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Originally Posted by
leungccsg
this is he 1st weekend after she left.
yesterday, we had a nice chat and i just ask her out for a date .
take it as dating , restart our romance again.
she replied " too quick “.
i thought i was getting some headway but then, it back to square one.
Sorry, no offence but is this what you really want in your life ??
To be at the mercy of woman that can anyhow give u heart pain n confusion without any apparent reasons ??
Some people can take it but sorry that person is not me.
And if you have doubts about this as well, you better think twice as well.
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Originally Posted by
leungccsg
this is he 1st weekend after she left.
yesterday, we had a nice chat and i just ask her out for a date .
take it as dating , restart our romance again.
she replied " too quick “.
i thought i was getting some headway but then, it back to square one.
Wrong move. If you are serious about wanting your wife back, DON"T CONTACT her. Keep it that way and if she calls, DON"T answer. See what happens next. If she’s not coming back, she’s not worth it. And if she’s willing to return, make sure you state your terms. So, are you man enough Bro?
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Originally Posted by
gilagila100
Sorry, no offence but is this what you really want in your life ??
To be at the mercy of woman that can anyhow give u heart pain n confusion without any apparent reasons
??
Some people can take it but sorry that person is not me.
I had been reading this thread with interest and somehow I feel that TS is more like a WIMP. No offence hor.
Be like a MAN, if she wants out, just let her be.
Maybe I’m not married, that’s why think like that.
well …….. this weekend is another heartache weekend as i made some discovery.
i chanced upon my wife secret email account. in her email, i discovered that she is going to someone for comfort and outpour of the emotions. bros might be thinking ……. " you see …… affairs ! “. but i do not really see that happening to such extend, but more of going to the person due to emotional support.
in fact i knew this guy as well. he was an ex-boss in her ex-employer way back in 2004. the guys is married with 2 kids since then.
my wife did not go to him only after 2007 to confide in him her problems and through her emails , she is secretly going out with him whenever there is chance ( though chances were 99% no way ). sms or msn him when i am not in home.
when i ask my wife on sat initially , she deny any contact with him until i produced the evidence which she finally admitted that she see him as a very close friend whom she can relate to for her emotional support. Nothing physical ad sexual. she also say she stopped contacting since last yr july 08 , something which is in line with the last email date as well. ( truthful ).
in all the emails, it is the guys who is declaring the love and fondness for her and i found nothing in the email that she say she loves him , missed him etc.
i told my wife , can a friend be a good friend when he make use of her emotion and declares his love for her when he is married ? can you still see him as good friend ?
well, all i can say is maybe my wife desperately need someone to listen to her , and i was not there for her. this guy was there and even though he said or declared the love to her , she did not tell him off for fear that this emotion support is gone ( positive thinking only )
somehow, i was not angry but rather pretty disappointed.
why ? i was thinking that she went out to other guy is for emotion support as she say she cannot get it from me. the guy’s look and built is identical to me. is she looking for a subsitute for me in him ?
i reflected on myself, i could not blame her 100% as i am no saint either. she stray as she could not find the support from me.
i am prepared to forgive if she is back with me.
any bros have any comment ?
statistics ( i think so )
free time for her to go out w/o me: 10% ( except during work )
sexual acts : 0% from the emails
physical ( kissing / hugging/ etc) : i dunno
he like her : 110%
she like him : 50% ( she is those stubborn but knew the guilt of unfaithful )
Bro, if you re-read my first couple of posts in this thread, you will realise that this is pretty much what I thought was happening.
They may not have had sex yet, but it’s just a matter of time. And I can tell you lines will have been crossed, even if it is mainly emotional and or lightly physical.
An affair, forgetting legal definitions for a moment, is about breaking the intimate exclusivity of a marriage - it is already happening. Ask yourself - why the need for a secret email account (one of the big warning signs I told you about). Was there correspondance wit hanyone else from that account? It is likely she has more than 1 such account. 1 for her close friends / siblings that she may confide in. 1 just for him.
You need to start trying to wake her up. And fast.
This guy is milking it, has been milking it, and is not goign to stop out of the goodness of his heart.
Your wife is now torn. Ask yourself what you are prepared to do to get her back.
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Originally Posted by
leungccsg
sexual acts : 0% from the emails
Let me tell you he has fucked her for sure… 110%
That’s what men do.
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Originally Posted by
sammyboyfor
Let me tell you he has fucked her for sure… 110%
That’s what men do.
That’s what you wished would happen, or have happened.
That’s what people running such a site do.
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Originally Posted by
sammyboyfor
Let me tell you he has fucked her for sure… 110%
That’s what men do.
I do not agree to your statement. I have some female friends who confide in me and come to me for emotional support but I have no intention to fuck them. You are like the kung fun actor Jackey Chan who tried to pull all men into the sea when he himself fell into it. We may be fuckers but we dont just fuck any females that come along. However, I will just take what u said as a satire and have no wish to enter into any debate on it.
in fact , she used that secret email account mainly for her to maintain the same network of people of the same profession as her. Like a business network stuff.
yes ….it hs crossed the line definately.
with or without sexual relations…….. no doubt.
i am prepared to take her back.
am i plain stupid ?
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Originally Posted by
leungccsg
am i plain stupid ?
Yes, you are. I think it’s illegal for you to hack into her email. If she turns around and go to the police, you are in deep trouble.