Hubby and I got married after I found out that i was preggy. Since then, we have never make love before. It has been more than a year since my hubby last touched me. I feel very sad, depressed and unwanted. Throughout my pregnancy, I always urged my hubby to make love but he turned me down many times and told me that we will do it again after I gave birth as he is afraid that he might hurt the baby. I just gave birth 3 months ago and sex life has not resumed.
I always cry whenever i think of the times when we will get naughty and drive out to secluded places for some quickie sessions, even in cinemas when hubby will get very touchy. Now, whenever he comes home, his first priority is playing with Baby and during bedtime, he will bring the PSP to bed and played till he fall asleep. I tried talking to hubby about it, but he always avoid this issue. Telling me sex is the last thing on his mind as he is tired and even LAZY to do it. I wonder if its me who is turning him off as i breastfeed my baby - I know guys do get turn off by the sight of breast feeding, so i am trying to switch to formula milk for baby instead. I blamed myself for being not attractive and sexy enough and got really very depressed.
I have also observed that Hubby do not DIY. I did question him, but get brushed off again. Lately, i found some porn clips on his com. I do not understand why is it that he refused to touch me. Last night, i put aside my pride and again initiate a session. I performed a BJ for him but all he did was sit back and closed his eyes and there was simply no expression on his face. I stopped and he just went to bed. I cried myself to sleep again last night. Where were all the passion that we once shared? I felt very humilated.
My hubby has been very responsible and caring. He showers his love to me and i know there is no third party involved as he “report” to me all the time. I trust him well and know he will never betray me.
Thanks guys for all the kind words. Nope.. i am not writing a story here but seeking a place to voice out my fustrations and sadness. This is possibly be the best place to ask for advice and hear the “truth” with majority of the guys here married? Correct me if i am wrong. I am assuming.
Well, my hubby did not witness the birth of our baby as i gave birth via C-Sect. When he saw our baby, she is already nicely cleaned and wrapped up. So no bloody and gruesome sights. Sometimes if I happened to passby the com and saw him watching porn, i will purposely stop by and ask, " Oh what is that lady doing to that man???" then will pretend to be very interested. However, most of the time, its me who gets bored after watching for 10 mins or so as i begin to recall the past and how sad it is that we are unable to ignite the passion again.
I am feeling very helpless now. I told my hubby that i will never initiate ML ever again until he is ready to take the initiative. Guys, is it possible for a man not to masturbathe at all for many many months? When i perform BJ for my hubby, he had no problem with getting a hard on, but seems like he is not producing much semen as well.
Hello bros and sis, thanks for all your comments on this thread.
After so long, i am sad to report, up till today, my hubby and i have not make love at all.
Ths is pretty sad for me and i am going all depressed. My baby has officially turned one year old last december and i felt my hubby and i have really drifted apart. Despite all my attempts to arouse him, everything failed.
Its a sexless marriage and really pointless. I asksed my hubby this question: Have you quit sex? His reply is A FIRM NO. I guess it was a trick question to him.. Then i asks further.. so you have not been doing it with me, but someone else then? He insisted No and change topic.
All this while, i am in very bad mood and can hardly concentrate on my life. Knowing that my figure is horrible after child birth, i still gorge myself silly with food as i feel comfort in all the munching and gorging.
Today i remembered this thread that i once posted and decided to revisit this, and realised, actually not much has been changed and all facts remained.
Aiyo… U guys ah.. thanks but no thanks lah, so many offers in my PM!
So kind and helpful all of u!
I appreciate all ur comments here and is thinking very hard on some points.
Many thanks to bros out there who share their story with me too. My heart goes to you.
Guys, I know all men are visual creatures and love slim and pretty ladies. On one hand, i need to let u all know, in the first place when we first dated and met each other, i am already not the Model super slim type. I am chubby to begin with and love food alot.
By the way, to answer some bros here, we are in our late 20s.
Yay.. I eat alot sometimes, but on certain times i can dun eat anything for the whole day. I am having this eating disorder and feeling real miserable all the time. Why did i marry a MONK.. haiz..
Yo Guys, I do hav a very ugly scar on my tummy due to C sect and during pregnancy, i had an operation for Cysts removal. My scar is deep red and its about 15cm long. I find it a turn off myself. I dun even dare look at it directly. Regarding stretched marks left from pregnancy, i am proud to say, i have none.
Days ago, i was discussing ith him on how many kids he wants. I was convinced he will say One is enough but to my surprised he says 2.. and i looked at him with unbelievable eyes. He think babies will drop from the sky without us doing anything??
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Cheonging101
Sis, did you ask him “With who”?
Oh maan.. after u mention this, i am feeling damn shitty now!!
Bros and Sis..
I blew up.. i finally blew up..
My frequent grilling and drilling session over the days on have made him equally fustrated. I blew up during the weekend and locked him outside the room. He happily sleep on the sofa until the next morning.
Some updates bros and sis..
Everything remained the same = no update at all.
Sex is a taboo subject between me and my hubby. I have learnt to live without it and yes its very torturing. Out of anger, I threatened him that i will go and look for an affair but he just say nothing and pretended he did not hear a thing.
Questions raised in earlier posts:
Financial stability:
Yes we are doing OK, Not millionaire though, but we can get by our everyday life and afford whatever things that we need to buy.
Would really like to thank people who have shared so much with me to let me know i am not alone.
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see see only
Hey sis,
There is only 1 way to prove it …
And I know … you know what to do …
Thanks for your offer See see bro. How much do you charge?
Pardon me but Monster bro, aren’t all guys here have some sort of experience with FLs? Are you not one of them?