HI bros
i found no peace anywhere but to seek for your opinions.
my wife and i has been married for 8 yrs and we did not have any kids due to her saying she is not ready.
in the entire marriage life , i have always been the giver to the relationship. be it financial , household chores , attention and love. I know that you indeed loved me as she supported and stayed on with me last year through a difficult times i had.
recently , i brought up the topic of pregnancy and immediately a series of disagreement plus quarrel happened.
Her main reasons is that i have been very possessive and choking her. he thinks i am using the pregnancy to tied her down. but eventually , i did gave up on the idea as well.
now she wanted out of the marriage.
she left our home while i was not in and since then refuse to see me .
demanding a " cooling off " period.
I have not been unfaithful to her, been a near perfect husband.
Only recently i complained about her doing too much of overtime in office.
such an extend it is almost every 4 out of 5 weekday coming home at 11pm.
one of the weekend also work.
I strongly believed there is no third party involved (her).
what can i do to salvage the relationship?
now she see me as a pest even though i did nothing wrong , Never physically abuse her etc .
is it my love is too much for her ?
any opinions from bros here ?
bro,
How can you be so sure that no third party involve? From your statement, i could sense something fishy abt her sudden change of behaviour
I think probably u had given in too much and she had been taken it for granted for the past years. Since her heart is not with you, whatever you try to do to salvage the marriage is fruitless. Sometime letting it go is not too bad a decision to make. Why make both party suffer? think abt it, u can have many other girls now..u have gain back what u have lost in the past..most important, your freedom. Welcome to sammyboy forum, u can start a new life here…
Well i just feel that if the feelings are not longer there no matter how much you do… she will never get touched…. since she is already taking you for granted, it will be worse… its hard moving on but sad to say that’s the only option i feel… Cheer up bro!! juz my 2 cents
Other brothers may call you to consider salvaging such a relationship, but I will let you be the judge of that. I will reply this post base on salvaging the relationship.
Do you know any of her friends?
Because if you do, that will surely help. In such a situation, what her friends or family say will be 100 times more effective than what you say. Approach her friends or family for help. If you talk to her directly you will only turn her off.
Try that avenue. That’s about the only avenue left now if you still want to mend the relationship. If you don’t know any of her friends/close family, then I don’t how to offer you any help already.
Good Luck Bro.
Bro Leungccsg
She is doing “OT” in office..unless you can verify with proof, I think she is in love with a guy in office… when a girl is not reciprocating your love, it means either she does not like you or she loves somebody..u have to find out yourself which is which.. regards
I will suggest going away with your wife for a nice holiday, take time to talk to her and understand what she really wants and give in to her if you want this relationship to go on, also tell her what you had been looking for during the past 8 years.
All the best!
I suggest you go away for a few days. See any kaki of yours can accompany you…have some thoughts and see if you miss her a not lor…
hi bro, same scenario as u but only wife did not wan out. but as u r, I m also giving in to everything. Sometimes I doubt my own actions. Dunno wat to do next…
Sorry TS bro about your current state, but in my opinion, I thought your wife is quite ambitious (if confirm no third party) or career minded, and do not want a kid to tie her down. Since she needs a cooling off period, it may be good just to leave things aside for sometime. When she is ready to chat, bring in all subjects including having a first baby to build a complete family. Seriously, love is one thing, but if one party thinks the partner is being possessive in a way, I think it is time to let go. Do it or regret it late for being too dragging and wasting years of youth. Wish you good luck!