- Braggadocio
- Showing Off
- Offering Unsolicited Advice
- The body language that women find attractive
- Speech: use a deep and resonant voice, and
- Behavior: well, this one’s more complex.
Good evening!
Yesterday I received the following email re 3 terrible social habits which we all hv to a varying degree.
These are signs of deep rooted insecurities and inferiority complex.
3 SELFISH SOCIAL HABITS TO AVOID
Today I’m going to share with you something that’s going to seem
VERY basic on the surface–almost bare-bones.
But even though we may understand the fundamental basics of what
I’m going to talk about at the instinctive gut-felt level,
relatively few guys walking this Earth really get it right in
real-world interactions with others–men OR women.
Here’s the thing: Even though we know we should always GIVE more
than we TAKE during the course of social interactions, a shocking
number of guys in particular just can’t seem to help
themselves…they’ve just GOT to be at least a little selfish.
And that’s disastrous because coming off as selfish in social
situations means you might as well beat your chest and blatantly
proclaim your neediness to everyone around you.
Even subtle self-serving indications cause others to find someone
more important to talk to–in droves.
Here are three areas were MASSIVE faux pas tend to occur:
Years ago a country preacher named Jim Rayburn said, “People don’t
care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Truer
words have never been spoken.
Believe me when I tell you that nothing in this whole wide world is
more BORING to a listener than being asked to endure your endless
droning on about how excellent you are.
Yes, I understand the temptation to expedite the process by which
the whole world is aware of your many exploits and accomplishments.
But you’ll most certainly enjoy more warmly felt accolades from a
wider cross-section of your social circle if you let SOMEONE ELSE
tell the stories.
Give them room to be amazed on their own. It’ll work out better
for you in the long run…I promise.
Do you feel the need to demonstrate to people how good you are at
stuff?
And what if someone else shows some talent? Must you really hog
the spotlight and prove to everyone around you how your prowess
exceeds that of the other person?
If you answered “yes” to any of those questions, you’re absolutely,
positively coming off as LESS cool to everyone you know than you
think.
In other words, you’re a douche. By definition.
Don’t be that guy. Go ahead and celebrate someone else getting a
bit of recognition in the moment. The time will come–perhaps in
the next friggin’ five minutes, if you can just hold your
horses–when someone else will acknowledge your talents as well.
And even if that DOESN’T come to pass, rest assured that your quiet
resolve to remain cooler than any other needy guys around you will
ALWAYS pay rich dividends in the long run.
I have to tell you that this is by FAR the toughest one for me to
avoid personally.
After all, I see guys all around me BLOWING it with women all the
time. All. The. Time.
But life experience has told me that I can throw down the most
smokin’ dating tips in the world to someone who did NOT ask me for
them and they’ll go 100% unheeded. In fact, I’ll probably be
resented for offering to help.
Don’t be fooled. When you try to give advice to someone who didn’t
ask for it, it’s only going to bug them to no end that you opened
your big mouth.
Amazingly, you can even preface unsolicited advice in any way you
want–including humility and/or a straightforward acknowledgment
that you already realize you’re being obnoxious–and it will yet be
met with indifference, if not utter hostility.
Come to think of it, I reconnected with an old friend from high
school on Facebook recently. The first thing he did was ask me if
I was married and how many kids I had. The next thing he did was
offer unsolicited marriage and parenting advice.
I’m realizing as I’m typing this that I haven’t bothered to chat
with him again since. What I’m telling you is no joke.
The only viable exception to the rule of withholding unsolicited
advice is when it’s truly a matter of life and death. If someone
is about to do something mortally stupid and you know better, then
it’s definitely time to step in. Who cares how you look socially
in that case, right?
Bragging, showing off and unsolicited advice are all under the same
umbrella, actually…and it’s all about lack of empathy and lack of
concern for others (in other words, selfishness).
So how about it? Can you bite your tongue when it comes to social
selfishness and lead others to feel comfortable talking about
themselves instead?
It may take some serious doing at first, but as you get used to it
I’m positive you’ll find that others around you–perhaps
ironically–find you to be a FAR more interesting person.
Be Good,
Your Guru
Good afternoon!
Yesterday a guru from Gotham sent me a brief article which brought back some fond memories w/ my lao po WH, my 1st mistress.
After knowing WH for 4 months, she finally agreed to hv dinner w/ me to discuss how I could take care of her, in Jan of 2009. I waited in a roadside food stall for over 30 min. She was 21 then n looked prettier n sexier than when I last saw her 3 1/2 months earlier…I asked her if she had a BF, she said currently no, 不过很多人追我. I was a newbie then n was slightly discouraged. Luckily for me, I didn’t misinterpret her intention. I now know that she was trying to increase her value in my eyes. That was because she liked me and hoped that I would like her.
To make a long story short, I BY-ed her very briefly twice in 2009…then had had little ctc w/ her until 2 yrs ago when she asked me to BY her. BTW, she is still w/ me.
WHAT TO DO WHEN SHE TELLS YOU HOW MANY GUYS WANT HER
One thing I’ve noticed is how quick most guys are to completely
dismiss their chances with certain women. It’s as if they’re
literally looking for an excuse to bail out.
Indeed, for years I’ve been talking about how the “Too Good To Be
True Factor” influences so many of us, such that we tend to talk
ourselves out of success with women before even giving them a
chance to form their own opinion on the matter.
Because success is so hard to imagine as reality, we automatically
assume it CAN’T happen. Therefore, we sort of sabotage things in a
very real way just to make sure we’re right about that.
Pretty sick, isn’t it?
But sometimes we as guys will even go so far as to interpret
POSITIVE signs as NEGATIVES. These cases, of course, really are
the most tragic ones because the woman herself is left wondering
what the heck just happened.
Basically, both people lose out on getting to know each other…even
though they actually WANTED that to happen. He makes a wholly
incorrect assumption, and she ends up feeling “rejected”.
Man, what a tangled web we weave, huh?
Today I’m going to give you a primo example of an indicator of
solid interest that I’d say MOST guys misinterpret as a put-off.
That’s when a woman starts telling you how many guys she has
interested in her. Even if–make that ESPECIALLY if–she makes it a
point to do so.
Just to clear the air up front, I’ll be the first to throw on the
table that it’s a MISTAKE for a woman to do that. I mean, it’s a
BAD IDEA for anyone–woman OR man–to say or do ANYTHING that’s
likely to be misconstrued socially.
But rest assured nonetheless, women really have NO IDEA that you’re
taking such statements as code for, “Hey, get lost…I have enough
guys trying to hit on me already. They’ll never get anywhere, and
you won’t either.”
Unless she’s as overtly blunt and negative about the matter as in
the example above you should open your eyes to a potentially
different interpretation of what she’s saying…a RADICALLY different
one, and more likely the INTENDED one.
You see, it’s overwhelmingly probable that she’s actually bringing
the matter to your attention in an attempt to INCREASE HER VALUE in
your eyes.
That’s because she LIKES YOU and hopes you’ll LIKE HER.
Let me illustrate this for you.
If you’re from the US or the UK and have ever rented a car
elsewhere (e.g. Europe, the Pacific Rim or the Middle East) you’ll
quickly notice something as you try to find familiar music on the
radio dial.
People in non-English speaking countries really do LOVE American
and British pop music.
BUT…they’re about six months to a year behind. And when they
decide they like a particular song they REALLY, REALLY like it.
Welp, for better or worse it would appear the French and the
Spaniards have just discovered “Call Me Maybe” by Carli Rae Jepson.
Good God Man. We couldn’t avoid that shiznit for 2000 miles worth
of roadtripping through southern Europe a couple of weeks ago.
Between that, “Gangnam Style”, some Justin Bieber song and “Scream
& Shout” you’d be led to believe these stations have a four song
rotation…at least until they break stride with three songs by Bruno
Mars in a row, invariably punctuated by “Someone Like You” by
Adele. Geez.
OK, so making lemonade out of lemons I did make one interesting
observation. Check out this lyric from what’s an otherwise
completely worthless, overproduced pop monstrosity with a
completely incongruous flow to it:
“And all the other boys try to chase me, but here’s my number…so
call me, maybe?”
Aha…see that? The girl clearly likes the guy…a LOT. And before
giving him her number, she drops EXACTLY the kind of line I’m
talking about here.
Rhetorically speaking, it goes without saying that she’s NOT hoping
the guy “gets lost”.
So like other women who would have us know how popular they are
with other dudes, she’s attempting to tap into the power of
perceived social proof to gain approval from him also.
You know, just in case he isn’t yet in the fold with those who
quickly adore her.
Can you see how that’s working there?
After all, as all good salespeople know “people buy on the approval
of others”.
Following logically, you can now see that it’s all nothing more
than good old-fashioned approval seeking.
Yes…the ill-advised type that tends to make people look needy or
even desperate when overplayed.
There you have another reason why women probably shouldn’t play
that particular card.
But alas, they do. And they sure LOVE to, don’t they?
Well, from now on you’ll know what she’s REALLY trying to tell you
when that happens.
Be Good,
Mr Guru
Quote:
Originally Posted by
besafe
Hi bro WB,
You keep talking about giving your ladies great orgasm.
Have you seen this vid?
Are your ladies like this?
http://video.xnxx.com/video3999118/c…_maeda_squirts
Hi bro besafe,
I clicked on the link and “the page cannot be opened.”
Could u pls provide another link for what must be explosive, earth-shaking, continuous orgasms. But some of these orgasms could be staged or fake.
Yes, giving women intense, screaming orgasms regularly is one of the keys to getting them addicted to a man.
Cheers!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
FruityFruit
Agreed warbird. Interesting share
Hi bro,
Life is so interesting n exciting, isn’t it?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
besafe
Hi bro WB,
You keep talking about giving your ladies great orgasm.
Have you seen this vid?
Are your ladies like this?
http://video.xnxx.com/video3999118/c…_maeda_squirts
Hi bro besafe,
I clicked on the link and “the page cannot be opened.”
Could u pls provide another link for what must be explosive, earth-shaking, continuous orgasms. But some of these orgasms could be staged or fake.
Yes, giving women intense, screaming orgasms regularly is one of the keys to getting them addicted to a man.
Cheers!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
FruityFruit
Agreed warbird. Interesting share
Hi bro,
Life is so interesting n exciting, isn’t it?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
LovePotion
nowsadays… difficult to see female really orgasm.. or fake orgasm…
Hi bro,
I don’t hv time right now to discuss this most interesting subject. IMHO, it’s not difficult to detect fake orgasm, which is a big turn off for me.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Bigbluebird
This thread is a treasure trove of knowledge!
Ths for reading. Don’t forget to post ur FRs. I hv learnt a lot from every bro here.
………………………………………….
Good morning!
My return to Gotham City is imminent. I hv already sent my long term mistresses back to their respective hometowns. TH will stay in SG n since I don’t give her anything while I’m away, I don’t care if she finds another BF…
There is a subject which has fascinated me:
DGAD Attitude.
This is what attracts women, THE one secret that makes ‘Bad Boy’ or BB so successful n addictive to women. We should hv this attitude ingrained in our subconscious mind n we must jettison all the other obnoxious n negative attributes of a BB. Then we can beat a BB at his own game hahaha.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
LovePotion
nowsadays… difficult to see female really orgasm.. or fake orgasm…
Hi bro,
I don’t hv time right now to discuss this most interesting subject. IMHO, it’s not difficult to detect fake orgasm, which is a big turn off for me.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Bigbluebird
This thread is a treasure trove of knowledge!
Ths for reading. Don’t forget to post ur FRs. I hv learnt a lot from every bro here.
………………………………………….
Good morning!
My return to Gotham City is imminent. I hv already sent my long term mistresses back to their respective hometowns. TH will stay in SG n since I don’t give her anything while I’m away, I don’t care if she finds another BF…
There is a subject which has fascinated me:
DGAD Attitude.
This is what attracts women, THE one secret that makes ‘Bad Boy’ or BB so successful n addictive to women. We should hv this attitude ingrained in our subconscious mind n we must jettison all the other obnoxious n negative attributes of a BB. Then we can beat a BB at his own game hahaha.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
NotMyRealName
Looking forward to your return and fun outings.
DGAD, well for me, at least…………………………..And the sometime hot and sometime cold attitude ……………………
These days, I’m preparing to plot my route to have longer stays in China, i.e. hoped to be sent to station there but with frequent travel back to SG.
Hi bro NotMyRealName,
Yes, you should not GAD what ur dream girl thinks of u or what others think of u…you will hv an unfair advantage over her other suitors.
Combine that attitude w/ various push pull strategies to evoke strong emotions in her. Last but not least, give her prolonged earth shaking orgasms regularly. Before long she will be addicted to u hahaha.
Where will u be in China? I’ll need ur help to audition some gals for me.
Cheers!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
PowerTAN_P_W
DGAD? looks interesting to Power Tan. maybe i will try it out and see one day.
Rgds,
Ah Wee
Hi bro,
It’s an attitude you should hv for the rest of ur life.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
chenzong
Will this be a long term return or just a short while?
Hi bro chenzong,
I’ll return to SG next month.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
NotMyRealName
Looking forward to your return and fun outings.
DGAD, well for me, at least…………………………..And the sometime hot and sometime cold attitude ……………………
These days, I’m preparing to plot my route to have longer stays in China, i.e. hoped to be sent to station there but with frequent travel back to SG.
Hi bro NotMyRealName,
Yes, you should not GAD what ur dream girl thinks of u or what others think of u…you will hv an unfair advantage over her other suitors.
Combine that attitude w/ various push pull strategies to evoke strong emotions in her. Last but not least, give her prolonged earth shaking orgasms regularly. Before long she will be addicted to u hahaha.
Where will u be in China? I’ll need ur help to audition some gals for me.
Cheers!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
PowerTAN_P_W
DGAD? looks interesting to Power Tan. maybe i will try it out and see one day.
Rgds,
Ah Wee
Hi bro,
It’s an attitude you should hv for the rest of ur life.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
chenzong
Will this be a long term return or just a short while?
Hi bro chenzong,
I’ll return to SG next month.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
NotMyRealName
I’ll be going Shanghai. Maybe drop by to ShenZhen.
Hi bro,
Have a great time.
………………………………………….. ………………………………………
Good morning!
Two of my mistresses and several potential GFs hv seen the new movie 北京遇上西雅图 (2013) n they love the movie, love the 2 protagonists n, best of all, they love Seattle.
The story is abt a non-WL who was BY-ed by a rich crook (who later went to jail) in Beijing. She came to Seattle to give birth. There she met a former heart specialist Frank from Beijing who was down on his luck n was working as a chauffeur…thank God he wasn’t formerly from Singapore!! BTW, he is an old uncle…
All my gals want to come to Seattle to be w/ me NOW hahaha. They want to stay as long as I want them to. I said definitely, but later…
Seattle is a romantic city. It’s scenic n air quality is very good, unlike Beijing.
Here is a review of the movie:
http://baike.baidu.com/view/9804845.htm
I’ll try to watch it. My lao po said she would like to watch it again w/ me. I think it’s not available yet in SG.
Has any bros seen the movie? Your comments?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Good morning!
Where in SG can I find my type of girls??
年青貌美的女孩子, 年龄在18岁-24岁之间，身高在163cm-173cm.
一定要身材匀称, 皮肤细腻白皙, 乳房丰满（最少有B），手细腿长，臀部又圆润又翘。 有大专水平最好.
Must be non-smoker. Of course no big scars, tattoos, plastic surgeries, pregnancies…
That is for outward appearance only. I hv other requirements when she is stark naked n for her pussy…
I leave no stone unturned in my search. Anyone to intro?
Let’s talk about another topic.
I know we all feel insecure and/or unattractive to women/girls of our type if we r too ugly, too short, too tall, too fat, too thin, too old, too poor, undereducated, from a different ethnic group, different creed…
That is most unfortunate. We don’t fully understand what women want…
Here is a brief discussion written by a noted Ang Moh guru.
What Women REALLY Want In A Man
Hey Bro Warbird,
.. WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT IN A MAN?
Here’s a short list for you.
Women really want:
- A guy who is taller than them.
- A guy who can provide for their future.
- A guy who is great in bed.
- A guy who can make them laugh.
Etc.
Sound familiar?
Well, I’ve got news for you: NONE OF THESE
THINGS ARE WHAT WOMEN ACTUALLY WANT.
Of course, a guy who has these qualities may
find it easier to get an AUDITION with a woman -
but ONLY an audition.
It’s not the deciding factor.
Think about it! How many examples can you think
of, for EACH of these qualities, where a guy has
that desirable quality, BUT STILL STRUGGLES WITH
WOMEN?
Yes, women prefer men who are taller than them.
But does this mean that tall men automatically
find it easy to get women?
Uh-uh.
How about rich men? Do the owners of companies
and apartment buildings find themselves swarmed
over by women the moment they make their first
million? Do they find it easy to get sex, a
girlfriend, or a wife, just because they’re rich?
Nope.
I don’t know any guys who are great in bed (for
reasons that should be obvious to you), but I know
that if a guy can’t ATTRACT a woman, she’s never
going to be able to find out whether he can make
it between the sheets or not.
And guys who can make women laugh don’t
necessarily have success with women, either. In
fact, many guys use jokes and humor as a way to
get female attention, only to have that woman
laugh along with them … and then categorize them
as a FRIEND.
Ouch.
So what’s going on here? Why are women so
confusing?
They SAY they like tall guys. They SAY they
want a man who can make them laugh. And they ALL
say they want a man with a good sense of humor,
who is also sensitive and considerate.
So what’s the story? Why is it that so many
men, with some, if not ALL, of these desirable
qualities - men who would probably make fantastic
lovers, boyfriends, and husbands - are waking up
alone every morning?
It’s because women are actually not that good
at figuring out what they want.
That’s why.
And hey - it’s not just WOMEN who have this
problem. EVERYONE does it. Studies have shown that
humans, as a general rule, almost ALWAYS
significantly overestimate how happy something is
going to make them.
In other words, it’s been scientifically proven
that WOMEN DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT.
They know what they THINK they want - which is
why your female friends and sisters are so happy
to tell you what the qualities of The Ideal Man
would be - but that’s not the same as what they
ACTUALLY want.
Another way of saying this might be that they
can’t tell you the qualities that they ACTUALLY
find attractive in a man.
Here’s the deal: all the tallness and humor in
the world is NEVER going to help you, unless you
know HOW TO MAKE WOMEN FEEL ATTRACTION.
That’s it. That’s the ONLY key.
You need to be able to know how to trigger that
magical feeling of ATTRACTION in a woman.
And then you know what else? When you know how
to do that, things like height, looks, and money
NO LONGER MATTER.
For example, I’ve got a couple of friends who
are pretty short, by most people’s standards.
One’s about 5'5", the other’s about 5'3".
That’s not tall by ANYBODY’S standards. Not
even Japanese women.
These men are perfectly aware that many women
believe they want a tall man. (Notice how I said
“BELIEVE they want”?) But they have BOTH come to
the conclusion, through their own personal
research “in the field” that their height only
becomes a problem if they allow it to affect their
confidence.
One of them phrased it like this: “It’s not the
shortness that’s the problem. It’s the LACK OF
CONFIDENCE that the shortness produces in the man
that’s the problem.”
He knows that he is one cool dude, and that he
could very well represent the best experience that
a woman will EVER have. And so he decided not to
let his shortness hamper him.
Now, whenever he’s talking to an attractive
woman who is also taller than him, he’ll throw
something out there like, “So, I see that you’re
tall. Gee. (pause pause pause for effect) So does
that make it hard to, like, buy shoes? Do you find
that, being so tall, your long long feet won’t fit
into all the pretty little girly shoes out there?”
… and he just roughs them up.
But here’s the catch: he does it in THE MOST
CHARMING WAY.
Incidentally, due to the ease with which you
can misconstrue the written word, I feel compelled
to point out here that he always says this kind of
stuff with a BIIIG cheeky grin … and makes it VERY
clear that he’s ‘just kidding’ (without actually
coming out and SAYING so) …
… so that she knows he’s giving her a hard time
on purpose, and not just being a rude knucklehead.
(If you’ve ever tried teasing a woman, you’ll
know that the risk involved is directly
proportionate to how expressionless you are, and
how little you know the woman.)
But I digress …
The point here is that these men are LIVING
EXAMPLES of my point, which is that:
a) Women don’t really know what they want
b) If you can make her feel ATTRACTION, she
will forget any preconceived notions of what she
THOUGHT she wanted, and will go with what works
c) It’s up to YOU to SHOW HER what she wants.
You can bet that none of the women those 2 friends
of mine hook up with woke up in the morning and
thought, “Gosh, I sure hope I hook up with a short
guy tonight!” Nope, they THOUGHT they wanted a
tall guy … RIGHT UP UNTIL THE MOMENT THEY WERE
PROVED WRONG.
So if you know how to make a woman feel
attraction, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.
And fortunately, there are tried and true,
PROVEN patterns of behavior, body language, and
speech that appeal to women and flick their
attraction switches.
Briefly:
is the body language of an alpha male: cool, calm,
confident, and in control. (Hint: body language
supersedes the spoken word by about a million
percent in terms of how it demonstrates your
value. It doesn’t matter what you SAY, unless your
body language backs it up.)
speak SLOWLY. Inserting pauses into your speech is
an extremely effective way to sound confident and
interesting, NO MATTER WHAT YOU’RE SAYING.
Speaking too fast is a sign of a deep lack of
self-confidence (you talk fast out of a fear the
other person will lose interest, basically.)
Speaking slooooowly, and inserting a pause of 1
second (a count of ONE-one-thousand) between TWO
and FIVE TIMES PER SENTENCE is ideal.
I’ll start by saying that all of your behaviors
should demonstrate high social value. The more
PASSIONATE and CONFIDENT you are (passionate, in
this context, meaning INTERESTED in whatever it is
you’re talking about or doing) the higher your
value. The less supplicative and needy you are,
and the more impervious to other people’s opinions
you seem, the higher your value. Self-referenced
(as opposed to externally referenced) men are HIGH
VALUE.
Learning how to create attraction is the MECCA
of success with women. It is the all-embracing
recipe for mind-blowing and CONSISTENT success. It
is something that all men want to learn … but very
few do.
This isn’t because men are dumb, or because the
information is difficult to grasp. In fact, it’s
actually very EASY once you figure out what to do.
And once you’ve mastered THAT, you can move on
to the more advanced stuff:
I’ll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
Mr. Guru
I like to add that:
Hope X Uncertainty = Attraction (Passion)
Therefore, no Hope, zero Attraction. No uncertainty, zero attraction.
Big Hope and lots of Uncertainty = Massive Attraction?
Cheers!
Bro WB