hello everyone. Currently I’m facing this situation.
I’m about 40 this year, currently in Melbourne with my partner whom is 24 this year. Yeah I know the age gap kinda big. I’m in Melbourne on a partner student visa. Which means my partner is studying while I’m just tagging along. We have been together for about 4 years now.
Few months back, I was bored so I went online to have a chat. And happened to chat with this Malaysian girl. She is 22 and have a kid. Her divorce is on-going. Not yet officially. But pretty sure they will sign the papers soon.
I have been chatting with her for about 2 months. And she said is going to Thailand to return wishes to 4 faced buddha. She asked me do I want to tag along. (At this point of time, the way we chat on the phone or messages it’s already like lovers, but we haven’t met yet)
So I’ve said ok. And travelled to Thailand 2 months back. And we we together in Thailand for 16 days. Bangkok and Pattaya.
Problem is. She thinks I’m 31 and don’t have a gf. But she knows I’m in Melbourne. So I just cooked up some reason saying I’m doing business in Melbourne.
So for now, I do not know what should I do. Let the Malaysian lady go or should I let the Singaporean girl go?
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Originally Posted by
Crest
In your case, the truth is secondary to whichever is more important.
eg for me, sexual compatibility.
If the sex can’t match up, everything else is useless, for me.
What are the most important qualities you are looking for in a partner ?
You are just looking for a partner, not a life partner. That comes after.
Honestly? Definitely the Malaysian girl feels better in terms of sex wise. But maybe because the Singapore one together with me for quite long. So is like sian already. But it may happen on the Malaysian lady too.
But character wise. I’ll have to say for now the Malaysian girl is better
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Originally Posted by
Crest
But what are the qualities you are looking for in a partner yourself ?
If you are already bored with your current, then maybe you should settle that first ? No point dragging.
Or if you are up for it and feel you are capable of keeping it a secret, why not just continue as you are for now.
2 time it.
Done it a couple times before, was exciting and fun while it lasted, but gets tiring really quickly.
I get that exciting part. But for now. My Singapore gf doesn’t check my phone. That’s for now lah. If I do break up with this girl here. I would have to go back Singapore. When I’m in Singapore. I stayed at her place. So if we do break up. I’m literally done.
Yeah I know I’m pretty useless. Don’t have have a house back in Singapore even though I’m way above 35. Pretty sad though.
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Originally Posted by
fwchong
Hello,
I have seen this before too…let me save you the trouble…just say no.
You will get a lot of trouble because you cant cover up.
on top of that, you dont even know if this is a scammer out there. Meeting in thailand are red flags. A friend of mine also got conned like that where he met a girl online and can see her video online before going to Thailand and then when he arrived, they meet and then a few thugs robbed him of his money. They always say that this is a 2 weeks trip to go to this and that. This is a ruse to throw your family off guard so that they think that you are away but during this time, you are threathen. The police over there also brided and so this is no Singapore or Australia police where you can get help if you go to a police station.
Ask your heart - Someone you met online vs someone you know physically and accept who you are. Do you see how much your Singapore partner sacrifice for you to join her ? Did you SG girl ask you to bring money to keep her lifestyle ? Did she ask you to pay for her education ? She is using money to pay for education so that she can bring in the money for you and your family.
On the other hand, your heart is itching saying, I want some fun. Then the true colour from the Malaysian girl come out, you have to feed her and her son who I can gurantee 100% wont respect you at all.
I get that bro. But I’ve met up with the Malaysian lady last month. And when we were back in our own respective country. We still continue as before. She tried to apply for tourist visa to Australia. Got rejected. But she applied again.
For the Singaporean lady. Is I join her. Not she join me. Because I’m tagging along with her visa. So to say. If she decides to go back, I would have to go back too. And nope, her parents are paying for her sch fees. Other than that. She is working and studying, while I’m just working. But we do have limited working hours due to student visa rules.
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Originally Posted by
owlette
i quite puzzled at your situation. you got big amounts of savings to like that play is it? you 40yo doing limited working hours, how to survive? then singapore you say no house. what you doing with your life bro.
i think you got bigger problems that you should be worried about. not which pussy to commit to.
you choose sg lady, she one day finish studies. come back got proper job all realised she can find better guys and dump you. then you what? become homeless with no savings. 40+yo start from 0?
you choose my girl, you 1+1 happy meal. you can afford to raise her and her kid?
people in singapore like to play pdmm. you become pdpp?
Yes bro. Agree with you. I have bigger problems to handle it. But for now, I’m in Australia. I can’t do much here. The only way is I go back sg and work my way up. But if I’m here. What can I do. Limited working hours.
And no. I do not have have millions in my bank account. Every week what we work here goes to the rental and food. Because it’s only 48 hours per fortnight.
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Originally Posted by
BoxerBoy
Bro, u now don’t have a shelter, everything depending on your Singapore gf. What make you think that you can take care of that Malaysian girl with a child some more? U lied to her your age, you doing business…. Probably to her she also hope to find someone she can rely on be it financially or emotionally after divorced with her husband. If she discovered all your lies, most likely she going to leave u… End up you lost both women…
So my advise to u is eat that Malaysian pussy, find a reason to end it since no relationship has committed. Then Guai Guai go back to your Singapore gf pussy….
Hi bro. I get what you are trying to say. I have eaten the Malaysian lady in all sort of ways you could think of. Be it is anal, cim, cof, cip. I’m ain’t trying to boast or show off here.
With regards to my age. She somehow know how old am I. Because I did tell her. But I have no idea did she remember it.