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Passive87
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Originally Posted by
Huer
That does not answer the question does it ?
I asked her about its. But its just word and not actual experience. She said it i really no more money she dun mind go back to massage to work and earn money for us. But if always like that. She cannot do it also.
She cannot keep feeding a man who does not work for himself.
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Originally Posted by
fwchong
I was also in a relationship with a Thai before.
It is very very common for woman to go and work as a Freelnace to earn extra pocket money even if they a Boyfriend or a husband. This is a common culture in South East Asia Countries.
If she tells you that she is your mistress, she has already set the rules….
She can
a. date someone without your telling you the truth as you cant control her. Eventually, you have to accept that she can or will marry someone other than you.
b. Since she tell you that she is your mistress, she set the expectation that you must feed and pay for her lifestyle, study etc. You must understand that you are a tool to her of lifesyle. Once the tool lost it purpose or usefulness, you need to accept that it is the end.
c. one day this will end. You cannot control her. You must be willingly to accept that this is not a straightforward relationship.
Many of us have been through this road. We all think we can win BUT this fight is for you to find what is the best. Ultimately, the school of lessons is the BEST to teach you life lessons. For many of us, we all learn. We can advice, we can share but it is not a straightforward textbook experiences as there are too many complicated inputs. You can’t control it all.
Ultimately, you walk that road yourself. Whatever that is, we hope that you will be stronger at the end of that road. It is good that you share out your experience, if it helps with you letting out the elephant of the room. Some of my friends goes into drinking and other bad habits because they beat themselves for their mistakes.
Good Advise. I do agree and have covered ground on these with her before. I do trust her. Only time will tell.
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Originally Posted by
Huer
You are dodging the question.
Its simple, one day she needs money and you cannot provide.
You are prepared for her to do her fl thing again ?
Make it easy for yourself, your family and your future.
Look at her as companionship, not the future.
Yes she said, if i have no money she will leave me. Reason is simple.
Why would a young thai girl stay with a much older man. For financial stability and support. If i cannot support her whats the point? We cannot survive on love alone. Need to be practical.
Hi,
I saw a lot of your agree that i am being KC and now is kinda out of my mind to be with her.
Well everyone from my family who learn about the news also show concern and check if i am under black magic spell.
Well. I am quite sure i am not under any spell. Not sure how to check but she is scared of ghost and casting black magic spell involve keeping ghosts to help with the deed.
Yes one of the reason she is with me is because i supported her living expenses and school. But she is quite down to earth type. She does not spend excessively but she does pamper herself to some nice food once in a while. No designer handbag. The fact that i quit booking freelance supporting her in school does not impact my finance. Also I know some people who bao woman in Thailand give around SGD 2K plus a nice condo to stay. I am only giving a small fraction of it.
After spending time with her, i find her being very attached to me now. She will automatically ask if i free to talk to her and she will be very attentive when talking to me. Even we do not have much topic to talk daily she will kick start with her daily stuff and we would be able to talk for 2 hrs daily.
Amazing. I never once did that with anyone of my ex last time. She also said she never does that also before. He ex always busy with their own stuff. Seldom talk.
Not sure how if we would last. Only time will tell. We plan to travel to other country together but finding excuse to leave the country alone is a difficult task. Any suggestion.
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I Love Boobs
You think you’re the only one supporting her?
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Yes, for now i am the only one supporting her. She doesn’t need much and is planning to work normal part time job for the semester break.
Well after knowing her more and spending more time with her. I find her much more mature than most girls of her age. She is quite down to earth type.
I only wish i can be 20 yrs younger and meet her 2 years ago. She will be perfect.
Hi all,
Many things happen during past few weeks.
Gin and me have broken up. Not because we dun love each other but due to extreme measures from my family that force me to leave her. The pain i have to endure knowing she loves and miss me but we have to stop communicating and break up is tremendous. There is not a moment that i dun think about her during the weekend.
I guess the happy moment with her in thailand will be moment that i will treasure for the rest of my life.
Meet up with a close friend recently. Talk a lot. I feel much better. He advise me to focus on my career for now. Get extra source of income. Money is more important for man.
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Speras
There will be growing fatigue as one tries to juggle all concerns, 3rd party, wife, both sides of families, time and most importantly, finances among many many things that need to be handled carefully.
This fatigue will eventually force a decision, which can sometimes be a temp cooldown while a recovery is needed.
I’ve 2 timed and 3 timed relationships before, no money commitments and all in SG, and that was already tense af, even the sex could end up confusing due to fatigue.
Good luck bro.
Best advice at the moment, is keep financial commitments to a minimum.
If you have not sent a years money yet, just change it to monthly.
Well you understand the stress.
Well for the money i am ok. I can manage. Reason why i help Gin is because i do not want her to get back to the freelance trade. If this small amount of money is able to change her life for the better. Then it is still something good.
I just want some peace now to recover from the heart break.