Xiaochunzi, ur comment scare me but make me happy also. Haha..
How do you train yourself by the way? And what is your reason for avoiding sex with your wife? Care to share?
Monster bro, yes i know what u mean. The person you love most is not the person you F most.
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see see only
If i did not read your reply wrongly …………..
(between the line ??)
I felt so insulted …. me … me …. me…
………..straight one ok
Oh.. Then how to tell whether he is straight or crooked? I thought u also into…. Oops.. No ah? haha..
Pak P cheerios!
Dear all..
I am so glad and always find solace in this thread by reading all the replies that fellow samsters has for me. I read all replies word by word, over and over again whenever i am feeling down. Trying to cheer myself up all this while and focus on my work and child etc.. But end of the day, when i think about my marriage - i am such a total failure.
Deep inside my heart, i really feel this marriage is a sad case. How i wish he can tell me, sorry i am having an affair / i am actually gay- so that at least i know what’s wrong instead of carrying on so meaninglessly.
These days if i talk to him about how i feel about our whole marraige, he will say i am nagging and love to complain, or he will just keep quiet and insisted that whatever i say is right and i win. I have learn to shut up totally and given up hope on him. Unless he say something to me, otherwise, we can dun speak for the whole day. This has been going on for weeks.
Sorry guys, i am just ranting as usual.. just think i am such a loser and failure in my hopeless marriage.
Yes, i reckon that he still love me much. He still kiss me on my cheeks every morning before he go for work while i am still sleeping.. maybe he did it just out of habit.
At this stage, i cannot even confirm if he is really having an affair.
I wish he can just be honest and tell me about it. I will be happy to accept the fact that he choose to communicate with me openly and solve the problem. But i guess no man will have the courage to tell the wife frankly that he has been shooting his load outside.
Jabadabadoo - Cannot thank you enough for what you have written…
Need lots of tissue paper now to dry my tears..
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Vectra
The thread started for almost 2 yrs. TS had not ml for the whole period? Hard to believe…
Nothing but the truth - truth hurts.
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naughtyben22
Sis Fade,
As I’m reading this thread, I cried cos’ it makes me ponder on my own marriage… Fyi, I’m only into my 2nd year of marriage but to summarise it, it’s almost a sexless marriage…y?
Firstly, my wife’s short-temper is really a turn off… I have problems communicating with her and can’t even exchange a few jokes with her……she’ll end up misinterpreting my message and there she goes, giving me the super black face… most of the time she’s petty and ultra-sensitive, very hard to please her…. when I see her black face, you can forget about having sex even if she stands infront of me naked!
Secondly, she doesn’t bother to take care of her image… she hardly does even the slightest makeup and sometimes doesn’t give a damn on her dressing.. like that how to turn me on? And she doesn’t seem to watch her diet and loves to eat a lot, and especially the sinful cheese! So many times ppl around her feedback saying she had put on weight and she simply just laughs it off and next min nothing goes in her head. Well, ended up I look at other women most of the time and when she caught me doing that, volcano erupted!!
Sadly, she doesn’t realise all these despite quarelling many times…she never learnt… of cos, not that I’m a saint… In fact, I usually said sorry to her first after a quarrel…. dun like to go to bed with bad blood against one another…
I think both my wife and myself also need to go marriage counselling…my advice is: go seek help, early…
Hi Naughtyben22 - Thanks for sharing.. your post is a wake up call for me.
Not in the aspects of not taking care of my image - I am super Vain, but let me admit that I can be really petty and often killed his sense of humour.
Guess we have different upbringing, but i really cannot tolerate him making fun of other people short coming or in chinese we say -xing zai le huo. Rejoicing at someone’s disaster. Maybe he may not meant his words or he meant things as jokes, but this is something that puts me off. So eventually i will be blackface unless he mince his words or try to be politically correct. Otherwise I will not carry on any conversation with him.
Perharps I should take all his jokes or comments lightly on whatever matters, hopefully it will fine tune our communication. I think i am over reacting sometimes. Thanks again for pointing things out!
Hey, your wifey must have a good figure and pretty face to start with uh? That’s why she is so daring to forget all about her diet and indulge. A pretty face needs no make up at all, she is a confident lady! All women are vain, trust me. You are her hubby and you matter to her most. So instead of ppl around her telling her that she has put on weight, why don’t you tease her and tell her to watch her diet? I am sure she will mind your words. Do you have any kids?
Btw, show some respect to your dear wifey lah! You stare at gals openly ah? If its me, I also angry lah! In fact I am the one often staring at gals on the streets and ask my hubby what he think of them.. No matter how pretty the gal is, when he is beside me he will only say - very normal looking lor.. Haha. Next time stare discreetly since your wifey is the type who gets jealous easily.
You say you are going for counselling? Any contacts to share?
[QUOTE=starystarynite;5428138]Ya, you are right. loss of passion. No more spark
I find my passion elsewhere with different FL. And she is not good in bed either to create the spark for us. She is not adventurous and daring as well.
If she is half a skillful as the FL, thing will be much better liao. QUOTE]
You make it sound like you should marry a FL instead.
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pottter58
Hi Fade
I know u are depress but why not try to do a change in appearance like dress and wearing sexy make up then go dinner or movies without the baby around it may work.
I’m like tat when my wife start the change
Huh? Eh.. i don’t think i have any image issue lah.
Even its only going downstairs to fetch newspaper or run errand in neighborhood, I make sure i don’t look crappy. I know how to doll myself up.
Well said - we seriously need to spend time together alone without baby. THANKS!
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Softcore
He’s already married to you - what is there to be angry about?
Precisely! Married already and wife beside him - still got the guts to stare at gals openly? What does he take the wife for? Maid ah? Should show the wife some respect. I will be totally embarrassed with a hubby who behaves like a teeko pek in public. If i am the gal being stared at, i will wonder what kind of man the woman married and will feel ultra sorry for her.