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Originally Posted by
titan
actually what’s the point of having her as a mistress? money too much? talk to your wife about the separating rooms, your daughter is teenager now and needs her freedom. tell her that u need her more than the kids
My wife like to hug me for a while when i am sleeping alone on my bed. She sometime play with my dick until its hard and then i try to touch her boobs. She will fight me and not let me touch them. Then she will quickly leave the bed.
I do not have much interest in having sex with her now. I do not care how long its been since the last time. Now even if i do it. It feel like just a duty to satisfy her. Not love anymore. She also does not allow cum inside. So every time need condom.
I do believe the fact that our inner subconscious affect our decision in life. My parent also sleep in separate room since i was a teenager. They are not in good terms but they never divorce for the good of the family.
Some people fall into this cycle where they mirror their parent. Some lucky one manage to break the trend and develop their own. I somewhat followed parents development.
She looks something like this except.
Face is sweeter
Body a bit more meaty
No Tattoo.
No implant.
She shared with me her childhood photo. 4 years ago she look so nerdy, skinny and not much boobs. I can’t believe so much body change in 4 years. She is a sexy bomb now.
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Originally Posted by
bignehneh
Go for breast surgery?
Her’s is natural D cup. Photo is obviously an implant because from the round definition at the top of the breast.
I will try to find a photo closer to her look and figure and post again. Meanwhile things are still developing.
Anyone of the bro who have previous experience with relationship with ex freelance can share her and give some guidance. I do believe not all freelance are bad. There are good one out there.
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Originally Posted by
Bigbluebird
Damn that’s nasty
Tease you and let you be
Have you exhausted all means and ways to reconcile with your wife to share the same bed and have the intimacy?
Your situation kind of sucks entirely.
For me i am not that interested in sex with my wife now. In fact i try to avoid getting intimate with her now.
For now i can wait and see how things develop. I do not mind moving to thailand to stay long term and work remotely from there and come back to singapore to do some work if needed. So far my employee are able to carry out most of our work without much input from me.
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Originally Posted by
Vermeer
It appears the ex fl is not being committal at this point, not that there is anything for either party to commit to.
She states that she is your mistress, not lover(another form of commitment)
Thus, just take it as it comes but not commit to the extent that irrevocable damage is done with nothing in return.
I did ask her what kind of status she is to me. She also do not know as she also knew me divorcing my wife will means a lot of chaotic change to my life. So we settled on mistress for now. She is not materialistic type as she does not go for designer handbag. She even ask me not to waste money. She love taking photo of herself and make herself more beautiful and slim body. She just crave self confidence.
Anyway its a waste that i am not younger and single. And if i would have meet her 1 year earlier. Things would have turn out to be a wonder relationship
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Originally Posted by
Vermeer
However it is with your wife, handle it as a separate issue, not with consideration to your ‘mistress’.
If you want to split with the wife, do it only because its really bad, not because its bad and you have another girl on the side.
Also, you have spent quite some effort on the ‘mistress’, could things between you and your wife have been better if you have spent the same effort on it ?
One of my married friend is very philosophical about his wife.
He has dissatisfactions and complains with how his life is now, but he also says, it is because his wife is handling other stuff in life that leaves him free to grumble and complain.
Yes what you said make sense. Maybe if i spend the same effort with my wife things might turn out different between us. I married my wife on a rush also because she is not local. I knew her when i was working oversea. When i came back to singapore in order to let her stay here long term and continue with the relationship. We have to get married. But it turn out that she is a good wife who take care of the family well. Its not fair to her and its my fault. I only have care for her due to responsibility. Even if it does not work between me and Gin. I will only stay with her due to responsibility.
Currently i will try to make it work with Gin. There are scary story of Thai Women who drain foreign men of their savings if they have a relationship with them. Let hope i am not one of those victim.
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Originally Posted by
Oeuvre
You are late 40s, going into sunset of your life.
She is early 20s ? In U, her whole life in front of her.
She can afford to start over again, can you ?
Are you believing only because you really want to.
Well if I stay with my current marriage. It’s sole for responsibility and maintaining an image of a happy family.
Even without meeting Gin, I am not happy with my wife. Anyway I believe in marriage anymore.
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Originally Posted by
trueno2008
Suggest you think 10-20yrs later what will happen… I have through similar only to look back what a silly decision. Of cos everyone conviction is different… Best of luck to you and in my opinion, no one can give you a good advise. Your life, one journey and a bet you need to take. Good or bad, have to live it.
Have thought of it even before I propose to gin about having a relationship. Yes by the time she is 40+ I am much older. But I might die a happy man rather than living a life of regret.
The age gap is a concern, but she told me it is common in Thailand and she dun mind. I just hope i have good enough sex drive to satisfy her. So far since i stop booking freelance already. There is not much sexual encounter anymore. So i have to resort to HJ myself every day to maintain good sexual health. I also eating healthy and do workout almost everyday. (This is 180° change in my previous life style.)
Any good recommendation for good Juagen massage for men in singapore?
Anyway we will leave it to faith to decide.
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Originally Posted by
znoobshitz
Not sure if it’s relevant to TS. But are you able to speak Thai? I find that if you’re able to speak and understand, it’ll unlock a higher level in your r/s. You also said that she doesn’t use her phone for 6-7 hours? She can be your Mia noi, but are you the only guy in her line app?
Susu na!
Yes i am taking thai class. She is truthful to me so far and i trust her. I respect her privacy not to go thru her phone. I know its might be a bit crazy to trust a girl like her but i think she deserve her own space. She will tell me when she is confortable and she knows it will hurt me if i found out later.
For a fact i know she care for my well being and mental state. But if she really love me i do not know. But she is happy with me and i am happy with her.
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Originally Posted by
Huer
When she next have hardship, and you are unable to help her or she knows you will be unable to help her….you know what she will do right ?
You prepared for that ?
I visited her recently. Well standard of living in thailand is really low. If you are not dining in resturant regularly you can get away with just $1,000 per month
If you want some comfort and extra outing. Maybe $1,500. The trick finding cheap rental from using thai website. For the same property there can be upto 40% cheaper.
With my reserve fund i can last many many years. If i still work in my current job. There is no issue at all. I am looking for a 2nd income source now also.
Me and her is same type. We dun like to go out shopping. But she does like to take a lot of photo when we dine out at nice restaurant. We will do date night once a fortnight.