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You can’t be yourself with your partner.
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You feel that the relationship is smothering you emotionally, socially, or spiritually.
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You sense there are differences in values, beliefs, and life goals.
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One of you is moving a distance away.
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You find yourself outgrowing the person.
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You’re in an emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive relationship.
Great encounters bro TightV!
You seem to be able to get away with plenty of raw encounters with the girls that you come across in your life… Power man. :-)
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TightV
Bros and Sis of SBF, how do you know if its time to call it quits with your gf/bf?
For me, it is time to call it quits when:
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Sorry to go off-topic a bit but your take on when to call it quits rings so true with me. My spouse and I are now separated but she doesn’t want to do the official deed of separation and divorce because of our two year old daughter whom she doesn’t want to grow up from a divorced family.
So we continue to live a lie, i.e. to pretend to be a happy family on weekends and 2 out of 5 weekdays but basically the marriage is over. I suffered a lot of emotional abuse as she basically is someone full of tantrums and is not independent. Financially cannot support herself and could hardly take care of my daughter growing up without mine, the maid, my mother and her mother helping out.
It was so stifling that I couldn’t even get out of the house once in a mth in the evenings to have guys’ night out or for my own activities.
Thank you eeemen! you are always so supportive! thanks!
rhys, i understand your predicament. It must be really tough on you. I hope you find a solution for yourself soon..
I am currently going through a dilemma myself as well. you see, i fall in love (yes head over heels kind) with a gal recently. problem is she hides things/information about herself from me, eg. where she works, where she lives (actual unit).. and quite a few times, i caught her lying to me as well.. one of my friends commented that she is probably ashame of something and thats why she does it..
She does spends time with me, but only after certain hours.. etc etc..
We have quarrelled many times over these matter.. while when she is with me.. i can really feel her love for me.. but when she is out-of-my-sight, anything goes.. miss calls, no replies on SMS, she gives reasons like she fell asleep..
half of me says i should just drop this girl.. the other half of me says not.. I guess.. 痛了.. 自然会放手… i.e. you will let go, once the pain becomes unbearable..
Sorry for ranting..
Anyways.. back to my sexcapade days~
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In between Girls - Zoe
I became Zoe’s unofficial boyfriend after our “1st encounter”. Interesting thing about some of the girls i encounter, is that having sex does not begets into a commitment, yet it is not a FB relationship.. It is really a whole new “ball” game to me..
Unknown to Zoe, i continue to date other girls. Bedding some of them if i can..
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Though i am based in Shanghai, my travels brings me around the region quite frequently. At the peak, i spent over 80% of my time travelling, some days in HK, some days in Tokyo, some days back to singapore. Yes, travelling back to sgp for business
Not returning for holidays.
Unfortunately, my trips to Japan has never been long and usually rush, so i never gotten the opportunity to bonk anyone there.. making up for it, i manage to bed quite a few in HK and a number in sgp, and of cos China.
I have somewhat morphed into a player.. girlfriends here and there.. but never serious.. And one fine day, i met my match.. Debbie..
…tbc…
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Originally Posted by
TightV
I am currently going through a dilemma myself as well. you see, i fall in love (yes head over heels kind) with a gal recently. problem is she hides things/information about herself from me, eg. where she works, where she lives (actual unit).. and quite a few times, i caught her lying to me as well.. one of my friends commented that she is probably ashame of something and thats why she does it..
She does spends time with me, but only after certain hours.. etc etc..
We have quarrelled many times over these matter.. while when she is with me.. i can really feel her love for me.. but when she is out-of-my-sight, anything goes.. miss calls, no replies on SMS, she gives reasons like she fell asleep..
half of me says i should just drop this girl.. the other half of me says not.. I guess.. 痛了.. 自然会放手… i.e. you will let go, once the pain becomes unbearable..
Sorry for ranting..
Bro TightV
That’s the thing about women, isn’t it? Can’t live with them, can’t live without them :-P
It’s difficult to have a relationship on sound footing when one party is evasive and hiding things. That was part of what got my marriage into trouble, i.e. my spouse wants to know what I do etc but does not reciprocate and hides stuff from me. For instance, make phone calls also go into a room as afraid of me overhearing not so much because she’s having affairs or what but because she’s confiding in a male friend we both know about issues.
The main part of why my marriage got into trouble is communication and also emotional abuse by a domineering, spoilt-princess type of behaviour coupled with extreme manic-depressive mood swings.
Eventually I had enough and packed my stuff to go back to my parents’ place to stay. The ironic thing is that things are better because now she realises she needs my $ and separation and divorce proceedings will get her alimony but she will have to settle my daughter herself with little help from me.
So we are now a “happier” family with me around only on weekends and two weekdays.
It’s always tough to make the decision to call it quits or to persevere in a relationship. Either you change to accept her behaviour when she’s not with you or she changes. I realise both are difficult things for both parties.
Hope that your relationship dilemna sorts itself out.
rhys
greatly appreciate your insights.. i guess we have similar predicament. only difference is that i am not married to this girl.. I guess the saddest thing for me is that this is the only girl i met, after so many years of singlehood (after divorce), whom i really had a “thing” for her.
This one is really different for me. 1st time we met, i just felt that we have this connection, and i even felt like marrying her on our 3rd date.. A feeling so strong which i never felt before..
And yes, i agree with you, unless i make the change myself, learn to close one eye (maybe even both?).. then things may just work out for us..
But then.. one of my gal-pals said “She is not the only girl left in this world V~~~~”
.^_^.
..am still “tending to my wounds”…
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In between Girls - Zoe, Debbie
Let me describe Debbie.. As i said earlier, she is petite. 155CM, weighs 40+KG, Bcups. A malaysian girl with a rather twisted family background, and twisted personality. She have looks a little (80%) like the Msian Singer Siti Tarudin.
About her twisted family background/personality.. well whether twisted or not.. i will leave it to you guys (and gals) to decide for yourself as we go along..
1st time meeting Debbie was simple, dinner, chat then happily sent her home. Found out a few things, she works for a Japanese company, her parents passed away when she was just a toddler, brought up by her brother who is just few years older then she is, moved from place to place, relative to relative in her growing up years..
Our 2nd meeting was dinner (again) in another restaurant in Shanghai. And somehow, for some reason which i have forgotten, we ended up in her apartment.
A little Bohemian style, spartan, with shelves and shelves of books. Then we had herbal tea… Started staring at each other.. smiling.. the first kiss on the sofa, then the second, the third… Slowly sprawled on the couch, hands grasping for each other. Lips joining passionately, slightly desperately. my hands cupping her breasts, hers framing my face, then drawing my shoulders closer…
…tbc…
In between Girls - Zoe, Debbie
Our bodies twine closer, hands stroking, lips locking, legs twisting. I felt Debbie brush her hand over my cock, an invite to me to go further. She reaches into my underwear and gently wraps her hand around my cock, stroking my bare shaft.
My hands went into auto-roaming.. subtly shifting to probe underneath her cloths.. gently twiddling her tits.. her back.. her torso.. the insides of her thighs.. Softly, she moaned into my mouth and her legs spread ever so slightly ..
Then.. in a gentle as can be voice.. “sorry V.. not today.. i am in the 3rd day of my period..”
With that.. my hardened cock.. literally went instantly limped
…tbc…
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tightv
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then.. In a gentle as can be voice.. “sorry v.. Not today.. I am in the 3rd day of my period..”
with that.. My hardened cock.. Literally went instantly limped
…tbc…
roflmao!
In between Girls - Zoe, Debbie
“thats alright.. we have all the time in the world to do it…” was all i could muster up…
Debbie and I continued meeting each other for the next few days, telling one another about our lives. She told me that she came out to work part-time when she was in secondary school to help support herself. By 16 yrs old she became the girlfriend of a gangster, who later almost beat the life out off her. She told the dramatic details of her escape and how she later manage to find her way to japan, work part time, and learn the culture there, then later got offered a job by her current boss to be his translator..
She seemed so open and forward about herself…
On the 4th day after we 1st met.. (yes i was schemingly calculating), Debbie followed me to my place… .^_^. homeground! Once inside the clothes were flying in every direction.. Soon we were in each other’s arms, rolling around on the bed, kissing and caressing. Debbie’s pussy was beautiful, nice cute shaven lips that were very sensitive to oral pleasures. I explored every inch of her as she moaned.
Debbie raised her hips, mashing her pussy into my face as she started cumming hard. I worked my finger between her cheeks, penetrating her ass which really sent her off the deep end. Debbie started cumming so hard…
As her orgasm subsided, Debbie kissed her juices from my face, saying no one had ever made her cum that hard before. Then she worked her way down to my cock, taking it in her hand and started running her tongue up and down my hardened shaft.
She swirled her tongue around the head of my cock making me moan. Then she took me down her throat where she began service me.. she was good. After a while.. she got on top of me where she lowered herself onto my awaiting cock. Riding on my cock to another series of orgasm..
Pulling my cock out I had her get up off her back and on all fours. I position myself behind her and thrust my cock into her once again. Her pussy squeezing even more on my cock I grabbed a hold of her waist and fucked her like there was no tomorrow.
Soon.. we both got closer and closer to reaching orgasm. With one last thrust I shot my hot cum deep inside her pussy. Her pussy giving my cock one last squeeze she drained every ounce of what I had in her. Her body limp and with no strength left she let herself fall to the floor in front of me..
We ended up making love half the night, finally falling asleep, totally spent from all the sex…
…tbc…
In between Girls - Lena, Zoe, Debbie, Fanny
So there i was, as i travel for my work, swinging between 3 girls, Lena in Beijing, Debbie and Zoe in Shanghai.. and very soon, Fanny in Singapore came into the picture as well.. Fanny, another sweet petite girl, 155CM, 40+KG, A+ cups with looks of Msian Singer Liang Jing Ru (70% alike) with fairer skin.. and nice proportionate ass to match..
1st time i met Fanny was to catch a movie.. nothing happened that day.. We stayed in touched and she was always one of the 1st few friends in sgp to know that i am heading for sgp…
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*beep*
an SMS came in after i turn on my mobile after the plane landed. thinking that it is one of those mobile service provider welcome messages, i ignored it. I love buying alcholic drinks and fragrances at the DFS in the airport when i return to sgp. So as i was checking out the products, i started to clear the junk SMS that came in.. and..
a welcome home message from Fanny.. i smiled and replied her and thank her for it..
As i walked out of the customs checkpoint after doing my little shopping trip, i instinctively walked towards the taxi stand.. while walking, i kept feelng some tapping on my shoulder.. and when i turned around and looked..
Fanny was there.. smiling so sweetly at me..
“welcome back sgp V”,she said and gave me a hug..
“Fanny! what brings you here?” i asked, feeling very heartwarming, and very surprise..
“to welcome you home lor…” Fanny said..
…tbc…
In between Girls - Lena, Zoe, Debbie, Fanny
I was really elated as Fanny was there to welcome me at the airport. There’s just something heartwarming about the gesture. I never like goodbyes, so i never wanted any of my friends or family to send me to the airport.. But i simply love being welcome at the airport..
So I guess Fanny made the right bet waiting for my arrival to Singapore at the airport!
Nothing much happened that day though. We found a corner of the airport and chatted through the night. And in the morning, we went separate ways.
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*beep~*
“Honey, how are you in Singapore? i miss you..”
“baby, when are you coming to Beijing?”
“Darling.. miss you so much.. please come back soon..”
they were SMSes from Zoe, Lena and Debbie..
Debbie sent me the least messages.. Zoe and Lena, they will “flirt” with me through messages only when i SMS them. I guess they take it as a hint that if i do not reply SMS fast enough, it meant that i am busy, and i like that
means i have more freedom of choice, to reply to whoever.
I never like replying messages too instinctively. i have learnt that mistakes occurs when one does things too instinctively. I made sure that i am always mindful of who i am writing to and always make sure i share similar stories to all the girls. This way, i will not have headaches remembering the details.
Guys are never good at lying, girls always have their ways to tell if we are. Agree?
I have learnt a trick. Tell them things that are near the truth.
What do i mean? Well, eg. if you are going out to have dinner with your fling/ONS, say you are going out dinner with buddies/friends, for that matter, you can even tell them the location you are having dinner.
Another eg. if you are not going to be home and going to bar/pub/KTV with your fling/ONS, say things that are near the truth, “Honey, i am going to meet my clients for entertainment tonight, and will be late (or early home.. early morning
)
Alright.. i am deviating..
Back to Fanny..
…tbc…