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It is bladdy obvious that Hua, Terrence and Mike are not your ‘everyman’ and that they are relatively successful in terms of their career, business and wealth. They may not be Li Ka Shing (or even Ong Beng Send rich), but they would largely constitute “upper strata” in terms of income and position.
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Its is bladdy obvious that Jus thinks the techniques employed by the Mistress Brotherhood can shared, learned and applied not only to “Upper Strata” but that the concepts can be distilled and translated across to many people with different financial and social standing.
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It is bladdy obvious that the “Mistress Brotherhood” lives does not revolve around the KTV.
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It is also bladdy obvious that the WL discussed is largely from China and that they are working at a KTV establishment in Singapore.
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It is bladdy obvious that Hua, Terrence, Mike and Jus are not well blessed in the “looks” department. It is also bladdy obvious that they have the self confidence that their other attributes more than compensates for the lack of personal aesthetics.
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It bladdy obvious that the protagonist know how to and have applied the MasterStrokes for their personal satisfaction.
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It is bladdy obvious that the protagonist can forward plan and knows how to influence outcomes.
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It is bladdy obvious that there is an element of Power Play in the male-female interactions. This all the more apparent in the Patron based mistress relationship.
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It is bladdy obvious that the Patron must the dominant one in the above relationship.
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It is bladdy obvious that I have a great chance of being your ‘mentee’ since the first 2 letters of our nick are the same.
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It is bladdy obvious that you will be sponsorship the ’training activities’ during the mentorship.
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It is bladdy obvious that I will be keeping the thread alive after I graduate from your training scheme.
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Its bladdy obvious that Budget version is somehow related the main Masterstroke strategies. It is just a few simple modifications which the TS will share.
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It is bladdy obvious that any gift buying between Patron and Mistress must be done within a context. And that it is the Patron who defines the context. (Never asks her what she wants or even give her money to shop on her own!)
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It is bladdy obvious that in order to make the gift meaningful for the Mistress recipient, a Patron must be “sensitive” to his mistress situation and select the appropriate gift.
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It is bladdy obvious from the above that cost and price of the gift is not the overwhelming consideration. It is not so obvious, but true in most cases, that should a Mistress want some luxurious indulgences like jewelry, branded bags etc it should come from the allowance that the Patron gives his mistress.
- It is bladdy obvious from the above that cost and price of the gift is not the overwhelming consideration. It is not so obvious, but true in most cases, that should a Mistress want some luxurious indulgences like jewelry, branded bags etc it should come from the allowance that the Patron gives his mistress.
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It should be bladdy obvious that the Masterstrokes will NOT work 100% of the time. The psychological dynamics of human interaction are very complex. However, by adhering and applying its principles, it will give the best possible chance of success. After the all, the principles have been validated, tried and tested time and time again – with a very high success rate!
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Looking at the reality blog, it should be bladdy obvious that Terrence carries very little attachment and “emotional” baggage with regards to the outcome of his proposal. Yes, he obviously wanted Xin2 to accept his offer, but he hardly fussed over it.
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It should be bladdy obvious that Mike too have done some preparatory work before letting Xin2 go e.g..he easily get her to leave his apartment.
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It should be bladdy obvious that the application of the Masterstroke is not only confined in getting a Mistress. The Masterstroke also can serve as strategy in courting girls. And even of a business and life strategy.
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It should be obvious that the Mistress Brotherhood list of conquest reside does NOT only lie with Chinese KTV girls.
- I think you got the notion of “confidence” quite wrong. You seem to equate confidence to boorish behaviour as well as being a ‘show-off’. Yes, “hao lian” behavior can be quite a turn off.
- You (and very often the girl herself) do not know what she likes. You may think that being nice, friendly and funny is the route to go, and that it is the so call “likeable attributes” are universally attractive to woman.
- Please do not have the misconception that the Patron and Mistress relationship is tyrannical. The Patron is NOT a dogmatic army general, compelling the ‘foot soldier’ Mistress to follow his orders (even if she is unwilling).
- In my younger (“xiang dang nian”) days, I had often played the clown. I have witty repartees and can regale everyone with a drop of a hat. (Hell, I even won a dancing competition!). It took some keen observations and a whole lot of instruction from my mentors (among them Hua and Mike) to realize that it is not the best or even the fastest way to a woman’s heart or pussy.
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Originally Posted by
ol’coyote
hmm…guess me falls into this category…
me really like the way you put it…
very smooth language and yet able to be right-in-your-face…
very appreciative of your effort in putting all these into writing…
me have much to learn…
You are most welcome Ol’Coyote. Stick around. You should be able to find some useful insights and lessons that are culled from nearly one century* worth of cumulative mistress keeping experience that will enable you to spice up your life (even if don’t have any intention go into the mistress keeping route).
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Jus (in his early forties) and keeping mistresses since his twenties.
Mike (in his mid fifties) and keeping mistresses since his twenties.
Hua (in his early sixties) and keeping a mistresses since his thirties.
Terrence (in his late forties) – been keeping mistress on and off for the good part of nearly a decade.
And All are still actively at it presently … (whoa! How scary is that?
… now that I actually try to count the years!)
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Originally Posted by
Bazic606
…. After looking through your post, I come to realise that the defining difference between the two types of Roberts will be dominance in a relationship.I do see some of my cliques being at becks and calls, bending over at the very instance THE number appears on the screen. Somehow, I do find Singapore men being deprived and love-starved, not sex but attention. These women have clearly acknowledged our shortcomings and thus providing this “commodity” in exchange of fulfilling their dreams of building more houses in their homeland for their parents, grandparents, great grandparents and maybe parents-in-laws too. You guys (in my opinion only) has probably set a precedence to recover our so-called “lost pride”. I would love to hear more of your experiences, it might not be a money-spinning proposition, but nevertheless, you are opening up a totally new perspective to me.
Bro Bazic, you are indeed a bright Padawan and an astute observer of people dynamics! (Pat on the back for you!).
And guess what? You are also on the money about one of my primary motivations in setting up this thread and the sharing all our life experiences.
Despite my philandering ways, I always have a strong sense of fair play. Seeing how the men here are being manipulated, exploited and “settling for crumbs” brings a sense of disquiet to me.
I compared our situation with regards to woman (refering only to KTV lass here) and to those that I observe and read here and elsewhere. I note the disparity in what we get from our investment vis-à-vis the men who has been given the run around despite putting in so much of themselves (I am not talking only monetary).
What I realized quickly is that people settle because they do not know any better. I then resolved to share our experience and knowledge – to let these people know that there better alternatives than to settle for meager returns.
Knowledge is a great liberator! Internally I know that I will derive great satisfaction if this thread helped even one such person to come to terms with his condition and take appropriate steps to up his Return On Investment when it comes to male female relationship.
I will share with you a story which encapsulates the above point:
Hua had a client, William (name changed), who literally spent close to SGD 150, 000 on a Hanging Flower Joint to win over a girl’s heart.
Notwithstanding whether he can afford it or not, William had the mistaken notion that his generosity will ‘melt’ the girl of his dreams heart. William had the fantasy that by spending so much on her, she will reciprocate with love and affection. And he can live happily ever after.
Poor sod, the reality is very far removed from his fantasies and desires. William gets only the occasional loving from his dream girl (and that only on her terms!). He is short changed because he does not know better.
This is where if William is exposed to Mistress Masterstoke #2, he will certainly derive more from his investment.
The Masterstoke #2 is counter intuitive but will yield the desired result. Most people will think that kindness begets kindness and that generousity will invite gratitude and love. This does not however work in the real world. Our experience informs us that the so called ‘logical’ step William takes to win over someone does not hold true in the real world.
And why is William doing it all wrong? Instead of limiting his target’s income as Masterstroke #2 tells it – William feeds her income! Of course he will invariably get the complete opposite of what he desires. By giving her money, William inadvertently empowers her. With no financial pressure now, she makes her choice based on other criteria instead of survival (and material needs). And William may not meet her internal criteria!
And what if William threatens to withdraw the financial incentive? This is desperate threat measure that a poor Uninformed Roberts like to use in the last resort. Okay, I haven’t really finished expatiating on Masterstroke #2: “creation of a crutch mentality” at this point. But we can generally guess the probable outcome. If William does not “create the crutch mentality” – essentially designed to make the girl reliant on you (not only income support but emotional support) – you can be sure that any ‘loving that is derived from such threat is only transitory. And William will also probably not be able to dictate terms for the relationship.
Hope you are convinced now on the power of knowledge to free you!
Do be on a look out for the continuation of Masterstroke 2: Creation of a Crutch mentality …
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Originally Posted by
cablesnwires
.., it just re-affirm my beliefs that many newbies (like me) are often clouded by our our emotions, and ended up having being dictated by the girl’s terms.
Hi cablesnwires, you are most welcome. It is precisely this kind of reaction and realisation that vindicates my efforts to share. I feel encouraged that someone, somewhere out there in the vast expanse of the WWW, has imbibed some of the lessons here and has ‘profitted’ from it. Good on ya mate … and thanks for thy mini boost
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warbird
You seem to imply that DOMs can never be attractive to pretty SYTs. Not so. Becos gals are attracted to words/voice/body language first, then character/personality traits second, high value status third n lastly to looks. And she can’t choose whom she is attracted to as attraction occurs at the subconscious level. If a DOM has the body language, character traits n high value status of an alpha male n he is not physically repulsive, he will be very attractive to many pretty SYTs if they get to know him. Why? They can’t help it!!
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Thanks Warbird for your very helpful comments. When I cast aspersions on the looks of the DOMs, it is always done in the context of “tongue in cheek”. This self deprecatory joke (for example “Susan Boyle winning FHM Sexiest Babe”) is mainly design to bring a little relief on the generally “instructional tone” of the posts.
Yes, you are indeed correct about other attributes being more important than physical appearance. (Jus “budget” Masterstroke mentioned earlier in my posts serves to precisely accentuate the other attributes so that looks and even money becomes secondary). Not to worry, I will touch on this topic in due time.
Since you broached the subject, I shall jump a gun a little and state that that
the number one most important attribute that turns a girl on (notwithstanding ‘regular’ or WL gal) is:
CONFIDENCE
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In fact so important is confidence that forms the foundation and basis of Masterstroke #3: “Be a Confident Bastard”. Which I will expatiate after I finish elaborating on “creating a crutch mentality”.
Know the joke about the little boy and girl trying to up one another?
Boy: I have got four toys.
Girsl" Well I have got five toys!
Boy: I have got a Wii and a computer.
Girl: Well I have two Wii and two computers.
Finally in exasperation, the little boy whipped out his pants, pointed to his balls and proudly proclaimed, “Well, I have got two of these!”
In response, the little girl too pulled down her shorts. Pointing to her pussy, she says: “I have only one of this. But with only one of this, I can get as many of those (balls) as I want”.
Notwithstanding the above Punchline: If the boy indeed develops confidence in his later years, the girl’s retort can actually be twisted to suit him in the form of: “I can get as many of those (pussy) as I want”.
Its all in the attitude.
More house keeping time:
In the interest of readers who want to come up with a Brainstorming idea, I shall share a business technique that the “Mistress Brotherhood” uses periodically. In this thread, I shall structure the technique under the guise of “thread house cleaning” and “fun” and will not elaborate on the mechanics/ techniques of it. Know however it is really a very powerful business and thinking tool. For readers that are able to intuit or understand its underlying premise, I betcha that it is really worth its weight in gold!
There are now around four pages of this thread. I had assumed that readers would have got most of the concepts and general purport of what I am trying to communicate therein. Based on the facts presented, I also assumed that everyone would be on the same page when certain inferences is called for. My assumption could be wrong. Some readers might not get it – even clearly obvious ones (e.g. Jus is one of the protagonist of the story as well as the Tread Starter of this “Mistress” thread).
I shall therefore call the following pointers “Its bladdy obvious that….. “
Hua and Terrence use the terminology differently. They call it: (insert expletive) obvious!
(As an aside: Even in the simple writing of this thread Jus knows the intended ending he wants. After imparting his masterstrokes and concepts, Jus will invite/recruit a volunteer on a field trip whereby he will personally mentor him to be a Patron in the fine art of keeping a mistress. His mentee will then blog the learning experiences and/or continue with the thread (if he desires), thereby leaving Jus to exit the scene.
Followers of the thread, I would hereby like to invite you to join in the “bladdy obvious" game ……..
you may also start on …“Its however not so obvious”
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juzz
Dear Bro Justime
hehehe…juzz keeping things light and obvious
Hi Juzz, it bladdy obvious that Jus’ pockets who is not even at 10% of his brethren’s level, will “sponsor’ only the “Budget” version. Cost of maintaining the mistress however will be at mentee’s own account.
(At some point in the thread, I will talk about Mistress’ maintenance “cost sharing” – budget woh!)
Continuing the “Bladdy Obvious ………
Keep the bladdy obvious pointers coming in (I will accumulate your “bladdy obvious” and respond later).
Once we have “house cleaned” with the “Bladdy Obvious” I will continue on how the techniques on “how to develop a crutch mentality”
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justime
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My apologies but I should include the following caveats to this pointer (which should be “bladdy obvious” anyway
This however does NOT mean that the Patron will not give “luxurious indulgences” as all. It simply means that “indulgences” should only be used as part of a reward system and/or to provide incentives for a certain behaviour trait that the Patron want to courage. It should never, ever be taken for granted and assumed that it is the mistress right to be pamper with these ‘big ticket’ items.
It should be obvious that the big ticket items can have different price range. Its contingent on a case by case basis. For example, two years ago, Hua provided the down payment to a condo in Shanghai for his mistress who had been faithfully serving him for four long years!
Continuing the Bladdy obvious:
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Originally Posted by
warbird
Bro justime,
Excellent thread. I wished u hv written ur strategies on the art of BY a little earlier. I hv had my share of problems w/ my first BY of a young PRC student whom I met at a KTV many months ago.
…………………Money can buy their bodies but never their hearts……
Just very recently, I was KC-ed by the gal I’m BAO-ing n lost control of the RS briefly bcos I was the one who cared more ….Thankfully, my KC has waned so much that I dun care a damn about her anymore, hahaha. Having a bevy of chio SYTs is a very important defense against any KC, which occurs at the subconscious level. To that end I’m organising expeditions to TAM n elsewhere to find, meet n bonk the prettiest SYTs.
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Originally Posted by
warbird
Hi bro justime,
You hv hit the nail on the head! Self-confidence is the most important attribute of an alpha male. However, one needs to be LIKABLE as well, otherwise ur confidence n “high value status” can be a turnoff for many PRC MMs in terms of attraction at the subconscious level. Of course, u will still get their pussies, but never their hearts. A healthy dose of humour n occasional smile will do wonders…hahaha.
PART 1 of my reply:
Hi Warbird, …. my heartfelt thanks for your support and contributions especially with regards to the discussion element for this thread. It sometimes monologue here.
But …. (takes a deep breath) …. are you aware of the fact that there is a disjunct between what you know about about the right behaviourial traits to present and what you actually “present on the ground”? Also there might be some tweaks needed in your current paradigm as it is very dis-empowering.
Obviously I do NOT know the context of your “Baoying” foray(s) and the details are sketchy at best. Yet, based on your paradigm on how to handle a PRC mei mei, I can make a guess on how the relationship will probably turn out – even if you did not mention it explicitly.
You didn’t say it outright, but it should be quite obvious that you did not really want the relationship to end. However when it did, you accepted (whether willingly or reluctantly) and luckily for you, you managed to cope (I think/hope).
No, I am not some sort of seer with Nostradamus vision. It simply because my experience informs me that you gotten it all wrong. You seem too eager to please them, to gain their acceptance. You did not empower yourself in the relationship.
Couple of quick points before I elaborate on the above:
Showing off and outright bragging are symptoms of poor self esteem.
A confident person need not do such thing, he exudes confidence. Mike, Hua, Terrence and even Jus never need to blow our own trumpets. Everything is presented in a matter of fact way – good and bad. We know (internally) that we are good at certain things and acknowledge our deficiencies at others.
All of us like the braggart during our business dealings. Why? It is because we immediately know the Achilles heel of the person. We will manipulate his esteem into the end result we want.
You do NOT need to make yourself likeable
nor do you need to win the heart of your gal.
Forget whether you made a favourable impression on her or not. Just focus on presenting yourself in a certain manner
. And let the outcome (whatever they may be) come naturally – without undue fuss whether you win over the girl or not.
(Assuming you are lacking in the type of confidence I talk about in point 1 – or just starting out to cultivate your “confidence muscle”):
At the start of the journey, all you only need to do is present an external image of being confident (don’t worry the inner confidence will soon catch up with your external projection). Learn to present the demeanor that seems to command respect. By doing so, the paradox is that not only will she respect, but will also be inevitably drawn toward you.
I will show you how project such a demeanor in Masterstroke #3.
Oh yes, and in terms of time and effort: it is easier project the above image and “create” the situation/context in which you can command respect than rather than working to make someone like you.
Part 2 of my reply
Let me once again put forth a counter intuitive point.
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Remember to always judge the success of a strategy against actual experience and results
and not what you think should be correct.
Take my statement at face value and validate it yourself against the actual result of your interaction if you should take my advise
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First off, you will never know what a girl like or loves (a lot of this resides in subconscious and other esoteric places. We don’t go there – it is too complicated and speculative.
Never, never, never, (did I mention “never”?) assume that just because she appear or seem to enjoy your banters and laughs with you, you are getting to her heart
. How is she supposed to react? She must indulge you. It is part of her job requirement. Just as in the case of a woman faking orgasm, she can easily put on such an act. Yes, put your ego away – you CANNOT tell for sure if it is an act or if it is genuine.
Okay, then even if she genuinely likes and enjoys your company, so what? It does not mean that she harbors romantic notions about you.
An empowering solution to always revert back to the golden axiom: “Don’t tell me you love me, SHOW me!” You tell whether she likes you by her deeds (which are observable). Yes, she may make pretence out of it and/or do the loving things out of obligation rather that love. But brother, this is the best indicator you have got. It is certainly better than verbal professions and mini lovey-dovey actions (“Love Wayangs” I call it!)
Mike had a case whereby his previous mistress-girlfriend (two ‘affairs before Xin2) indulges in heavy Love Wayangs coupled with huge dose of “sweet nothings”. But when he was sick for four days, she did not make the effort to even visit him. Numerous telephone calls and SMS telling him how she misses his hugs, his company etc does not cut it. If she genuinely likes him, she will make the effort to visit him (observable). No excuses, no prevarications – if she is “really into him”, she will make the visit.
Part 3 of my reply
Yes, just because the power equations favour the Patron, it does not mean that all the actions of the mistress are very robotic – devoid of emotions. Or even that she is unhappy to be in her submissive or ‘inferior status’ position.
A lot of woman (mistress or not) loves a ‘father – mentor’ figure and especially a ‘provider’. Present yourself as a confident someone who knows what they want in life. Show evidences that you can take care of her (emotionally and to an extent financially). For that added strenghth: be the mentor figure who also knows how to indulge and pamper her.
Let me tell you that the above traits are more effective (and sexy)than being nice and/or having a sense of humour.
Note: The use of banters, humor and all the sweet talk must always be subsumed under this image: a confident person who knows what he wants (in charge, go to person). If not, you are no better than an object of amusement for her.
Yes, I may have had numerous “one night stand” based relationships. This however quickly fizzled out. At each conclusion of an affair, I would require a period of getting over it and then another period of seducing a new prey using charm. It is a vicious circle and time consuming indeed.
Speaking from my heart, let me tell you that being funny, warm and engaging can be enervating. Charm takes effort and time. My mentors drilled to me that this time and energy should be better used elsewhere – like building a profitable enterprise. And then use the fruits of the ‘profitable enterprise’ to get the pussy. It’s simpler, faster and age-proof (unlike charm based seduction techniques). And you can get the girl to engage in kinky staff faster than charm (and likeability) ever will.
So in essence, why not adopt a persona that can be useful in the world of business and at the same time get all the chicks you want? (Confidence is the key by the way – “if you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect other people to believe in you?).