Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Only now that I am middle-aged, that this thread begins to make more sense.
I have had occasional successes in my 30s, but my hit rate in the last two years went up considerably - despite COVID.
What changed? Well, I went through some personal shit, but came out of it learning to care less what other people think about me. And focussed on improving myself. I have always been confident, but I also had a deeply insecure side and always look for validation from others.
Now, the only validation I want is from myself. And I am not interested in impressing others, least of all another woman, no matter how attractive they are.
Because based on the last two years alone, I am confident that if I want you, I will get you.
Bro, tks for your post and affirmation.
Congrats on your recent success! The difference is your positive frame. It’s magical.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
EtherC
Great to hear that, the needy vibe has been cleansed. Women can sense if a man is needy/ desperate. Being relaxed, fun, confident and at ease is very attractive!
Having $ is just a multiplier, a man can be rich but still be needy. And that’s when he ends up attracting gold diggers.
Bro, tks for your post.
A needy and insecure king will be a loser with the most attractive girls. Yeah, having lots of money will only attract a horde of gold diggers. Sad but true. Money could be a curse.
Most girls are satisfied with meeting basic financial goals, and beyond that, they look for a man’s masculine character traits, emotional mastery, physical fitness, intelligence, kindness, trustworthiness, and social value. Subconsciously as it’s in the genes.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Very true. Frankly, i feel my 30s success is all because of material. I had $ to spare. Ok la i still got $ to spare but what’s the point?
Nowadays, i almost feel like I’m living the fantasy i had in my 20s and 30s - and you’re right, removing the needy vibe is vital! Must maintain that power dynamic. A desperate man will always grasp at straws. A confident man chooses his own path in all things.
And to think, it took COVID to help me find that confidence. It was always there - i just didn’t believe in myself.
Bro, tks.
A man doesn’t need anything outside of himself to feel relaxed, confident, secure, contented, and validated.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
BroTrustMyWords
good !
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Ratbert
Yup that was good
Quote:
Originally Posted by
merseyback
Agreed. Excellent share by bro warbird!
Thanks so much, bros.
…………………………………
Good evening to all samsters,
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Only now that I am middle-aged, that this thread begins to make more sense.
I have had occasional successes in my 30s, but my hit rate in the last two years went up considerably - despite COVID.
What changed? Well, I went through some personal shit, but came out of it learning to care less what other people think about me. And focussed on improving myself. I have always been confident, but I also had a deeply insecure side and always look for validation from others.
Now, the only validation I want is from myself. And I am not interested in impressing others, least of all another woman, no matter how attractive they are.
Because based on the last two years alone, I am confident that if I want you, I will get you.
Bro, tks for your post and affirmation.
Congrats on your recent success! The difference is your positive frame. It’s magical.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
EtherC
Great to hear that, the needy vibe has been cleansed. Women can sense if a man is needy/ desperate. Being relaxed, fun, confident and at ease is very attractive!
Having $ is just a multiplier, a man can be rich but still be needy. And that’s when he ends up attracting gold diggers.
Bro, tks for your post.
A needy and insecure king will be a loser with the most attractive girls. Yeah, having lots of money will only attract a horde of gold diggers. Sad but true. Money could be a curse.
Most girls are satisfied with meeting basic financial goals, and beyond that, they look for a man’s masculine character traits, emotional mastery, physical fitness, intelligence, kindness, trustworthiness, and social value. Subconsciously as it’s in the genes.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Very true. Frankly, i feel my 30s success is all because of material. I had $ to spare. Ok la i still got $ to spare but what’s the point?
Nowadays, i almost feel like I’m living the fantasy i had in my 20s and 30s - and you’re right, removing the needy vibe is vital! Must maintain that power dynamic. A desperate man will always grasp at straws. A confident man chooses his own path in all things.
And to think, it took COVID to help me find that confidence. It was always there - i just didn’t believe in myself.
Bro, tks.
A man doesn’t need anything outside of himself to feel relaxed, confident, secure, contented, and validated.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
BroTrustMyWords
good !
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Ratbert
Yup that was good
Quote:
Originally Posted by
merseyback
Agreed. Excellent share by bro warbird!
Thanks so much, bros.
…………………………………
Good evening to all samsters,
Cheers!
Bro WB
Good evening,
Yesterday I received an interesting email from Stephan Erdman. He caught my attention because its title is:
“Atomic Habits” Of Highly Attractive Men!
Here is his email:
Hi Warbird,
Do you ever feel like you’re just not attracting the right women? Like you’re stuck in a dating rut and not sure how to get out of it?
Well, today I’ve got some tips that will help you level up your dating game, with some key takeaways from the book “Atomic Habits” by James Clear.
(Great book about how to change your habits and change yourself…read it!)
Now, I know what you might be thinking: “What does a book about habits have to do with dating?” The answer is, a lot!
Here are three key takeaways from the book that can help you become a more attractive person and attract more high-quality women:
#1
Small habits lead to big results!
James Clear talks about how the small things you do every day can add up to big results over time.
This is true for your dating life too. By consistently doing small things like dressing well, working out and practicing good hygiene, you develop more self esteem and confidence and make a great impression on women you meet or go on dates with.
The key thing is to stick with it. Consistency is key.
#2
Your habits reflect your identity!
If you want to be an attractive person, you need to identify as one. This doesn’t just mean taking care of yourself, investing in your personal growth, and developing a positive mindset. It also means deciding to think of yourself as an attractive guy that attractive women can be interested in. Your habits should reflect this identity and reinforce it. Then your identity will reinforce your habits. And trust me, women will notice!
#3
Your environment matters!
Clear also talks about the importance of your environment in shaping your habits.
If you want to attract high-quality women, you need to surround yourself with people who share your values and goals.
This means spending time in places where you’re likely to meet like-minded individuals, such as social events, classes, and online communities.
It also means finding ways of continuously developing yourself and keeping yourself stimulated and growing.
Any comments?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
rollingthunder
My 20s is full of tumble and fumble. Not easy to score quality dates, maybe because i was awkward and desperate. Rejection describes my world.
Ever since i started fking girls i met from siamdiu and ktvs in my late 20s, i started to feel less desperate, less awkward and more confident around girls.
I lost weight and groom myself. Started to club at age 29 and scoring girls with success. But sometimes, i get rejection. I was a loser in clubs when i was 20yrs old.
Now im in my early 30s, my tinder got like 100+ matches and i can manage to date at least 1 girl in a month. Not all the time, but in some cases i managed to fk the girl on the first date. Money also play a part, girls dont like stingy guys, be generous but don’t be a carrot head.
Bro,
Thanks for sharing your success story.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
TrevorFrancis
Well done bro. Thanks for nice share!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
junior_cannibal
I once worked for a boss who was in his mid 50s then. I remembered he mentioned, when we were young, we all were horny and always on a lookout for someone to fxxx. By the time we entered our 50s,unless still very strong on libido, hormones and stamina, we would be looking more of intellectual fxxx, that means to be more stimulated by a woman that knows how to fxxx our mind and brain. Maybe a good flirt that knows when you touch your hands, face, neck.
Now that I am in my own 50s, I started to realise what he said was true. Also, am glad that I passed the stage where still chasing after the skirts and dresses. In fact, I wouldn’t be bothered with someone who’s in their 20s,30s who couldn’t hold a good conversation, but just look good like a flower vase.
Bro, tks for sharing.
Not sure why but L is my only soulmate. I met her when she was 18. I think every man is different
Quote:
Originally Posted by
SirLance
Thanks for sharing and I learned something new.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Pjam
Hi bro,
Any tips or advise to give to young n unconfident bro here? Thank you very much!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Read what warbird has posted here. Hopefully it will make sense to you.
Tks to all.
………………………………………….. ……….
Here is an email I just received from Marni. She talks about detachment from outcome and non-neediness.
Men who do this never get….
The single biggest reason most men don’t get the girls they want isn’t looks, money, status or luck…
…it’s because they feel the “need” to get the girl.
Let me elaborate. (Read carefully because this is insanely important).
Here’s what happens to most men.
They see a girl they like. They experience that raw, primal attraction. And then…
…they start feeling a strong need to impress the girl, make her like them, gain their approval.
In other words, they start obsessing over a particular outcome. They start to crave it.
And this is the part which screws their chances.
You see, when us girls interact with a guy who is craving an outcome…
…as in a guy who needs us to like him, want him, sleep with him and so on…
…we’re instantly turned off - even if he’s the hottest, richest, most high-status guy on the planet.
We’re biologically wired to be repelled by a guy who’s craving an outcome.
That’s just how our female brains are built.
On the other hand…
When we interact with a guy who doesn’t feel the need to impress us, be liked by us etc…
…someone who isn’t craving an outcome…
… we’re almost instantly turned on by him… and… 9 out of 10 times we want to have $ex with him…
… even if he isn’t the type of guy we usually go for.
This state of not needing a particular outcome is called outcome detachment.
And it’s a total superpower.
It attracts girls like a swimsuit model’s body attracts men.
This state is why “bad boys” get girls non-stop. They are never concerned about the outcome.
When they see a girl they like and want to sleep with… … they don’t obsess over the outcome.
They’ll approach, talk, flirt… but… they’re okay with the girl rejecting them.
They’re detached from the outcome.
They “want” the girl, but they don’t “need” her.
Now you’re probably wondering how you can achieve this state, right?
This sounds all simple and logical when reading it, but how do you actually cultivate this state?
Well, here are 2 easy ways.
Number 1: Focus only on matching
You see, the reason bad boys are okay with rejection and girls not liking them… is because…
…they understand the fundamental truth about dating.
They understand that no matter what you do, you won’t “click” with every girl… especially if you’re being authentic, and not trying to manipulate girls using a fake persona.
They interact with girls they like to see if their vibe “matches” her vibe.
If they get rejected, they understand that it was simply a mismatch of vibes.
Nothing else. There’s nothing wrong with their character.
And that’s the attitude you must adopt.
When you pursue girls, focus ONLY on matching.
When you interact with a girl, show her your unique personality, opinions, interests, sense of humor etc…
… and just see if she matches with you or not.
That’s what dating actually is. Looking for matches.
Number 2: Maximize your chances of getting matches.
While it’s true that you won’t match with every girl, it’s also true that there are MANY girls you would match with. More than you can possibly imagine.
I mean, there are more than 3 BILLION girls on the planet.
At the very least, you’re guaranteed to match with hundreds of thousands of them. At the very least.
That means, if you wanna get more women, more dates, more often…
..you simply need to exploit the abundance of matches available to you.
How to do that?
Two simple ways.
A. Open up to finding more matches.
Explore more places, use dating apps, meet more girls, approach more often.
More interactions = more chances.
B. Unleash the most attractive version of yourself, so that you can make the most of every interaction you have with every girl.
You see, inside you, there are many amazing qualities and characteristics which are naturally attractive to girls.
Things like confidence, charisma, playfulness, dominance etc.
They’ve gotten locked inside you due to social conditioning and your past experiences.
If you can simply unlock these qualities, you can immediately start attracting girls on autopilot.
………………………………………….
Any comments?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
rollingthunder
My 20s is full of tumble and fumble. Not easy to score quality dates, maybe because i was awkward and desperate. Rejection describes my world.
Ever since i started fking girls i met from siamdiu and ktvs in my late 20s, i started to feel less desperate, less awkward and more confident around girls.
I lost weight and groom myself. Started to club at age 29 and scoring girls with success. But sometimes, i get rejection. I was a loser in clubs when i was 20yrs old.
Now im in my early 30s, my tinder got like 100+ matches and i can manage to date at least 1 girl in a month. Not all the time, but in some cases i managed to fk the girl on the first date. Money also play a part, girls dont like stingy guys, be generous but don’t be a carrot head.
Bro,
Thanks for sharing your success story.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
TrevorFrancis
Well done bro. Thanks for nice share!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
junior_cannibal
I once worked for a boss who was in his mid 50s then. I remembered he mentioned, when we were young, we all were horny and always on a lookout for someone to fxxx. By the time we entered our 50s,unless still very strong on libido, hormones and stamina, we would be looking more of intellectual fxxx, that means to be more stimulated by a woman that knows how to fxxx our mind and brain. Maybe a good flirt that knows when you touch your hands, face, neck.
Now that I am in my own 50s, I started to realise what he said was true. Also, am glad that I passed the stage where still chasing after the skirts and dresses. In fact, I wouldn’t be bothered with someone who’s in their 20s,30s who couldn’t hold a good conversation, but just look good like a flower vase.
Bro, tks for sharing.
Not sure why but L is my only soulmate. I met her when she was 18. I think every man is different
Quote:
Originally Posted by
SirLance
Thanks for sharing and I learned something new.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Pjam
Hi bro,
Any tips or advise to give to young n unconfident bro here? Thank you very much!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
leakypipes
Read what warbird has posted here. Hopefully it will make sense to you.
Tks to all.
………………………………………….. ……….
Here is an email I just received from Marni. She talks about detachment from outcome and non-neediness.
Men who do this never get….
The single biggest reason most men don’t get the girls they want isn’t looks, money, status or luck…
…it’s because they feel the “need” to get the girl.
Let me elaborate. (Read carefully because this is insanely important).
Here’s what happens to most men.
They see a girl they like. They experience that raw, primal attraction. And then…
…they start feeling a strong need to impress the girl, make her like them, gain their approval.
In other words, they start obsessing over a particular outcome. They start to crave it.
And this is the part which screws their chances.
You see, when us girls interact with a guy who is craving an outcome…
…as in a guy who needs us to like him, want him, sleep with him and so on…
…we’re instantly turned off - even if he’s the hottest, richest, most high-status guy on the planet.
We’re biologically wired to be repelled by a guy who’s craving an outcome.
That’s just how our female brains are built.
On the other hand…
When we interact with a guy who doesn’t feel the need to impress us, be liked by us etc…
…someone who isn’t craving an outcome…
… we’re almost instantly turned on by him… and… 9 out of 10 times we want to have $ex with him…
… even if he isn’t the type of guy we usually go for.
This state of not needing a particular outcome is called outcome detachment.
And it’s a total superpower.
It attracts girls like a swimsuit model’s body attracts men.
This state is why “bad boys” get girls non-stop. They are never concerned about the outcome.
When they see a girl they like and want to sleep with… … they don’t obsess over the outcome.
They’ll approach, talk, flirt… but… they’re okay with the girl rejecting them.
They’re detached from the outcome.
They “want” the girl, but they don’t “need” her.
Now you’re probably wondering how you can achieve this state, right?
This sounds all simple and logical when reading it, but how do you actually cultivate this state?
Well, here are 2 easy ways.
Number 1: Focus only on matching
You see, the reason bad boys are okay with rejection and girls not liking them… is because…
…they understand the fundamental truth about dating.
They understand that no matter what you do, you won’t “click” with every girl… especially if you’re being authentic, and not trying to manipulate girls using a fake persona.
They interact with girls they like to see if their vibe “matches” her vibe.
If they get rejected, they understand that it was simply a mismatch of vibes.
Nothing else. There’s nothing wrong with their character.
And that’s the attitude you must adopt.
When you pursue girls, focus ONLY on matching.
When you interact with a girl, show her your unique personality, opinions, interests, sense of humor etc…
… and just see if she matches with you or not.
That’s what dating actually is. Looking for matches.
Number 2: Maximize your chances of getting matches.
While it’s true that you won’t match with every girl, it’s also true that there are MANY girls you would match with. More than you can possibly imagine.
I mean, there are more than 3 BILLION girls on the planet.
At the very least, you’re guaranteed to match with hundreds of thousands of them. At the very least.
That means, if you wanna get more women, more dates, more often…
..you simply need to exploit the abundance of matches available to you.
How to do that?
Two simple ways.
A. Open up to finding more matches.
Explore more places, use dating apps, meet more girls, approach more often.
More interactions = more chances.
B. Unleash the most attractive version of yourself, so that you can make the most of every interaction you have with every girl.
You see, inside you, there are many amazing qualities and characteristics which are naturally attractive to girls.
Things like confidence, charisma, playfulness, dominance etc.
They’ve gotten locked inside you due to social conditioning and your past experiences.
If you can simply unlock these qualities, you can immediately start attracting girls on autopilot.
………………………………………….
Any comments?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
shenlong
Mind of abundance! Training in progress.
Thanks bro for the insight and reminder.
Bro,
You’re welcome!
It’s challenging to be non-needy and detached from the outcome if the girl is your “dream girl” or “special one.”
A MAN should behave as if 100 gorgeous girls of his type are calling him and wanting to fxxk him every day…
Would he care if several of them stop calling him?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
shenlong
Mind of abundance! Training in progress.
Thanks bro for the insight and reminder.
Bro,
You’re welcome!
It’s challenging to be non-needy and detached from the outcome if the girl is your “dream girl” or “special one.”
A MAN should behave as if 100 gorgeous girls of his type are calling him and wanting to fxxk him every day…
Would he care if several of them stop calling him?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Quote:
Originally Posted by
EtherC
The market is global, so know where you can price yourself at higher value.
Tks, bro
Quote:
Originally Posted by
WhoIsDat
20s discovery phase.. figuring shit out
30s family phase.. focused on career and take a big role in raising my 3 kids.
Now in my 40s.. it’s about building my legacy.
I want to own a sustainable business by the time I reach 50. Not to be super rich but enough to be able to help others when needed.
With age you build confidence and you get less needy. I am excited to see how much more I evolve in the future as certain lessons in life can only be learned via experience not just knowledge
Tks for your post, bro
………………………………………….. ..
Good evening,
In Magic Tactics, Mark Raymond mentions the basics of attraction.
Now, let me show you what attraction really is for women. Women get
attracted to…
1- Someone they can’t have.
2- Someone somebody else has.
3- A guy who is wanted by other girls.
4- A man who does not do what he is expected to do, which
means BEING UNPREDICTABLE.
5- Someone who has high value
.
Who is a man with high value? He is the PRIZE.
You will be considered attractive in the female mind as long as you
are perceived as a male of high value.
A girl will label you a high value male when she considers you to be
more important than her. As long as you maintain the upper hand, you
will always be considered as a high value male.
Therefore, the key here is to make yourself seem more important than
the girl.
Here are certain guidelines to being a high value male-
- A high value male never tries to impress her.
- A high value male never seeks female attention or approval.
- A high value male never puts a girl on a pedestal only because she
is good looking.
- A high value male never settles for anything but the best.
- A high value male never keeps women on top of his priority list.
- A high value male is always willing to walk away when his principles
are violated.
- A high value male always makes the woman work for his attention.
- A high value male has more than enough options to choose from.
- A high value male makes the girl adapt to his reality instead of
adapting to hers.
- A high value male never chases females.
As long as you demonstrate all these traits, you will always be
considered as a high value male, and women won’t be able to help
but feel attraction towards you.
It’s a state or frame. Be such a MAN.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
EtherC
The market is global, so know where you can price yourself at higher value.
Tks, bro
Quote:
Originally Posted by
WhoIsDat
20s discovery phase.. figuring shit out
30s family phase.. focused on career and take a big role in raising my 3 kids.
Now in my 40s.. it’s about building my legacy.
I want to own a sustainable business by the time I reach 50. Not to be super rich but enough to be able to help others when needed.
With age you build confidence and you get less needy. I am excited to see how much more I evolve in the future as certain lessons in life can only be learned via experience not just knowledge
Tks for your post, bro
………………………………………….. ..
Good evening,
In Magic Tactics, Mark Raymond mentions the basics of attraction.
Now, let me show you what attraction really is for women. Women get
attracted to…
1- Someone they can’t have.
2- Someone somebody else has.
3- A guy who is wanted by other girls.
4- A man who does not do what he is expected to do, which
means BEING UNPREDICTABLE.
5- Someone who has high value
.
Who is a man with high value? He is the PRIZE.
You will be considered attractive in the female mind as long as you
are perceived as a male of high value.
A girl will label you a high value male when she considers you to be
more important than her. As long as you maintain the upper hand, you
will always be considered as a high value male.
Therefore, the key here is to make yourself seem more important than
the girl.
Here are certain guidelines to being a high value male-
- A high value male never tries to impress her.
- A high value male never seeks female attention or approval.
- A high value male never puts a girl on a pedestal only because she
is good looking.
- A high value male never settles for anything but the best.
- A high value male never keeps women on top of his priority list.
- A high value male is always willing to walk away when his principles
are violated.
- A high value male always makes the woman work for his attention.
- A high value male has more than enough options to choose from.
- A high value male makes the girl adapt to his reality instead of
adapting to hers.
- A high value male never chases females.
As long as you demonstrate all these traits, you will always be
considered as a high value male, and women won’t be able to help
but feel attraction towards you.
It’s a state or frame. Be such a MAN.
Good evening,
Yesterday I received an interesting email from Stephan Erdman. He caught my attention because its title is:
“Atomic Habits” Of Highly Attractive Men!
Here is his email:
Hi Warbird,
Do you ever feel like you’re just not attracting the right women? Like you’re stuck in a dating rut and not sure how to get out of it?
Well, today I’ve got some tips that will help you level up your dating game, with some key takeaways from the book “Atomic Habits” by James Clear.
(Great book about how to change your habits and change yourself…read it!)
Now, I know what you might be thinking: “What does a book about habits have to do with dating?” The answer is, a lot!
Here are three key takeaways from the book that can help you become a more attractive person and attract more high-quality women:
#1
Small habits lead to big results!
James Clear talks about how the small things you do every day can add up to big results over time.
This is true for your dating life too. By consistently doing small things like dressing well, working out and practicing good hygiene, you develop more self esteem and confidence and make a great impression on women you meet or go on dates with.
The key thing is to stick with it. Consistency is key.
#2
Your habits reflect your identity!
If you want to be an attractive person, you need to identify as one. This doesn’t just mean taking care of yourself, investing in your personal growth, and developing a positive mindset. It also means deciding to think of yourself as an attractive guy that attractive women can be interested in. Your habits should reflect this identity and reinforce it. Then your identity will reinforce your habits. And trust me, women will notice!
#3
Your environment matters!
Clear also talks about the importance of your environment in shaping your habits.
If you want to attract high-quality women, you need to surround yourself with people who share your values and goals.
This means spending time in places where you’re likely to meet like-minded individuals, such as social events, classes, and online communities.
It also means finding ways of continuously developing yourself and keeping yourself stimulated and growing.
Any comments?
Cheers!
Bro WB