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did you pay with any credit card or anything that can trace to your identity? As you mentioned, you have long to travel to JB, needless to say, massage there. So if you didn’t leave any trace behind that can identify you, I think the chances of her from Malaysia locating you in Singapore despite any means, is quite low.
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if it’s unprotected sex, you are still subjected to the risk of being infected. You are doing the right thing to get tested and abstaining sexual activities with your fiancée. Remember to maintain till you get cleared from STD, if not if she’s infected with STD prior to you being cleared, you will have a hard time explaining.
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HIV testing should also be regular tested.
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I paid all in cash. Also while I was showering, didn’t see her really clear the discharge after I ejaculated and seemingly act normal cleaning the room. Normally they’d run to the toilet to push out the semen. And during the time I showered, she could have run through my bag and took a photo of my passport or ic. This is also potentially another aspect I didn’t consider. Im also scared she post on some sex telegram group and some of my friends who are regular chiongers will identify and baotoh me. Or worst case, some white knights chiongster go help her and expose me 😔
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and 3) yes I’m doing everything I can do make sure that we abstain from sex. If she ever suspects and press me enough and ask why I never do, I’ll probably come clean but better that way. At least she’s protected.
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don’t catch any std, this one you already go for pep and all liao, usually quite ok, hiv from sex is about 1 percent risk, if you take pep should be even better, other disease have cure
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whether she will get pregnant, I’m sure it’s not her first rodeo, and you’re not her first rider, she will ownself settle ownself. i think it’s neigh impossible for her to come find you like those tvb drama
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your own mental state with your fiancee . what done is done, if you still want to be with her, just treat her better and don’t do this again, but if you can’t get over it, tell the truth and be prepared to lose her. thinking of the past doesn’t help, you need a future plan to go forward
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I feel like shit (potentially affecting my relationship)
I’m getting married early next year and I’m feeling very overwhelmed by what transpired yesterday. It was my first time in a long time going to JB. Didn’t expect much as I only wanted a massage. Long story short, me and ML teased each other and I didn’t think clearly at that point and I was horny that I asked if can do vaginal intercourse a bit and she at first hesitated cause of the noise then allowed me to. Just putting it in and trusting for about 10 seconds, I ejaculated into her (unprotected). Everything. After ejaculation and my dick being in there for another good 5-8 seconds. I suddenly realised I fucked up big big time.
After the massage, the masseuse didn’t make a big fuss of it (she’s Viet). Looks to be in her mid 30s or early 40s. Paid her and was about to leave when she suddenly took her phone out while on a video call with someone and I can see she’s clearly pointing at my direction. i suspect taking a photo of me. Anyone encountered this situation before? What if she took a photo of me as proof and happens to be pregnant then tried to get some ah long to find me? Or threatend me to in sg to go back and find her to be responsible for the kid? And potentially my fiance finding one
So now I’m extremely paranoid. I’ve already gone to doctors this morning and prescribed PEP. Will do regular checkup as well for other std. In the meantime, I may have to come up with excuse for no sex till I’m cleared.
I feel like absolute shit. That 20 seconds of pleasure was not worth the after thought and now im just so defeated. My wallet is burned from the PEP. My relationship with fiance could also be potentially ruined if I come up with some STD. But I’m more concerned about the ML getting pregnant and finding me, leading to my fiance knowledge on the matter and everything we’ve planned for is now in shambles.
I feel super remorseful. I can’t function normally. Everytime I see my fiancé planning out wedding, I feel like crying and hope I just die before that.
Can anyone advice? I’m taking measures right now to get myself medicated and tested for 1 month, 3 and 6. Anything I should be doing to stay calm and not worry?
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Sammyboyanglee
You have to control your emotions and think more on a positive note. Being negative doesn’t help you much.
Lesson learnt now, no point brooding over a bottle of spilled milk. You should learn to move on and not suicidal thoughts. Everybody makes mistakes. Now to redeem that guilt, spend more effort in making your fiancée happy.
Cheers
Thanks a lot for the kind words bro.
I’m trying to think positive but my head keeps telling me all the what ifs. Then there’s the variables of getting caught to go to the clinic to get tested and medications etc. if her friends saw me or what not idk man ☹️
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sammyboyfor
You’re catastrophizing. Just relax and take things easy.
https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-catastrophizing
Idk if it’s catastrophizing but I’m trying to be pragmatic. So many variables from photo taking, to showering potentially taking a photo of my ID and claim pregnancy. All these can lead to long lasting effects down the line. I just feel extremely jaded. I don’t even want to work, meet my fiancée or do anything as a matter of fact. I just want to lie down, wait for my medication to finish for pep and retest. Even so, going to JB to find her and check if she’s pregnant might put some easy to my sanity. But then again I don’t know. Read on here some bros said that the last thing ML want is a kid and would rather have std than the latter. So they will die die eat contraception or plan B after. Now sure how accurate this is. I did tip her btw. So it’s not like I didn’t pay.
I tried using chat gpt and they said chances of pregnancy 5-10%, std 0.05-20%, chances of blackmail threatening etc - only if she is pregnant and wants me claim then can. If no footprint and if she didn’t take a photo of my passport or IC, it’s close to zero. Based on your experience here for some time, do you think over thinking things? So far haven’t read any thread of chiongster getting contacted by ML for paternity test or keep the baby after shooting inside. Let alone sg to JB side.
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xxxjap
I think u no need to worry abt them finding u… cos u paid for the service unless u didnt paid for the service.. they will come after u.. and tbh.. u really love ur wife to be? cos if u really lover her.. u wont be doing what ubhad done in the first place.. u only need to worry if u kenna AIDS..
I do. But in a moment of weakness, dry spell. Haven’t had sex in almost a year with her. I went with it. Now I’m suffering from the repercussions of my actions.
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klkk555
bro, think logically for a while, like what other bros said,
wish you the best bro.
Thanks so much bro. I think I really needed to hear this from someone. I cried reading this. It doesn’t mean a lot to some but it means the world to me. I will go for the pep appointment and don’t think so much about what happened. And focus on my fiancée. This is probably one of those life lessons you do and it will haunt you regardless but it’s a good reminder to be faithful and to never ever do again. I will update my test results time and time again after my 28 days pep and if I catch any other things in between.
Other than that, thank you bros on here for listening and providing me with ample of advice. Maybe living isn’t so bad afterall.
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sammyboyfor
Do NOT ever confess to what you did. It will make things worse not better.
Will heed your advice bro. At most just say can’t do cause don’t feel like it
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sennheiser
So there’s little to no chance of her initiating intimacy before you get cleared right? Then take it easy. Go through the tests as the other bros here mentioned.
Whatever you do, don’t ever ever admit about this or tell her what you did. You must tell yourself it never happened. Or else, in a moment of weakness, you tell her, you are done for.
There is. We planned to do something when I come back from my overseas work trip since my company actually allowed me take the rest of week off. And that happens to fall on my birthday. She pre-book mbs and all that. We haven’t had sex cause she doesn’t like the idea of doing it regularly before marriage due to space constraints and lack of housing (our bto including Reno will be ready by end of the year) but only special one off occasions, she would allow it. And it’s usually very very good. That will be about 1 month from now. Like the actual staycation.
Like other bros said. I’ll just take things one day at a time. And go for regular test. Complete the 28 days pep and hopefully by then no worrying STDs. Herpes is a potential one. If it did, I guess Its the end for me
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BroRelax
Bro, beside HIV PEP, I hope you also take antibiotics Doxy PEP for chlamydia, gonorrhea.
Doc didn’t prescribe it. Should I ask for it coming Monday? Is my window still open by then? Last exposure was Friday 230pm. My appointment would be somewhere around 9am.
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riperoni69420
As in haven’t had sex in a year with someone you’re getting married to?
Is she the no sex before marriage type.
Not exactly. As I mentioned to other bro reply. She doesn’t like the idea of regular sex due to space constraints (no roof yet) and would only do it for special occasions at a nice hotel etc or once our bto Reno by end of this year.
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RainGod516
BOSS really caring to read on and give the best advice 🙏
Never talk about this with your love as it can be GAME OVER
Ladies will never forget about what you said,
this ML creampie 20 seconds experience, is best to stay with U alone TILL DEATH
Ladies will haunt U one day suddenly about this topic (anytime it’s a time bomb)
even if she said she forgive U and accept you as before 🤬
as U are so truthful to her ( I guarantee U will regret to tell, more than that 20 seconds)
Tips 4.Whores are for fucking not loving. Just fuck them and be done with it.
Day One: You are lucky to get so many caring contributing to advice U to move on well
This forum is really good in time of emergency advices
and U tapped to release your emotions and worries 🙏
I had unique experiences too that gradually builds me up to be ME today in romance
That might share if anyone keen to read about as bedtime stories 😜
Thanks for kind words bro. I should really focus on the positives and not the worst case scenario.