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fwchong
when you carry Mai, does she wear bra or not ? Maybe she also shiok that got a man carry her and she can rub her nei nei on your back.
Outside yes but at home sometimes no. For example if she is just awake morning or nap, after shower, just before sleep. I am clean towards her. No evil thought or design
Today, I received a WhatsApp call from Thao asking me how am I? Why can’t I accept her son? And finally to the main topic of loaning her a sum of money which she needs urgently. Ask her what was it for, she did not tell me.
I told her that I will need to discuss this matter with Ngoc first. Naturally, I will have to inform Ngoc as I am her husband and do not want her to think I am still with Thao. My breakup with Thao was a clear breakup, the only reason I am picking up the call was she is Ngoc’s daughter.
Ask her to call me tonight again where I will pass the phone to Ngoc.
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fwchong
Does Ngoc has any feelings for her grandsons who is staying next door to you and was beaten ?
She did said that her grandsons are pitiful but she said Thao is to be blamed for it, the first grandson was born to a man who ditched Thao when she got pregnant and the second grandson was born to my neighbour who she thought was too old. She has disapproved of Thao’s marriage to my elderly neighbour who was much much older than Ngoc too.
True enough, Thao called last night, she was really desperate to have the money from me and was surprised that Ngoc picked up the phone call.
‘Why do you need the money for’, Ngoc asked her. She said she needs it urgently but refused to say why and insisted that I listened to the call. Both mother and daughter gradually got into a heated argument in Vietnamese where finally Thao hung up the call. Ngoc told me that in future if she call, just hang up the phone. She did not have such a daughter. Ngoc wasn’t in a mood, she was extremely angry with Thao. Never had I seen her so angry before, hence do not want to ask about the details of the conversation.
Anyway I do not intend to loan/give the money to Thao too as I know this will never end if I start it. Thao is history. Moreover, I am getting marry soon and I agreed to sponsor Mai for her studies in SG so that she can be with Ngoc for a period of time hence financial planning is important.
I left Ngoc to cool herself down quietly in the room, telling her not to get angry as she is in her new chapter of her life and if she needs me around I will be with her. Left the room and accompanied Mai watching TV. Not too long later Ngoc came out. Both Ngoc and Mai were chatting and I suppose were talking about Thao. She also told Mai not to be like her sister. Mai told her ‘she is not planning to get marry anyway, she wants to live a single life.’
That night, knowing the Ngoc is still unhappy, I tried to make her happy. Hugged her from behind with my hand over her breast, I spoke to her not to get angry, your husband did not make you angry so don’t angry. We are getting marry soon, I want my wife to be the most beautiful wife. She smiled. I told her, in future only when I make her angry then she can get angry otherwise she should be my happy wife. She seems to cool down as we start frenching.
This morning, she told me she has made up her mind, we shall not have any dinner with her children and friends even if we go back to Vietnam after our marriage. We shall be a family of 3 (Me, Ngoc and Mai as she is still single). Asked if I agree to it, I of course said ok. Other issues back in Vietnam she shall not bothered anymore. She is very tired of them since her children are all grown up and have their own family, she shall let go of them and focus on her new family.
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fwchong
read your story twice to get to know who your ex and your wife story. we are sorry that your ex lost your baby. If the baby is born, it would have change your story.
Thao is my ex gf
Ngoc is my wife
Yes, if my ex did not lose the baby, I will most probably be with her provided she can forgo her eldest child. When we are together, I have told her that I will never want to father any of her children from her previous marriage and will not allow them to stay with us. Not sure what will happen then but it might be fate that the baby was lost.
I was actually very excited and happy to be a father back then, and sad when the baby was lost, did not map out that she also wanted her eldest son. Could not imagine what will happen if the baby was born.
Might be quarreling every now and then because of her eldest son matters
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titan
Vietnamese always have family money issues. Good that your future wife is cutting ties with those in Vietnam monetarily.
Yes and the money Thao is asking is ridiculous, definitely I am not going to give her.
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fwchong
Did you know how did your neighbour know Thoa ? Some Singaporean found their wife from this guy…
https://www.instagram.com/truelovevietnambride/?g=5
Some girls do freelance during their youth and when the value drop, they will turn to bridal companies to wed. So, these girls know how to win men heart and also know how to use tactics to make you give money to them…
Don’t think she was into such, she has a bf in Vietnam but heard that he ditched her when she was pregnant. Hence she got to know her ex husband through a match making agency. She agreed to marry him despite his age as she was pregnant back then and want to keep the baby
Anyway she is history. My future is with Ngoc.
Have a good weekend.
Despite Ngoc’s warning, yesterday Thao still continue to send messages to me pleading for money which was not a small amount. I firmly message her that I will not be giving her a single cent and do not ever message me again. Our relationship is over. Told her that Ngoc and myself are getting married and if there is anything please call her mum. Otherwise I will block her forever. Her final message was ‘I will regret breaking up with her’. Seeing this, I did not want to engage her further as she is not in the right frame of mind.
During the three years we have been together, she never ask for money, not sure why is she so desperate now. I suspect it could be for her and her son expense. Did not ask Ngoc regarding about her conversation with Thao yesterday as I do not want her to get upset.
On the other hand, Mai’s leg has improved slightly and able to walk briefly with support from me or Ngoc. Ngoc too, was in a better mood today, brought both ladies out yesterday for lunch, window shopping and also to select our wedding ring and at the same time purchase a set of earrings which Mai likes a lot as a token.
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wantoplay
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapo...ife-for-murder
found this news back dated. when love goes wrong
same name ngoc hmmm coincidence?
Hahaha, this is definitely not my Ngoc. My Ngoc will never do this to me.
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fwchong
In Singapore, we never encountered such cases and so we go a roller coaster mental as all along we are very protected in Singapore.
Need to train your heart to be cold when it comes to money because there wont be an end once you start. One of the tactics we know is that they will use tactics like suicide or cutting their wrist or anything to blackmail you.
I suspect that she went to borrow from loan shark and as that is the easy way to get money fast but the interest is catching up or she want a transport like a motorbike which cost something like 8k to 10k. But if she dont tell her mum, that means she has a man behind her who may be into debt and she is trying to clear the debt once for all. She will most be asking you about 10K and above. Her man or the loan shark will train her what to say. I also wont be surprise that she went back to her ed as a girl who want to keep her first baby definitely has a story. She did not tell you the truth. I am not sure if her mum know and that is when you need a heart to heart talk with your new wife on the situation.
The current risk at the moment is she does has your Singapore address and she slept with you before. That is also another thing she can use against you. She may have also made a copy of your house key and that is why I suggest you also CHANGE YOUR KEYS AND LOCKS. You did mentioned that you have install a security camera, make sure it got a cloud backup. We never know what a crazy woman can do. Some people can even go to extend to put a chain around the gate and try to burn it down. There are all kind of stupid things a desperate person will do.
But you have to cut your heart out and treat her like she is dead. Otherwise this drama will not end forever.
There are many stories you can read from here..
https://sbf.net.nz/showthread.php?t=...t=vietnam+wife
Thanks bro for the very good advice
I did have a security camera with a cloud backup outside my door but totally forgotten about the locks. Yes, Thao did have my door and padlock keys. I have changed them earlier.
Anyway, no worries. She will definitely not get a single cent from me as I knew that this is a never ending issue. Whatever her problem ( loanshark, ex, motorbike, eldest son) will remain as hers, we have breakup. Ngoc is aware of the messages she sent and told me to ignore her. She said she doesn’t think her daughter will do silly things to us. We will continue to stay where we are as we like the place hence will just live our life. Life has to continue.