he does something totally unexpected. Why not develop this angle further? Go buy a remote control vibrator. Use it when you are out in the streets with your bf. Let him hold the control and surprise you. Your role is to try to look normal on the outside while shopping like a normal couple in Orchard Road… How does this idea sound to you? - THIS, is really interesting. Yes, It really turns me on when my own lover finds me attractiv and irresistible and does something unexpected. I like surprises. But he doesn’t and def not into such things. Atleast not. Perhaps I should talk to him about it. He doesn’t exactly like talking about sex, atleast not when we are not doing it, during sex is fine.
Thanks for your suggestions. Its pretty interesting
What other ideas to you share then?