Thank you all for the encouragement and kind words, both here and on PM. To others who have PM me asking for contacts, I am not here to share nor promote the ladies. Their willingness to sleep with one man doesn’t mean they will do likewise to all men.
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samkuku
Hey sorry to heard about this, me and my wife is going through all this right now too. where can i find those marriage woman around just like you, i think i’m going to be the 2nd one like you too.
To bro samkuku, I think you should focus on how to resolve your problem with your wife first rather than thinking of finding other married women.
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bigmannow
story seems same as like gary Ng
To bro bigmannow, I don’t know what his story is but I for one would not go around filming or taking pictures of the women I bed and then put it up on internet. We should still have the decency to protect the women’s privacy. In fact, I don’t take pictures nor film our act. Perhaps, I am just not into such actions.
I really hope others will heed my warnings and don’t be complacent. To others who think I am just writing a story to attract attention, it’s your right to believe or not to believe. No offense to anyone and no offense taken.
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bus72
i wonder if got one day u were to saw ur ex-wife, wat would u say or do.. hmm
We did bumped into each other a few years later and even sat down to have coffee. That was how I knew that the guy dumped her. We didn’t exchange numbers and haven’t been in contact again since that one time.
I don’t hate her anymore. I pity her. She could have been a rich tai tai leading a good life. Guess she choose the wrong man in the end.
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DO_YOU_BJ
Nope, i aint saying these women who cheat behind their husbands are rite, but like i always preach, before we point our fingers outwards, lets point it inwards 1st.
Bro, you are completely correct. Of course I was infuriated with them initially but now after all these years, I blamed myself most. It’s really very logical. If your house get robbed because you left the door unlocked, do you blame the thief or yourself?
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DO_YOU_BJ
You say you’re sexually EXTREMELY unfulfilled…i dun blame you, but have you tot, she wud have said the same about you to her lover??????? Thus explaining the uninhibited extent she went wif him??????
She admitted that she didn’t do any of those with me becaue initially she wasn’t into it and later on because she just didn’t love me anymore to feel like doing with me. I guess bottomline, if the girl truly love and treasure you, she would go all out to try. If she doesn’t love you enough, nothing you do will make her change.
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DO_YOU_BJ
Now you see what you’re doin????
There’s still alot of anger in you, u may not feel it but your actions of the same nature says alot more.
Anger can be conscious and unconscious.
Take care man
I understand what you saying and no offense taken. It could be me, it could be others. Still the same words. Robbers are everywhere. If we don’t want to get robbed, then we should take steps to prevent robbery.
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nuclearkid
I tend to see it as a decline of values, the deterioration is really evident when one cares to look. Attributing the increasing failure of marriages to the passing of time is somewhat tenuous.
I really don’t know if it’s a deline of value or merely women being more socially active these days that opens up opportunities for them. Back during the old days, if the wife is neglected or doesn’t get the love she yearns, what can she do? Just bite her lips and lament over her unfortunate life.
Now women are also out in the society. Honestly, some of the MW I had, did it because they believe their husbands were cheating on them but divorce was not possible because of kids. So they turned to find an alternate happiness.
Having said all these, I would like to clarify that it’s not all doom. I would say so far, only 20% of the MW I approached did ended up in bed with me. There are still 80% of them who didn’t. Well, some didn’t because they didn’t like me so possible that they found someone else, but still majority didn’t because either they didn’t want to cheat or just didn’t dare to cheat.
My purpose for starting this thread is to tell all married men, have all the fun you want outside but just don’t turn a blind eye to what’s happening inside. Many men thinks that they cheat because their wives don’t like sex and because of that, think their wives won’t cheat. Trust me, many of the MW I had didn’t have great sex at home. They just don’t seem to be able to bring themselves to do it with the husband. Some of the reasons they gave me really seem illogical but it happens.
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nuclearkid
Isn’t there much more to a marriage than just a bonk? How about in sickness and in health? For better or for worse? How many feel confident to claim that the shadow partner will back you up as much as your lawfully wedded? Again, bro, these are rhetorical.
No worries bro nuclearkid, no offense taken to anything that you have mentioned. Well, I no longer know what’s in a marriage and I guess I am the last person qualified to comment. All I know is that most cheating spouses still goes back to their family at the end of the day. All if not most of those MW I had, they never intended to divorce. Perhaps having an affair was just an alternate means of seeking some sort of solace (sexual or company or maybe both).
The guy who fucked my ex-wife was another good example. All those talks of loving her and wanting to be with her (it was all on those irc logs and emails that I read) never materialized as he went back to his wife in the end (and mostly probably is still fucking around with some other men’s wife now).
All I can say it’s bad to know one’s spouse is cheating. It’s another to find out only after she/he has been doing it for years.
MILF guy
I read your story. More or less I had the same problem as you. I dont want to elaborate more. For my case it was at least 10 years of doing my back. I never suspected her. I loved her so much. I started to realise after 20 years of marriage. Only then she was so concern for me and suddenly show a lot of affection. I began to suspect. I digged out all her credits cards and her past. Begginiing to quest her all the paces like restaurants and late night. She didnt dare to tell the truth. Because I knew all her friends and colleague. Its been almost five years since. Uptil now I still do not know which man. But sure there was a man. But I suspected of one man. Her ex colleague who fancy her before we got married. I only had one proof. That she celebrate the birhtday of this for 3 consecutive years. Only If I can confirm his birhtday.
But I didnt not divorce my wife, as I have two grown children. But my love for her have gone. I am a different man now. Whenever I am angry, I would scold all the vulgar words, cursing her and her family member. I have destroyed all my wedding photographs, honeymoon and our family photos. There are no traces of her photos for up to 20 years of us.Despite all
things that I ill treated. She stayed by my side, maybe pretending nothing happened or being nice to me for what she had done.
I just lived by and hoping I can confirm the right person.
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0939
Despite all
things that I ill treated. She stayed by my side, maybe pretending nothing happened or being nice to me for what she had done.
I just lived by and hoping I can confirm the right person.
Just an opinion.
Like my 2nd wife, who’s very into glam and all that, was caught cheating by me, lost all trust blah blah…..
Well, in the end, she THREW ALL her expensive, seductive clothes etc etc and changed into a conservative gal and went all out to win back my trust.
She has earned back my love and trust & i actually respect her more than i initially was!
For all you know, yes, she may nvr admit but she may be mentally already tormenting herself for what she did & thus, is doin the same to you, trying to win your trust back.
I understand where TS is coming from but hopefully those MILF that you engaged are those that are already in the game itself, cos for me I do live by the principle of not going out of the way to accost a married woman to bed…not unless she has been playing the field herself.
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formidable
It seems often when married woman is either
1)neglected
2)less fulfilled(eg sex) at home
3)stressed by work/boss in office,
4)whatever reason
then she is prone to temptations, esp in the workplace(constant contact).
Man from Mars, Woman from Venus Book state woman need someone to talk to u, w/o u giving her solution. Just like having a spa time.
Maybe be Right Place ,Right Time, Right Party?
just a personal experience, when they want to reject you, everything under the sun can be their excuses. be it stressed by work, kids, family, even the cat calling outside the house can make them stress enough not to let u ml to her. After they push you away due to “stress” or other reasons, den they will blame you for not caring enough while other guys are more attentive to them. Personally i find all these lame excuses, cos if they are really “stress” and find solace in other guys, why didnt they come home and try to suck up to you for neglecting you, just like i always go home for dinner no matter how hungry i am. Instead of pushing you away den claim that other guys treat them better!
To TS, i empathise with your situation cos i have experienced something similar although not to the same extend. Take care and i can see you are already moving forward.
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0939
I read your story. More or less I had the same problem as you. I dont want to elaborate more. For my case it was at least 10 years of doing my back. I never suspected her. I loved her so much. I started to realise after 20 years of marriage. Whenever I am angry, I would scold all the vulgar words, cursing her and her family member. I have destroyed all my wedding photographs, honeymoon and our family photos. There are no traces of her photos for up to 20 years of us. Despite all
things that I ill treated. She stayed by my side, maybe pretending nothing happened or being nice to me for what she had done. I just lived by and hoping I can confirm the right person.
Bro, my empathies. And what action would you take if you knw who’s been bonking your wife silly? Maim him and turn him into a pot of curry?
But point is that you are also a cheongster, as your various FRs attest. There is a HUGE disconnect here. You go out and cheong with FLs but get uptight, dstroying all wedding photos and no love anymore, etc… when your wife is in bed with someone else? Going further, would you feel so angry if your wife paid for sex too? Guess we are all selfish afterall, wanting out cake and eating it simultaneously.
Just my thots.