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She needs to be respected by his man as a special n unique individual.
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She needs to hv intimate, emotional communication n bonding w/ her man.
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She needs an exciting man to make her feel beautiful, sexy, sensual, feminine…
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She needs hot n passionate sex w/ her man. She wants to be seduced, enticed, teased n satisfied over n over again. She wants to experience new ways n new adventures n she wants to hv her sexual fantasies fulfilled…
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We think that a new or superior technique can fix problems in our sexual RS. There is a place for technique, but u can’t fix a RS problem w/ a sexual technique. There is such a disconnect from where the man is, mentally n emotionally, to where the woman is, mentally n emotionally.
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We truly don’t believe our partners like sex n so we approach sex by pushing, manipulating n coercing. At her core, a typical woman is a very sexual being…but her sexual potential has been constrained n even stifled by social-religious conditioning since a young age.
- We try to “nice " our way into more intimacy…but any good thing overextended becomes a weakness, even a disaster n by over extending a good thing, we may totally ruin our sex lives. We use niceness as a strategy to get sex. But it destroys everything a woman needs in a man to be turned on by him.
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Originally Posted by
besafe
Hi Bro WB,
Am now domesticated, as GF is now working and residing in SGP, and keeping an eagle eye on me.
No more KTV outings and late nights, except for the few forages into the legal GL domain.
Cheers.
Hi bro besafe,
I know you’re joking, hehehe.
It must be the other way round, she is ur domesticate pet?
The gender role reversal is common n very damaging to natural man-woman RS which makes both parties deeply frustrated…
Happy New Year!
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Good morning!
I’m working hard to improve myself, in every way every day, even though I’m a lao chi ko pek.
I just received some coaching from a famed guru on Sexual Mojo. I need to practice n practice. BTW, Sexual Mojo is a lot more than sexual confidence. It will take me 12 months of intensive training n re-programing…
First of all, I need to imitate the body language of a very masculine character…I need to step into his character.
My choice is Humphrey Bogart who was probably less than 168 in height. No smoking or drinking for me though.
Watch him here:
Can anyone compete w/ him? Maybe James Cagney.
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Originally Posted by
asdfghjkl
wow.. learnt plenty from this thread.. bookmark it!
Hi bro asdfghjkl,
I hv also learnt a lot from advice, comments n sharing of experiences from all the bros here.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
besafe
Hi Bro WB,
There is no absolute in a RS.
In my case, I gladly play the “domesticated” part when the situation requires.
It is always good to let the other party “feels” that she has control, when actually that is not really the case.
Cheers.
Hi bro besafe,
You’re right! Every man-woman RS is unique, dynamic n constantly changing.
You’re good, very good, at playing the mind game.
大哥你是調情圣手， 你是扮猪吃老虎!
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Good Morning!
RS is very complex n even if, in the beginning, both love/sex partners like/love each other equally (Balanced RS), an Imbalance will inevitably occur. One partner will like/love or care more than the other. This Imbalanced RS is potentially very unstable n may lead to separation/divorce/heartbreak/misery.
As a MAN, u must make sure ur gal/woman has a lot more KC for u than u hv for her. Be the one who cares less in the RS n be prepared to walk out on her, whatever ur RS w/ her n even if u love her n she is ur dream gal.
We men r simple.
If u see a pretty n sexy gal of ur type, u r instantly attracted. OK, u r different n u want to get to know the gal 1st…me too. I’m going to qualify her to see if she is good enough for me, hahaha.
But gals r complex n emotional.
To keep them attracted n fall for u, u must give them very strong emotions (including regular oxytocin surges). Not only positive n pleasurable emotions, but also strong negative emotions occasionally, hahaha. It’s called push-pull method n carrot n stick approach. A guru believes the correct ratio of carrot to stick is 7 to 1.
One thing that works like a charm is to be slow in replying her calls n text msg, be unavailable…even in an established RS.
Hope + Uncertainty = Passion (Attraction)
Any comments?
A bro sent me a text stating that YY is pretty. Will try to qualify her on my return.
Happy New Year!!
Bro WB
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Originally Posted by
drunken
halo bro,
i recently meet a WL. quite good terms.
whenever she sms me using darling, dear… i feel very irritated………………………….too fake
Dear bro, I feel irritated if I don’t like the gal.
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Originally Posted by
beautyhunter
Bro. Warbird,
I will set tent here, can learnt a lots of thing here, What’s is RS…………
Hi Bro BH,
RS is man-woman relationship.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
beautyhunter
Actually not all the girls like to do KC on SMS.
If I receive SMS using dear, I may like it, no matter fake or real..( the girl I prefer)………………………………
Hi Bro BH,
It depends partly on the gal n partly on who is the chaser n who is the chasee or who controls the RS if both r already in a RS.
Usually, the chaser n the weaker party in a RS tend to initiate more text msg n call more often…
Quote:
Originally Posted by
besafe
Hi Bro WB,
You are definitely the master.
Your targets are for for short term bao-ing.
Mine is for life….
Hi Bro besafe,
Congrats to u for finding a life partner. 早生贵子！
BTW，I’m still a newbie in BY-ing.
I hv been looking for my type of gals for long-term BY-ing since May 2009. Unfortunately, most of the RS hv been short-lived, from 2 wks to 3 months, for a variety of reasons. One chief reason is that, since I only BY gals who r not known to do ST n who hv refused ST w/ me, on wedding night I may not like the gals’s body or her pussy…One good example is CD who was pretty, 170 in height n whom u hv actually met. You know the rest of the story…
However, my 2 current gals, one consider herself my de facto wife n the other my er nai, hv been w/ me long-term, one since Nov 2010 n the other since earlier 2011. Both r my type n both hv very pretty n responsive pussies, hahaha. I hv had a wonderful time w/ them…but the downside is that I often feel rather tired n drained.
Cheers!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
teebs_darklord
Si BH, u are the number 1 FL bonker and u dun know why meh? FLs who have gd biz most of the time will not bother with KC thru sms. They have better things to do, FLs with not much biz will forever sms u darling when u coming over. KC is something FLs do only because they have no choice….
Ths for the info. Bro BH is no 1 FL bonker!
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Originally Posted by
beautyhunter
Wa lau.. U trace me. I come here first times, u also know…
Hee Hee… So u know Y, I so long didnt go Bal.
. Coz same thinking she biz.
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Originally Posted by
beautyhunter
hahaha….
To ALL
Happy New Year 2012
Hi Bro BH,
Master bonker!!
Cheers!
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To All Samsters,
祝你在新的一年：
一帆風順
二龍騰飛
三羊開泰
四季平安
五福臨門
六六大順
七星高照
八方來財
九九同心
十全十美
百事亨通 千事吉祥 萬事如意
Wishing All of You a Happy and Prosperous New Year!!
Bro WB
To all samsters,
I’m taking a short trip to Taiwan n PRC, before returning to SG. May be too busy to post for the next 1 wk.
无微不至， 不动声色。
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Originally Posted by
beautyhunter
Bro. Thank u.
祝你一路顺风，Enjoy yr holidaY.
Cheers
Thanks bro.
Happy New Year!
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I’m back.
Would like to organise regular outings to KTVs where I could find, connect w/ n either ST or BY chio gals of my type.
I guess I may be afflicted w/ a chronic case of TWONEITIS which is a form of ONEITIS, as my two long-term mistresses r still 我的女人, one of them will come here in a couple of days n will stay until I leave for Gotham country. The other will be here after CNY.
Yesterday, 2 frens intro a gal to me. I couldn’t resist cuz, according to them, she is 19 yo (actually only 18), 168 w/o shoes, fair n more chio than all my previous gals…
I’m a bit disappointed. Although she is a chio SYT who has slim n proportionate body n nice boobs (B/C?), I like my 2 current gals more. I’m not saying my frens lied to me as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. She doesn’t do ST, so I told her to come up w/ some BY terms that I could accept, hahaha.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Good Afternoon!
Due to various commitments n obligations, I hv been very busy…
Every real life encounter is a learning experience n makes me a better man. Every story in SBF gives me something to ponder n ruminate.
There is a thread on a Famous Samster and his HFJ PRC Story. This famous n most esteemed samster is alleged to hv been KC-ed big time by a PRC woman, although we hv yet to hear his side of the story.
Assuming that he really got KC-ed deeply, his major mistake is that he put her on a pedestal n tries to be very caring n very “nice” to her, behaving like a loyal n obedient serf, sucking up to his master/goddess. Where is his self confidence n self mastery? How could a woman w/ even just a modicum of self esteem respect such a “serf”? How could she feel safe n secure w/ him? There is no challenge, no mystery n no uncertainty for her. His behaviour is most repulsive to her!
http://sbf.net.nz/showthread.php?t=261944
He should hv done the exact opposite.
You see, a man must give a woman hope but never ever “confess” his true feelings to her. Keep her in suspense n slightly insecure n uncertain…even in a long-term RS, say after 20 yrs of marriage, a man must not reveal ALL his feelings to his wive. It kills attraction instantly. On the other hand, if u give her no hope n if u make her too insecure, she is likely to explore n search for new pasture.
Hope + Uncertainty = Attraction (Passion)
No Hope For New Experiences/Goals/Future + No Uncertainty = Zero Attraction (Zero passion)
Little wonder that 50% of marriages eventually end in divorce. The other 50% hv failed but both partners decide to stay together for the sake of children, money, career, business, reputation, etc.
I’ll give u a recent example in which I got it right, at least in part unwittingly…
I met a high school gal CL who was barely 17 in Beijing last May. She wanted to come to SG to attend school n be my young mistress. She is 166, chio n has very big natural boobs, perky ass n nice legs. But I’m ambivalent towards her cuz she has medium sized bone whereas I prefer those w/ small bones n very small wrists. I told her not to come until her 18th BD. Since April last yr, she has texted me many times daily n begged me to see her in PRC asap. Sometimes I won’t reply for several days n I never initiated ctc. My nonchalant attitude has made her crazy abt me.
She is now a student at a respectable uni in Shanghai. She hopes to be my one n only lover, but she knows that it’s unrealistic. She later says that she would be happy just to be one of my lovers. She has intro me to her 41 yo mother, via QQ video, who urged me to go to Dalien to visit her daughter.
CL summed up my “bad” behaviour n her feelings in her QQ space:
你用你的全部生命去谈一次恋爱，那这次恋爱必然不能成功；你用全部精力去谈恋爱，那你一定会被人玩死；你用 全部时间去谈恋爱，别人一定会嫌你烦。因为爱情这事，你越是勤快，投入越多，它结果就越差。只有像懒人养花 一样，爱搭不理，偶尔关心一下，才会新鲜。关心越少，爱的越久。当一个男人不爱一个女人的时候，往往能把这 个女人弄得神魂颠倒，觉得他特MAN，特够味儿，特浪漫，特霸道特酷特能掌控大局。女人喜欢甚至崇拜这样的 男人，因为她们觉得有一种小鸟依人的感觉。
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Originally Posted by
S i l v i a
你用你的全部生命去谈一次恋爱，那这次恋爱必然不能成功；你用全部精力去谈恋爱，那你一定会被 人玩死；你用 全部时间去谈恋爱，别人一定会嫌你烦。因为爱情这事，你越是勤快，投入越多，它结果就越差。只 有像懒人养花 一样，爱搭不理，偶尔关心一下，才会新鲜。关心越少，爱的越久。当一个男人不爱一个女人的时候 ，往往能把这 个女人弄得神魂颠倒，觉得他特MAN，特够味儿，特浪漫，特霸道特酷特能掌控大局。女人喜欢甚 至崇拜这样的 男人，因为她们觉得有一种小鸟依人的感觉。
The above sums up u,bro warbird!
Nice nice words she’s describing!
Give girl hope but not love….WOW!
Hi bro Silvia,
Yes, “Give girl hope but not love….” is an oversimplification but it works like a charm.
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Originally Posted by
mama88
Bro Warbird, from my own experience, I do agree with that stance. But there’s always a tipping point beyond which a negative outcome may occur. Like flying a kite, sometimes we need to pull back and sometimes to let the kite soar. Happy chionging!
Hi bro mama88,
You’re absolutely right. You must know when n how much to push n when n how much to pull, hahaha. If a gal senses that there is too little hope, she will just give up on u.
Cheers!
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Good morning!
I hv learned quite a bit in the last couple of yrs on RS, female psychology n sexology n on BY-ing.
I hv also diversified into BY-ing non-WLs.
For example, CL is not a WL. I also know a pretty PRC student in Senkang who doesn’t work anywhere. She has been in SG for a month, but her student visa has been rejected by MOE? Her school has appealed on her behalf. In Nov last yr, when she went to Singapore Embassy in Beijing for an interview, she squabbled w/ the receptionist n was probably blacklisted. She would be a very good potential mistress. She is very sexual n open-minded n told me when she had a BF, she would like to make love everyday…
After reading many books, newsletters n listening to tapes, I would make an attempt to answer an age old question.
I must first state that most healthy women r incredibly sexual creatures n they hv awesome sexual potential n powerful sexual urge. This potential has been suppressed by social-religious conditioning. It takes a real MAN to activate n release this dormant potential…like a dormant volcano, hehehe.
What does every chio woman want n need from a MAN?
Such a good MAN is difficult to find, even for a very beautiful n high quality woman.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Big B
Adding my 2 cents to Bro Warbirds insights, a big obstacle to a successful chase is:
凡是太尽,缘分必定早尽
Hi bro Big B,
Very insightful!
Your axiom actually applies to every RS n everyone in this world!
Cheers!
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Wishing every samster a Happy and Prosperous New Year!
Recently, I listened to an audio on “Want to hv more intimacy n sex in ur RS?” in which there was a dialogue between 2 Ang Moh gurus, a male n a female. Below is a brief summary:
3 Biggest Mistakes We Men Make When Trying to Improve Our Intimate RS n Sex Life w/ Our Wives/GFs/Mistresses:
Her need for real sex is actually greater than a man’s cuz her drive comes from her mind n her deeper need to connect, as compared to the more shallow n often urgent need to release which is the norm for a typical man.
Any comments?
I don’t completely agree w/ 3). Am I missing something?
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Originally Posted by
Dragonkeep
I have not dropped by for a while. But, wha lou, surprise surprise, I see you’ve developed a couple of durable relationships! I remember a time you were changing gals like baju in a matter of weeks …
Nonetheless, I take my hat off at your doing 2 at a go … the only time I do that is during transition from one long term baoee to the next with a 3-4 mth overlap (i.e. handling 2 at one go) to make sure the next baoee (on probation) can fill the previous one’s shoes. I still get sideline bangs from KTVs, MPs, spas etc strictly for ST fun. Gotta do something if the current mistress heads off to the mainland or if she’s on code red
I got my current baoee in April and wound down the one before her by July. Kinda sad to lose that one ‘cause of her exquisite bod … but she got kinda too clingy - she was on the final stretch of her ’20s, and the present one is quite a firecracker in bed.
I guess the gal’s banging quality still the main KPI for me…………..
Hi Bro Dragonkeep,
Ths for sharing ur experiences w/ us.
Having long-term RS is a new adventure for me as I used to keep my gals from 1-12 wks. It has many advantages n a few disadvantages.
Cheers!
Bro WB
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Happy New Year!
IMHO, to maintain a successful n happy long-term RS w/ any gal/woman, WL n non-WL alike, n regardless of the arrangement, including BY-ing n marriage, a man must hv more control n more power in the RS. He must be the one who is dominant n who cares less. He must fulfill his masculine role n she must fulfill her feminine role which is a win-win situation for both partners, despite what feminists would hv us believe. It’s the result of over 100,000 years of evolution.
It’s vital that, in an ongoing RS, the man must continue to fulfill his masculine role, otherwise it will fail.
Supposing an very confident n dominant male enters into a long-term RS w/ a beautiful female n they really love each other initially.
Let’s fast forward. After a while, be it many months or many years, assuming that he now loves her more than she loves him n he thinks that he is not good enuff for her, for whatever reason. This is the kiss of death for the RS. He feels very insecure n tries to cling to her. Very bad idea. She begins to pull away n he responds by becoming even more needy n desperate…his wussy attitude/behaviour is so repulsive to her that she will try to leave him. If she doesn’t, both of them will be miserable.
Sound familiar?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
calex
happy lunar new year…
thanks for the initiation to the ktv scene wb
Happy New Year!
You’re most welcome!
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Good morning!
Knowing that certain emotions ( n resultant actions/ behaviour) such as anger, hostility, fear, jealousy, insecurity, shyness, guilt, timidity, etc. r extremely unattractive to gals/women n to everyone else for that matter…n, in some cases, may even put us in hot soup or worse. Yet most of us r unable to control our negative n destructive emotions.
If we don’t hv self mastery n excellent emotional control, we r not MEN, but merely immature n pathetic little boys trying to be adults. We will get KC-ed when we don’t want to be KC-ed n do things we will later deeply regret.
Let me give u an example.
I read w/ interest two former Govt bigwigs who hv lost their coveted n powerful positions n may face fines n get to stay free at Changi Hilton, hahaha.
The story is still unfolding but, from what I can gather, I think they granted some lucrative Govt contracts to a certain co in return for some perks n fringe benefits, but not much money?!
What is inexplicable is that they got seduced by the one n same pussy! What amazes me is that this woman is much, much older than ur average MILF. She is in her 40s n has two children!
C’mon, I understand that one man’s meat is another man’s poison, but losing such powerful positions, getting publicly disgraced n facing jail time, all for the same 40 plus yr old pussy which has given birth to 2 kids??
Fact is stranger than fiction. I don’t get it! I seldom consider fxking, let along BY-ing, gals/women who r older than 25, despite the fact that I’m OLDER than these two disgraced jokers.
I surmise that these two hapless crowns had very strict, perhaps religious upbringing, had studied n worked hard…but, unfortunately, they hv had little real life experiences w/ a variety of pussies of their preferred type. In othe r words, hey had very few options, hehehe. Had they been SBF bros n read all my posts…
Yes, these two former govt bigwigs r immature n insecure little boys w/
zero self mastery
n they r
hypocrites
as far as I’m concern.
Knowing what is the right thing to do n doing it r very different. That’s why self mastery matters, n matters a lot.
After CL posted this in her QQ space:你用你的全部生命去谈一次恋爱，那这次恋爱必然不能成功；你用全部精力去谈恋爱，那你一定会被 人玩死；你用全部时间去谈恋爱，别人一定会嫌你烦。因为爱情这事，你越是勤快，投入越多，它结果就越差。只 有像懒人养花一样，爱搭不理，偶尔关心一下，才会新鲜。关心越少，爱的越久。当一个男人不爱一个女人的时候 ，往往能把这个女人弄得神魂颠倒，觉得他特MAN，特够味儿，特浪漫，特霸道特酷特能掌控大局。女人喜欢甚 至崇拜这样的男人，因为她们觉得有一种小鸟依人的感觉, she had not ctc-ed me for a wk. I thought she had learned her lesson. Good for her!
She hasn’t. A few days ago, after I sent a msg w/ one word: 在, she has resumed her daily msg n voice barrages thru QQ. Can’t blame her for hving no self mastery as she is only 17. The more I avoid her, the more she craves me…
Cheers!
Bro WB