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Originally Posted by
jugesam
After they push you away due to “stress” or other reasons, den they will blame you for not caring enough while other guys are more attentive to them. Personally i find all these lame excuses
Bro jugesam, thanks for your kind words.
One MW told me that her husband does try to find ways to make her happy like buying her stuff or suggesting a quiet candlelight dinner but she rejects them because she says that she knows he isn’t sincere. Just doing all these hoping that she will give him sex when they get home.
Then I said that but I am also doing all this to make her happy hoping that she will reward me in bed. Her answer was most illogical to me…….
“You not my husband so of course it’s expected that you doing this hoping for something in return. He is my husband and he should be doing all these so that I am happy and not because he want to have a good fuck”
I really don’t understand and honestly, I really don’t care.
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Originally Posted by
MILFguy
“You not my husband so of course it’s expected that you doing this hoping for something in return. He is my husband and he should be doing all these so that I am happy and not because he want to have a good fuck”
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YES, thats what i am talking about!!!! You married them and suddenly you owe them the world!!!!! WTF, you are in a worse offf situtation den b4 marriage!! I married her so that i can share my life with her, not bcos i owe her anything!!!! They dun seem to get the logic!!
I always believe that love and sex and cannot be seperated, there is no such thing as love without sex. if every wife can react the same way as the FLs in this forum, there wont be any FL. In return if every man treats the wife with respect and love, there wont be any cheongster.
Hence, this forum exists becos it is impossible for it to happen!
ps. any lady samster like to comment?
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Originally Posted by
jugesam
In return if every man treats the wife with respect and love, there wont be any cheongster.
Well to be fair to women, illogical behaviour isn’t just a women’s perogative. Some married men I know, treat their wives like dirt. Talking fiercely to them on the phone, refusing to pick them after work, but goes all out to treat their other woman like gold.
Marriage is so complex and guess I am just a bystander reaping the rewards of this complexity.
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Originally Posted by
MILFguy
Marriage is so complex and guess I am just a bystander reaping the rewards of this complexity.
hmmm…..u sure its “rewards”?
nonetheless, life moves on and just live with wat you have.
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Originally Posted by
nuclearkid
Maybe monogamy is also about self-preservation and HIV is the tool to focus the mind.
On the issue of selecting a better mate, I don’t think all men cheat on their wives with a better woman. Seriously…I’ve seen some women who are third parties…face quite buang one. Maybe we can argue that the wife even more buang but statistically, that’s tough.
Maybe the wife is damn jude but the IQ is sub par but the buang faced mistress is damn smart one leh?
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Originally Posted by
DO_YOU_BJ
Aint no joke to me bro.
How many r doin it and how many can take it if they find their other half doin it??????????????????
Thats why I already stated that selfishness and monogamy don’t go hand in hand
Well if you want to cheat, be matured enough to comprehend the possibility that your other half is cheating too. if you can’t, then don’t play the game and bitch when you find out that you’re not the only player in the relationship.
This is also why I don’t believe in the concept of marriage. for some reason it almost always fucks up any decent relationship.
my husband cheated on me with a married colleague. i was shocked cos i never thought any married woman (with kids) would cheat on their husbands.
anyway, did lots of reading up to aid my closure and found this:
The Cheating Wife
As everyone knows, both sexes are guilty of infidelity in marriage. The blame for a broken relationship is not the fault of one gender or the other; however, there are several aspects of infidelity that are more attributable to women than men.
The reasons women cheat vary considerably. Some get involved in extramarital affairs because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. Still others are motivated to cheat as a form of revenge after they find lipstick or other tell-tale signs of their husbands’ infidelity. Then there are the selfish, character-flawed women who marry good men, who love and take care of them, but continue to consort with other men for sexual excitement or for the money and other material goods these men can provide.
Women are not nearly as inclined to engage in infidelity purely for the sexual gratification. They tend to select a partner that they feel is an “upgrade” or somehow a better selection (i.e. the rock star or alpha male syndrome). They tend to engage in an affair with someone they want to be with and see over and over as opposed to simply finding someone that arouses them and giving them physical pleasure. The naturalistic view is that a cheating wife is simply following her instincts and looking to be with the “better” animal. She moves away from her husband to be with a man who is stronger, better off, smarter, etc. It is instinctual and natural. Although we do not buy into that idea whole heartedly, the truth is that a wife can want something more and may try and find it with someone else. This can range from finding someone she relates with better, all the way to being a gold digger and finding a guy who can give her more things than you. The “better man” theory, whether the other guy is better or not, holds true. If this is the case, the infidelity is likely to be a simple precursor to a new relationship and it is only an affair because she does not have the other guy locked in yet.
Another basic idea which everyone has heard of is that women often marry for security as opposed to love. The idea is that they need someone, so they get married, not necessarily to the man of their dreams. Along with this idea is its partner, the idea that women are always looking for the best mate they can find. They will “upgrade” if an opportunity presents itself. There are many examples of cheating wives who are not merely having an affair for the sex or the thrill of it, but are trying to start a new relationship. They are working on this “upgrade” while continuing to maintain their existing marriage.
A lack of sex or sex that is not satisfying is another major motivator the leads a wife to cheat. We have found that this is particularly true when the cheating wife tried to keep the sexual relationship with her spouse going strong but was met with disappointment. She stays in good shape, tries to be sexy and interesting for him and he is still bored with sex or worse yet, will not give her pleasure the way she wants it. There is no romance and no connection. A wife who has gone through this is far more likely to cheat when someone shows a true interest in her.
Paybacks are a bitch, and if you cheated on her, she may well pay you back by doing the same. We have seen many cases of a wife cheating on her husband as revenge for his infidelity or believed infidelity. Women have come out of the cave and they have sexual power. It is far easier for a woman to get a man to have sex with her then the opposite. Women know this and many will cheat to get back or to level the playing field.
Some sexual behavior research indicates that the cheating wife may see herself as a victim of the “Little Woman Syndrome”. This is essentially a case where a working wife is made to feel like the “little woman” in her marriage rather than a partner. She works just as hard as her husband, but at the end of the day, she still has to raise the kids, clean the house and be the quiet wife so her husband can go out with the guys or watch TV all night. Working women who contribute a lot in the workforce and want to be treated with the respect they deserve come home to a life that they do not want. They are surrounded with people who treat them with respect at the office and they want the same from a marriage that will not give it to them. This is a wife who may cheat because she wants to be with someone who will treat her like an equal.
Something that is not gender specific but is worth mentioning is that in almost all cases of a cheating wife is the overall idea that something is wrong in the marriage. At least one of them is unhappy and most likely both are. Someone’s needs are not being met and something does not work the way that either partner wants it to.
Just sharing.
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Originally Posted by
HCKing
its more like telling them girls if the guys love them they will do whatever the girls expect them to do unconditionally as long as it makes them giirls happy.
To be fair to women, I don’t think they expect unconditional love. Just that most of them feel that their husbands not sincere, that is doing alot of things but only wanting sex in return. At least, that’s what most of the women tells me.
Right or wrong, I am not the right person to judge. Purpose of the thread was just to share.
I am surprise that my thread stirred up so much interest as well as different viewpoints.
To the many kind bro/sis, thanks for the encouragement. I am well over it and is now leading a life I enjoy.
To others who PM me for juicy details of my encounters, I am afraid I can’t obliged. As mentioned, I am not here to gloat of my encounters. Another thing, I don’t target MW specifically. Just that a high proportion of the women are married that’s all. Honestly, I don’t give a fuck if they are married or not. If I see a woman I fancy, I just start approaching them.
Lastly, this thread is not intended to be one for wives bashing. I am sure there are many faithful wives around. My intention is merely to create an awareness to husbands. Don’t take things for granted and end up realizing you have been wearing the green hat. When you find out one day it has been happening behind your back for a long time, the feeling is terrible.
Knowing your wife cheated on you is terribly. Knowing that she has been at it for years is devastating!!!!