Husbands Beware

I would just like to take this opportunity to share with all the married men here about my own life and hope that they can learn from my own misfortune.

I married my gf when I was 26. She was a typical average looking and conservative gal. We didn’t have any premarital sex and intimacy was confined to just kissing and hugging. I was looking forward to my new life and eagerly waiting for our first love making session. I was terribly disappointed. There was hardly any foreplay and we only did it in missionary. It was all over in 5 mins and the only BJ I got was she blowing a good night kiss to me.

I accepted that and thought maybe she was tired. However, to my disappointment, things never improved. For the next 5 years, sex was the same. Strip, kiss, missionary and sleep. Despite everything I did to persuade her to improve on our sex life, the answer was the same negative one. All this while, I pampered her with love, care, concern and luxury. I was 100% faithful and didn’t even hang out with friends. I admitted I was also very busy with work as I struggled to earn more to give her a better life but I was always around at night even though it might be past 11pm and weekends were thoroughly free to spend with her.

However, despite doing all these, I never could change her. She would still be conservative in both her dressing and in our activity in bed. In fact, she wouldn’t even buy any nighties to wear at home, no matter how hard I tried to coax her. I even bought a small car for her own use on our fourth wedding anniversary which made her happy but when I presented her the second gift, a simple nightie, she refused to wear it and threw it away a few weeks later.

I was very much in love with her and continued to accept all these without once fooling outside. I was committed to my marriage and I told myself that if I love her, I need to accept all the good and bad of her.

Things started to change after 5 years of marriage. She started to buy clothing that was sexier like low cut dresses or camisole. She even started buying nightie, which she put on when we had sex. I was happy and thought that she had finally relented and was now trying to make me happy. Sex was still the same and BJ was still in non-existence but I was contended. I convince myself that over time, she would become more adventurous.

However, things didn’t improve over the next 3 years. Everything was the same. I became frustrated again but I told myself to be patient if I love her. Everything went about as usual until one day; I went home in the afternoon to have a change of clothing as the one I was wearing was dirtied. As I was looking for a new shirt to wear, I suddenly realized that one of her nightie was missing from the wardrobe. I normally didn’t pay much attention to such things but somehow, that day, something just triggered me. I went about to the washing area and confirm it was neither been washed nor in the dirty laundry. Even then, I didn’t suspect a single thing. I even told myself that maybe she had wore it under her clothing to work and told myself for being silly.

I forgot about the whole thing until I went home that night. It was late and she was already sleeping. I changed into my tees and shorts after my bath and brought my clothing out to the laundry basket. Just out of curiosity, I searched the basket for the missing nightie and didn’t see it. It was also not hung out to dry and I was feeling a bit uneasy. Quietly, I went back to our bedroom and open the wardrobe. I found that nightie hanging inside. I took it out and went into the bathroom. I could see it was fairly crumbled, showing signs that it has been worn and there was her distinct perfume smell on it. My mind began to wonder. It was cleared it had been worn by her today so why didn’t she throw it for washing?

I put everything back in place and went to bed. However, I could not sleep. I kept searching for a logical reason but I couldn’t find any. Suddenly, I began to feel suspicious. Was she seeing someone else? I started to recall past suspicious incidents that I have brushed off previously and the more I thought of it, the more I felt uncomfortable.

I couldn’t sleep that night and had problems focusing on my work over the next 2 weeks. While there were obvious tell tale signs, they weren’t conclusive. I also couldn’t bring myself to believe my conservative wife would have an affair. I started to pay more attention to her habits and behaviour and I started to see a trend. I found that every one or two days in a week, she would wear something more sexy to work and usually, she would only return home after 9pm, giving various excuses that she was either working late or met up with friends for dinner. Another pattern that I discovered was that each time any nightie goes missing from the wardrobe, I will find it hanging back in the night and she would definitely wear that when we had sex either the next night or the following night.

I also realize that she was always on her laptop on nights that she didn’t go out and would spend like an hour or so on it. On Saturdays when I play golf with clients in Singapore, she would say she needed to go back to work but never when I was playing golf in Johor. Another suspicion was that she would always call me when I am playing golf in Johor to ask was the game and what time I was going to finish, once or twice each time but never when I was playing golf in Singapore.

Finally, after 3 agonizing months, I hired a PI and 2 weeks later, I was shown evidence beyond a doubt that she was seeing some other man. I also found out that when I played golf in Johor on Saturday, that man came over to our house to stay for about an hour.

I was furious by now but I wanted to know more. I wanted to know what they did behind closed doors and how long it had been going on. I managed to install a key logger software on to her laptop and finally got access into it. I searched through her laptop and my entire world collapsed when I saw what I found. There were huge log file of her conversation on irc with that guy. There were also countless emails between them. Reading them, I realize they have been fucking behind my back for almost 3 years and have done almost every imaginable sexual act known. In it, they describe how much they enjoyed the fuck sessions when they did in various positions, not forgetting how she BJ him and let him CIM and swallowing his semen. They even had anal sex. That guy even wrote stuff like how turned on he was when she told him that she had kissed me when she returned home after she had just swallowed his cum earlier on. He even said he get’s super turned on when he fuck her while she wears one of the nightie as he knows she will wear it the next day with me but that I was having second hand goods. There were even nude pictures and video of them in her laptop and I couldn’t bring myself to watch them in detail.

I couldn’t believe it was happening. I confronted her with all the evidence and she admitted it. She even told me that it was good I found out as she didn’t want to hide it anymore and we eventually divorced.

It’s been 8 years since I divorced and it took me one whole year to recover from my shock as drown myself in sorrow, turning to drinking and losing my job. I finally woke up and started my own business and have been successful since.

5 years ago, I started becoming an MILF guy. To date, I have lost count of the number of married women I have fucked. I am not trying to gloat about my “conquest”. I just wanted all married men here to know, don’t be too confident with your trust of your wife. Among the MILFs that I have had, they come from all walks of life, age and looks. Many of them are typical women that hardly anyone would expect them to fuck behind their husband’s back but they did.

Lastly, don’t be a fucking cuckold like I was just because you think your wife don’t have a high sex drive or don’t enjoy sex. It might just be that she doesn’t enjoy it with you but is letting another guy fuck her brains out behind your back, just like what happened to me and like what I am doing now.

No offense to anyone.

bro glad that u move on and put it behind u..

enjoy your singlehood then…what go round will come round eventually then..

moral of the story is to wipe clean after eating…

U are a vengeful one! If the guy dote the gal too much and it becomes unappreciated as times becomes too long. Sorry for u man but you shouldn’t take things into ur own hands. Too bad ur ex wife is the materialstic type as long as you have a good career, you will have flocks of women, you can choose. No need to feel sad for this kind of woman and understand the painstaking efforts to maintain ur relationship. So in turn you should not hunt married women to satisfy urself in vengance. If I have a wife, i would be wary to intro to you!You may “Ta Bao” outside but take care never to hurt others relationship.

BTW take care

bro,

i can imagine what you have gone through but don’t you think what you’re doing now is basically exacting revenge. take a step back and ponder on your current behaviour. aren’t you just like the guy who had the affair with your wife. you sound like a decent guy so why degrade your morals and values.just my two cents worth

bonkie

Retribution turns around…..someone f88k your OC, and now, you f88k others’ OC.

Just the same, the guy whom did your OC will experience his own penalty sooner or later……

Anyway, parts & parcels of life…..

TS…u sure this is a true story? 8 years of marriage and no mention of kids?

Perhaps she never was in love with you in the first place…some women can be like that…marry for security and then regret and later meet someone else who can sweep her off her feet…

All the milf that you fucked subsequently…they could just be like your ex-wife! How about tell us the story of each of them?

I do agree with your last few lines. Those typical conservative decent looking milf are able to cover their act better than any other girls. We do not smell a single rat because their face look so decent. If we were to suspect them and create a scene, we will look and sound stupid if we do not have enough evident against them and will alert the snake. If we suspect too much they might think we are possessive and paranoid. If we do not occassionally spot check them, they up to some hanky panky behind our back we will not know. Where and how to draw a line between possessive and suspicious .. This is a very difficult task for us husband sometimes.

For me i occassionally will suddenly ask my wife to give me her iphone to play (as an excuse to check) and check if there is any unfamiliar number. If there is i will question. Also i will sometimes wait outside her office of sudden without notice ask her out for lunch during lunch time and ask her to come out immediately. Or will call her office number to kaykay chat with her and ask her to use office number to call me.

Bros, any more ideas on how to keep the more decent and conservative milf in check so that they are not up to some monkey business?

Sorry Bro to intercept your thread a bit.

Pardon me for my aw sai ler ang mo.. thank u very much.

Bro, your patience have lead you far, sad to hear it was what you never want to know in the end. Am glad you pull it off and move on with life. Been successful and fucking MILF might be a return from the heaven. Enjoy yourself bro.

Thanks to all the replies. The following are answers to some of the questions and comments.

1. This is a true story. Believe or not is up to you all. Not selling nor advertising anything.

2. We have no kids. She refused to have kids back then. Perhaps it was good we didn’t have kids.

3. True, I am into MILF now but not because I am taking revenge. Over the past few years, I have come to realize there are so many of these married women who is willing to sleep with another men. If it’s not me, it would be another guy. I am not justifying my actions. I never force any one of them. They did it willingly. I know many guys will hate me but after my incident, I didn’t blame that guy. If anyone is to blame, it was me. I was just too stupid not to see the tell tale signs. Blinded by love and trust.

4. She did love me at the beginning but in the end, she loved him more. Too bad, she thought he was sincere that he would divorce his wife for her. In the end, he didn’t.

5. I am telling my story not to ask you guys to beware of me. I am just hoping guys here don’t take things for granted at home. I have read too many post here and spoken to many married men. Most of them are eating out and many of them think their wives are not the type who would sleep around. Just want everyone to know, nothing is absolute in this world. Your wife didn’t sleep around in the past. She is not sleeping around now. It doesn’t mean she wouldn’t in future. Just don’t be complacent is my message.

6. I am still single but have a live in gf. I won’t marry her simply because I lost trust in marriage. She might even be fucking around behind me but I really don’t bother. Our relationship is merely to provide each other with company and sex.

Lastly, sorry if I offended anyone. Not my intention. Just wanted to share that’s all.

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Originally Posted by

onlyou

no one wants to be cheated but we can never prevent if its happening without us knowing…..

You are right that we can’t prevent something from happening if we don’t know it’s happening. Even if you know, you still might not be able to prevent.

I just hope everyone will heed my warning not to be complacent. It hurts when you discover your wife is cheating on you. It hurts even more when you realize that the signs were there but you were just too blinded with complacency to see it. I was one of those blinded fools and I am now seeing it from the other side of the wall.